The A to Z of Sex

The A to Z of Sex

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  • Reboot: L is for Love
    Please enjoy again: L is for Love
    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is L and L is for love.
    With all of this talk about sex, what about love? How important is love in relationship to sex? Where does love fit in? Is love necessary for good sex?
    To help me answer these questions and many more, I’m joined today by Marta has been involved with tech since she left college and a couple of years ago joined to build Desire, a game for couples. Desire game can be as romantic as you want or as spicy as you want, depending on your mood and on what you like in that moment. The game uses gamification to spice up the relationship and bring couples closer creating great memories between them. Desire has currently half million downloads thru iPhone and Android and couples enjoy daring each other.
    Today we talked all about love and sex. Self-love came out as the most important in order to create a satisfying sexual relationship. We spoke about love making sex extra spicy and that part of this is as a result of learning people over time. Marta spoke of listening to your partner’s body as being one element that makes sex more intense and that this comes when you love someone. We spoke about polyamory, non-monogamy and monogamy and how love blossoms in all forms of relationships. What’s love got to do with it when it comes to sex? Our consensus was everything – from self-love to the love we have for friends to being in love with our partners.
    Thanks for joining me this week for the A to Z of Sex. Write in with your questions to [email protected] and visit both websites www.atozofsex.com and www.the-intimacy-coach.com to learn about alternative sexual choices, types of sexual relationships and to learn to sizzle and create that ideal lasting intimate relationship. For a free 30 minute session with me, head over to www.atozofsex.com and click on the button that says ‘book now’. If you have enjoyed this podcast, please leave a review on iTunes and/or Sticher and please subscribe! Join me next week when the letter will be M.
    43 min
  • Reboot: K is for Kissing
    Happy New Years everyone!
    Please enjoy again:
    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Today’s letter is K and K is for Kissing.
    I have always thought kissing is under rated. It is how many cultures express affection and often deep kissing is the first part of a sexual encounter. When we are children, many of us learn that a kiss from a parent can heal wounds. As a parent, there is nothing like a kiss from your child. As for lovers, if kissing doesn’t work, often the relationship ends right there. Kissing can be formal and ritualistic – seen as a sacrament. Kissing the hand can be the symbol of respect. But where does kissing come from?
    There are two schools of thought as to where kissing began. One school of thought sees kissing as developing from feeding where the mother would pre-chew the child’s food and transfer it mouth to mouth. The other school of thought is that kissing is instinctual.
    Kissing as part of sex is mentioned as early as 3500 years ago in Hindu and Bhuddist writings. The Kama Sutra devotes an entire chapter on kissing!
    Kisses in the Kama Sutra include:
    The nominal kiss – The woman allows the lover to initiate the kiss and merely responds with a press of the lips.
    The throbbing kiss – The woman opens her mouth slightly, moving her low lip only.
    The touching kiss – The woman places her hands over her lovers and also touches his lip with her tongue.
    The straight kiss - both parties share equally and place their lips together.
    The bent kiss – lovers bend their heads towards each other as they kiss
    The pressed kiss – The lower lips of both lovers are pressed tightly against each other.
    The greatly pressed kiss – One lover cups the lower lip of the other with two fingers and then touching the lip with their tongue, presses it tightly with their own lip.
    The wager kiss – Each lover tries to grab the other’s lower lip first. This is a teasing game played and women are advised to cry in order to win the game or increase the wager.
    The kiss of the upper lip – Both lovers concentrate on one of the lips – or the or one partner initiates the upper kiss by getting the upper lip of the other nd the other gets the lower lip and they use the whole of their lips in the kiss.
    The clasping kiss – One of the lovers takes both the lips of the other in to theirs and smooches. If the tongue touches palate, teeth or tongue of the other then it is called the fighting of the tongue.
    The Kama Sutra goes on to talk about the emotions induced by different types of kisses.
    Kissing is noted in the Old Testament on a number of occasions. The Song of Songs has probably the most often quoted lyric on kissing ‘May he kiss me with the kisses of his mouth for your love is better than wine’.
