The A to Z of Sex

The A to Z of Sex

By Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey - A to Z of SexHealth & FitnessSexuality
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  • D is Dirty, Delicious, and Drumming
    Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is joined by her husband Terence Scott for this episode. Terence Scott is a percussionist who enjoys running drum circles as well as teaching human drum circle. His wife is his favourite instrument.
    56 min
  • B is for BDSM
    Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is joined by Jorge Fockele, Race Bannon, Lola de Milo and others to talk about BDSM and their upcoming film.
    54 min
  • A is for Arousal
    This is the audio to the Live radio show, hosted by Dr Lori Bisbey, the accompanying video will be up soon, when youtube has fixed an issue.
    The live show can be watched at: https://radio.thesexylifestyle.com/show/3838/the-a-to-z-of-sex
    11am Pacific Standard Time
    51 min
  • Reboot: Z is for Zipless
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    Z is for Zipless Fuck
    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is Z and Z is for Zipless Fuck…
    A zipless fuck is sex with no strings. For many people this means anonymous sex but for others it simply means casual sex.
    Erica Jong, author of Fear of Flying coined this term in 1973. She said ‘The zipless fuck is absolutely pure. It’s free of ulterior motives. There is no power game. The man is not ‘taking’ and the woman is not ‘giving’. No one is attempting to cuckhold a husband or humiliate a wife. No one is trying to prove anything or get anything out of anyone. The zipless fuck is the purest thing there is. And it is rare than a unicorn. I have never had one. It is called zipless because when you came together, zippers fell away like rose petals, underwear blew off in one breath like dandelion fluff. For the true ultimate zipless A-1 fuck, it was necessary that you never got to know the man very well.’
    A zipless fuck should provide pure pleasure and energise as a result. Erica Jong felt that to achieve this, the parties could not know each other because in knowing each other different agendas would come into play. Recently, Ms Jong said that she felt it was impossible to find a zipless fuck and that in fact she felt the best sex was with people that you know.
    In a zipless fuck, you are free to project anything onto your partner. You can make him or her into the ideal in every way. If the sex is truly fantastic, this can become your unattainable ideal for the future. Everyone you meet is compared to this mysterious lover with whom you had an amazing sexual encounter. Everyone is compared to this unattainable ideal. This can overshadow perfectly delicious experiences with people you know or are getting to know well. If the zipless fuck does overshadow, you have missed the point.
    The point of the experience is that it be liberating. Once liberated, there is no need to repeat the experience every week or every month. Once you have had a transformational experience, you move on to new levels of learning. Of course, this is only true if you see the zipless fuck as an opportunity for learning and for ‘pure’ experience. You may view it as simply the opportunity for some great no strings sex.
    Casual sex has changed quite a lot since Ms Jong wrote about zipless fucks in 1973. In the 80’s, the discovery of AIDS gave pause to many who engaged in casual sex. The idea of simply meeting without words, engaging in hot and heavy sex and then parting with not a comment being made began to disappear. Conversations about safe sex were necessary before sex could begin. At least that was the case for people who wanted to avoid STI’s.
    Friends with benefits became a more popular choice than one night stands. Though knowing someone in other contexts doesn’t necessarily translate to knowing whether they indulge in safe or unsafe sexual behaviour. In the UK, diagnoses for sexually transmitted infections rose in 2012 by 5%. This despite lots of public education as to the risks of unprotected sex.
    Aaron discovered a love for sex with men through a zipless fuck. Aaron is 33 single and had identified as heterosexual. He works in banking which brings a high salary but long hours and little time for maintaining relationships. He has had a couple long term relationships that ended as a result of his career. Aaron isn’t ready to settle down and describes himself as having a healthy sexual appetite. Aaron has always been curious about sex with men. He has fantasised about men since he was in his teens. He never found himself in the situation to test out his attractions and is
    22 min
  • Reboot: Y is for Yoni
    Please enjoy again: Y is for Yoni
    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is Y and Y is for Yoni.
    Yoni is a term that comes from Sanskrit and means womb, uterus, vagina, vulva, abode and source. In Hindu philosophy, Yoni is the beginning of life.
    Joining me today to talk about all things Yoni is Michele Brookhaus.
    Michele Brookhaus RSHom(NA), CCH, passionately embraces her mission as Yoni whisperer and soother of all things feminine. As Creator of Yoni Bliss, a homeopathic medicinal as well as a personal exploration and healing of both the physical and metaphysical vulva/womb, she fiercely acknowledges the power of the Yoni to direct and defend woman’s innate creativity and capacity for unbounded pleasure, wisdom and satisfaction.
    20 years a homeopath and healer she studies with world renowned teachers in the fields of homeopathy, energy healing, neurolinguistic programming and other modalities. She loves honing her skills and is a healer of healers and mentor of mentors.
    As a thought leader picked up by Huffington Post, Prevention, the Good Men Project, as well as Thought Catalogue, The Vaccine Reaction and Yahoo Parenting, she is tickled to find herself on the forefront of women’s empowerment, helping women remember and find the truth in, and the possibility of pleasure, fun and satisfaction.
