ONE YEAR, Y'ALL!!🎉

365 days ago, I sat down in front of a microphone, said "what's up guys" for the very first time, and had absolutely no idea if anyone would ever listen. And here we are — one year, 32 episodes, and 7,000 downloads later — and I am still completely floored that this podcast exists, and that you are here💜

To celebrate, I brought back one of TAC's all-time favorite guests — our very first lived experience guest and my favorite Dismissive Avoidant turned Fearful Avoidant (iykyk), Brent Stokes — to co-host the most fun episode we've ever done!🥂

We're playing "The Attachment Style Most Likely To..." — going through some of the most searched, most debated, and most relatable attachment behaviors, backing each one up with science, and sharing our own lived experiences along the way. Two healing FAs walk into a podcast studio... you're going to want to hear how this one goes😂

Each one is backed by attachment science — and we are not holding back on the personal confessions😅

Thank you from the absolute bottom of my heart for one year of showing up, listening, sharing, reviewing, and DMing me your attachment healing stories. This podcast exists because of you. Here's to year two — let's freaking go, y'all✨

See you in season 2, Confessions Fam!!😘

"I became a prisoner in a golden cage — and I wasn't even aware that I was helping to build it."💔

Those are Mia Hanks' words. And if they just stopped you cold — this episode is for you.

Mia J. Hanks spent nearly 30 years married to a covert narcissist. Not the loud, obvious kind — the kind that operates in the shadows. The kind that makes you question your own reality, your own worth, your own sanity — quietly, methodically, and for decades. And then one day, she got out. And then, she wrote about it.

Her Gold Literary Titan Award-winning memoir Bride-Made is a first-hand account of what day-to-day life with a narcissistic spouse actually looks like — and her follow-up memoir I've Made Plans: A Memoir of Rebuilding picks up exactly where that story ends. This conversation is one of the most powerful we've ever had on The Attachment Confessions💜

Mia's story is not just about survival. It's about what's possible on the other side. And her words — raw, honest, and hard-won — are going to reach someone today who desperately needs to hear them💜

"What I had failed to realize during our courtship was that it had all been glamour, smoke and mirrors. I had not been courted. I had been acquired." — Mia J. Hanks

Mia J. Hanks is a survivor of narcissistic abuse and the author of two memoirs — Bride-Made (Gold Literary Titan Award winner) and I've Made Plans: A Memoir of Rebuilding. She is committed to raising awareness about covert narcissism and supporting other survivors, reminding them that they are not alone — and that their story doesn't end with their escape.

What happens when the person who helps everyone else heal finally has to look in the mirror?💜

Caasi O'Day is a licensed clinical social worker and therapist, but not the kind you're probably picturing. She grew up as the "difficult" kid, the lost cause, the one clinicians whispered about in the hallways. At 15, she was shipped across the country to live with her godparents. Somewhere in the middle of all that rage and rebellion, she decided: These therapists have no idea what they're doing. So, I'm going to become one.

Twenty years later, Caasi is the therapist other therapists won't be – working with the clients everyone else has given up on, showing up fully human, and calling out the therapy industrial complex for failing the people who need it most.

And... she's a Fearful Avoidant. Who didn't fully see it until she did.

This conversation is one of the most raw, honest, and genuinely eye-opening episodes we've ever had on The Attachment Confessions. Because here's the thing: knowing all the theory doesn't make you immune to your own blind spots. Not even close👀

Caasi tells the truth in a way that makes you feel genuinely seen. This episode is proof that healing isn't about how much you know — it's about being brave enough to apply it to yourself🙌

Caasi specializes in the populations everyone else avoids — active drug users, sex workers, clients with chronic suicidal ideation, and those who've been rejected by provider after provider. She became a therapist because she survived what kills some people. And she helps others survive it too — not by being a distant, detached expert, but by showing up as someone who's been in the fire and knows the way out.

