The Aftermath: The Epidemic of Divorce, Custody and Healing

Join Kindra and Mick as they talk with Dawn Rishard on how to love yourself after divorce and be worthy of love again. How do you normalize relationship struggles? How do you redefine your life without your partner in it? How do you manage through the grief? Dawn answers all that and more!

Dawn has 2 decades as a Licensed Professional Counselor, Marriage and Family Systems. She empowers people to release the past, open their hearts, and receive the love they desire. She helps unlock Self Love, Clarity, and Connection despite the challenges. She is an expert at restoring people's intimacy in life and love.

She facilitates healing from painful relationships, betrayal/affairs, and divorce. She advocates Women's Empowerment and equality in partnership.

1:1 Individual or Couple's Coaching

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Dawn Rishárd, M.A. Queen of Intimacy | Love, Relationship, & Intimacy Coach | Divorce Guide | Podcast Host - Wake Up to Real Love | I help women love again Conscious Love Coach. Self-Love/Sacred Relationships. Women's International Empowerment Speaker. www.dawnrishard.com https://www.facebook.com/theawakeningwithdawn/ [email protected]

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In The Best Interest Of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Stri (kindraspeaks.com)

If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or a custody battle, please reach out to us at:

[email protected]

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Share in a few minutes with Mick and Kindra as they reflect on how Leanne is not only helping women and men in a divorce, but she counsels them worldwide from Dubai, India, Pakistan, Australia and the Americas. In addition, we talk about how you can start to heal yourself after a divorce.

Most men but not exclusively so, are harmed by divorce.

Divorce and custody is an international and growing problem. 

There are cultural differences based on a nation's legal system and what part of the world people are from.

Children often come on their own to the alienated parent. 

The biggest way to heal is to do things for yourself and normal activities. 

Find a support group that understands your situation. 

Avoid artificial stimulants such as chemicals, drugs, and alcohol.

In an early part of relationships, trust your gut if you feel something is off or wrong. 

Seek professional help or counseling for assistance; even one session might be the answer. 

Give yourself a year to eighteen months before moving in or marrying again. 

Never couple for financial reasons that is not a good reason to move in with someone. 

Take longer before making a commitment to someone if children are involved. 

A professional can discern between narcissism, abuse, and the person should take responsibility for their situation. 

There are individual programs geared from men and women; bear in mind gender differences regarding trauma.

There are modules and individual programs for blended families, work for parent's, and children's issues. 

Parents must remain the boss to children and stepchildren. 

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In The Best Interest Of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Strife (kindraspeaks.com)

If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or a custody battle, please reach out to us at:

[email protected]

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Join Kindra and Mick as they dig deep into a conversation with Leanne Kanzler as they talk divorce disasters and how to heal.

Psychologist, Coach, TEDx Speaker, #1 Best Selling Author

Life has not always been as clear as it is now. In fact at the time my marriage of 17 years fell apart I really didn’t know what was in store for me. Today, 10 years since those days of anxiety, depression and fighting, my ex and I are both in a much better place.

Now, I regularly work with others who have been in the same situation. I get it, from a personal and professional perspective. I have years of training in working with people who have experienced trauma, relationship issues, including breakups, and much, much more.

In working on myself I realized where I went wrong, in my marriage, and other relationships after that. I learned how to speak my truth. I set clear boundaries for what I wanted in life and I didn’t compromise on that. And that is when everything started to work out for me, and I know it can for you too.

https://leannekanzler.com/

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In The Best Interest Of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Stri (kindraspeaks.com)

If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or a custody battle, please reach out to us at:

[email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

 Kindra Riber and Mick Smith talk divorce, custody and family trauma today on The Aftermath Podcast.

Answered audience questions:

Although divorced, people can change and improve their behavior.

As defined, Parental Alienation Syndrome ( PAS) entails an intentional process directed against the other parent. 

The medical community has been against defining PAS as a syndrome.

Some experts though are advocating PAS in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM).

Since the custody process is broken the alienated parent should document, with others, and use tangible evidence for change.

The targeted parent may be ordered more time by the Court.

The dysfunctional parent can manipulate the Court to alienate the other parent.

Four basic child behaviors to be aware of: first, mental health, depression, and anxiety; second, behavioral issues, impulsive, delinquent; third, academic, risk-taking behavior, use of chemicals, drugs, alcohol, and early sexual activity. 

As adults, if issues are unresolved, the same problems will crop back up.

The stable, disciplining parent may lose out early on but long-term the child often returns to the alienated parent. 

The alienated parent should communicate as able. Be reassuring and loving. 

