The Aftermath: The Epidemic of Divorce, Custody and Healing

Introduction: Elizabeth Duncan-Hawker is an experienced MBA with a passion for helping families navigate the complexities of divorce and friendship. Her work as an author and executive has given her a deep understanding of the emotional challenges that arise in these situations, and she is dedicated to finding solutions that work for all parties involved. She is the best selling author of Collecting True Friends. 

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Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

To get a copy of our ebook, Survive Your Divorce, providing tips on working through a divorce, handling the children, finances, and healing afterwards, email [email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

In this episode, Kindra and Mick interview Krista Hernandez and the focus is healing your body after a divorce.

Krista is a health and wellness coach who has struggled with chronic illness and autoimmune disease for many years. She discusses her journey to finding a natural and holistic approach to managing her health, which has included changes to her diet, lifestyle, and mindset.

Krista's story is one of resilience and perseverance, as she has navigated the challenges of chronic illness while also pursuing her passion for helping others achieve their health goals. Through her coaching and podcast, she aims to inspire others to take control of their health and find their own unique path to wellness.

Krista's podcast episode offers valuable insights and inspiration for anyone who is struggling with chronic illness or looking to improve their health and wellbeing.

Podcast: https://link.chtbl.com/EcdshW2j

YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@KristaHDez

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

To get a copy of our ebook, Survive Your Divorce, providing tips on working through a divorce, handling the children, finances, and healing afterwards, email [email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

In this podcast, we explore the story of David Shubert, a parental alienation activist who fights for family, mother's, father's, and children's rights. Shubert shares his personal experience of being a left-behind and alienated parent who spent over 14 years fighting to bring his children back home from Australia to the USA. Frustrated with the family court system, he decided to take matters into his own hands by sharing his story and experiences on social media to create awareness about parental alienation. As a result, his writings have been read and shared by people worldwide who have gone through similar experiences. Shubert offers resources and contacts for alienated and left-behind parents in need and shares techniques for self-healing through outdoor activities. His memoir, "Stolen Memories," lays bare all the details of his journey through parental alienation, which he believes is a form of abuse. Shubert's motto is "No More Fear," and he continues to fight for his children's return while promoting awareness and change through his writings.

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

To get a copy of our ebook, Survive Your Divorce, providing tips on working through a divorce, handling the children, finances, and healing afterwards, email [email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Kindra and Mick share their thoughts on what Marcie and Rick shared with us about navigating divorce and working with attorneys.

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

To get a copy of our ebook, Survive Your Divorce, providing tips on working through a divorce, handling the children, finances, and healing afterwards, email [email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Mick and Kindra speak with Marcie Patton-Coffman, a Senior Litigation Partner in Ohio and Rick Julius, a Senior Litigation Partner in Pennsylvania. We ask the tough questions.

1) What is the firm's process of engaging an attorney?

2) How are protection orders used in custody situations?

3) Can an attorney intervene when the absconding parent takes a child or children?

4) How are Court Orders enforced when the uncooperative violates them? 

In this podcast episode, we'll be discussing custody and parental alienation with two attorneys: Marcie Patton Coffman and Richard A. Julius, both of whom practice at Cordell & Cordell, a law firm that focuses on family law.

Let's start with Marcie Patton Coffman. She is a Senior Litigation Attorney and the Manager of Litigation for Cordell & Cordell. She earned her law degree from the University of Missouri-Kansas City School of Law in 2002 and has been practicing family law since then. Marcie is licensed to practice law in Missouri and Illinois.

Throughout her career, Marcie has gained a reputation as a tough litigator, known for her attention to detail and strategic thinking. She has represented clients in a wide range of family law cases, including divorce, child custody, and child support. Marcie has also been recognized for her legal skills by several legal organizations, including being named to the Super Lawyers Rising Stars list from 2013-2015.

Now, let's move on to Richard A. Julius. He is a Senior Litigation Attorney at Cordell & Cordell and has been practicing law since 1995. Richard received his law degree from St. Louis University School of Law and is licensed to practice law in Missouri, Illinois, and Kansas.

Richard has a wealth of experience representing clients in family law cases. He has a deep understanding of the complex legal issues that arise in divorce, child custody, and child support cases. Richard is known for his strong communication skills and his ability to explain complicated legal concepts in a way that his clients can understand.

Richard has also been recognized for his legal skills by several legal organizations, including being named to the Super Lawyers list from 2016-2021.

In summary, both Marcie Patton Coffman and Richard A. Julius are highly experienced family law attorneys who are known for their strategic thinking and effective communication skills. They have both been recognized for their legal skills by several legal organizations, and they are committed to providing their clients with high-quality legal representation.

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

To get a copy of our ebook, Survive Your Divorce, providing tips on working through a divorce, handling the children, finances, and healing afterwards, email [email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Mick and Kindra speak with Marcie Patton-Coffman, a Senior Litigation Partner in Ohio and Rick Julius, a Senior Litigation Partner in Pennsylvania. We ask the tough questions.

1) What is the firm's process of engaging an attorney?

2) How are protection orders used in custody situations?

3) Can an attorney intervene when the absconding parent takes a child or children?

4) How are Court Orders enforced when the uncooperative violates them? 

In this podcast episode, we'll be discussing custody and parental alienation with two attorneys: Marcie Patton Coffman and Richard A. Julius, both of whom practice at Cordell & Cordell, a law firm that focuses on family law.

