Thank You Heartbreak with Chelsea Leigh Trescott

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#1 International Bestselling author, Global Speaker and Empowerment Coach, Shannon Kaiser joins Chelsea 10 minutes in to talk about how losing her beloved companion Tucker urged her to give into her grief, embrace her solo journey without attachments, do what she’d never given herself permission to do, and discover that there really is another way to access joy and actually fill up that which has been missing from within—inevitably, an inner journey entirely independent of reaching milestones, receiving validation, and chasing the next high but rather centered in going home to ourselves and welcoming the world in to see the true you. Other gems to look for:+ defining ourselves by our goals keeps us stuck+ when you allow yourselves to be where you are, the journey becomes the true reward+ setbacks and growth = joy+ when we engage in comparison culture, that’s our ego playing mind tricks on us, saying that unless we’re doing what others are doing, we don’t belong+ the thing we think is missing isn’t outside ourselves and yet we chase after the next purchase or one night stand all in hopes of finding a relief and satisfaction that sustains us+ self-inquiry resurrects our true self and spirit+ toxic habits are there to mask the visceral and daunting reality that something is definitely off+ our fix in life is pure honesty+ we’re not taught how to love ourselves+ there’s always a signature moment in our life when we're being so naturally ourselves and yet we get punished for it+ the beliefs we create surrounding an experience often are false and limiting beliefs__To connect with Shannon, visit her:Website: https://www.playwiththeworld.com/homeServices: https://www.playwiththeworld.com/work-with-meBlog: https://www.playwiththeworld.com/blogInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/shannonkaiserwritesPurchase Joy Seeker: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0806540257/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: [email protected]

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Conversation begins 5:30 minutes in. __ To connect with Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, visit his:Website: https://themarriagerestorationproject.comServices: https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/couples-counseling-servicesBlog: https://themarriagerestorationproject.com/blog__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: [email protected]

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Episode notes to follow soon: Conversation starts 8:30 minutes in about business evolution and having humility and faith as you make the best next moves. 28 minutes in: relationship talk__To connect with Evin, visit her:Website: evinrosecoaching.comWork with Evin: https://www.evinrosecoaching.com/work-togetherPrivate Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/empowereddatingwithevinroseInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/evinrose__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: [email protected]

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Janice Morgan, author of the newly released memoir Suspended Sentence, joins Chelsea 9:15 minutes in to talk about overcoming the shame of her son’s arrest and how, in the process of finding a community that both related and embraced her uphill battle, she was able to see her son’s mental illness, substance abuse, and arrest as a pathway to her own recovery, retire her mock-heroic role as savior in her son’s life, and uncover her own guilt as a mother who too often focused on the security of her career rather than the prosperity of her child. At the heart of it, this is a story of learning the value of letting your children struggle for themselves, that parents are human too, and how it’s never too late to parent differently.__To connect with Janice, visit her:Website: https://janicemorganauthor.comPurchase Suspended Sentence: https://www.amazon.com/Suspended-Sentence-Memoir-Janice-MorganBlog: https://janicemorganauthor.com/blogNAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illnesshttps://www.nami.org__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: [email protected]

