The Calm Confidence Podcast: Social Anxiety and Being Yourself

PODCAST NAME CHANGE! THIS WAS FORMERLY THE "THERAPY ON TAP PODCAST."

Sometimes it feels like no matter how many times we put ourselves in social situations, nothing gets better. We are still filled with the same dread and anxiety, despite people and mental health professionals telling you "you have to challenge yourself" if you want to overcome fear and build confidence. In this episode I explore why exposure therapy doesn't always work, and what you can to actually make the progress you are looking for.Interested in following me or booking a coaching session? Find all links in Linktree below:https://linktr.ee/calmconfidenceSources:Edgar, E. V., Richards, A., Castagna, P. J., Bloch, M. H., & Crowley, M. J. (2024). Post-event rumination and social anxiety: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Journal of Psychiatric Research, 187, 87–97. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpsychires.2024.03.013Watkins, E. R., & Roberts, H. (2020). Reflecting on rumination: Consequences, causes, mechanisms and treatment of rumination. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 127, 103573. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brat.2020.103573Donohue, H. E., Modini, M., Abbott, M. J., Rapee, R. M., & others. (2024). Psychological interventions for pre-event and post-event rumination in social anxiety: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Journal of Anxiety Disorders, 102, Article 102823. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.janxdis.2023.102823Price, M., & Dalgleish, T. (2010). The impact of cognitive behavioural therapy on post-event rumination in social phobia. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 48(8), 673–678. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brat.2010.04.003Maeda, S., Yoshida, K., Amano, K., Tamagawa, A., Hayashino, Y., & others. (2022). The effect of distraction versus post-event processing on cortisol recovery in individuals with elevated social anxiety. Biological Psychology, 182, Article 108918. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.biopsycho.2022.108918Gray, E., Beierl, E. T., & Clark, D. M. (2019). Sub-types of safety behaviours and their effects on social anxiety disorder. PLOS ONE, 14(10), e0223165Evans, R., Chiu, K., Clark, D. M., Waite, P., & Leigh, E. (2021). Safety behaviours in social anxiety: An examination across adolescence. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 144, Article 103931

When we feel anxious in social situations, we play it safe. We don't tell the funny joke, we sit in the corner of the room, we don't share our interests. This can temporarily make us feel more safe and at ease, but actually exacerbates the anxiety in the long run. In this episode I explore why playing it safe is a dangerous game, how it traps us from truly accepting ourselves and allowing others to accept us, and how it makes things worse in the long run. #socialanxiety #shyness #shyguy #socialskills #confidence #confidencebuilding

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Gray, E., Beierl, E. T., & Clark, D. M. (2019). Sub-types of safety behaviours and their effects on social anxiety disorder. PLOS ONE, 14(10), e0223165

Evans, R., Chiu, K., Clark, D. M., Waite, P., & Leigh, E. (2021). Safety behaviours in social anxiety: An examination across adolescence. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 144, Article 103931

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Every socially anxious person's nightmare... You're in a conversation, things seem to be going ok, when suddenly... your brain freezes. Now your heart and your thoughts are racing, trying to come up with something to say. What do you do now? In this video I dive deep into this commonly asked questioned by social anxiety sufferers, and the answer may not be at all what you expected. #socialanxiety #shyness #shyguy #socialskills #confidence #confidencebuilding

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Self confidence can be quite the Paradox. If you don't already have confidence, no amount of achievement will give it to you. This is because our low self esteem doesn't allow us to appreciate our successes. In this video, I explore a more reliable way to attain and build confidence; learning to trust ourselves to overcome rather than measuring ourselves based on our perceived achievements. #confidence #selfconfidence #selfsteem #perfectionism #perfectionist Interested in working with me:For NY/NJ: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For Non-NJ/NJ: https://www.calm-confidence-coaching.com/Podcast:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=hk7Fd58VTZK0pyocVxv34gApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/calmconfidencecoaching/?igsh=MXQyYnppMHJ2cGV5OQ%3D%3DTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@calmconfidencecoach?_t=ZP-8vQMixBga6Q&_r=1

Marijuana has become more accepted both culturally and legally, and on the whole this has been a good thing. However, I think we are being dishonest if we don't acknowledge the very real dangers of marijuana. Marijuana has been proven to increase the likelihood of psychosis and schizophrenia. It is also not as effective as advertised in treating anxiety and depression. I'm not saying you need to stop smoking, you just have to be careful. #mentalhealthawareness #psychosis #schizophrenia #anxiety #depression #marijuanalegalization

Depression isn't always an internal problem. Sometimes we are depressed because our life is simply not going well. Some of these reasons are out of our control, others are in our control but we're having difficulty making the appropriate changes. In this episode I explore how modern therapy and psychiatry has become lazy by labeling everything a "disorder." It's not a disorder if we are seeing things objectively, but just not happy about it. #depression #depressed #depressionawareness #mensmentalhealth #mentalhealth

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You may not realize this, but by trying to "improve" your social skills, you are actually making your social anxiety worse. If you struggle with social anxiety you already obsess about how you come across, what you are saying, how you are saying it, etc. By trying to "improve" your skills, you actually exacerbate the obsessiveness. In this episode I will discuss how you can let go and finally find the freedom you are looking for. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #shyness #shygirl #shyguy

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We can't avoid judgement from others, so don't bother trying. Our attempts to avoid it only make our social anxiety worse and it won't stop the judgment from coming anyway. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #confidence #resilience #freedom Interested in getting in contact?https://charlesperrytherapy.com/Podcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecpFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d

We're often taught that if we want to feel confident in something, we have to practice until we have mastered it. We believe that confidence comes from developing skills and constantly improving ourselves. While this is sound advice in certain situations, it does little in building long lasting, internal confidence. What do we do if we are learning something new? How can we feel confident in ourselves if confidence is only supposed to come through mastery? In this video I explore a simpler, yet deeper form of confidence. #confidence #confidenceboost #confidencebuilding #selfimprovement #wisdom #depression #anxiety Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-sessionPodcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecpFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d

Anxiety, and mental health in general, is a dream crusher. It prevents you from living a full life and makes you believe you have to put your life on hold. Your life will slowly shrink more and more as you give in to the anxiety. In this video, I explore how you can begin to break free of this cycle and start dreaming again. #anxiety #anxietyrelief #anxietyanddepression #anxietyrelief Interested in getting in contact?For NY/NJ residents: https://charlesperrytherapy.com/For non-NY/NJ Residents: https://calendly.com/cperry0814/30minhttps://calendly.com/cperry0814/1-hour-coaching-sessionPodcast link:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4EdDP9fkklpSaLZhMxPwVE?si=d819309608b54a6aApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-on-tap/id1758550585Instagram Link: Instagram.com/anxietyfreecpFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/charlesperrytherapy?mibextid=LQQJ4d