    The Romans adored kissing and were probably responsible with spreading it from North Africa through to Europe. They defined several types of kissing – the hand or cheek, the mouth with closed lips (for relatives) and with open mouth (passionate kiss).
    The study of kissing began sometime in the 19th century and was named philematology. Darwin wrote about kissing and kissing-like behaviours (rubbing noses, sniffing the other person). Darwin believed that kissing was innate behaviour.
    Wherever there is deep affection, kissing is used to express it. It has been used as an expression of extreme gratitude. In East Asian cultures, sniff kissing (sniffing the person and kissing the cheek) is the most common form of kissing and mouth to mouth kissing is reserved for sexual foreplay.
    So what is it about kissing that draws us in? Kissing uses all of our senses. Take a moment and think about the last really good kiss you experienced. Do you remember the smell of the other person, the taste of their mouth, how their lips felt?...
    21 min
  • Reboot: J is for Jingle Bells
    Happy Holidays, sorry for the delay. Please enjoy again:
    J is for Jingle Bells: The A to Z of Sex Holiday Gift and Survival guide
    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is J and J is for Jingle Bells. This is the A to Z of Sex Holiday Gift and Survival Guide.
    The pressure around the holidays in the western world has increased dramatically over the past 50 years. The pressure starts with the idea that people will come together in family groups and everyone will have a great time. Children are taught that it is the most wonderful time of the year and often look forward to the holidays all year.
    The reality is often far different than the picture of familial bliss that the media create each year. Many families cannot get together because of work commitments and distance or the money it costs to travel to where other family are especially now when airlines charge different fares according to ‘peak’ or ‘off peak’ times (and of course, holidays are always in peak times).
    Holidays have become extremely commercialised and there is a large emphasis on present exchange. If you haven’t much money this can lead to high levels of disappointment or debt.
    If there are fractures in your family through divorce, everything becomes more complicated and more stressful. If you are bereaved or simply single, this time of year is often extremely lonely.
    This is also the time of year where alcohol and drug consumption increase and impulsive sex increases as well. Even people who avoid one night stands the rest of the year can give in to the pressure around the holiday time.
    Stress often lowers the frequency of sex between partners at this time of year even though the expectations around this time of year can be that there should be more sex.
    Here are my tips to make this time of year less stressful and to increase the amount of great sex when you have a few days off for the holidays.
    If you have a partner or partners, discuss expectations for the holidays. Assumptions create more problems than anything else at this time of year. Talk about expectations about how you will spend the holidays, where you will spend the holidays, present giving, and who is in charge of the celebrations. Make sure that you work out good compromises in advance. If there are some traditions you absolutely can’t live without, make that clear.
    Schedule intimate time on and around the holidays. It can feel overwhelming with all the commitments people make to family, friends and work colleagues. Don’t forget your partner (s). Make sure to prioritise some time even if it is only a couple of hours.
    Plan to go to an event that encourages sensuality and experimentation. There are usually quite a few events around the holidays from burlesque to strip performances to sex positive parties, swingers parties, BDSM and kink events. If none of these appeal, why not check out an erotic movie?
    Be clear about boundaries with partner (s), family, work colleagues and friends. If you find this difficult, it is a good time to practice setting boundaries.
    Look for ways to lower overall stress in the lead up to the holidays. If money is an area of stress, limit your present buying budgets. Agree a low budget with lovers, friends and families. Thinking about gifting experiences.
    If you are single, sit down and list out your expectations. Make sure to plan in time for relaxation.
    Limit your drug and alcohol consumption.
    If there are people you normally find difficult, consider either having a conversation with them prior to the holidays to make it more likely that there will be no problems or if you know that this is unlikely...
    29 min
  • I is for Intimacy
    Part 2 can be found on Sex Spoken Here this coming Thursday.
    I is for Intimacy
    Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is I and I is for Intimacy
    Intimacy is defined as a close familiarity, deeply knowing another person. Emotional intimacy is built by getting to know someone deeply – sharing confidences. Physical intimacy includes many forms of sexual contact.
