The Calm Confidence Podcast: Social Anxiety and Being Yourself

THIS DOES NOT COUNT AS THERAPY, PLEASE GO TO ACTUAL THERAPY. There's so much (bad) advice out there telling people they should stop caring what other people think. If you struggle with social anxiety or confidence, you may have tried to "not care about what others think," only to find yourself either stuck in the same boat or trying to fake something that doesn't feel genuine. You're not alone here. That's because trying to no care what others think doesn't work. Not only is it impractical, but it can lead you down a bad path. There are people out there who truly don't care what others think; we call them psychopaths. I highly doubt that is what you are striving for. In this video I give a more realistic approach to self discovery and finding confidence, without losing your moral compass or your authenticity.

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THIS DOES NOT COUNT AS THERAPY, PLEASE GO TO ACTUAL THERAPY. Sometimes as therapists we overanalyze things. Whether it's our own ego or our genuine thirst for discovery, we sometimes read into things that aren't there. One of the most common ways I find we do this is when we are convinced that someone is just try to "distract" themselves from their pain. It's important for us to realize that sometimes these "distractions" are actually just the way the person lives and enjoys their life. In life, we cannot avoid suffering, but sometimes replaying our past only brings more suffering. #therapy #therapist #mentalhealth #depression #suffering #grief

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Public speaking is one of the most common fears known to man. However, as much as we like to avoid it, speaking publicly often plays a crucial role in our career development, our relationships and our own sense of confidence. Mastering this skill can transform our lives. In this episode, I explore practical ways to attack this monster head on, so we can feel more empowered in our lives. It is also important to keep in mind that fear of public speaking does not just impact those who struggle with social anxiety; most people get nervous when they have to speak publicly. Accepting this is a great first step in normalizing your fear. #socialanxiety #socialanxietydisorder #publicspeaking #confidence

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THIS DOES NOT COUNT AS THERAPY, PLEASE GO TO ACTUAL THERAPY. We all want to like ourselves, but it's easier said than done. The reality however, is that many of the things we judge ourselves for are completely out of our control. In this episode I discuss how to embrace your differences by challenging the judgments you make about yourself and others. #socialanxiety #selfacceptance #acceptance #mentalhealth #psychology

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When we are depressed we can fall into a nihilistic philosophy. Existential nihilism is the philosophical belief that life has no meaning or purpose, and therefor there is no reason to enjoy life, take action, love, etc. When we are depressed we can also start to believe that this philosophy makes sense, and therefore there is no reason to "cure" our depression, because we see the problem as external rather than internal. I argue that in reality we become nihilistic BECAUSE we are depressed, and the lack of positive feeling is influencing our belief about the world and our life.

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We all have a tendency to externalize our stress. When we feel stressed, we blame the thing or the world instead of looking inward. While this may help us feel better temporarily, it ultimately leaves us feeling powerless and out of control. Take the power back in your life by taking responsibility for how you react to the world around you.

Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder are very different, but are often confused for one another. They are also two of the more stigmatized mental health conditions in the world. In this episode I debunk the myths and misconceptions about each of them. #bipolar #bipolardisorderawareness #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpd #mentalhealth #mentalhealthstigma #mentalhealthmatters

Social Anxiety can truly prevent us from living the life we want to live. The fear can make us do things that may feel good or safe in the moment, but have long term negative consequences. In this episode, I explore 8 things you should not do if you have social anxiety.

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We all want to feel validated, but we have to admit that sometimes our emotions are not always in alignment with reality. This can be a hard pill to swallow, but can also be a very freeing concept to embrace. It gives us a sense of more control over our emotions and reactions, and ultimately leads to healthier relationships with others and ourselves.

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