The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi

Trauma recovery started for her in a hospital bed, staring at a white tile ceiling, setting one goal: walk to the mailbox. Years later, it meant running from an abusive marriage with a single suitcase, calling the orphan she'd sponsored 7,000 miles away, and hearing him say We will keep you safe. If you feel like a shell of yourself, that isn't weakness — it's what survival costs, and it rebuilds one day at a time.

Martha Hoy, nurse, author of Becoming Mother Martha, and founder of the Mother Martha Family Foundation, shows where rebuilding starts. You'll leave with a first step you can actually take.

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You did not choose to become a people pleaser. At some point — probably long before you could name it — saying yes and making others comfortable became the strategy that kept you safe. Your nervous system learned that lesson well. And now it fires that same response automatically in situations that are nothing like the ones that originally required it. Kamini Wood works specifically with the wiring underneath people pleasing — not just the behavior but the survival response driving it — and what she shares about why no feels physically dangerous to your nervous system and what it actually takes to rewire that response will change how you understand every yes you have ever given when you meant no. You are not too nice. You are too well trained. This episode starts the retraining.

You’ll learn:

Connect with Kamini Wood & Live Joy Your Way
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Barry Maher did not plan to have a brain cancer diagnosis reorder everything he thought he knew about time, priority, and what actually matters. Nobody plans for that. But when it happened something shifted that no amount of personal development content had ever touched — the abstract knowledge that life is short became visceral, immediate, and impossible to ignore. What he learned about purpose, relationships, and the things most people keep postponing until someday is not advice you need a crisis to understand. He is sharing it so you do not have to wait for one. This episode will make you look at today differently before it is over.

You’ll learn:

✨ How a life-changing diagnosis can shift your perspective on time

This is a powerful conversation about resilience, meaning, and learning to live more fully now.

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Therapy. Medication. Exercise. Better sleep. Clean eating. You have done the work — and there is still something underneath it all that will not shift. That gap is not a personal failure. It is a gap in how mental health care has traditionally been delivered — treating symptoms in isolation without addressing the full picture of what the nervous system, the body, and unresolved trauma are all doing at the same time. Derek Du Chesne founded Better U out of his own mental health crisis — the moment he realized that the conventional approach was not designed to reach the root. What he shares about thought loops, nervous system overload, and the whole-body approach that actually moves the needle will give you a completely new framework for understanding why you are not better yet — and what to do about it.

You’ll learn:

Connect with Derek Du Chesne & Better U

Website: https://www.betterucare.com/

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You lie awake because you are anxious. Then you are more anxious the next day because you did not sleep. That loop is not a coincidence and it is not a character flaw — it is a physiological cycle that feeds itself until something interrupts it. Most people treat the anxiety or the sleep but never the connection between them. Megan Mazzocco has spent her career studying exactly that connection — as a wellbeing strategist, founder of Wellbeing by Design, and author of The Sleep System — and what she shares about why sleep deprivation quietly amplifies every anxiety symptom you are already carrying will make you realize that fixing your sleep is not just about rest. It is one of the most powerful mental health interventions available to you. This episode tells you how to start tonight.

You’ll learn:

✨ Why poor sleep puts your brain into baseline anxiety

Sleep isn’t laziness.

Connect with Megan Mazzocco and Wellbeing X Design
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Wellbeing X Design blends neuroscience, psychology, and energy awareness to help individuals and organizations design life, work, and sleep within their parameters to thrive.

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Trauma tried everything on Adriene Caldwell — and it failed. She survived what most people can't imagine, numbed the pain for years, and built a wall where every brick was a trauma and the mortar was unshed tears, until her daughter arrived and failure stopped being an option.

The author of Unbroken: Life Outside the Lines shares how writing it forced the wall down, why she refused to make herself the hero of her own story, what silence costs survivors, and the pottery tradition that repairs broken things with gold. Resilience isn't being untouched — it's taking the hit and still standing. Whatever you're carrying, it is not forever, and this hour is the proof.