    Joining me today is Georgia Rose, found of G’s Spot – her digital platrom that is devoted to female sexual pleasure and sensuality. She says she has ‘launched this digital platform because it has profoundly affected me that beneath the projection of a progressive, educated and liberated society there lies the murky reality that female sexuality is still largely misunderstood, mystified and miscommunicated and I want to do something to change that.’ She has carried out her own survey on female sexual pleasure and over 500 people have completed it. She is using her data and her platform to open up conversations about female sexuality that place the female body and experience at the core.
    http://www.gs/spot.co.uk (www.gs/spot.co.uk)
    @georgias_spot
    Thanks for joining me for the A to Z of SexÒ this week. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at [email protected] , follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. For a free 30-minute discovery session with me, go to https://the-intimacy-coach.com/ and head to my contact page to click on my calendar and schedule directly. Look out for my new radio show in January. If you enjoy the show, please leave me a review on iTunes and Stitcher. Join me next week for the letter J.
    32 min
  • H is for Hysterectomy
    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is H and H is for Hysterectomy.
    Recently, I had an hysterectomy. I decided to do this show because of my experience and the stories I have been told by other women in the lead up to my operation and since.
    I’ll start with definitions:
    Hysterectomy is a surgical operation to remove all or part of the uterus.
    Partial hysterectomy involves leaving in part of the uterus and/or the cervix.
    Total hysterectomy involves removing all the uterus including the cervix.
    Total hysterectomy with bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy is when the uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries are all removed.
    Radical hysterectomy includes removing everything plus the tissue surrounding the womb, fatty tissue, part of the vagina and lymph glands.
    I had a total hysterectomy with bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy.
    Reasons for hysterectomy:
    The reasons are often different depending upon whether you are pre or post menopause.
    Pre-menopausal reasons for hysterectomy:
    Emergency ones can be done during child birth as a result of hemmorhaging.
    Heavy periods: This is only when the bleeding has a significant impact on the woman’s life and other treatments have not worked and no further children are desired. I don’t know any women who had a hysterectomy for this reason and when we talk about it, none of us can figure out what a significant impact might look like for heavy periods. Many of the women I spoke with had significant life impacts as a result of their periods full stop – due to changing emotions, exhaustion, and pain.
    Pelvic pain: This can be due to fibroids, endometriosis (cells from the uterus are found outside the uterus), unsuccessfully treated pelvic inflammatory disease, adenomyosis (cells from the uterus push through the uterine wall and are found on the outside of the wall). PID when not treated causes chronic pain from damage to the uterus and the fallopian tubes.
    Fibroids: Non-cancerous tumours that grow in the uterus and can cause pain, pain during sex, frequent urination and urinary incontinence, constipation, heavy pain. Hysterectomy is only recommended for fibroids if they are very large and attempts to shrink them has not worked, if there is severe bleeding and if no further children are desired.
    Prolapse of the uterus – where it falls from it’s usual position and protrudes into the vagina – symptoms include back pain, urinary incontinence, difficulty having sex and the feeling something is coming out of your vagina. It can occur as the result of childbirth. It is only recommended in this case when the tissues that support the uterus are so weak that there is no other way to resolve the issue.
    Cancer: Hysterectomy can be recommended in cervical cancer, endometrial cancer, cancer of the womb, ovarian cancer and cancer of the fallopian tubes. If cancer has spread or reached an advanced stage, this may be the only treatment option.
    Reasons for hysterectomy after menopause:
    Fibroids – I had mine as a result of very large and relatively fast growing fibroids.
    Prolapse
    Cancer
    Pelvic pain – endometriosis etc.
    Hysterectomies can be done laproscopically (through small incisions), vaginally or as open operations. Ideally, you want laproscopic or vaginal as the surgery is less stressful on the body. In my case, there was no choice but to do it as open surgery. This means that it is a far more major operation and you can expect your body to take longer to recover.
    What happens when you have an hysterectomy? What everyone talks about is that you will go through menopause immediately if your ovaries are removed.
    What they don’t...
    40 min
  • Reboot: G is for Group Sex
    Please enjoy again: G is for group sex.
    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is G and G is for Group Sex.