Connect with Caasi:

polarizedparts.com

This episode is for every single person who has ever looked back on a relationship and thought – "The signs were there... why didn't I see them?"😩

Justin Smith spent years in a marriage with someone he thought he knew completely. When the truth finally surfaced, it wasn't just painful – it was the kind of disorienting, trust-shattering experience that makes you question your own judgment entirely. So instead of staying in that place, he built something — Cray — a dating safety app designed to help people spot red flags, detect deception, and verify who they're actually dealing with before they put their heart on the line.

This episode is personal, practical and hits incredibly close to home for anyone healing from betrayal❤️‍🩹

Justin built the tool he wishes he'd had. And honestly? So do I.

"Informed trust is stronger trust. Knowing who someone really is before you give them your heart isn't paranoia — it's the smartest thing you can do for yourself." — Justin Smith

Justin Smith is the Founder & CEO of Cray — a dating safety app that helps people identify red flags, detect manipulation and deception, and verify who they're actually meeting before the first date. Cray has been featured in Yahoo Finance, Morningstar, Global Dating Insights, and The AI Journal.

Y'all – "communication issues" might be the most common complaint in relationships. But here's what most people don't realize: you can't fix your communication until you fix your emotional safety💜

This week I'm joined by Kameran Al-Areqi — Gottman Certified Marriage Coach, straight-shooter, and one of the most practically brilliant guests we've had on TAC. Kam is breaking down exactly why so many couples struggle to communicate, how attachment science sits at the root of all of it, and the concrete tools to finally create the emotional safety your relationship needs to thrive.

This one is practical, punchy, and packed with insights you can actually use – and Kameran doesn't hold back🙌

Also in this episode: I share exciting news about going back to school to obtain my Integrated Attachment Theory Certification through Thais Gibson's Personal Development School!! Stay tuned for more on that!

Kameran is a Gottman Certified Marriage Coach with a straight-shooting, no-nonsense approach to helping couples build the relationships they actually want. Her practical insights on emotional safety and communication are grounded in Gottman Method research — one of the most evidence-based frameworks in relationship science.

Check out Kameran here:

Instagram: @married.and.connected

YouTube: www.youtube.com/@marriedandconnected

Join Kam's Skool Community: https://www.skool.com/married-connected-4920/about

Buy Kam's book – Connected to Me: The Blueprint: https://a.co/d/0a3d2hPx

Kam's podcast: Married and Connected (find it anywhere you get your favorite podcasts)

Substack: https://substack.com/@marriedandconnected

Here's something nobody in the modern dating conversation wants to say out loud: Hookup culture isn't freedom. It's a trap. Especially for those of us with insecure attachments.

This week I'm joined by Bev Mitelman – Certified Relationship & Attachment Trauma Practitioner and founder of Securely Loved – for one of the most important conversations we've had on The Attachment Confessions. Bev brings 25+ years of clinical expertise AND her own lived experience with insecure attachment to unpack exactly why hookup culture and attachment healing are fundamentally at odds.

Y'all — a lot of us have told ourselves that keeping things casual is the safe option. That it protects us from getting hurt. That it's empowering. This episode is going to challenge that in the best possible way🙌

This convo is going to hit close to home for a lot of us. And that's exactly why we needed to have it💜

Bev is a Certified Relationship & Attachment Trauma Practitioner and Certified Menopause Specialist with 25+ years in personal growth. She helps people break toxic relationship cycles, rebuild self-worth, and communicate with confidence in love, parenting, and family life. As someone who grew up in an unpredictable, chaotic environment and absorbed deeply unhealthy relationship patterns as a result, Bev knows firsthand that you're not broken — you're following an old emotional blueprint that can be healed.