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It happens before you are fully awake. Before a meeting starts. In the middle of a conversation with someone you love. You reach for your phone not because you chose to but because the habit has become faster than conscious thought. That is not a discipline problem. It is a neurological one — and MJ Murray Vachon has spent her career as a licensed clinical social worker studying exactly how smartphones hijack the brain's reward system and what practical interventions actually interrupt the loop. What she shares about why phones are designed to be compulsive, how that compulsion is affecting your sleep, focus, and anxiety, and the small changes that create real results will make you look at every reach for your phone completely differently. You are not weak. You are up against something that was engineered to win. This episode helps you start winning instead.

You’ll learn:

📱 Why smartphones trigger addictive behavior

These ideas will help you build healthier phone habits starting today.

Connect with MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW
🌐 Website: https://mjmurrayvachon.com/
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vachonmjmurray
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/m-j-murray-vachon-lcsw-184252289

Ep.62 Coping Skills for Managing the Stress & Anxiety of TikTok Addiction!: https://pod.fo/e/2b8a0f

 Ep.122 3 Proven Coping Skills to Outsmart Your Smartphone and Decrease Anxiety & Reclaim 2 Hours a Day for Midlife Calm: https://pod.fo/e/2ac72eEp. 204 Feeling Anxious and Stressed? Your Best Midlife Coping Skill Is Already Inside You: https://pod.fo/e/3406e7

Interested in The Inner Challenge Master Class, contact MJ:  @[email protected] 

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Normal does not mean optimal. And for women navigating perimenopause, chronic stress, and the slow accumulation of environmental toxins, the gap between those two words can be everything. Your labs were designed to catch disease — not to catch the subtle hormonal shifts, gut disruptions, and cortisol patterns that make you feel like a dimmer version of yourself long before anything shows up on a standard panel. Dr. Victoria Andarcia works in exactly that gap — the space between what conventional testing measures and what is actually happening in your body. What she shares about perimenopause warning signs, how gut health affects estrogen detox and anxiety, and the hidden environmental toxins quietly disrupting your hormones will make you realize that normal was never the goal. Feeling like yourself again is.

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You smile at the baby shower. You say you are fine when people ask. And privately you are carrying one of the heaviest emotional experiences a person can go through — the grief, the hope, the disappointment, the procedures, the waiting — in a culture that does not quite know how to hold it with you. Infertility and IVF are physically demanding. The emotional toll is something else entirely. Dia Claudia Schwarz has spent her work as a fertility advocate specifically in that emotional space — the shame, the isolation, the mental health impact that gets treated as secondary to the medical process. What she shares about protecting your mental health through fertility treatment, calming the overwhelm, and finding steadiness inside an experience designed to destabilize you is the conversation most fertility clinics never have time for. You do not have to go through this alone. This episode is proof someone understands.

You’ll learn:

If you're in the middle of infertility or fertility treatment, this conversation will help you regain control, clarity, and hope.

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Your glow should come from science and integrity—not mystery powders.

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Most people do not dramatically fail. They quietly settle. A little less ambition here. A slightly lower expectation there. Until the life they are living looks almost nothing like the one they imagined — and they cannot quite identify the moment it happened. Michael Bernoff calls it the average thermostat — the internal setting that regulates how much you expect from yourself and automatically pulls you back whenever you start to exceed it. As a communication expert and author of Average Sucks he has spent his career studying the specific words, beliefs, and internal language patterns that either keep people comfortable in mediocrity or drive them toward something genuinely different. What he shares about the simple language shifts that rewire confidence and the communication strategies that build trust and influence will make you realize that raising your standards does not start with your circumstances. It starts with what you are willing to say to yourself.

You’ll discover:

• How the “average thermostat” quietly keeps people stuck in life

Connect with Michael Bernoff!

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