    Yoni Bliss chose her as CEO (chief exhilaration officer), because she has come to KNOW that enough is enough. Her own Yoni has rooted her in this knowing. And so she offers not just a product, but classes, retreats, individual sessions both virtually and in person for women wishing to know this for themselves. Sensual, Wise, Satisfied, that’s her call to you.
    Michele lives in the Pacific Northwest, and her 23 year old inspirational son does too (though far enough away so she doesn’t bug him too much0 She loves Bikram yoga, Salsa dancing, and listening to her Yoni.
    Welcome to the show!
    We started by talking about the idea of Yoni as source and how it is so important to be connected into the yoni. We spoke about this being the centre for women and that this is the location of the root chakra. Yoni is centre of creativity and of balance and that this applies whether or not a woman has children.
    We spoke about the lack of rites of passage in modern times and how the information that would have been passed on about sex and pleasure in the past through these rites is often not being passed on. We spoke about the importance of these rites in transitions and how new ones might be created. We talked a lot about dealing with the grief often held in the Yoni and Michele said that she chose her remedies in Yoni’s Bliss to focus on grief and irritability.
    Michele spoke about the wise woman crone and how that image has changed as we are now living longer and how important it is that we teach younger women and lead by example.
    Michele can be found at http://www.yonisbliss.com/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YonisBliss/?ref=bookmarks
    Twitter: @yonisbliss
    Michele offers a free 20 minute consultation to see if a VIP (very important pussy) day is in order.
    Thanks for joining me this week for the A to Z of Sex. Write in with your questions to [email protected] and visit both websites www.atozofsex.com and www.the-intimacy-coach.com to learn how to awaken your authenticity, arouse your sexuality and ignite your desire.
    For a free 30 minute session with me, head over to www.atozofsex.com and click on the button that says ‘book now’.
    If you have enjoyed this podcast, please leave a review on iTunes and/or Sticher and please subscribe! Join me next week when the letter will be Z.
    44 min
  • Reboot: X is for Xenerotica
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    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is X and X is for Xenerotica.
    Xenerotica is being turned on by strangers. People who are into this often find themselves in interesting situations. Some of these situations can be very high risk – meeting someone on tinder or online and going and having sex with them – without doing any background research or even letting friends or family know where you are going to be. Other situations can bring the strange and mysterious to already established relationships.
    Surprise and mystery are important parts of keeping a relationship exciting. It can be really difficult to recreate mystery when you have been in a relationship with someone for a few years or more. But it is essential if you want to keep things firey.
    My favourite example of bringing the strange or a stranger to an already established relationship comes from the book 9 ½ Weeks. In this book, E’s partner has her register at a hotel and when she arrives she finds a number of packages. There are instructions to dress in the clothing and when she is dressed, she is dressed as a man – in male drag – including facial hair. She meets her partner in the hotel bar. She has truly become a stranger.
    It isn’t as difficult to become as stranger as you might think. You don’t have to change sex. All you need do is change your style and the way you present to your partner. Start by changing your hair style. A good wig can do wonders to completely transform your look. Add a new style of clothing and your partner may barely recognise you. Of course you want to look your sexiest. Don’t forget you are trying to seduce your partner. So create the hottest sexiest stranger that you know your partner will want to bonk and then arrange a date night. Don’t forget to let your partner know that you are going to change your appearance.
    Another way to do this is to engage in role play together. You can cultivate a variety of characters and then your partner can really indulge in some xenerotica – having sex with loads of strangers.
    Role play can seem really daunting. Most people worry about looking stupid. Role play is supposed to be fun. Laughter is a part of it. Sometimes the scene works and is smoking hot and other times it just seems a comedy. If you are interested in learning about role play, grab my eBook or why not join me for my workshop Casanova’s Secret. Email me as [email protected] for details.
    True Xenerotica involves having sex with strangers. For many people, this means meeting someone on Tinder or another dating app and hooking up with little or no interaction to get to know each other. These folks are not looking for relationships. They are looking for exciting anonymous sex.
    Why is this so exciting? There are more reasons than you might think.
    Sex with a stranger allows you to be anyone. You step away from any preconceptions and into the experience as a new person. You can walk into the experience as all the best parts of you or as someone else entirely. And since you are not planning to see this person again, you don’t have to worry about what they think.
    Sex with a stranger allows you to try out a fantasy that you might be worried is too way out or that you think your partner may not like or that you are too embarrassed to talk to anyone who knows you about. If you find you like enacting the fantasy, you can learn to talk to a partner about it. If it doesn’t go well, you walk away from the experience with no baggage.
    Sex with a stranger can be great when you are horny but don’t want a relationship – especially when you have...
    23 min

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Welcome to the A to Z of Sex! Each week I explore a letter of the erotic alphabet, covering topics from arousal to zipless f*cks. While exploring, you will learn more about desire, how to express…

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