Let's start with Marcie Patton Coffman. She is a Senior Litigation Attorney and the Manager of Litigation for Cordell & Cordell. She earned her law degree from the University of Missouri-Kansas City School of Law in 2002 and has been practicing family law since then. Marcie is licensed to practice law in Missouri and Illinois.

Throughout her career, Marcie has gained a reputation as a tough litigator, known for her attention to detail and strategic thinking. She has represented clients in a wide range of family law cases, including divorce, child custody, and child support. Marcie has also been recognized for her legal skills by several legal organizations, including being named to the Super Lawyers Rising Stars list from 2013-2015.

Now, let's move on to Richard A. Julius. He is a Senior Litigation Attorney at Cordell & Cordell and has been practicing law since 1995. Richard received his law degree from St. Louis University School of Law and is licensed to practice law in Missouri, Illinois, and Kansas.

Richard has a wealth of experience representing clients in family law cases. He has a deep understanding of the complex legal issues that arise in divorce, child custody, and child support cases. Richard is known for his strong communication skills and his ability to explain complicated legal concepts in a way that his clients can understand.

Richard has also been recognized for his legal skills by several legal organizations, including being named to the Super Lawyers list from 2016-2021.

In summary, both Marcie Patton Coffman and Richard A. Julius are highly experienced family law attorneys who are known for their strategic thinking and effective communication skills. They have both been recognized for their legal skills by several legal organizations, and they are committed to providing their clients with high-quality legal representation.

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

To get a copy of our ebook, Survive Your Divorce, providing tips on working through a divorce, handling the children, finances, and healing afterwards, email [email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Susan Shofer, a certified divorce coach, talks with Mick and Kindra on how children view parental alienation and how best to support them in their adult years after reunification.

Susan is a TedEx speaker, parental alienation specialist, divorce coach, author and more. You can find Susan on Twitter, Instagram and Clubhouse using her name @susanshofer

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

https://www.podpage.com/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing-1/

If you are going through a high conflict divorce or are being alienated from your kids and would like to share your story, reach out to us at [email protected]

Three main topics are covered after interviewing Charlie in the two episodes:

1. Helping children through Parental Alienation (PA);

2. Reducing damage done through trauma;

3. Restoring personal mental health. 

The parent manipulates the child to avoid the other parent. 

The PA syndrome is similar to the Five Stages of Grief by Kubler-Ross: https://www.psycom.net/stages-of-grief.

PA is a similar process; but unlike grief, the child is still alive but alienated. 

We apply our individual situations and how it is similar and dissimilar to grief. The kid or kids are gone but totally which is awkward to process.

We discuss how although this is your position; you should present yourself as strong and happy; there is nothing wrong with you. 

The child is not experiencing alienation; you are. Don't over communicate by saying things such as `I miss you.' That phrase harms kids as well since they are not in control.

We discuss how this is the most natural thing to say but refrain from saying it.

Don't present yourself as sad or depressed. If you are confident and happy you are a strong parent and kids seek you out.

We discuss the necessity of having friends, family, and a life outside your children.

Families and friends need to be coached against the injustice that you are feeling; it does not help.

We discuss the need to educate friends and family.

Legislative reform can only be done in the US on a state-by-state basis and not federally. People in power do not take chances making decisions so they do not face a negative reaction

We followed by discussing the details emerging from Ohio's legislation. 

If a parent is immature the child tries to parent the parent thus upsetting the natural order. Parents should always be a parent. Kids just want to be kids. 

Family members and friends choose between the alienator, children, and you. They can turn on you further isolating you.

The universe is similar to a Venn diagram. Lives intersect but you, the alienator, and the children are in a separate universe. Remind yourself that you are a good person and grow.

Reach out to Charlie via Facebook and Instagram to DM Charlie. He has a twenty-minute introductory video, and in a small group setting has an eight-week program which repeats four weeks later as a follow-up. 

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

To get a copy of our ebook, Survive Your Divorce, providing tips on working through a divorce, handling the children, finances, and healing afterwards, email [email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Susan Shofer, a certified divorce coach, talks with Mick and Kindra on how children view parental alienation and how best to support them in their adult years after reunification.

Susan is a TedEx speaker, parental alienation specialist, divorce coach, author and more. You can find Susan on Twitter, Instagram and Clubhouse using her name @susanshofer

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

https://www.podpage.com/the-aftermath-the-epidemic-of-divorce-custody-and-healing-1/

If you are going through a high conflict divorce or are being alienated from your kids and would like to share your story, reach out to us at [email protected]

How to Contact Your Elected Officials:

usa.gov

Teresa Harlow wrote a terrific seven-step co-parenting guide for co-parenting and immediate action as a helpful resource for the National Parents Organization.

1. Communicate with Your Co-parent
2. Work on Yourself
3. Mediation Keeps Decision-making in Parents’ Hands
4. Collaborative and Amicable Divorce Processes
5. Family therapists
6. Co-parent Coaching
7. Courts should be a last resort

Two examples of how significant social change came from the bottom-up and directly from the people.

Ways to get involved in your local legislation change:

• Help write the new proposed bill by partnering with the leading organization.
• Give your testimony at the state house to help get the bill passed into law and explain why you are for the bill
• Raise awareness by communicating the progress of the bill to your community
• Meet with other legislators outside of your area to help inform them of what the bill says and why they should vote to pass.

The steps of passing a bill.

• Legislator becomes aware of the community need
• Draft bill
• Propose the bill
• Obtain a name/number for the bill
• Committee review which includes public hearings for those that want to speak in favor and against the bill
• Debated in committee and possible recommendations for amending it to pass
• Voted on by committee and referred to Senate to evaluate