    I get lots of questions about whether being polyamorous means that you have a lot of group sex. In short, no. You can have group sex as a one off fantasy event, as part of a non-monogamous relationship style (like swinging), or as part of a polyamorous relationship. There are as many polyamorous folks who are not fond of kinky sex as there are folks who enjoy it.
    Group sex is defined as sex with any more than two people participating. I include when people are watching as participants as observers always impact upon what they observe. Enjoying group sexual activities requires a degree of self-confidence and sexual confidence. If you have no confidence, you are likely to spend the entire time feeling self-conscious and that is not at all fun.
    Part of feeling confident when it comes to a group experience can be down to the atmosphere and planning that goes into the experience. Some environments bring together people who know each other and others bring together strangers. It takes a different type of confidence to manage an environment full of strangers than it does an environment full of friends and acquaintances.
    Dr Katherine Frank spent a year studying all different types of group sex. She points out in her introduction that images of group sex can be found in Paleolithic cave art and that many societies through the ages have engaged in group sex.
    Group sex comes in a variety of flavours:
    Threesomes or menage a trois: This looks like what it says – three people engage in sex with each other. This can take the form of any mix of genders or sexual orientations. Having a threesome with another woman is one of the most popular male fantasies. Single bisexual women are often sought after by couples who want to engage in this type of groups sex and they are called unicorns (because they can be very hard to find).
    Couples playing together is the next most common form of group sex. This is usually done privately. Couples meet online, through swinging sites and sometimes at swingers clubs. As long as all members of the couple are excited by the idea, this can be one of the easiest group sex combinations for couples as there tends to be less jealousy because everyone is involved.
    Wife swapping: These parties became popular 1960’s and 1970’s and have had a resurgence since the 1990’s. It was popular to have the swaps be random so as to limit jealousy and this lead to key parties in which all the car keys were put in a bowl and each man (or woman) chose a key from the bowl and the owner of the key was his partner for the evening.
    Swinging: Not all swingers engage in group sex. At many swinger’s clubs and parties, you will see a variety of group activities. Many people enjoy watching at swinger’s clubs and parties.
    Dogging: This is a largely British practice where people meet in large carparks and have sex in cars whilst others watch. Sometimes spots are simply known as dogging spots – other times groups are arranged via email with some participating and others watching.
    Orgies are often seen to be larger groups having sex together or next to each other. Bathhouses catered primarily to gay men and in the pre-AIDS days, were often anonymous sex. These days anonymous sex still happens but more people are aware of the risks they are taking and insist on condoms and other barrier methods of protection when engaging in group and/or anonymous sex.
    Japan has the record for the largest orgy – 250 couples having sex together.
    Orgies are often seen to be more decadent and sometimes negative than group sex.
    22 min
  • A to Z of sex: F is for Freedom (Sexual Freedom)
    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is F and F is for Freedom – Sexual Freedom.
    Susan Wright founded the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom in 1997, and currently serves as Chairperson and Director of Incident Reporting & Response. Susan also serves on the advocacy committees for AASECT, the Kink Clinician Guidelines, the Kink Knowledgeable Program, and the Diverse Sexualities Research Education Institute. Susan has conducted six surveys on discrimination and violence against BDSM practitioners; consent practices and attitudes; and the mental and physical health of BDSM and non-monogamy practitioners that have been published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, Journal of Sexual Medicine, Journal of Behavioral Health Services & Research, International Journal of Social Psychiatry, Journal of Trauma and Dissociation and Journal of Homosexuality.
    In this two part talk, we started by speaking about the reasons for founding the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and the projects they have been involved in. Susan talked about the research that NCSF has done on BDSM, relationship styles, polyamory and consent and that these have been the largest surveys done so far. The research has demonstrated the psychological health of people involved in these alternative relationships and alternative sexual practices and was part of the evidence that caused the APA to modify the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders –V so that the vast majority of people practicing BDSM and/or polyamory no longer qualify for a diagnosis of paraphilia in relationship to their sexual and relationship choices.
    We spent a lot of time talking about consent incidents and how we as a community identify these, manage these and apply sanctions. Susan spoke about the groups that they work with. The NCSF has developed a framework and a lot of resources for community groups and businesses around defining and dealing with consent incidents.
