In this episode, I’m sharing one of the most powerful tools that helped me break free from disordered eating and step into the woman I’ve always wanted to become: the alter ego.
I’ll take you behind the scenes of how I created my own alter ego during one of the lowest points in my healing journey—and how she gave me the strength, discipline, and self-compassion I couldn't access on my own.
We’ll dive into the psychology behind the alter ego effect, how this method can rewire limiting beliefs, and how you can create your own version to finally shift habits that are keeping you stuck.
Whether you're struggling with self-image, confidence, or a cycle you can’t seem to break, this episode will show you how to activate a new identity—one that’s aligned with your highest self.
Let’s rewire who you think you are… and become who you’re meant to be.
🕒 Episode Breakdown:
00:00 – Intro
00:57 – What is the Alter Ego Effect?
A breakdown of the psychology behind the alter ego method and how it works in rewiring your habits, identity, and belief systems. (Inspired by Todd Herman’s work.)
02:51 – The Science Behind It
How embodying a new identity impacts your brain, behavior, and decision-making—backed by neuroscience and cognitive behavioral principles.
04:35 – How I Used My Alter Ego to Heal
My personal story of struggling with disordered eating, self-sabotage, and low self-worth—and how stepping into a more empowered identity helped me finally break the cycle.
15:48 – Creating Your Own Alter Ego
Step-by-step tips on how you can create an alter ego to overcome limiting beliefs, change toxic patterns, and start showing up as the version of you that feels aligned, confident, and free.
21:00 – Final Words
A reminder that your healing and growth are closer than you think—the next version of you already exists. You just have to meet her.
Promts to Help You Create your Alter Ego:
Mindset & Identity
- What is your alter ego’s name or identity?
- What beliefs does this version of you hold about food, self-worth, and boundaries?
- How does this version of you talk to herself?
- What is her relationship to discomfort or urges?
- What affirmations or truths does she repeat to stay grounded?
Habits & Healing
- What does her daily routine look like (morning, food, movement, rest)?
- How does she nourish herself — physically, emotionally, spiritually?
- What coping mechanisms does she use instead of destructive habits?
- What habits has she let go of, and how did she replace them?
- How does she handle “slip-ups” or setbacks? What’s her recovery narrative?
Boundaries & Confidence
- How does she say “no” when something doesn’t align with her healing?
- How does she speak up when someone crosses a line?
- What kind of relationships does she attract and maintain?
- What does confidence look and feel like in her body, her voice, her posture?
- What does she wear, how does she move through a room, how does she present herself?
Vision & Future
- What kind of life has she created for herself? Describe it in full detail.
- What goals is she actively working toward—and why do they matter?
- What are her non-negotiables—what will she never settle for again?
- Who inspires her? Who does she inspire?
- If your current self could ask her for advice, what would she say?
