Featuring Esmerlin “Esmy V” Valdez

As we step into Women’s History Month, this episode of Business of Pleasure is a celebration of feminine power, presence, and unapologetic authenticity.

Esmerlin “Esmy V” Valdez joins me for a deeply layered conversation about what it means to be a woman who takes up space boldly. With her bright personality, magnetic energy, and evolving sense of self, Esmy opens up about her journey from performing for expectations to finally living life on her own terms.

In our Power in Your Presence segment, we explore her origins, her transformation through depression and anxiety, and what it looks like to fully embrace authenticity. We speak honestly about body positivity, identity, and how confidence is often born from surviving what tried to shrink you.

During Adult Edutainment, we unpack sexual transmutation — the understanding that sexual energy is not just about physical pleasure, but creative force, healing energy, and leadership presence. We discuss how women can tap into their sensuality, softness, and power to elevate their careers, relationships, and personal growth. We also touch on pleasure as self-care, the hormonal impact of sexual release, and why tending to this part of ourselves affects everything.

In Money Making Monday, Esmy shares how she has built her voice in the pleasure and wellness space while expanding into nonprofit work rooted in purpose and community impact. This conversation moves from sensuality to sovereignty, from personal power to public service.

This episode is about choosing yourself. Owning your energy. And understanding that when a woman aligns with her truth, her presence speaks before she does.

Products Featured: Seduce Me Perfume, Make Me Over Massager, Petal Pleaser, Seeing Stars

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Esmerlin “Esmy V” Valdez

IG: @esmy_v

Kasha Vannessa Johnson

IG: @yoursexologistbestie

IG: @businessofpleasurepod

As we close out Black History Month, we shine a necessary spotlight on a living legend whose name deserves to be spoken with the same weight as the breakthroughs he helped create.

Dr. Arthur Burnett is a world-renowned urologist whose groundbreaking research around nitric oxide pathways helped lay the scientific foundation for medications like Viagra and Cialis. His work changed the landscape of men’s sexual health globally. Yet when these conversations happen, his name is often left out.

This episode corrects that.

Dr. Burnett is not just a contributor to modern erectile health medicine. He is a pioneer. A mentor. A practicing physician. A scholar. And a Black man who helped transform how the world understands manhood, performance, and intimacy.

In The Manhood RX, we talk about:

• The history behind erectile dysfunction treatment and what existed before it

• The science of nitric oxide and why it matters

• The difference between sexual arousal and physiological function

• Morning erections and what they actually indicate about a man’s cardiovascular health

• How erectile issues can signal larger concerns like blood pressure, diabetes, and heart disease

• Performance anxiety and the mental components of sexual function

• The stigma men carry in silence

• Why advocating for your sexual health is not weakness, but wisdom

Dr. Burnett speaks candidly about the pressure men face, the silence that damages relationships, and the importance of early intervention. We discuss how erectile health is not just about pleasure, it’s about longevity, cardiovascular wellness, and overall quality of life.

This conversation is about dignity. About restoring confidence. About understanding that intimacy and health are deeply connected.

Dr. Burnett’s work has saved marriages. It has preserved intimacy. It has given men options during seasons of health challenges. And during Black History Month, we honor a physician whose research quietly reshaped modern medicine.

Follow Dr. Burnett:

Instagram: @dr.arthurburnett

Website: drarthurburnett.com

Featured Product Recommendations:

• R&B Constriction Ring

• Embrace Constriction Ring

• All-New Backstage Pass

Because taking care of your manhood isn’t vanity.

It’s health.

It’s partnership.

It’s legacy.

Part 2 is where Ladies’ Night officially turns into a pleasure party. What starts as a Galentine’s-style hangout with Tai, Yo-Yo, and MJ naturally flows into playful, honest conversations about pleasure, curiosity, confidence, and connection… exactly how it happens when women feel safe to be themselves.

We move from bathroom to bedroom energy, breaking down foreplay, self-love, partner play, and intentional pleasure without pressure or performance. Just laughter, learning, and “okay wait… let me try that” moments.

✨ Featured in this episode:

• Velvet Organic Sugar Scrub (Giving Tree Collection)

• Moisturizing Body Oil Spray & Nourish Whipped Body Butter – Island Escape

• Light My Fire Edible Massage Oil Candles

• The Sweet Spot Honey-Flavored Arousal Gel

• Seduce Me Pheromone Body Mists & Perfume

• Dark Desires Eye Mask

• Game Night Gift Set, Role Play Dice & Strike A Pose Cards

• Enthrall Me, Ignite Me & Sweet On Me Arousal Balms

✨ Toy highlights:

Your Highness, Petal Pleaser, Allure, Seeing Stars, Hip Hop, Make Me Over

Surprise gifts, real reactions, and unfiltered fun… because when girls get together, girls just want to have fun 💋

🎙 Featuring

@lyrics_2a_birdsong (MJ)

@queenbaptiste (Yo-Yo)

@i_am_tai_undeniably (Tai)

Tap into Part 2 of Ladies’ Night and if this episode inspired you…

👉🏽 Book your own Galentine’s or Pleasure Party with a Bedroom Kandi consultant.

