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Abundance in the Land of Women

Episode 16 – Beautiful Women are Secretly Lonely

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If you’re reading this, then like Zan and Jordan, you’re probably a seeker of the finest treasures in life–of freedom, truth, love, connection and grace. 

And if you’re reading this, then I imagine that sometimes, you feel secretly lonely.

This is reality for beautiful people. The qualities that you seek–that make you stand apart from all other men–these are the same qualities that make women truly beautiful…and therefore…secretly lonely, subtly outcast by other women en masse.  

Zan and Jordan share an exploration of this condition in today’s episode. In it, Jordan asks the question, “How does a man get to know a truly beautiful woman?” The answer is to free yourself of judgement and to express the plain truth of who you are, where you came from and where you’re going. 

The true beauties will self-select in along the way. 

Let us know what you think of today’s discussion in the comments section. Do you see how beautiful, inquisitive, generous and loving women, just like men, are secretly lonely (and yearning for men of the same quality to share their world with)? We hope this conversation inspires you to connect with some truly beautiful women.

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Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whe

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Episode 15 – How Quickly To Make Things Intimate With A Woman? 

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One astute viewer of the podcast recently commented on a difference he noticed in Zan and Jordan’s overall styles when it comes to engaging with women. 

The crux of Zan’s approach lies in honouring the immediate connection he feels with a woman and allowing it to flourish unrestrained. As he famously wrote in The Alabaster Girl, "In every single one of the long-term, loving relationships I have experienced, we were intimate on the very first night." For Zan, there’s not even a hint of hanging around in the ‘maybe zone'. 

Jordan finds equal richness in the gradual unfolding of connection. He sees each phase of getting to know a woman as containing its own particular magic and opportunity for growth.

Listen to today’s discussion and see which of these spirits resonates most with you. Is there wisdom in both?

Ultimately, what we’re talking about here is having life-giving brushes with beauty in their purest form–opportunities for your core existence as a man to be permanently transformed. 

It’s all described in much more detail inside. 

Share your thoughts and experiences of the like with women, in the comments. Has today's discussion sparked new questions about your own journey with women? We're listening and may address your insights in a future episode!

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Giddy-up!

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Episode 14 – Stop Being So Serious: how to let go and enjoy the dance with women

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“How do I stop being so serious and become genuinely more playful?”

I find it fascinating that it took 14 episodes of Abundance in the Land Of Women for this question to come up–but I’m not surprised. You see, while the man who asks himself what he’d like his life to look like and strives to create it is already a rare breed, it’s even rarer for a man to go about his lifetime adventure with a sense of gratitude, humour and ease through the highs and lows. 

No matter how much, or little playfulness you think you embody right now, the truth is that we all like fun. Women are no different. And, while contemplating your future, designing your life and being integral all make you an attractive man, accepting that life is short, laughing at your shortcomings and choosing to make good memories is sure to make you stand out, high and above, in her eyes.

How to bring out that sense of playfulness from within you is the subject of Zan and Jordan’s conversation today. 

Let us know what you think in the comments section. When you’re faced with a decision, do you know what motivates your choice? Our lives are the sum of the choices we make. Will you choose to enjoy yourself? 

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ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.

Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you.

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Episode 13 – Create Your Myth And Stand Apart With Women

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The realization of ‘the power of now’ and truly ‘being in the present moment’ are incredibly useful tools that a man can use to get much more out of life, and access an entirely hidden realm of the Land of Women. 

Indeed, ‘getting present’ is often an important–and necessary–milestone in one’s journey of personal growth. If you feel you’ve arrived at this place, I congratulate you...and…I ask you to consider how well presence alone is helping you be the kind of man who has the experiences with women he dreams of. 

As Zan and Jordan discuss today, while an ‘ultra-present’ man can certainly charm, seduce and create a real tasty conspiracy with a woman, there’s something about a man who chooses to see his life as a story, with a past he’s decided to love and a future he chooses–every day–to move towards that might make a woman actually want to stick around. 

Just how can you love your past when it was so riddled with pain, trauma and suffering? How can you move forward with purpose when the future is so inherently uncertain? Listen to the conversation as Zan and Jordan share how they embrace the power of myth. 

We’d love to hear from you: how has presence, and viewing your life in the context of a larger narrative, helped you relate to women? Do you prefer to live in the moment, allowing things to unfold between you and her? Do you spend time thinking about where you came from and where you’re headed? Share your thoughts in the comments section.

~Anthony

Ars Amorata Community Coordinator 

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Episode 12 – Your Mental State: Hidden Communication with Women
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The way in which your ‘state’ is affected by a woman you’re attracted to is the tell-tale sign, signifying your chances of having her be attracted back to you or not.

Men who have abundance simply don’t get anxious, nervous or feel ashamed when they come across a girl they’re attracted to. In fact, a woman’s presence is likely to put them onto an even more easeful, accepting and gracious wavelength.

There is a work-around, though: if you can accept your anxiety and nerves (even your shame), you can find an eye of ease through the midst of your internal storm.

