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Hi beautiful people!

Today’s episode is a bittersweet one, I’m announcing that I’m putting the podcast on hold. I’m not sure if it’s for now or if it’s forever but I know that it feels right to stop recording episodes for the time being.

I’ve loved having the podcast for the last couple years & I’m so grateful to all of you angels who listen weekly. I’ve loved hearing from you and even meeting some of you in person.

I’m turning my attention now to my membership called Womanhood. So if you still want to hear from me weekly on a more intimate level, I’m inviting you to join us over there! It’s a beautiful space to share, to connect, and to grow surrounded by women on a similar journey as you.

I’m so excited for this space. For more information, click the link below: 

https://www.kelleymbode.com/womanhood

Sending you all SO much love & I hope to see you inside the membership.

Xo,

Kelley

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Hey babes!

On this week's episode, we have another podcast coaching session! This time we are diving into some somatic healing and moving old stories and protective mechanisms that are stopping Claire from experiencing the love she wants.

This episode is a great listen for single women or for any woman who finds herself continually frustrated with men and shutting down around them.

Can’t wait to hear what you get out of listening to this one!

Sending lots of love,

Kelley

Today’s episode is all about Bali! Living here, traveling here, why I’m here & more!

I’ve gotten a lot of messages from you guys on social media asking about Bali so I decided to dedicate a podcast to it! Before I lived here, I met an American guy who lived here full time and I was PERPLEXED! So I really get that there can be a lot of questions about it.

Now that I’ve lived here for 3 years, it feels so normal! I love living in Bali & it comes with its downsides as well - like any place! 

I’m excited to hear what you get out of listening to this episode!

Xo, Kelley

P.S. If you want to be coached by me and ask questions about relationships & dating live: I have a Q+A session coming up next week!

Click the link below to check out all the details and sign up to join us:

https://www.kelleymbode.com/offers/sfzX3Qru/checkout

In a new series of coaching sessions, Kelley sits down with her first guest, Olivia, to discuss situationships, compromise, the process of connecting to your feminine energy and sticking with your truth. Olivia’s vulnerability in this episode is sure to help anyone in a similar situation who may be struggling to find a balance between compromising with a potential partner or staying true to yourself and following your desires. Join Kelley and Olivia in a raw discussion where they dissect Olivia’s feminine and masculine traits and where these may be causing a disconnect and gain clarity and new perspectives about herself and her relationship.

More from this episode:

• Letting go of the super independent, self-sufficient role and embracing your feminine where you let your partner lead instead
• How to deal with confusing emotions like being totally uninterested in dating to becoming completely infatuated with someone
• How we should always strive to find happiness and joy within ourselves and not through our partners or other external sources
• How to navigate the common trap of looking for your partner to be in his masculine so you can then be in your feminine
• Practicing feeling your feelings through journaling, meditation, being present and more
• How being willing to get in touch with your desire and hold that vision is an important part of being in your feminine

Connect with Kelley:

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Nobody’s sexuality looks the same so why are we so afraid to talk about it? Sex and self-pleasure are those topics that everyone’s so curious about but no one wants to be the first to put themselves out there in case their experience isn’t like everyone else’s. But that’s just the thing, you define what your pleasure looks like, so you can never be wrong!

Today’s episode is honoring self-pleasure with Carli Jo Cabrera, a speaker, author and Self-Pleasure guide. Kelley and Carli leave no stone unturned in their discussion about how not talking about sex and self-pleasure can make addressing the hiccups in our sex lives that much more difficult. Carli also breaks down one of her self-pleasure sessions and shares how giving yourself permission in sex translates into permission everywhere.

More from today’s episode:

• How Carli dealt with meeting the perfect person but having a sex life that just felt “off”
• The essential differences between masturbation and self-pleasure
• The importance of communication especially in those moments when we don’t feel 100% in the mood to have sex
• Sisterhood is so important! Having that one conversation with a friend about our sex lives can literally change our lives and perspectives on sex and pleasure
• How permission is at the root of a healthy, turned on relationship with our partners and ourselves

Connect with Carli:

The Pleasure Portal: Free Community - carlijo.mn.co

The Membership, 1 month free - https://carlijo.mn.co/plans/265293?bundle_token=98c7ee45f6089fa0197a03868cf53c48&utm_source=manual

Connect with me:

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You’re in for a treat today! I have an incredibly real and in-depth conversation with my guest Sam Orman where we dive deeper than ever into conversations about wanting acceptance from our parents, exploring the dynamics of feminine and masculine energy in gay relationships, and all the details from my shaved head butch lesbian days! Our conversation is a full and beautiful one where we exchange stories about coming out where Sam had to navigate a strong religious upbringing where purity was at the forefront of everything, and where I was still trying to find myself and battling external validation. Sam opens up about giving up his need for acceptance from his mom and finding something even more real underneath, all of our needs to be accepted by ourselves and to simply be happy.

What else we talk about:

• How we can either choose to have a relationship with someone or we can be right
• How Sam’s Unification Church upbringing encouraged him not to demonize others for their views even if they directly contradict his being 
• How the path to acceptance is an attempt to change each other when we really should be striving to find what’s underneath that need for acceptance
• The power of giving up the need to be right (you’ll be surprised how much your relationships can shift after doing this!)
• Reminding ourselves that our power doesn’t live inside of someone else’s worthiness!
• Finding my natural state in femininity and my personal journey with my sexuality
• How Sam practices being led by desire on dates and candidly asks for what he wants (e.g. sitting in silence with someone) 
• How fluidity in relationships can teach us so much about love and ourselves

Connect with Sam:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__samwise/

Connect with me:

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After some long, deep and meaningful discussions, Matt and I have decided to commit to a new level of growth in our relationship by talking about getting engaged, getting married and having children. This week I wanted to bring Matt on the podcast to discuss the next phase in our relationship with all the bumps and triggers along the way. Of course we get into the fun, juicy details like the process of buying my engagement ring together and how our cats have literally changed our lives and but we also dive deep into how both of our perceptions of marriage and having kids have wildly changed since being together and the pressures of planning a wedding.

