The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi

By Stacey ChillemiHealth & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement

The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi episodes

April 02 How Men’s Emotional Silence Affects Families for Generations
He never talked about it. Neither did his father. And chances are his son will learn the same lesson without a single word being spoken. Emotional silence in men is not just a relationship problem — it is a transmission. The unspoken pain, the unexpressed grief, the feelings that got buried because showing them felt dangerous — they do not disappear. They shape behavior, damage intimacy, and get passed down to the next generation as surely as any spoken lesson. Willie Handler has written about what happens inside families when men are taught that silence is strength — and what it actually costs the people who love them and the children who are watching. This episode is for every man ready to break the pattern and every person who has loved someone who could not.
You’ll learn:
🧠 Why men often avoid talking about pain and vulnerability
💔 How emotional silence impacts marriages, families, and children
🔁 How generational trauma gets passed down
🛠️ What healing can realistically look like
🌱 Where to begin if you want to break the cycle in your own family

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35 min
April 01 Maternal Burnout: How to Recover When Motherhood Feels Overwhelming
You love your children completely. And you are running on empty in a way that frightens you. Not tired — depleted. The kind of exhaustion that does not lift after a good night of sleep and does not get better after a weekend away. Maternal burnout is real, it is clinically recognized, and it is happening to far more mothers than anyone talks about because admitting it feels like admitting failure. Dr. Susan Landers is a neonatologist who has spent her career at the beginning of life — and what she shares about the real signs of maternal burnout, why it is not failure, and what recovery actually requires will give every overwhelmed mother permission to stop pretending she is fine and start getting what she actually needs. You cannot pour from empty. This episode helps you find the refill.
You’ll learn:
✨ How to recognize maternal burnout before it gets worse
✨ Why burnout is not the same as failure
✨ The emotional and physical signs moms often miss
✨ Simple ways to start recovering, even if life still feels full
✨ How boundaries, support, rest, and self-compassion can help you feel like yourself again
Connect with Susan Landers
🔗 Explore more resources + insights on work-life balance: ⁠https://susanlandersmd.com/⁠
📚 Follow Dr. Susan Landers, MD for newborn care + parenting guidance: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-landersmd/⁠
📖 Get Dr. Landers’ BRAND NEW Book Good Enough is your Superpower: ⁠https://susanlandersmd.com/book/⁠
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32 min
March 31 Why Neurodivergent Adults Struggle With Friendship—and What Actually Helps
High school ends and the built-in social structure disappears. For neurodivergent adults that transition does not just feel hard — it can feel like falling off a cliff into a world that was never designed for the way they connect. Dating apps, networking events, social media — all of it built around neurotypical social scripts that feel exhausting to perform and hollow when they work. Jamie Pastrano co-founded Synchrony specifically because she saw that gap and could not find anything filling it. What she shares about why neurodivergent adults struggle with friendship in ways that are completely distinct from shyness or introversion — and what actually helps — is a conversation that is long overdue. If you are neurodivergent or love someone who is, this episode will make you feel far less alone in something you may have spent years blaming yourself for.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why friendship often gets harder for neurodivergent adults after high school
🧠 How social anxiety, stigma, and masking can deepen isolation
📱 Why most social platforms do not create real belonging
🤝 How shared interests can help build safer, more meaningful connection
🛡️ What safety and structure can look like in a supportive social space
🌱 Small steps neurodivergent adults, parents, and caregivers can take to build confidence and community

🌐 Connect with Jamie Pastrano & Synchrony
Website: https://joinsynchrony.com/
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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@synchrony33

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32 min
March 30 What Emotionally Resilient Kids Have That Struggling Kids Don't — It's Not What You Think
It is not the absence of stress. Not perfect parenting. Not the right school or the right schedule. The children who navigate hard things most successfully have one thing in common — they feel genuinely safe and connected to the adults in their lives. That safety is not built through achievement or protection from difficulty. It is built through attention, repair, and the specific way parents respond when emotions get big and messy. Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst has spent her career studying exactly how that resilience develops inside families — and what she shares about connection, self-awareness, and what children are actually signaling when they act out will change how you respond in the moments that matter most. Your child does not need a perfect parent. They need a present one.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
👉 What emotional struggles in children may be signaling
👉 How family stress and disconnection affect kids
👉 Why connection matters more than pressure or perfection
👉 How to respond to big emotions without shutting your child down
👉 What helps children feel safe, seen, and supported
👉 Where to begin if your family feels stuck in conflict or overwhelm
🌐 Connect with Dr. Gloria K. Vanderhorst
Website: https://drvanderhorst.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gloria-vanderhorst-ph-d-730826b/
Business Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drvanderhorst
Personal Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gloria.vanderhorst.7
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43 min
March 30 We Don't Have a Learning Crisis — We Have a Thinking Crisis. Here's the Difference.
More information is available to us right now than any generation in human history. And we are thinking less clearly, less deeply, and less curiously than ever before. That is not a coincidence. Katie Trowbridge has spent her career as an educator, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker studying exactly what is happening to our capacity for deep thought — in schools, in workplaces, and in daily life. What she has found is that access to information was never the bottleneck. Thinking was. And the conditions that produce genuine curiosity, critical thinking, and creative problem-solving are being systematically removed from the environments where we spend most of our time. What her CREATE Method rebuilds — and why psychological safety is the foundation underneath all of it — will change how you think about thinking itself.
You’ll learn:
• Why Katie says we’re facing a thinking crisis, not just a learning crisis
• Why more information does not automatically create better thinking
• How curiosity supports learning, creativity, and connection
• What shuts down critical thinking in schools, teams, and relationships
• How psychological safety helps people share ideas and take healthy risks
• Practical ways to strengthen deep thinking and ask better questions
• How Katie’s CREATE Method helps people become more thoughtful, engaged, and innovative