This episode was meant to be a conversation… but just like a real girls’ night, it turned into laughter, honesty, vulnerability, and deep connection.

In this Galentine’s Day special, @YourSexologistBestie sat down with Yo-Yo, MJ, and Tai for an intimate, no-pressure, all-love conversation about womanhood, identity, self-expression, pleasure, and what it looks like to truly know yourself. What started as intentional questions quickly flowed into storytelling, reflection, and playful curiosity—because when women feel safe, the conversation always finds its own rhythm.

We laughed, we played Never Have I Ever, we talked openly about our relationships with our bodies and our desires, and we explored how pleasure shows up differently for every woman. Empowering, hilarious, affirming—and exactly what a ladies’ night should feel like.

✨ Products Featured in This Episode - From self-care to sensual play, we explored:

• Velvet Organic Sugar Scrub (Giving Tree Collection)

• Moisturizing Body Oil Spray – Island Escape

• Nourish Whipped Body Butter – Island Escape

• Light My Fire Edible Massage Oil Candles

• Seduce Me Pheromone Perfume & Body Mists

• Sweet Spot Honey-Flavored Arousal Gel

• Dark Desires Eye Mask

• Game Night Set (Strike a Pose Sex Position Deck + Roll Play Dice)

• Your Highness, Petal Pleaser, Allure, Seeing Stars, Hip Hop, Make Me Over

• Black Excellence Lipsticks & Juneteenth Lipstick

• Fit To Be Tied Four-Corner Bed Restraints

• Enthrall Me, Ignite Me, and Sweet On Me Arousal Balms

This episode is proof that pleasure doesn’t have to be performative, extreme, or scripted. Sometimes it’s just women sitting together, being honest, learning, laughing, and reminding each other that joy and curiosity are part of self-love.

Because at the end of the day… girls just want to have fun 💋

🎉 Inspired to host your own Galentine’s night?

Book a Galentine’s Party with a Bedroom Kandi consultant and create your own space for connection, laughter, and pleasure.

In Part 2 of The Gift of Presence, Kash and Chris move from conversation into recalibration.

This episode goes deeper into how everyday life, work stress, parenting, fatigue, and the pressures of adulting can quietly shift how couples show up for each other. What starts as a reflection becomes a moment of mutual awareness. Kash names how her physical touch had unintentionally reduced. Chris acknowledges how he’d grown colder than usual. Neither from lack of love, but from life pulling them out of alignment.

Together, they unpack how emotional tone, humor, stress, and unspoken needs can impact intimacy, not just sexually, but in the simple, grounding moments that make partners feel safe, warm, and seen. This part of the conversation is about returning to intention, restoring softness, and choosing each other again in the middle of real life.

Part 2 also weaves in wellness and pleasure as tools for reconnection, featuring Bedroom Kandi products used as rituals of care, touch, and presence, not performance. The message is clear: intimacy isn’t lost, it’s often just buried under responsibility, and it can be reclaimed with awareness, accountability, and grace.

Business of Pleasure podcast hosted by @YourSexologistBestie

Featuring @Big_Black_Supervillain

Powered by @TheSoftAndTheStrong

Presented by @BusinessofPleasurePod and Bedroom Kandi

Featuring Kash (@YourSexologistBestie) & Chris (@Big_Black_Supervillain)

(@TheSoftAndTheStrong)

In The Gift Of Presence, Kash and Chris open a two-part conversation centered on what it truly means to show up for yourself and your partner. Part 1 focuses on emotional safety, intentional care, and the quiet power of presence as the foundation for intimacy, confidence, and connection.

This episode explores how daily rituals, self-care, and shared moments of attention shape desire and deepen bonds, not through performance, but through awareness. From wellness to pleasure, Kash and Chris demonstrate how softness and strength can coexist, creating space for trust, curiosity, and growth inside a relationship.

Products featured across Parts 1 & 2 include:

Delicious Encounters, Moisturizing Body Oil Spray, Petal Pleaser, The Manifest Collection, Pragmatism, Sugah Daddy, Smooth Operator, Head To Toe, Fresh, Haute Cakes, Velvet, Groove Panty Vibe, Bust A Move, and Keep Your Cool.

This episode reflects the heart of Business of Pleasure, where wellness meets intimacy, presence becomes a gift, and connection is cultivated with intention.

Part 2 will continue the journey with deeper exploration, playful discovery, and expanded conversation.

In Part 2 of our Men’s Health Month feature, @_WolfTaylor and @YourSexologistBestie dive further into the intersections of pleasure, sex, religion, and the taboos that shape how men learn to show up in intimacy. The conversation gets honest, insightful, and unexpectedly hilarious when Kash surprises Wolf with a curated set of Bedroom Kandi essentials… and his reactions are priceless.

Featured items include the Sidekick sleeve, Silk lubricant, the R&B rechargeable C-ring, Eros Pheromone Body Spray, our Fine Men’s Scrub in the Eros fragrance, and the Velvet Organic Sugar Scrub. Wolf gets hands-on learning about enhancing sensation, boosting confidence, and elevating his entire pleasure routine.

