Let me ask you something — how many times have you said yes when you meant no? Stayed silent when you should have spoken up? Set a boundary and caved on it within five minutes?🙋

Same, y'all. Same. And as a healing fearful avoidant, I am so done letting that be my story. This episode is a wake-up call — for my anxious preoccupieds, my fellow fearful avoidants, and honestly anyone who's ever abandoned themselves to keep the peace💜

As Dr. John Delony says — behavior is a language. When someone repeatedly disrespects your boundaries, they're telling you exactly how much they value you and the relationship. That's a lesson I wish I'd learned a whole lot sooner💜

"We do not set ourselves on fire in order to keep others warm." — Peaceful Barb

Attachment expert Bev Mitelman joins TAC to kick off our brand-new Summer Guest Series — and y'all, we're going there. We're talking about how hookup culture is absolutely wrecking our attachment healing. This one might ruffle some feathers, but it's a conversation that needs to happen. Don't miss it🙌

What happens when two avoidants fall in love? In this raw, eye-opening episode, we go inside the trenches of the most painful relationship dynamic — the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant — with real-life couple Tesha & Taylor.

This is not a highlight reel. This is the unfiltered truth about what it actually looks like to love someone when each of your biggest needs are your partner's ultimate triggers.

Tesha and Taylor sit down to share their story — the blissful beginning, the conflict that changed everything, the breakthroughs, and the moments they almost didn't make it. Together, they unpack how they each discovered their attachment styles, what their dynamic looked like at its hardest, and how they've learned to communicate, reconnect, and choose each other — even when every instinct says run.

In this episode, we cover:

Whether you're a Fearful Avoidant, a Dismissive Avoidant, in a relationship with one, or just trying to understand your own patterns — this episode is for you.

This conversation is honest, emotional, and deeply human. Grab your headphones and get ready to feel seen.

Doing the work together just got a little easier. 🤍 I created a FREE Attachment Conversation Guide for Couples — packed with questions to help you and your partner go deeper, heal together, and finally feel understood. Grab yours now! DM me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions and I'll get it sent your way!

💜Looking to heal your own FA/DA relationship? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's attachment healing programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout.

If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs it. You never know what people are going through – and attachment science genuinely changes lives. It changed Tesha & Taylor's.

xo - Chelsea

Y'all – this one is personal. The fearful avoidant / dismissive avoidant relationship dynamic is, without question, the most painful attachment combination out there. And as a healing FA who's been on both sides of it? I know this one all too well. 

In this episode, we're getting into exactly why the FA/DA pairing starts off feeling like fate — and why it almost always ends in flames.

What we cover in this episode:

The FA needs to feel seen, heard and understood. The DA needs peace and harmony above all else. When those two core needs collide – especially in conflict – it creates a cycle that's genuinely brutal to break out of. But it's not impossible. As long as both partners are willing to do the work.

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Listen to these episodes first:

Coming up next:

Our first-ever couple joins the pod! Tesha & Taylor are an FA/DA couple who've lived this dynamic firsthand — and are now on the road to healing. You will NOT want to miss this one. 🙌

If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs it. You never know what people are going through – and attachment science genuinely changes lives. It changed mine.

xo - Chelsea

Hello, Confessions Fam! Welcome back for episode 23!

He’s baaack! Everyone’s favorite Dismissive Avoidant (actually, recently discovered Fearful Avoidant who leans avoidant) – Brent Stokes – is joining the pod again to help answer YOUR questions!

You’ve inquired – and as your semi-fearless host, I’m here to give you my {not so} expert attachment advice, purely based on my past year of personal heartbreak, Phoenix-like rising, and next-level obsession of burrowing down the attachment science rabbit hole. 

When the people have relationship questions, we’re here to give you the best possible answers to your attachment woes. Been there, done that – got 3+ decades worth of insecure attachment T-shirts!

Today is going to hit hard, provide sound advice, and bring clarity on your most-asked attachment questions I’ve received over the past 7 months since TAC launched.

As ALWAYS, please ask any attachment-related questions or just chit chat with me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions

To have your question answered on future Q&A episodes, send an audio message with your name, location, and question to the “TAC hotline” to be featured.

Love you guys so much and thank you for your heartfelt questions!

xo - Chelsea & Brent

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What’s up, Confessions Fam! Welcome back to the pod for episode 22!