    We spoke about the NCSF’s role in educating law enforcement, psychologists and other mental health professionals. NCSF hosts the Kink Aware Professionals list which is an international list of mental health professionals, medical doctors, lawyers and other professionals who are kink aware. The NCSF regularly educates professionals about BDSM and other alternative lifestyles and sexual practices.
    We spoke about how important it is for individuals to be educated about consent and that some of the research that NCSF has done has found that 75% of consent violations happen with people who are in their first 3 years of being involved with BDSM.
    We spoke about how individuals and groups handle consent incidents and the differences between someone making an error and someone being a repeat offender. We spoke about needing to get information first hand if you are to make a judgement on a situation and that one of the problems is that often people don’t have first hand information and are being asked to make a judgement. We spoke about liability for people organising events and conferences and how important education is to limit liability and that decisions around excluding someone from an event are often taken because of liability issues.
    NCSF has also educated people in the hospitality industry and made it possible for events and conferences to be held at these venues.
    We finished up recognising that we had not managed to cover all the topics we set out to cover and will be doing another show on custody and divorce soon.
    Susan Wright can be found at www.ncsfreedom.org
    Twitter @ncsf
    Facebook: http:www.facebook.com/NCSFreedom
    This week we talked about: Consent...
    33 min
  • E is for Education
    Welcome to my virtual therapy room! I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is The A to Z of Sex. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.
    This week I am interviewing Mason deRou. Master Mason deRou is a primal Master who began his walk into the public kink scene in 2009. He has dominion over Miss Kimi deRou and together they form La Maison deRou. Mason is also the commander of La Meute de Rougaroux (the Rougarou Pack). He is a uniform fetishist, pony trainer, erotic photographer and also loves the littles. Mason leverages his relative y9outh to build bridges among several kinky tribes and subcultures, allowing the voices of both past and current generations of kinksters to be heard. Mason has presented at BESS, Black Rose, CLUE, Weekend Reunion and several MaST chapters. Mason is the president of the Master-Dominant Consortium and is one of the founding members of the Leather Houses of Color Coalition. He is a member of MAsT DC Pan and MAsT Washington and is also an alumnus of the MTTA Academy (Master Training XX). Mason resides in southern Maryland.
    Thanks for joining me for The A to Z of Sex with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.
    Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at https://atozofsex.com/, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://the-intimacy-coach.com/and click the button that says click here! on the contact page. Please leave a review on iTunes and stitcher if you enjoy the show. I look forward to seeing you next week when the letter will be F.
    26 min
  • Reboot: D is for Dating and Sex with Lorna Poole
    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter d and d is for dating and sex.
    Lorna Poole is dating coach who helps smart, savvy successful women who are single find love with a great guy by showing you how to master the dating phase from getting asked out to I do. She is the Founder & CEO of Lorna Poole, Magnet For Love Coaching after her own love disaster; she decided it was time to get it right. She realized she kept attracting the wrong guys and knew if she never took her love life seriously, she would never meet her Mr. Right. Luckily for Lorna, she is now in a loving relationship with her “great guy”.
    We all know dating can be a minefield but not if you know what you are doing. Today on the show Lorna is going to share with you some really crucial tips that will change how you date forever, so that you can win that guy over for good.
    Lorna spoke about how important knowing yourself and your own boundaries is to finding the relationship you desire. She shared that often people stick to old patterns without realising that this is what they are doing. We spoke about how patterns come from our childhoods and that people gravitate to what feels familiar.
    She talked about how important it is to let men know that you are interested in them, to allow them to step up into the masculine role. Lorna reminds women that the right guy will step up and the wrong guy will drift away. She said that women are too quick to chase after someone who doesn’t respond to them or treats them poorly and pointed out that if a woman is clear about what she wants that a man will either, accept this and act accordingly or not.
    We both agreed how important it is to set your own boundaries about sexual behaviour as it relates to dating and to do what feels right for you. We highlighted pressure to have sex early on in the relationship and that for some women this doesn’t feel good. If you violate your own boundary, you are likely to feel bad about this so Lorna reminds women to forgive themselves. She points out that you have to let go of any negative and positive emotional charge from the past in order to make space to create the new pattern.