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Before having Transitions Expert and Prosperity Astrologer Elisa Robyn join Chelsea 17 minutes in, Chelsea talks about pride and why we win in life when we have less of it. Whether it’s extending an apology, acknowledging the motive and intention behind our less than becoming behavior, confronting our fantasy and finally meeting in real life, taking a chance and expressing romantic interest, or working extra shifts and side gigs to keep our lifestyle intact, the point is, filtering out the reality of who we currently are and where we’re currently at may make us look Instagramable but it doesn’t help us embrace our current circumstances or cultivate sincere connections.Then 17 minutes in, Elisa joins Chelsea to talk about the three lessons she learned on a 100 mile hiking adventure, gaining personal power, and prioritizing the life she’s always wanted over the life she already knows and has in order to transition out of a 20 year career after losing her mother and husband within two months of each other. Other gems to look out for:+ when the velvet handcuffs are so comfortable, it’s hard to take them off+ the secret part of you that’s telling the rest of you, you’re ready to become something more and do something new+ learning to not fight who you are or think you could become, especially in the early stages of manifestation+ sometimes odd desires is our spirit encouraging us to try on that desire next+ when you respect a true need, you walk more confidently within the world because you know you’re becoming who you’re supposed to be+ the vulnerability of seeing our parents as people can feel like a violation of their own privacy+ why the next time someone tells you you’re loud, you can just say thank you+ why “being on” or present feels threatening+ what someone might actually be saying about you when they say they’re not a deep person+ why being an “intelligent” woman may bring up a man's insecurity of enoughness+ the intimacy of being all in with your attention+ being “too much” for someone means you have personal power+ the fear of showing up and discovering that who you are is a mean, bad person+ the armor can come off, life isn't a battle+ how pausing can provide us the best direction of all+ managing your fear and keep it moving+ in the midst of grief, give people direction and tell them what you need for your life to work“Anger ... it's a paralyzing emotion ... you can't get anything done. People sort of think it's an interesting, passionate, and igniting feeling — I don't think it's any of that — it's helpless ... it's absence of control — and I need all of my skills, all of the control, all of my powers ... and anger doesn't provide any of that — I have no use for it whatsoever." — Toni Morrison__To connect with Elisa, visit her:Website: https://elisarobyn.comPodcast: https://elisarobyn.com/podcastsBlog: https://elisarobyn.com/blogInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/elisarobyn8131__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: [email protected]

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Author of the novel The Means That Make Us Strangers, Christine Kindberg joins Chelsea 6:30 minutes in to talk about the upside of singleness because, believe it or not, there is one. The catch is, the upside is a mindset that has to be cultivated and a trajectory that has to be pursued. For Christine, this pursuit began in her early twenties when she realized she didn't want to be in a holding pattern where she was sitting on her hands and just waiting for a partner to come along for life to begin. What she needed to do instead, she discovered, was find significant things to invest in that were independent of whether a romantic partner was in her life or not. Fast forward, and Christine has now found herself humoring her married friends when recounting a string of crazy and horrendous first dates, running marathons and taking flight to places like Chile for 2 1/2 months to research her next great novel—a passion and purpose that she may not have prioritized had she been tethered to an ill-fitting partner whose own direction she was agreeing to. Gems to look out for:+ how a fiction writer explores their own life questions through their characters+ how married friends can shine a light on the lies we easily buy into as single people, like the classic tale of, if-only I was in a relationship, I wouldn't feel this way+ loneliness doesn't necessarily mean you're in the wrong relationship+ the benefit of evaluating your feelings from a wider context rather than holding on to them as truth tellers+ the tendency to address discomfort within romantic relationships and let it it slide within friendships+ how to elevate yourself from the comparison culture + the people whose life you want, want elements of your life too+ how our friend's romantic relationships can trigger FOMO+ the fear of being left behind by friends as they marry and advance through life stages at a different rate as us+ how can you honor your singleness before it's too late+ filling the gap of free time that a significant other once filled with something that is life giving like by running or writing+ how can you redirect your energy off a person and onto becoming more of your own person+ one of the hardest questions that awaits us as we cross over into the single territory: "what do I do with myself now that I am no one else's?"+ the positive aspects of being "tied down" or in a committed relationship is that someone is limiting your life and therein providing direction—how can this help or harm you?+ the challenge and yet life-long fulfillment of being single and discovering your own direction+ how choosiness and dating more wisely is a natural consequence to developing a sense of self and direction+ the temptation to date someone may often be tied up in the desperation to use the them to fill the hole of singleness+ if a relationship doesn't lead to anything long lasting, how can we make it still worthwhile?__To connect with Christine, visit her:Website: https://www.christinekindberg.comPurchase her novel, The Means That Make Us Strangers, on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Means-That-Make-Us-Strangers/dp/1797761358/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Christine.Kindberg/Facebook: http://facebook.com/Christine.Kindberg.AuthorTwitter: https://twitter.com/christinekndbrg__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: [email protected]

