The Aftermath: The Epidemic of Divorce, Custody and Healing

Divorce is hard. And the aftermath of healing is a space of strength.

Hosts, Mick Smith and Kindra Riber, want to make sure you are not alone during divorce, parental alienation, and custody battles. They bring real people and real stories to you so you can be equipped to heal yourself, your children and recover from the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Did you know that divorce lawyers have a similar nature of work as that of family lawyers? During divorce proceedings, close communication and clear communication is key. Communication cuts both ways. Your lawyer must also be a good listener, able to hear and fully comprehend your wishes, goals, and priorities.

Having a certified divorce financial analyst on your team during a divorce can reduce stress and save money on legal fees. Many of the decisions made in divorce are financial in nature. High net worth divorces can be more complicated financially. than other divorces involve asset valuation, hidden assets, and complex tax issues.

Hiring experienced representation is non negotiable in high net worth divorces. During this episode, we'll discuss all these issues to understand how they work and how they may be the correct option for you. By the end of this episode, you will be better equipped to know what to do, And we will encourage you to contact our guest matrimonial attorney, certified divorce and financial analyst and high net worth representative Lisa Zeiderman.

Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP. A Matrimonial Attorney, CFL and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly

handles complex financial and custody divorce matters for high net worth individuals.

Named to the Crain’s New York list of Notable Women Attorneys for 2022, a Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2022, a 2021 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, among other awards, Ms. Zeiderman is also a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children.

In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, the New York Law Journal and various other publications and quoted on issues ranging from financial empowerment to tax issues to child custody.

Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, also serves as the Vice President of the Board of Savvy Ladies, Inc., and on the board of LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today.

Email: Mollie Fullington [email protected] (Lisa's Agent)

Website: https://lisazeiderman.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-zeiderman-esq-a2a041a/recent-activity/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisazeiderman

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisa.zeiderman.3

If you find yourself entangled in a high-conflict divorce or experiencing the heart-wrenching alienation from your children, we encourage you to share your story with us. Reach out to us at [email protected] and let your voice be heard.

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

In this episode we discuss:

Understanding Parental Alienation Across Age Groups:

• Impact on children at different age levels during divorce.
• Challenges with 15-year-old boys: Hormonal and bodily changes.
• Toddlers and school-age children navigating different household dynamics.
• Grace period for school-age children, blaming themselves for the divorce.
• Reassuring children of love regardless of parental relationship status.

Addressing Concerns and Providing Support:

• Importance of clear communication with children about expectations in each household.
• The role of collaboration between divorced parents in creating a consistent environment for the child.
• Dealing with narcissistic parents and involving the law for the child's well-being.
• Challenges faced by children when one parent moves, and the impact on all parties involved.

Teenagers and Aligning with Same-Sex Parents:

• Challenges with teenagers' resilience during divorce.
• Alignment with the same-sex parent and how it evolves over time.
• The importance of providing structure, routine, and discipline even when facing resistance.

ABOUT DR. MICHELE FINNERAN:

Dr. Michele Finneran, is a licensed professional counselor located in Florida. She owns and operates her own private counseling practice, Vecc & Associates, LLC.

Dr. Michele Finneran has an undergraduate degree in Psychology from Stetson University. She also has a Masters in Mental Health Counseling from Nova Southeastern University and a license to practice from the State of Florida. She has achieved a Ph.D. in Conflict Resolution and Dispute Analysis from Nova Southeastern University.

HOW TO REACH AND FOLLOW DR. MICHELE FINNERAN

 https://www.drmichelefinneran.com/

FACEBOOK:

https://www.facebook.com/dr.finneran

INSTRAGRAM:

https://www.instagram.com/dr.finneran/channel/

LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelefinneran/

Dave Collier is a best-selling author, international speaker, and youth advocate.

I have been fortunate to speak in North America and internationally. 

My topics have included Intimate Partner Violence, Narcissistic Abuse and Parental Alienation. Having worked with vulnerable youth for many years, ending generational abuse is also a passionate topic of mine.

I am an international best-selling author with an account of Intimate Partner Violence. There is currently another piece waiting for publishing and a full length story in the works.