Connect with Katie Trowbridge & Curiosity 2 Create
🌐 Personal Website: http://katietrowbridge.com/
🧠 Curiosity 2 Create – The CREATE Method & Programs: http://curiosity2create.org/

Social Media:
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katie-trowbridge/
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37 min
March 27 Your Phone Is Stealing Your Reading Life — Here's How to Take It Back
You used to read. You remember what it felt like to get lost in a book for hours. And now you pick up your phone instead — not because you want to, but because the habit has gotten so grooved that reaching for it happens before you even make a conscious choice. Barbara Hagen works at ThriftBooks — a company built entirely on the belief that books belong in everyday life — and what she shares about breaking the scrolling reflex, building a reading habit that actually sticks, and making books feel accessible again is the most practical conversation about reclaiming your attention you will hear this year. You do not need more willpower. You need a simpler plan. This episode gives you one.
📚 Why reading feels difficult to begin
📱 How to break the scrolling reflex
⏱️ Easy ways to make time for books
🧠 How to enjoy reading without pressure
✨ Small changes that make habits easier to keep
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32 min
March 27 When You No Longer Know Who You Are — What Moral Injury Does to Your Identity
Something happened that violated what you believed about yourself or the world. Maybe it was a decision you made. Something done to you. A role you played in something you are not proud of. Whatever it was it did not just hurt — it fractured something at the core of how you understood yourself. That is moral injury. And it does not heal the way ordinary grief does because it is not just about loss — it is about meaning, self-trust, and the story you have been telling yourself about who you are. Dr. Carter Check is a U.S. Army veteran, clinical chaplain, and healthcare ethicist who has sat with people in exactly that fracture — and what he shares about facing identity loss with honesty, rebuilding self-trust, and what remains true about you even after everything changes is the conversation most people in this pain never get to have. You are not what happened to you. This episode helps you remember that.
You’ll learn:
🧠 what identity loss really is
💔 how moral injury affects meaning and self-trust
🌿 the first steps to start healing now
🤝 why trusted people matter in recovery
📖 how to face loss with more honesty and less shame
💡 what remains true about you, even after change
👉 Work with Dr. Check / Speaking / Resources: https://drcartercheck.com
📖 Get the book Healing in the Wild: https://healinginthewild.com
📲 Follow Dr. Check: https://linktr.ee/cartercheck
✨ If this episode helped you, share it with someone carrying invisible wounds—and leave a review so we can reach more people before the crisis.
© Dr. Carter C. Check — “Healing isn’t the end of pain, it’s the return of purpose.”

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50 min
March 26 Staying Calm in Chaos Is Built Before the Storm Hits
Staying calm while the tornado siren sounds or the apartment floods looks like luck from the outside. It isn't. Ten years ago, the same warning meant screaming and scrambling; this week it meant walking to the interior room, clear about what to do and in what order — the payoff of a practice built long before the storm.
Diane L. Haworth, founder of Be Love Principles, explains how anchoring to love holds fear without shame, why the ego shouts while heart wisdom stays gentle and persistent, and leads a short light exercise you can do right in your seat. The next alert will find a different you.
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🌐 Website: https://www.beloveprinciples.org/
🌐 More From Diane: https://www.morefromdiane.com/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DianeLHaworth
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43 min
March 25 The American West Nobody Taught You — Railroad Empires, Cultural Conflict, and What Was Lost
The version of the American West most people know is the simplified one — pioneers, progress, manifest destiny. The real story is messier, more human, and far more important. Dan Hendrickson spent years researching his own family history to write Railroad Man, Legacy's Son — a novel that puts you inside the collision between railroad expansion, Native tribes, and cattlemen fighting for land, identity, and survival at the same time. What he uncovered about what was gained, what was destroyed, and why those tensions still echo in American culture today is the kind of history that changes how you see the present. This is not just a book conversation. It is a reckoning with a story that was never fully told.
You’ll learn:
🚂 how railroads reshaped the frontier
⚔️ what tensions existed between tribes, cattlemen, and railroad leaders
❤️ how the novel explores love, trauma, and healing
📚 how Dan used family history to bring the story to life
🧠 why historical fiction can deepen your understanding of the past
🔥 what makes this book relevant today
Explore more from Dan Hendrickson:;
Website: https://danehendrickson.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DEHendrickson
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42 min
March 24 Your Back Pain Isn't Coming From Your Back — Here's Where It's Actually Starting
You have stretched it. Iced it. Rested it. Strengthened it. And it keeps coming back. The reason most back pain becomes chronic is not because the back itself is broken — it is because the source of the problem is somewhere else entirely and nobody has looked there yet. Tonya Juge is a Doctor of Physical Therapy who specializes in exactly that diagnostic gap — the posture patterns, breathing habits, and movement compensations that quietly build tension in your back long before the pain announces itself. What she shares about where back pain actually originates and the common mistakes that keep people stuck in the treatment cycle will make you rethink every approach you have tried so far. The back is where you feel it. This episode finds where it starts.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why back pain often builds quietly over time
🧠 What posture, breathing, and movement habits have to do with pain
🔍 Why the pain may not actually be coming from your back
⚠️ Common mistakes people make when trying to fix back pain
🌿 What it takes to start healing the root cause

🌐 Learn more at https://tonicpt.com

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39 min