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131: The Dark Night Of My Soul with Makeda Smith by Chelsea Leigh Trescott

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Author Elise Schiller joins Chelsea 16 minutes in to talk about what she discovered writing her first memoir, Even if Your Heart Would Listen: Losing My Daughter to Heroin. Through a collection of her daughter’s journal excerpts, planners, letters left behind as well as medical records, handouts from residential treatment, and her own research into today’s opioid crisis, Elise tries to weave together a clearer picture of what her daughter’s pathway toward recovery actually looked like and could have looked like were substance use disorders treated with medication first. What arises both in writing and in conversation is regret, resentment and, the single silver lining, advocacy. In terms of regret, it’s the guilt of a mother who now knowing what she knows believes she could have done more to protect her daughter not from her addiction so much as its archaic treatment method. As for resentment, it’s anger toward the experts and staff at the five residential and several outpatient programs who cut corners and had more loyalty toward insurance companies than the patients themselves. And when it comes to advocacy, it’s Elise’s dedication to now fighting for substance use disorders to be treated with medication and as a medical condition rather than a character defect, as an illness versus a matter of will.__To connect with Elise, visit her:Website: https://eliseschiller.comPurchase her memoir on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1684630088/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0Instagram: https://instagram.com/schiller.eliseFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/eliseschiller0926__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: [email protected]

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Keynote Speaker and Personal Development Coach Jessi Beyer joins Chelsea 6 minutes in to talk about self-preservation within a relationship and the need to strike a balance between boundaries and empathy, the importance of figuring yourself out so your wants can guide you versus societal, familial, and self-expectations, the unhealthy compulsion to latch on to the wrong relationship for fear of having to start over, and how taking on the responsibility of keeping her now ex-boyfriend alive was unwise in retrospect yet also the catalyst for the career she has today. Gems to look out for:+ when you define yourself by the relationship you’re in and by the actions you take to maintain that relationship, the fear of losing the relationship becomes the fear of discovering how little of your own identity you have left+ the paradox of feeling relief after ending a tumultuous and toxic relationship and yet simultaneously feeling lost within your newfound freedom+ when you pour so much of yourself into an unhealthy relationship and then it ends, you often don’t know how to offer yourself to others or what it is exactly you even have to offer+ the fear of being single is often the fear of what life is going to be like when your relationship is no longer your world+ keeping secrets for your partner can make you feel like the chosen one but that doesn’t mean you should do it+ carrying someone’s secrets isn’t intimacy, it’s a burden+ what’s behind the fear of establishing boundaries and limitations+ how having different love languages can feel like a barrier rather than a boundary+ when you start a new relationship, that relationship is the coolest thing in your world+ you need to write your own dictionary because success, fulfillment, and even “a nice guy” doesn’t look the same for everyone+ how you hold yourself accountable to pursuing a relationship that’s aligned with your integrity versus getting swept up in the romance of a new love+ when you don’t have confidence and a firm sense of self, you’re more willing to compromise+ going into a new relationship scrambling for emotional stability, appreciation or validation, is not going to lead to a healthy outcome + designing a life you want to live versus the life that others want you to life naturally energizes you+ how to recover from a personal letdown, shake it off and try again+ growth-oriented relationships are capable of developing different acts to demonstrate different levels of devotion; with a foundation of good communication and maturity, your love is able to adjust to the circumstances of your life together__To connect with Jessi, visit her:Website: https://jessibeyerinternational.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessibeyerinternationalFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/jessibeyerinternational__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: [email protected]

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To connect with Janice, visit her:Broken Heart Repair Kit: https://www.brokenheartrepairkit.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/brokenheartrepairkitTwitter: https://twitter.com/breakupcoaching__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: [email protected]

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