After many years of working with youth and other vulnerable communities, I have become driven to advocate for those that may need someone speaking on their behalf or alongside them. 

A Man's Resilience

https://dbcollier.com

Divorce is hard. And the aftermath of healing is a space of strength.

Hosts, Mick Smith and Kindra Riber, want to make sure you are not alone during divorce, parental alienation, and custody battles. They bring real people and real stories to you so you can be equipped to heal yourself, your children and recover from the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

If you find yourself entangled in a high-conflict divorce or experiencing the heart-wrenching alienation from your children, we encourage you to share your story with us. Reach out to us at [email protected] and let your voice be heard.

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Divorce is hard. And the aftermath of healing is a space of strength.

Hosts, Mick Smith and Kindra Riber, want to make sure you are not alone during divorce, parental alienation, and custody battles. They bring real people and real stories to you so you can be equipped to heal yourself, your children and recover from the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

If you find yourself entangled in a high-conflict divorce or experiencing the heart-wrenching alienation from your children, we encourage you to share your story with us. Reach out to us at [email protected] and let your voice be heard.

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

In this episode, Megan Hunter, CEO & CO-Founder of High Conflict Institute, provides some helpful tools and strategies we can use when communicating with a co-partner.

BIFF - Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm

EAR - Empathy, Attention, Respect

No response is a response. We don't have to answer right away if we choose to answer.

Provide options and proposals vs. "all or nothing"

WEB method

SSN - Shut up, Smile, Nod

Hosts, Mick Smith and Kindra Riber, want to make sure you are not alone during divorce, parental alienation, and custody battles. They bring real people and real stories to you so you can be equipped to heal yourself, your children and recover from the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

If you find yourself entangled in a high-conflict divorce or experiencing the heart-wrenching alienation from your children, we encourage you to share your story with us. Reach out to us at [email protected] and let your voice be heard.

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Kindra and Mick have met for the first time since they started hosting this podcast a year ago to discuss the top 4 episodes, what they have in common and plans for the future. Join them in this short episode to hear what the trends have been over the past year with legislative change for custody, trends in court and how parental alienation starts.

Allow us to introduce your hosts, Mick Smith and Kindra Riber, who are fervently fighting to put an end to the excruciating pain caused by divorce, parental alienation, custody battles, and the disintegration of families. Their mission is to equip you with the necessary tools to heal and recover from the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

For more captivating discussions and valuable insights, visit our podcast page at https://www.podpage.com/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing-1/.

If you find yourself entangled in a high-conflict divorce or experiencing the heart-wrenching alienation from your children, we encourage you to share your story with us. Reach out to us at [email protected] and let your voice be heard.

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Claudia Ovalles is a retired veteran, alienated Mom and fighting for change legally. Did you know that custodial interference is a criminal offense and can be prosecuted? You as the targeted parent have every right to call the police when your court order has been denied by the other parent. Claudia defines what this means in this mind-blowing episode.

Claudia is active with Heroes for Children's Rights and the National Parents Organization. 

She is able to discuss legislative efforts and advocacy and is at the forefront of these efforts. Claudia has been a vocal advocate for children's rights and has worked on legislation in Texas to bring awareness to child custody interference. Claudia has also been a guest on various podcasts and has spoken out on the importance of accountability for parents and law enforcement in cases of child custody interference. Her passion for helping children and her dedication to making a positive difference in their lives make her a valuable asset after serving our country as a veteran.

Claudia was successful in passing a law in Texas in 2023 on interference with child custody - HB969; and she discusses parental alienation and how custodial interference impacts the parent-child relationship; she also describes custodial interference from every relevant angle and brings us up to date with the current #itsnotacivilmatter campaign.

Claudia can be contacted at:

[email protected];

heroesforchildrensrights.org;

sharedparenting.org/texas;

https://www.linkedin.com/in/claudia-ovalles/

#itsnotacivilmatter

Allow us to introduce your hosts, Mick Smith and Kindra Riber, who are fervently fighting to put an end to the excruciating pain caused by divorce, parental alienation, custody battles, and the disintegration of families. Their mission is to equip you with the necessary tools to heal and recover from the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

For more captivating discussions and valuable insights, visit our podcast page at https://www.podpage.com/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing-1/.