The best way to re-engage is to be authentic, and share your perspective and emotions; you are a part of this process.

Seek an empathetic support network because people often do not understand what you are experiencing nor do they know how to help. 

Advocate local legislation to improve the custody process. Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles, and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In The Best Interest Of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Stri (kindraspeaks.com)

If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or a custody battle, please reach out to us at:

[email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Divorce, parental alienation, and family conflict are something you cannot do alone. Kindra and Mick join expert Dr. Finneran as she answers questions about parental alienation and divorce. Today-make the commitment to stop the journey of family trauma and relationship issues alone.

Kindra Riber and Mick Smith welcome Dr. Finneran back to the studio and talk more about the mental toll divorce and trauma take on us.

With a Ph.D. in Conflict Resolution/Dispute Analysis from Nova Southeastern University, Dr. Finneran is licensed to practice in Florida. Her research and experience focus on the topic of domestic abuse populations. She also emphasizes thought and mood disorders, as well as psychological and emotional issues in her clinical, and private practice. Dr. Finneran’s clinical practice is made up of a diverse population from pre-teens to adults. Many clients that Dr. Finneran treats are First Responders: law enforcement, police detectives, firefighters/EMT’s/paramedics, nurses, and medical personnel.

Driven by her mental health advocacy, Dr. Finneran now seeks to educate and inform others on her findings in regard to mental health, especially on the topic of domestic abuse by being open to nearly any and all speaking and educational events and opportunities for professionals alike.

Feel free to contact me for any questions or concerns as well as partnership opportunities and business inquiries.

Answered audience questions and addressed important questions:

How does divorce affect children and their parents? What are some things parents need to look for in regard to their children and their changes after a divorce? How do we make the process of divorce as smooth as possible?

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Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles, and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In The Best Interest Of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Stri (kindraspeaks.com)

If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or a custody battle, please reach out to us at:

[email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Childhood can be marred by divorce as JC's was; so what can be done?

1. An interesting quote was revealed: "messed up but now blessed up."

2. JC advises an integrated life, even if you have a good career, prioritize your family.

3. If needed, seek a mental health professional.

4. A professional can assist in discovering a key time, what JC described as a "snap" moment which was the basis of his trauma during his parent's divorce.

5. Look for a ladder out of difficulties realizing it is not your fault.

6. During JC's divorce your Ex can be your best friend even if divorce ensures.

7. Both parents should prioritize the children.

8. Work outside the Courts if possible.

9. Teach children to respect parents equally; clarify parental roles: caregiver & breadwinner.

10. Viktor Frankl, the Austrian psychiatrist, suggests checking your response and not reacting simply on the basis of your emotions.

11. A father should show a daughter how a man should be and how he should act.

12. If broken by life, break the cycle of trauma.

13. Be kind rather than right all the time.

14. Problems are God's way of pruning you.

15. Slay your dragons by embracing problems and working through them; make them your roommates. 

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In The Best Interest Of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Stri (kindraspeaks.com)

If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or a custody battle, please reach out to us at:

[email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

In this episode, we talk about conquering our mindset when facing a divorce or custody battle. Kindra and Mick dive deep into the power of changing our minds and controlling our negative thoughts when the stress of divorce or trauma is looming with Dr. JC Doornick.

Dr. JC Doornick “Dragon” comes from a fascinating life and family history full of pioneers in the entertainment industry and professional athletes. Later in life becoming a servant to the people as a Doctor of Chiropractic and Cofounder of a worldwide Humanitarian relief organization serving the third world with health, education, housing and food. Receiving awards such as the Humanitarian of the Year. What most would consider a privileged life, it came with a dark side connected with substance abuse, divorce and abandonment. AKA “The Dark Ages”.

Struggling with the realities of being a workaholic, not showing up for his kids and a failing marriage, he found himself in dire straits in need of a shift. With the help and guidance of some key mentors “Angels” and a voracious hunger for self discovery and personal growth, he experienced a physical, mental and financial breakthrough losing 80 lbs, reclaiming his health. Tapping into a Lifestyle Transformation and Coaching company he transformed his mind and started living his life around the things that mattered most. He and his soul mate and wife Mieke went on to build an international Virtual Health Transformation and Lifestyle Coaching company that serves the USA and parts of Asia which helped them create a 7 figure income from home and leave their 9-5 jobs to live their lives around the things that matter most.

