The Best You've Ever Had

I am thrilled to welcome relationship and human behavior expert Alison Armstrong on the podcast this week. There are so many golden nuggets from the very first minute, it's like a 90 minute masterclass on communicating, human behavior and relationships with men!

Alison's exploration of human behavior began in 1991, with her decision to study men: "To find out how I was bringing out the worst in them. And hopefully, how to bring out the best." Her success in understanding men naturally led to studying women's behavior and making vital connections between the two. In this episode we're talking about everything from the things that (most masculine) men tend to look for when making a decision about marriage (and love isn't one of them), including the main reason a man would choose not to marry someone (it's definitely not what you think) to nervous system responses and our caveman-like instincts and urges.

If you're looking to learn more about male and female instincts, tendencies and dynamics in relationships and ways that you might be causing yourself trouble (without even realizing it) when relating to other people, then you're going to want to listen to this one!

WHAT ELSE WE'RE TALKING ABOUT:

✹ "Why are men wonderful in the beginning?" - the million dollar question that changed Alison's mindset and the direction of her work

✹ Harboring hatred, disdain and believing men are stupid - why do we do this!?

✹ Expecting men to be some version of a woman; to think the same and behave the same. Then when they don't do "what a woman would have done", they are stupid, immature, emotionally unavailable etc

✹ One of the most subtle and nuanced differences between how men and women communicate: how men often mean what they say, literally, and women often don't

✹ How to know how a man truly feels about something (hint: there is a specific of number of seconds you will want to wait until you get a true answer!!)

✹ What Alison learned about men by asking them the question, "what is your favorite thing about women?"

✹ How most masculine men believe they make their biggest mistakes when they act on their feelings (and why this is important for women who want to marry a man)

✹ What happens when we're not consistently voicing what we actually want and owning our needs and desires

✹ How men see competition in relationships (and it's not what you think)

✹ Emasculating the men in your life, what does that even really mean?

✹ The ways we unconsciously project our own preferences and motivations onto another person and how that often prevents resolution to conflict (this may be why you have the same fights all the time and feel like the other person isn't listening)

Connect with Alison:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thealisonarmstrong

Website: https://www.alisonarmstrong.com

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Hi everyone!

I'm so excited to have my amazing boyfriend back on the show for this episode.

We recently got back to Bali after a 3-month trip in the US where he came to see where I'm from and meet my family for the first time (!!) after a period of being apart. We're sitting down to talk about everything from what we did while long-distance to keep the connection alive between us, Matt's experience in the US for the first time and meeting ALL of my family (jet lag included), living together for the first time in conditions neither we or our relationship have been used to, what we fight about, and all the way down to discovering each other's annoying habits.

We're even breaking down our most recent conflict and what we would do differently if we were to live that experience again.

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WHAT ELSE WE'RE TALKING ABOUT:

✹ Sleeping in separate bedrooms and what that means for each of us.

✹ Conflict and exactly how we define fighting in our relationship (and what we do whenever emotional conversations need to happen).

✹ Communicating what you want AND letting go of those expectations in relationships in order to get more of your needs met more often and avoid unnecessary fights.

✹ Build up of resentment and what happens when you don't simply communicate your desires.

✹ The difference between masculine and feminine in the way that the feminine typically wants more intimacy and the masculine typically wants more space - and that this is actually such a good thing, and the key to polarity… and all of that fire!

✹ Our relationship check ins: what are they, and why do we do them (this is something many people have asked us about - workshop incoming!)

✹ The physical side effects of not speaking your truth.

Dating for Love information: https://www.kelleymbode.com/dating-for-love

Connect with Matt:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matt_cama/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mattcama23

Website: https://www.mattcama.com/

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Megan is a master-certified intimacy and desire expert. She's helped hundreds of people around the world experience more love, better sex, and clearer desires through her retreats, group programs, and private coaching. Previously, she was a senior leadership consultant to Fortune 100 companies. Now, she lives in Bali with her husband, two puppies and their baby girl. In this episode we're talking about initiating sex and what to do when you hear a "no". We talk deep into the beautiful story of how Megan met her now husband, James, and how they manage the feminine / masculine dynamics of their relationship, keeping the fire alive between them while parenting and running a business together.

WHAT ELSE WE'RE TALKING ABOUT:

✹ Initiating sex with your words versus initiaing sex with your body (and what to do when you hear a "no")

✹ Non-verbal connection with your partner and letting them feel you (and how hot this can be)

✹ Feeling the sensation of your own turn-on and embodying that desire so that you are more open to intimacy and sex more often

✹ Accepting all of those unhelpful stories: "am I good enough?", "do I look supid?", "is he going to reject me?" as perfectly normal and human and moving past them with grace for yourself

✹ Focusing on YOU and your own enjoyment in the build up to intimacy

✹ Sharing your internal experiences with your partner and using that as another beautiful opportunity to connect

✹ The subtle nuances of feminine communication and what that means in leadership / as a leader (contrary to what we are always told about having a core feminine energy and being a leader)

✹ The dance between the feminine expressing her desire and the masculine responding to that desire with a solution or a plan

✹ We don't have to speak in a feminine way all the time, this is NOT the 1950s (and that's not what this work is about). This is simply about leaning into the energy that feels more natural to you while allowing yourself to also experience the full expression of both the masculine and feminine energies within you.