Today we are putting a bow on our current four-part series where we've been diving deep into each attachment style one by one.

The final feature? Our few-and-far-between Born Secures!

Have you ever looked at a couple and thought to yourself, “Man – that right there is straight-up relationship goals!” – It’s a refreshingly beautiful sight to see, isn’t it?? 

So today we’re getting an up-close and personal look at how in the world our lucky born secures turned out to be so darn healthy and stable.

Those that formed a secure attachment from the start unfortunately do not make up the majority of the attachment styles, but thanks to the amazement that is the human brain, those of us who weren’t blessed to be born secure still have a chance to reprogram our insecure patterns and work towards earning our own attachment security.

Whether you’re an Anxious Preoccupied, a Dismissive Avoidant, or a fellow {healing} Fearful Avoidant, today’s Born & Raised Secure Deep Dive will leave you inspired to do the inner work so that you, too, can experience healthy, secure love.

Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be motivated to embark on your own attachment healing journey. 

xo - Chelsea

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Hello everyone! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions for episode 21!

Today's episode is part three of our current four-part series where we're examining each attachment style even further.

This week's feature? The Fearful Avoidant.

**Alexa: Cue Katy Perry's 2008 hit "Hot N Cold"**

Sometimes referred to as Disorganized Attachment, the FA is the most complex of all the attachment styles. And not to brag, but – it’s also the attachment style of yours truly ; )

Have you ever wondered why you tend to be hot one minute, cold the next in your relationships? Ever been baffled by the on again, off again patterns of a former flame?

Well, buckle up – today’s Fearful Avoidant deep dive is about to finally make the relationship light bulbs illuminate like never before.

Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. 

xo - Chelsea

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Hello everybody! Welcome back to The Attachment Confessions for episode 20!

Today's episode is part two of our current four-part series where we're dissecting each attachment style even further.

This week's feature? The Dismissive Avoidant.

There's a reason why this insecure attachment style seems to get the most attention of them all. The DA is oddly enough the most predictable attachment style, yet oftentimes the most frustrating for anyone who's ever had their heart broken by a Dismissive Avoidant (same girl, same).

So sit back, relax, and get ready to have your mind blown with today's DA deep dive.

Here on The Attachment Confessions, you'll have a ring-side seat to my attachment healing adventure. My hope is by bringing attachment science to those of you who have never heard of it before and by sharing my own story, you'll also be inspired to embark on your own attachment healing journey. 

xo - Chelsea

Link from today's episode:

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The deep dive series is here — and we're kicking things off with the Anxious Preoccupied!💜

Whether you're an AP yourself, you've dated one, or you've been on the receiving end of anxious attachment — this episode is going to make so much click. We're going deeper on this style than we ever have before, and y'all, it's a good one.

This is part one of a multi-episode deep dive series covering every attachment style — so if this isn't your style, stay tuned. Your deep dive is coming 🙌

Understanding your attachment style isn't about labeling yourself — it's about finally making sense of why you feel what you feel and why you do what you do in relationships. And that kind of awareness? It changes everything.

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One of the most common questions I've gotten since starting this podcast is about love languages — and how they relate to attachment styles. So in the spirit of Valentine's Day, we're getting into it 💜

You've probably taken the love languages quiz. You know your results. But here's what most people don't know — your attachment style is actually what predicts your preferred love languages. They're connected, but they're not the same thing. And understanding the difference? Total game changer.

Whether you're deep in your attachment healing journey or just starting to connect the dots — this episode ties two of the most talked-about relationship frameworks together in a way that'll make everything click🙌

Knowing your love language is a great start. But knowing your attachment style is what helps you actually use it.

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Conflict. Just the word makes my body tense up. And if you're anything like me, yours probably does too. 😅

But here's the thing – it's not conflict itself that destroys relationships. It's how we handle it. And for those of us with insecure attachments? We were never really taught how to do it right. Episode 17 is all about changing that.💜

I'll be honest — achingly poor conflict management has been a major theme in all of my past relationships. On both sides. But the good news? Secure conflict resolution is a skill. It can be learned, practiced, and eventually become second nature — just like muscle memory. 💪

If secure relationships are the goal, we have to start showing up as secure individuals. And this episode is your roadmap for one of the biggest pieces of that puzzle.

Love Languages vs Attachment Styles!

xo - Chelsea

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