Let me ask you something — how many times have you said yes when you meant no? Stayed silent when you should have spoken up? Set a boundary and caved on it within five minutes?🙋

Same, y'all. Same. And as a healing fearful avoidant, I am so done letting that be my story. This episode is a wake-up call — for my anxious preoccupieds, my fellow fearful avoidants, and honestly anyone who's ever abandoned themselves to keep the peace💜

As Dr. John Delony says — behavior is a language. When someone repeatedly disrespects your boundaries, they're telling you exactly how much they value you and the relationship. That's a lesson I wish I'd learned a whole lot sooner💜

"We do not set ourselves on fire in order to keep others warm." — Peaceful Barb

Attachment expert Bev Mitelman joins TAC to kick off our brand-new Summer Guest Series — and y'all, we're going there. We're talking about how hookup culture is absolutely wrecking our attachment healing. This one might ruffle some feathers, but it's a conversation that needs to happen. Don't miss it🙌

What happens when two avoidants fall in love? In this raw, eye-opening episode, we go inside the trenches of the most painful relationship dynamic — the Fearful Avoidant and the Dismissive Avoidant — with real-life couple Tesha & Taylor.

This is not a highlight reel. This is the unfiltered truth about what it actually looks like to love someone when each of your biggest needs are your partner's ultimate triggers.

Tesha and Taylor sit down to share their story — the blissful beginning, the conflict that changed everything, the breakthroughs, and the moments they almost didn't make it. Together, they unpack how they each discovered their attachment styles, what their dynamic looked like at its hardest, and how they've learned to communicate, reconnect, and choose each other — even when every instinct says run.

In this episode, we cover:

Whether you're a Fearful Avoidant, a Dismissive Avoidant, in a relationship with one, or just trying to understand your own patterns — this episode is for you.

This conversation is honest, emotional, and deeply human. Grab your headphones and get ready to feel seen.

Doing the work together just got a little easier. 🤍 I created a FREE Attachment Conversation Guide for Couples — packed with questions to help you and your partner go deeper, heal together, and finally feel understood. Grab yours now! DM me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions and I'll get it sent your way!

💜Looking to heal your own FA/DA relationship? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's attachment healing programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout.

If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs it. You never know what people are going through – and attachment science genuinely changes lives. It changed Tesha & Taylor's.

xo - Chelsea

Y'all – this one is personal. The fearful avoidant / dismissive avoidant relationship dynamic is, without question, the most painful attachment combination out there. And as a healing FA who's been on both sides of it? I know this one all too well. 

In this episode, we're getting into exactly why the FA/DA pairing starts off feeling like fate — and why it almost always ends in flames.

What we cover in this episode:

The FA needs to feel seen, heard and understood. The DA needs peace and harmony above all else. When those two core needs collide – especially in conflict – it creates a cycle that's genuinely brutal to break out of. But it's not impossible. As long as both partners are willing to do the work.

💜Looking to heal your own FA/DA relationship? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's attachment healing programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout.

Listen to these episodes first:

Coming up next:

Our first-ever couple joins the pod! Tesha & Taylor are an FA/DA couple who've lived this dynamic firsthand — and are now on the road to healing. You will NOT want to miss this one. 🙌

If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs it. You never know what people are going through – and attachment science genuinely changes lives. It changed mine.

xo - Chelsea

Hello, Confessions Fam! Welcome back for episode 23!

He’s baaack! Everyone’s favorite Dismissive Avoidant (actually, recently discovered Fearful Avoidant who leans avoidant) – Brent Stokes – is joining the pod again to help answer YOUR questions!

You’ve inquired – and as your semi-fearless host, I’m here to give you my {not so} expert attachment advice, purely based on my past year of personal heartbreak, Phoenix-like rising, and next-level obsession of burrowing down the attachment science rabbit hole. 

When the people have relationship questions, we’re here to give you the best possible answers to your attachment woes. Been there, done that – got 3+ decades worth of insecure attachment T-shirts!

Today is going to hit hard, provide sound advice, and bring clarity on your most-asked attachment questions I’ve received over the past 7 months since TAC launched.

As ALWAYS, please ask any attachment-related questions or just chit chat with me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions

To have your question answered on future Q&A episodes, send an audio message with your name, location, and question to the “TAC hotline” to be featured.

Love you guys so much and thank you for your heartfelt questions!

xo - Chelsea & Brent

Links from today's episode:

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