    We spoke about handling the safe sex conversation and Lorna stated that the woman should be clear that she is excited about having sex with the man and that she only has sex with a man when he wears and condom and then to finish by telling the man how much she is looking forward to sleeping with him. Keeping the positive up front instead of presenting safe sex as a problem.
    Lorna advises women to create desire and interest and be confident of their needs and desires. We agree that there is nothing like a woman who knows what she wants and states it clearly.
    Thanks for joining me this week for the A to Z of Sex. Write in with your questions to [email protected] and visit both websites www.atozofsex.com and www.the-intimacy-coach.com to learn about alternative sexual choices, types of sexual relationships and to learn to sizzle and create that ideal lasting intimate relationship. For a free 30 minute session with me, head over to http://www.atozofsex.com (www.atozofsex.com) and click on the button that says ‘book now’. Please join me next week when the letter will be E.
    41 min
  • Reboot: C is for Cunt
    Please enjoy again:
    C is for Cunt
    Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is C and C is for Cunt. As Dr Kate Lister said in her chapter on the subject, ‘as far as offensive words go, you are entering a hardhat area’. (The link in the notes takes you to the excerpt and I highly recommend all of her writing.)
    If you are easily offended, this is probably not the podcast for you this week.
    Cunt is the word for vulva. According to Dr Kate Lister, cunt is the oldest world for female genitalia in the English language and quite possibly in Europe. She goes on to say that in 1500 Wynkyn de Worde defined ‘vulva’ as ‘in English, a cunt’. At this time, cunt was a descriptive word. Dr Kate Lister provides an hilarious history of the word and it’s usage to modern times in the chapter referenced above. She highlights that by the 18th century, the word cunt is now used as a curse and seen as a lude and indecent word.
    Currently, cunt is the word that lots of women refuse to say. They see it as offensive no matter how it is being used. This varies from culture to culture. For example in America, it is the insult that means your wife or girlfriend might end the relationship but in the drag community in the US, a queen might be called cunty to highlight a high level of femininity. In the UK, New Zealand and Australia it is usually used to refer to a man. When a man uses the term to refer to another man, in some parts of the world it is the worst insult you can use and in others it can be seen as a term of endearment. In New Zealand, a man may refer to another man as ‘a good cunt’ meaning a good guy. I find this hilarious given the true meaning of the term.
    The word cunt appears in literature up through the 21st century. It is used several times in the Canterbury Tales (1390) and is used openly so is not seen to be vulgar or obscene. There is some suggestion that by Shakespeare’s day, cunt was seen as obscene. Even so, he enjoyed sneaking the word cunt in where he could.
    Cunt can be used to describe someone who is a fool or an annoying person.
    The word featured in one of the most famous obscenity trials in the UK.
    This was in the trial for the publication Oz.
    Oz was an underground magazine that was at first released in Australia in 1963 and was primarily satirical. It covered topics like homosexuality, White Australia Policy, Australian involvement in the Viet Nam War and of course, censorship. There were two obscenity trials in Australia during the life of the magazine in Australia. The founders were sentenced to three to six months in prison with hard labour. They were released on bail pending appeal and the convictions were eventually overturned.
    Two of the founders (Sharp and Neville) headed for London in February 1966. The third founder (Walsh) continued to publish a smaller edition of Oz until 1969.
    In 1966, the London Oz was founded by Neville, Sharp and another Australian Jim Anderson. The magazine turned more psychedelic. The magazine was targeted by the UK Obscene Publications Squad and their offices were raided a number of times. The editors often invited groups of people to ‘edit an issue’. One was edited by gay people, another by the female liberation movement. Finally, they asked a group of secondary school students to edit issue number 28 which came out in May 1970. One article was a very sexual Rupert Bear parody written by a 15 year old. This marrying of school children and ‘obscene’ writing was what led to the obscenity trial in 1971.
    In the 1971 Oz obscenity trial the prosecutor asked one of the principals if he would call his 10 year old daughter a cunt and he...
    25 min

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