What else we talk about:

• How I never thought I’d be the maternal mothering type but now I seem to be thinking about nothing else other than caring for my future children
• Matt’s previous views on marriage and how he’s come to really admire the commitment aspect of getting married
• How men are extremely aware of when they aren’t able to support their partners or families and how this can lead to a lot of shame
• Avoiding a potentially very expensive mistake by agreeing that I pick out the ring!
• Juggling running a business and providing for a family simultaneously and our expectations for managing this together
• Sharing the things we’re most excited about in starting this new chapter of our lives together

My 2-week program Open to Love: https://www.kelleymbode.com/open-to-love

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Hiii everyone! It’s a new year and I am so excited to be back on the podcast, I missed you all so much. I thought it would be great to start off the new year with a Q+A about relationships, feminine energy, personal responsibility and all the juiciness in between. Your questions are so potent we tackle a lot in this one including how human connection is so intricate and necessary to our existence but how it’s still important to make sure you can be happy on your own; creating new relationships with men if you’re struggling with a past trauma wound (even letting the guy at the grocery store carry your bags is a start!) and asking men for what you need in a way that makes them actually hear you. And so so much more.

What else I talk about:

• My experiences ring shopping with Matt!
• How to help a man with his masculine energy (clue: there’s no actual “helping” involved)
• How I created a healthy relationship with men after making some huge realizations about the men from my past including my dad
• My reasons why I don't believe in “low-quality men” or casual relationships 
• My physical health and long hair journey (all natural, all the time)
• How terrifying it can be to walk away from something that doesn’t align with you or give you joy anymore but how incredibly amazing it feels after confronting that
• Asking for what you want in a feminine vs masculine way and the outcomes of both
• Seeking out quality relationships with men and the attributes I appreciate in a man

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We all know that money is one of the most common reasons for conflict in relationships, but how can we get a handle on it from the first date? 

Today I’m diving into the male perspective so us ladies can get some REAL clarity on the age-old question, who should pay for the date? I’m joined by my guest Nathan Lang, a fitness trainer and coach who lays it all out on the table, feelings and all. Nathan describes his dating experiences and how he manages expectations when it comes to paying for his dates. We discuss how this small question can actually have huge impacts on the future of our relationships that can either lead to a better ability to have those harder conversations and more intimacy or a build-up of resentment and conflict.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

• How men should also get to receive the gratification and enjoyment of letting the other person pay for a date
• How to navigate the often awkward moment of when the check hits the table!
• That the decisions you make in that moment of offering or not offering to pay can give you insight into how the rest of the relationship will play out and all of its dynamics
• How constantly fighting to hear our own perspectives can disrupt the flow of a connection 
• Some insider knowledge on how men actually feel when women pay for the date
• Do the dance! Offering then accepting makes men want to do it even more and show up for you as a man
• The damage the “Independent Woman” stereotype can often cause early on in dating and relationships
• How being willing to lean into the discomfort can lead to satisfying rewards like being truly seen, attracting the right person and a much deeper relationship

Connect with Nathan:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebalibootyguy/

The Wanderlust Gym: http://wanderlustfitnessvillage.com/

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Elaina’s on the podcast!! I absolutely loved speaking with Elaina today about her insanely successful business, how she managed to draw in the perfect man and a whole lot about business strategy, visualizing your desires and reaching for the very top. This one is definitely for my business ladies looking for love out there!

Elaina Ray is a dear friend of mine, a multiple-figure strategy mentor and business coach who is absolutely killing it in the game right now. In under just 5 years, Elaina has managed to grow her business to 7 figures and is not planning on stopping any time soon. Before the major success though, Elaina opens up to me and shares her difficult situation with money growing up, which hugely impacted her relationship with money. She also tells me how she was single for 9 years before taking on a major shift in doing deeper work on her self-worth, changing her beliefs around her self-image and realizing her orgasmic potential which eventually led her to her wonderfully turned-on relationship with her partner today who, in her words, checks every single box. Our chat is filled with lessons on self-worth and believing that you can reach the very top by telling yourself the story that you can and WILL get there, whether it’s money or love.

WHAT ELSE WE’RE TALKING ABOUT:

• How easy it can be to fall into the trap of otherizing when we can flip the script instead of sticking by the sidelines and saying we’ll never get there
• How Elaina grew her business by making decisions faster and trusting her destiny quicker
• How your core energy vibration will let others know how much they should rise to your standards
• Telling yourself the story you want to hear that aligns with your desires instead of your fears
• How much money is tied to our worthiness and not allowing it to rule our lives forever
• How Elaina visualized and wrote down all aspects of the type of partner she wanted and is enjoying that very man today!
• Trusting in your destiny and acting in spite of your circumstances
• How powerful women’s desire is and how we can use that to inspire men to step up and lead the mission from within

Connect with Elaina:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyelainaray/

Website: https://elainaray.com/

Elaina’s book ‘Becoming Self-Made’: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1989716717

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