“That sounds great”, you might say to yourself… “but how do I get there?” In today’s episode, Jordan and Zan break down a guide of what you can observe within yourself, a map of self-mastery that can help you feel deeper waves of confidence and connection.

And when you’re in that space with her, just what exactly is possible? ‘Spooky action from a distance!’

So what goes on in your mind when you encounter a woman? What possibilities does today’s conversation on the ‘hidden effects’ of what you feel, think and do when she isn’t around, inspire in you? Share with us your personal experiences with these themes. And enjoy the discussion!
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Episode 11 – How to Find Real, Masculine Power in How You Show Up with Women
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In today’s episode, Zan unpacks a powerful distinction between two energies of masculinity: the ‘upper energy’ we’re all used to—conversation, empathy, charm—and the ‘lower energy’ that creates a truly transformative connection.

Consider that your body carries ancient wisdom—a knowing of what to do far beyond what the slickest mind could conjure up—if only you’d let it do its thing. Women are mirrors: approach her stiff and tense, trying to make a good impression, and you’ll be met with equal stiffness and games.

But when you allow yourself to feel fully…the discomfort, the bliss, the rapture…and approach with an open, vulnerable humanity: magic happens. Have you ever had a good string of dates with a woman, only to find you can’t make it to the next step?

Today’s discussion is packed with practical examples of how this connection to lower moving energy manifests: in a gaze, a twinkle in the eye. Jordan demonstrates it beautifully in real time—a lesson worth watching over and over.

We want to hear your thoughts. After listening, share how you intend to get more connected to your deeper, more authentic self.
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Episode 10 – Mystique and Vulnerability
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Cultivating a quality of vulnerability is vital for men seeking fulfilling experiences with women.

“But surely I can’t look weak in her eyes”, some men will say–“she won’t want to be around me”. They posture. Others, seeking a deep, heart-to-heart connection, venture into heavy territory too quickly and women get overwhelmed.

Men often miss the mark.

So what does the kind of vulnerability that attracts actually look like? It’s light, it’s inspiring, it’s true, and Jordan and Zan break it down in today’s episode.

If you ‘speak your truth’ with women but find that you’re creating distance more than you are a sense of relatedness and comfort with her, then this conversation is a must-watch for you.

Let us know what you think about today’s discussion in the comments section.
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Episode 9 – Hunger as a Force of Attraction
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In the movie Scarface, Al Pacino’s character famously lays out a ‘blueprint for getting women’: first you get the money, then you get the power, and then you get the woman. It’s a paradigm that many men buy into. And to a degree, it’s true.

However, if you’re here, then you’re probably not interested in the kind of relationship that you need money or power to attain. You’re seeking abundance, yes, but of love, devotion and connection.

How do you create that? In today's episode, Jordan and Zan explain exactly how, while their conversations of late may not seem entirely relevant to the question of 'women' on the surface, contemplation, seeking out what has life for you, and moving towards it at all costs, are the qualities of being that women respond to.

Take pride and pleasure in your perceived lack of abundance, in your quest for more, and women will gravitate towards you.

Let us know what you think about this perspective by sharing your thoughts in the comments section. Zan and Jordan will be back with more next week.

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Episode 8 – Perspective and Choosing Curiosity
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Any true seeker—and if you're reading this, then you probably are one—will go through life in a series of phases. Jordan is currently embarking on a new chapter himself. In today’s episode, he shares how he actually lost sight of the original intentions for his big life change and found himself caught up in the weeds of planning and logistics.

Zan's response is nothing short of transformative. When we find ourselves struggling with a challenge, our ability to overcome it—and our lives as a whole—can be vastly improved by a simple change in perspective.

"The size of your questions is the size of your life," Zan famously says. His advice? Choose to view your life, and the experience of you, nervous, in front of that woman across the room, with eyes of curiosity and wonder.

Check out the discussion to see how this looks practically.

Also, be sure to share how today’s conversation informs your own questions about women and dating. The connection may not be obvious, but we encourage you to dig a little. Contemplate.
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Episode 7 – Virility, Vitality & Play over Depth
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Many men come to Ars Amorata to overcome a lingering feeling of deficiency in their life force. They want to meet women, but when they go out, they hit a wall. Or, they engage with a woman, but as things get physical, they somehow lose her.

In today’s episode, Zan gives us a rare look inside his mind when he’s out in the world. What makes his energy grow as the night wears on, rather than drain? The secret: his aliveness lies in the potentiality of what could happen with a woman, the potential sparked by the right kind of glance.

Also, Jordan and Zan dive into why well-meaning men who seek connection inadvertently push women away. What they think is ‘depth’ ends up feeling overbearing, makes her question her safety, and she distances herself. Zan reveals exactly how to create an atmosphere where she'll naturally want to play.

This conversation unpacks a critical question for many men on this journey: How can I enjoy a more easeful and enlivening experience with women?

As always, share your thoughts and questions in the comments. We’ll be back with another viewer-inspired episode next week!
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