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Have you ever thought that that love you wanted wasn't possible for you?

That's what my guest today, Bethany Dixon, thought just 3 months ago when she first joined my program called Dating for Love. Fast forward to now and she's in a loving, committed relationship where they're both in it for the long game.

Bethany came to me in a place of fearing relationships, fearing men and being completely guarded - feeling like in all of her relationships she needed to be the strong one, and always needed to protect herself. She felt like if she admitted to herself that she really wanted to be in a safe, mutually loving relationship - then there was a risk she wouldn't get what she wanted and that would hurt more.

While working together Bethany met her now partner, and in this episode we talk about how she met him through a dating app, the work we did together in order for her to get to this point - and how this is the first time in almost ten years that she's been in a beautiful relationship that feels safe and nourishing for her.

WHAT ELSE WE'RE TALKING ABOUT:

• The patriarchy, society and our ideas about what it means to be a feminine woman that wants to find love and our fear of being "too much"
• Why it's often hard to talk to our friends about or decision to start loving men and the masculine
• The power of sisterhood and sharing your experience with other women
• The choices we make as modern women based on what we think we should do simply because of how we've been taught to hate all men, especially when we're carrying past trauma
• How she met her current partner during our time working together, after healing a lot of the unhelpful stories she had been living in and using some of the feminine / masculine dynamics I teach inside Dating For Love
• Bethany's dating process and how it was implementing this new way of slow dating for her with her new partner
• Expressing interest when dating and using dating apps: what's OK and what's not OK?
• Ways to invite him to lead when dating (instead of just passively hoping for the best - and why this just doesn't work)
• Expressing appreciation for the special people in our lives in a feminine way that makes both people feel seen, heard, excited, received, happy and loved
• Why being feminine doesn't necessarily mean passive or never leading at all

P.S. The next round of Dating for Love is enrolling now! Click the link below for more information:

https://www.kelleymbode.com/dating-for-love

Connect with Bethany:

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Email: [email protected]

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Hi BYEH fam!

I'm so excited to bring you a solo podcast episode with me this week!

Today, I'm sharing about my past & how I used to be before doing the growth work that I teach now. I truly used to be terrified to share anything vulnerable & was a complete chameleon to whatever situation I was in. I never felt like the people I dated knew who I was because I never told them… Until I hit my own rock bottom & chose a different path.

Enjoy the episode!

Xo, Kelley

Come to the Art of Feminine Dating: https://www.kelleymbode.com/aofm

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Did you know that it's possible to free yourself (forever) from painful periods, fertility concerns, and PMS symptoms?!

Well, you definitely can and in this episode with Aubrey Summer - we're going to dive into how.

Aubrey Summer is a movement & breathwork facilitator, yoga teacher, hormone & cycle coach, pro-juicer, and fasting queen.

She's sharing with us how to ease menstrual symptoms and, actually, stop bleeding all together - and how that's actually healthy for the feminine body. We talk about embodying our feminine and the journey to sovereignty - around our cycles and in our lives.

I can't wait for you to listen!

Xo, Kelley

Come to the Art of Feminine Dating Masterclass: https://www.kelleymbode.com/aofm

Connect with Aubrey:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eclecticalkalarian/

Website: https://linktr.ee/preventativecarecollective

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Have you been more concerned about how it LOOKS than how it FEELS?

Your body, business, relationships, life?

This episode with Jasmine Lipska is made for you, then!

We're throwing away the old paradigm of concerns about what others think, achieving endlessly, and trying to be perfect.

We're embracing what feels GOOD! We're embracing the feminine flow. We're embracing things getting better and better!

Are you with us?!

Connect with Jasmine:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jasminelipska/

Website: https://jasminelipska.com/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Do the stars we were born under really affect the people that we are?

Luna Veronica is coming on the show this week to talk all about this & so much more.

Luna is an astrologer, mystic, and a friend of mine who's currently living in Bali. She teaches other witchy women how to own their gifts

& loves to read birth charts to help people understand themselves more deeply.

On this week's episode, we talk about:

• Why Astrology isn't scientifically accurate & it doesn't need to be
• The bigger questions of fate, destiny, & free will
• Matt's & my birth charts and why we're compatible according to the stars
• How she got into astrology and how it's guided her to having the magical life that she lives now

I can't wait to hear how you like this episode!

Xo, Kelley

Connect with Luna:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luna.veronica.mystic

Book a Birth Chart Reading with Luna: https://lunaveronicamysticcalendar.as.me/birthchartreading

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

Do I have any edgy one for you all today!

I'm actually super excited to share this life changing practice with you guys - it's called Urine Therapy and I'm bringing in an expert piss drinker, Nick Caputo, to tell you more about it.

Listen before you judge! And forget getting any information about this on Google.

Below are a couple resources that I mention throughout the podcast:

The Book I Read: Water of Life by J.W. Armstrong

The Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eclkz586P1c

*Read the comments below it!

Connect with Nick:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/grubfromthegarden

Breathwork Bootcamp Course: https://grubfromthegarden.org/breathworkbootcamp/

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

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How do you relate to yourself when you're feeling down?

Vicky Aldana and I dive into a conversation on this week's podcast episode about embracing and finding the gifts in the down - there are truly so many gifts!

Enjoy this weeks episode & I hope with you leave with more love for your downs.

Connect with Vicky:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vickylizette/

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