Thank You Heartbreak with Chelsea Leigh Trescott

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With 15 years of luxury wellness to her name, adventure and travel writer Liz Galloway of Wild Adventures Retreat opens up about how compassion enabled her to get honest with herself and, on an even larger scale, others about a piece of herself that she’d always prided herself on not sharing: that is, that she needed things from others, too. Giving herself the space to have real conversations and honest boundaries created a dramatic shift in her life where friends dropped off and she wound up walking away from business opportunities. The experience of being seen differently and therein treated differently was painful and lonely. By digging deep, enduring many changes, and giving into this sudden sense of betrayal, Liz developed a resiliency and adaptability that, through it all, reminds her that now she can absolutely trust herself.

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Joining Chelsea 13 1/2 minutes in, comedian and writer Jessica Sager talks about how female comics—and people, in general—can have less of a chance to be in the right place at the right time if they're avoiding certain places because there’s a creep there. Reflecting on her own attempted assault on the night of her sophomore homecoming dance, Jessica talks about the giant rush of adrenaline that helped her flee the scene (aka jump out of a moving car) and yet how the shame of being in the wrong place at the wrong time kept her from telling her parents or any other adults.

Together they discuss the strange dynamics of older men dating younger girls: is it creepy or is there room for compassion? If men are not where they want to be in life—or where their fathers were at their age—does it make sense that men might date someone who may, on the outside, look naive and vulnerable but, on a deeper level, represent their arrested development and not make them feel like they aren’t far enough along yet?

Also unpacked is, the need to not have tunnel vision or be defined by any one thing (be it a relationship or a career), what love-bombing looks and feels like, the clue to dating is meeting people amongst your interests (for Jessica, it was comedy; for her friend, it was hockey and beer at Buffalo Wild Wings), and if he's not a pig or a jerk, why he deserves a second date.

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In conversation with Chelsea, the Founder of the Breakup Bestie blog and course Kendra Allen opens up about a lesser known detail in her life: her husband today was actually her most pivotal breakup. The catch is, their marriage never would have happened if she hadn’t completely let him go. She talks about breaking with dignity and grace, the emotional scarring that comes from not forgiving ourselves, the vulnerability of pursuing female friendships, the value of saying I love you even as a relationship is ending and it’s unlikely that you’ll hear the sentiment echoed back, saying yes to every invite and activity post-breakup, how evaluating the pattern of men she dated exposed her to what she didn’t believe she was worthy of within herself, and how sobriety helped her ask the better questions like, “how does this lead back to me?”

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"You feel terrible and then someone’s like, you’re not terrible, you’re actually good and he’s not good for you,” aerial acrobat and belly dancer Brice LaGrand explains to Chelsea why admitting you deserve better is actually more challenging than admitting your abuse. "It’s terrifying because it means you have to accept responsibility and be like, okay, now I have to choose. If I deserve better, then, I have to either choose to not give myself what I deserve and choose not to love myself in that way or I have to choose to start trying to find that and figure out what that looks like. It’s so much easier to just accept where you are and be like this is life now versus trying to improve it and find something that’s better for you.” 

In today’s episode, Brice details the fork in the road that victims of abuse stand at in the darkest hour. Drawing from his own experience in an abusive marriage as well as his work with a battered woman’s shelter and prevention and intervention programs, he shines a light on the isolating and often unspoken reality of abuse. For instance, how one’s own empathy and compassion can make them stay and how, on the flip side, this idea that you can keep your partner with you just by being a good partner for them simply never occurs to an abuser because a healthy relationship is something they’ve never witnessed or been taught. 

If you’ve ever stayed too long in a relationship of any sort or simply been aching to abandon the façade that comes with playing by the dating rules, this episode will resonate, providing you with the inspiration to get real sooner, become a little bit more self-possessed, have faith in one’s own power to redirect one's life, doubt the things we think, hear or have been conditioned to believe about ourselves (like, you’re worthless) as well as offer a straightforward solution to the fear of being alone—find connection—and permission to not only leave but outgrow the loneliness of toxic relationships and even the hookup culture, serving up a reminder that the easy choice isn’t the one that will make us strong, free, or proud.