We talk about unlearning shame, redefining masculinity through wellness, and the freedom men find when they finally give themselves permission to explore pleasure without judgment. It is equal parts comedic, vulnerable, and deeply necessary.

Join us for Part 2 as The Business of Pleasure continues creating space for men to grow, heal, laugh, and honor their bodies in new ways.

PT 2, let’s get into it.

Part 1 took us from the bathroom to the edge of the bedroom… but Part 2? We are diving straight into the bedroom just in time for the launch of Bedroom Kandi’s 12 Days of Christmas celebration.

For the next 12 days, a new item drops at 30 percent off every single day and stays on sale until the end of the 12th day. If you want to understand how to use these goodies, what they feel like, and why they make perfect gifts, this is the episode you do not want to miss.

In this special Black & Gold Week continuation, @YourSexologistBestie, @CallMeCoach.MrsBellamy & @yesssterday test, taste, and react to some of Bedroom Kandi’s most loved bedroom essentials:

• The Edible Massage Oil Trio, a sensual blend in Strawberry 🍓, Watermelon 🍉, and Vanilla 🍦

• The Edible Massage Candle Duo, a delicious melt-and-pour experience in Mango 🥭 and Pineapple 🍍

• The Sweet Spot, our honey-flavored warming arousal gel that brings instant heat and deep sensitivity

Plus, a lineup of toys designed to deliver unforgettable pleasure:

• The Petal Pleaser, our flower-shaped flicking stimulator

• Candy Kisses, a silky gold vibe made for precision and power

• Groove, the remote-operated panty pleasure system for play anywhere

• Love Life Krush, our app-controlled G-spot vibe and kegel trainer with sound-responsive technology

• The Womanizer Duo, the legendary clit-air suction + G-spot vibration combo

The reactions were priceless, the products were a hit, and the gift ideas are top-tier whether you’re stuffing stockings or planning your own naughty-and-nice wishlist.

Tune in and tap in.

This Part 2 episode kicks off 12 days of pleasure, play, and presents — Bedroom Kandi style.

Part 1 of our Black and Gold Week Kickoff takes us from the bathroom straight into the bedroom as we celebrate 25 percent off all regular priced Bedroom Kandi products. With @yeesssterday and @mrsbellamy.callmecoach, we hosted a full Black and Gold pleasure party packed with wellness, grooming and intimacy gems.

Bathroom Essentials

Where the glow-up begins:

• MANIFEST Foaming Face Wash and MANIFEST Moisturizer, our men’s skincare duo designed to deeply cleanse, hydrate and keep the skin smooth, fresh and balanced.

• Pragmatism Beard Oil, a conditioning blend that softens the beard, boosts shine and nourishes the skin underneath.

• Eros Shave Cream, a rich, luxurious formula that gives a close, irritation free shave.

• Premonition Men’s Pheromone Cologne, crafted to enhance scent, confidence and attraction.

• Haute Cakes Intimate Elixir, formulated to fight odor causing bacteria with a coconut oil base while leaving you smelling like warm cake all day.

• Butter Me Up Body Butter, a deep moisture body treatment that melts into the skin for all day softness and glow.

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Bedroom Essentials

Where softness meets wildness:

• Massage Oil Trio, edible oils in watermelon 🍉, strawberry 🍓 and vanilla 🌼 to set the mood, awaken the senses and glide effortlessly across the skin.

• Light My Fire Massage Oil Candle, a soy based edible candle that melts into a warm massage oil for sensual temperature play.

• Sweet On Me Buttercream Icing, an edible arousal cream safe for the external genitals, designed to enhance blood flow, increase moisture and boost sensation.

• Stamina Male Prolonging Spray, a topical delay formula to support longer lasting pleasure.

This kickoff episode blends intimacy, grooming and irresistible touch as we get ready for the biggest sale week of the year.

@businessofpleasurepod, hosted by @yoursexologistbestie

Powered by Bedroom Kandi, rooted in empowerment, education and earning through pleasure and wellness.

As we step into Men’s Health Month, Wolf Taylor brings a grounded, honest voice to a conversation men rarely get space to have. Wolf, creator of the Halfway Up Podcast, talks about growing up with a strong family and faith foundation while also realizing in adulthood that some tools he needed simply were not passed down. Not out of neglect, but because every generation teaches from what they knew.

We dig into how many men today are thrown into pressure, responsibility, and emotional silence long before they are prepared for it. That silence shows up in their mental health, their intimacy, their relationships, and their ability to perform. We talk about the rise in anxiety, depression, and performance challenges in younger men and why men need safe places to be vulnerable without their masculinity being questioned.

This episode keeps the heart of Business of Pleasure at the center, focusing on wellness, emotional safety, and how Bedroom Kandi continues creating judgment free spaces where people can learn, connect, and heal through community. Part One ends midway through our Adult Edutainment segment, so tap back in for Part Two as we take the conversation even deeper.