Dragon frequently takes the stage and speaks to live audiences of upwards of 11,000. With their two sons and adopted daughter “Duckie” they travel the world creating memories and seeking adventure and experiences. This life transformation gave RISE TO THE DRAGON, a once considered mythical creature that the world spoke of yet can’t prove ever existed. The Dragon represents that version of yourself you don’t believe is possible and the RISE UP WITH DRAGON PODCAST is all about unlocking and freeing people from their programmed mental prisons and back on track dreaming big. We interview guests that have great stories of transformation and created products and services that serve humanity to greatness. You can look forward to bigger and better things including the world’s greatest story ever told in the release of his upcoming book. Name to be released soon.

Find out more about Dr. JC Doornick and how he makes sense of life's roller coaster:

www.riseupwithdragon.com

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles, and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In The Best Interest Of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Stri (kindraspeaks.com)

If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or a custody battle, please reach out to us at:

[email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Divorce is difficult. Custody battles are painful- and parental alienation is a systematic form of abuse. Listen to Kindra and Mick unpack the 10 biggest lessons they learned from their guest Michele Fineran.

10 Takeaways:

1. The definition of Parental Alienation Syndrome has changed and is recognized now.

2. Many children return to the alienated parent as they get older.

3. There are age-appropriate differences in healing children from custody and alienation: youngest children fear a loss of parent's love, grade-age kids blame failure on themselves, and teenagers are often angry. 

4. Co-parenting and cooperation is ideal for all children to experience.

5. Children tend to align with the disciplining parent.

6. Likewise, children favor identifying with same-sex parents, boys with fathers, and girls with mothers.

7. The Law might help to co-parent with a narcissistic parent. 

8. Single-parent households, particularly mothers with boys, often lack the ability to discipline effectively.

9. The "Ronald McDonald" parent is favored by children in the short term but over the long term, the disciplinarian is respected by kids.

10. Parents should set an example of positive role models for children to be healthy adults. 

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In The Best Interest Of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Stri (kindraspeaks.com)

If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or a custody battle, please reach out to us at:

[email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

Kindra Riber and Mick Smith are talking about everything that they learned with Dr. Marni from Episode #5.

What are the red flags you need to look for when you are entering or are in a poisonous relationship?

The Aftermath Experts have compiled the 5 main takeaways from Dr. Marni Foderaro:

1. Take the high road and parent only as you are able.

2. Write or creatively express your frustration, anger, or bewilderment.

3. The system and process are corrupt.

4. You are not alone.

5. Disengaging is an effective strategy.

Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In The Best Interest Of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Stri (kindraspeaks.com)

If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or a custody battle, please reach out to us at:

[email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.

In today's episode, we are talking with Dr. Marni Foderaro and we talk about narcissists, and our journeys to seek true love. Are you ignoring red flags in your relationship? Dr. Marni is an expert on domestic abuse and parental alienation- and is bringing her powerful story to The Aftermath.

Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro is an award-winning educator and celebrated author. She earned her doctorate in education and completed postdoctoral studies at Harvard after a very successful and rewarding 35-year career as a high school special education teacher, with 12 years as a university adjunct professor. 

Marni’s 2020 Best Books Award Winning Spiritual fiction “God Came to My Garage Sale” is prominently endorsed by the infamous James Redfield, best-selling author of “The Celestine Prophecy” series of books, among other celebrities and founders of IANDS (International Association for Near-Death Studies). 

Marni is a lover of animals, nature, music, and world travel who handles life’s challenges with love and compassion. She values honesty, integrity, equality, and goodness and prays for peace on earth. 

She was born in the South, raised her children in the Midwest, and lives in the Caribbean. In addition to her speaking engagements (including gracing the bLU Talks stage in 2021 at Columbia University in New York) and various writing endeavors on embracing Spirituality after surviving Domestic Violence, Narcissistic Abuse, and Parental Alienation, Foderaro is a contributing author to numerous anthology books, including: “The Last Breath,” “The Evolution of Echo,” “We’re All In This Together,” “The Ulti-MUTT Book for Dog Lovers” and “bLU Talks Presents” (Business, Life and the Universe.) 

Learn More About Marni here:

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Learn more about your hosts Mick Smith and Kindra Riber. They are waging the war on ending the pain of divorce, parental alienation, custody battles and the break-up of families. Their purpose is to give you the tools on how to heal in the aftermath of family trauma and drama.

Learn more about Mick Smith:

Get Mick's Book: Burning America: Amazon.com: Burning America: In The Best Interest Of The Children?: 9781956353259: Smith, G Mick: Books

Listen to his podcast: The Doctor of Digital™ GMick Smith, PhD | Podcasts on Audible | Audible.com

Learn More About Kindra Riber:

Meet Kindra | Speak Life Into Stri (kindraspeaks.com)

If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or a custody battle, please reach out to us at:

[email protected]

This has been a Mediacasters Production.