If you find yourself entangled in a high-conflict divorce or experiencing the heart-wrenching alienation from your children, we encourage you to share your story with us. Reach out to us at [email protected] and let your voice be heard.

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Parental children of divorce is a real thing. Alienation can happen, whether it's planned or not. It’s not as simple as one parent trying to turn a child against the other. It involves a variety of factors that can exist in any given family, including the children’s reactions to their situation. Sadly, parents who struggle with children rejecting them often do so in private.

However, when parents learn to express empathy through validating their children’s feelings, it can start to reconnect them emotionally and create safety to repair the relationship.

As a reunification/conjoint family therapist, Cathy Himlin believes the key is a child-centered approach, focusing on the child’s emotional perspective.

Cathy Himlin, LMFT, LPCC is a sought after expert supporting child-focused parenting and legal professionals in high conflict cases. She’s the President and CEO of Family Connections Therapy and Founder of Himlin Consulting.

During this episode, we dive into how the courts traumatize families and make the situations worse, additional reasons for children rejecting their parents and how parents can positively influence this through learning new methods of communication and understanding the child's viewpoint and how parental alienation is not so black and white. Cathy wants to bring parents hope that there are other ways to deal with children rejecting them vs. fighting it out in the courtroom.

Reach out to Cathy Himilin:

LInkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cathy-himlin-lmft-lpcc-9aaa0079/

Email: [email protected]

Website: Himlinconsulting.com

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Allow us to introduce your hosts, Mick Smith and Kindra Riber, who are fervently fighting to put an end to the excruciating pain caused by divorce, parental alienation, custody battles, and the disintegration of families. Their mission is to equip you with the necessary tools to heal and recover from the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

For more captivating discussions and valuable insights, visit our podcast page at https://www.podpage.com/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing-1/.

If you find yourself entangled in a high-conflict divorce or experiencing the heart-wrenching alienation from your children, we encourage you to share your story with us. Reach out to us at [email protected] and let your voice be heard.

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Heidi Dunstan is a grief expert and talks with Mick and Kindra in this episode on how to handle someone going through grief, what to say to them when they are grieving that can be helpful rather than hurt and how to set your own boundaries while grieving.

The episode precedes her bLU Talk at Harvard University. Heidi has also spoken at various summits, podcasts, and networking sessions. 

You can contact Heidi at: 

[email protected]

Websitewww.heididunstan.ca

LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/heidi-dunstan/

Instagram and Facebook - Lean Into Grief

Allow us to introduce your hosts, Mick Smith and Kindra Riber, who are fervently fighting to put an end to the excruciating pain caused by divorce, parental alienation, custody battles, and the disintegration of families. Their mission is to equip you with the necessary tools to heal and recover from the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

If you find yourself entangled in a high-conflict divorce or experiencing the heart-wrenching alienation from your children, we encourage you to share your story with us. Reach out to us at [email protected] and let your voice be heard.

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Dr. Baker is a nationally recognized expert in parental alienation, and parent-child relationships, especially children of divorce, and emotional abuse of children. She has a Ph.D. in developmental psychology from Teachers College of Columbia University. She is the author or co-author of 10 books and over 120 academic articles on topics related to children's well-being. 

Amy offers many services including telephone coaching for targeted parents, telephone clinical case consultations, and in-person and virtual trainings for legal and mental health professionals.

Dr. Baker can be reached at: Dr. [email protected] and (201) 321-9874

Allow us to introduce your hosts, Mick Smith and Kindra Riber, who are fervently fighting to put an end to the excruciating pain caused by divorce, parental alienation, custody battles, and the disintegration of families. Their mission is to equip you with the necessary tools to heal and recover from the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

If you find yourself entangled in a high-conflict divorce or experiencing the heart-wrenching alienation from your children, we encourage you to share your story with us. Reach out to us at [email protected] and let your voice be heard.

This has been a Mediacasters Production.