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"It’s so much more complicated than I came out of the closet and my mom didn’t like it and that was that,” Elizabeth Estochen, co-host of the LGBTQ+/sex podcast Sexdentified and author of the soon to be released poetry collection For Love and For Cruelty, shares with Chelsea in a recounting of her formative years. Starting with growing up as an only child amongst two young parents who were very much still growing up themselves to combating the awkward, chubby and bullied prone pre-teen years by immersing herself in the angsty, isolating and dangerous quest to become thin during middle school to entering into the strange new world of her mom’s second marriage where Agnosticism and feminism were soon abandoned for the ever-restrictive ideology of Catholicism and ever-expanding family of half-siblings, Elizabeth gets extra candid about the shame that left her estranged from her mother and her new step-family at the tender age of 15. Spoiler: This isn’t Elizabeth’s shame nor is it the shame of sexuality but, rather, what happens when a blended family doesn’t want to be blended and a mother outgrows her younger self and first marriage and looks at her daughter as an unwelcomed reminder of those years, that self, and a past life that would be better left behind.

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Podcast: Sexdentified
Poetry Collection (February 2020 release date) Trailer: For Love, and for Cruelty
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Two-time author Dr. Tyra Manning joins Chelsea 13 minutes in to discuss her most recent book Your Turn—a master class in storytelling that emphasizes writing as a way of celebrating our stories, discovering our mentors, understanding our emotional histories with the gift of hindsight, and engaging in self-reflection for clarity, acceptance, and empathy. She opens up about the event that introduced her to drinking at a young age, her history of trading one addiction for another, the value of finding a community of support in times of sudden grief and the slow crawl toward recovery, and the heartache of losing the men in her life.

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Conversation begins 13 minutes in.

Midway into his 40s and still very much motivated by the having of things, America’s Leading Midlife Dating & Relationship Coach and author of What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway, Jonathon Aslay, unexpectedly steered himself into the perfect storm aka the humbling event that forced him into realizing we each are the creators of our experiences.

It began when he filed for divorce, lost his quarter of a million dollar job a few months later, then got wiped out financially not long after that and, unable to find a job, had to move into a retirement community and become roommates with his parents. Before his grand awakening, Jonathan spent his first year as a divorcee feeding his drug of choice—online dating/communicating with women—only to realize a 100 dates in that the ever elusive “something isn’t right” was really within him.

Opening up to Chelsea, he shares the micro-moment that helped him shift his addictive relationship with dating and what his deep dive into selfhood taught him about true empowerment, cultivating inner peace, purposeful dating and sainthood.

Gems to look out for:

+ a woman’s need to understand men often comes from a place of fear versus empowerment
+ the four attachment styles: secure, anxious-ambivalent/preoccupied, anxious-avoidant/dismissive, disorganized
+ we don’t vent to get validation, but we complain to get sympathy
+ social media is overrun with people vomiting their victimhood (victim consciousness)
+ true empowerment is taking personal responsibility for all your choices
+ with inner peace, you can find joy and happiness in almost anything
+ when one is constantly searching for happiness, most likely they’re going to get the corresponding opposite as well
+ when you say you’re happy being single, you’re telling the universe you’re happy staying single too.
+ how a back injury made him pause and think, what an interesting way to love myself this week
+ everything that happens, whether good or bad, is an opportunity to love ourselves
+ our ego is so insidious that it even shuns true love
+ social media and television hypnotizes us into putting our attention into the most emotionally devastating things which, in the process, robs us of self-control and empowerment
+ how a woman he shared one terrible dinner date with was a soulmate
+ what you have to let go of in order to be friends with an ex

And much, much more.

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