The Catholic Gentleman

Today, John and Sam are excited to announce a new host to our show, Devin Schadt. He will be joining us weekly to answer the tough questions that men face and add to the depth of knowledge and discussion. This week we talk about warning signs that your wife is not feeling loved. We open up about what we have each learned about truly loving our wives and the many ways that we have failed. We then go into the importance of this topic and how by understanding the nature of women, we can be the husbands they need and the husband God is calling us to be. 

Finally, each week we are going to answer one of your questions during the podcast. This week we have a question from a father about how to be present to his kids after a long and exhausting day at work. If you have any questions, please, record yourself on your phone and send us the audio clip to ⁠[email protected]⁠. Or just send us your question and we will read it on air. 

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Many men think staying in the marriage is enough. They don't cheat, they provide, they avoid conflict, but is this all there is to marriage? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the silent drift that leads so many marriages to die long before anyone leaves.

They unpack what 73% of divorcing couples identify as the root issue, and redefine it in light of Scripture, covenant commitment, and the honest purpose of marriage. The conversation dives deep into what it truly means to lead, to suffer with, and to sanctify through your vocation as a husband.

If your marriage feels stunted, strained, or disconnected, let's discuss how marriage can be your ultimate glory.

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What do you do when every conversation with your wife seems to go sideways, even when you're trying to do the right thing? John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down to expose the hidden habits that slowly destroy communication within marriages. With spiritual clarity and lived experience, they unpack how small patterns, like avoidance, assumptions, or rushed “fixes/hacks", can consistently unravel trust between husband and wife.

Instead of playing defense, this episode shows men 5 ways to take responsibility for the tone, clarity, and direction of the most important conversations in their home. We discuss how resentment breeds in the silent darkness of unmet needs. Because a Catholic husband doesn’t just talk, he leads. And that starts with the next conversation.

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What if the biggest threat to your family isn’t outside your home? John Heinen sits down with Andrew Laubacher, musician, speaker, and Executive Director of Humanality, to expose how your smartphone has been reshaping your attention, your memory, and your children’s brains. With billions of dollars behind it, Big Tech wasn’t designed to serve you and your family. It was built to capture your time, shape your habits, and replace real relationships with curated digital ones. In addition to helping you protect your family from these devices, we also discuss how to protect them from your own temptations (distraction, pornography, passivity, and escape).

Instead of giving in, Andrew offers a path to reclaim attention, rebuild you and your home’s culture, and start living again. From flip phones and dopamine detoxes to tech-free dinners and digital plans of life, this episode challenges every man to lead his family out of this trap and into reality.

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Why are 85% of Catholic children walking away from the Faith, even after years of weekly Mass, sacraments, and for many, Catholic school and youth group? John Heinen sits down with Devin Schadt to expose what parents today have been missing and why the solution is found inside the home. With wisdom drawn from recent studies, Church teaching, and personal experience, they reveal the one secret that thriving Catholic families have that others miss entirely. These families do not have children leaving the Faith when they go off to college, and actually, the reverse is happening.

Instead of just doing more religious practices, this episode invites men to build something deeper: a Catholic family culture rooted in warmth, tenderness, and order. Devin and John break down how your family’s core values, a family personality, and devotional life can become the shield that protects your children from spiritual collapse. And they share practical steps, beginning with one conversation with your wife that needs to happen immediately.

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What happens when your wife begins to pull away, and you can't figure out why? What's more is that everything you do to help fix the situation seems to fall short. John Heinen and Devin Schadt discuss the hidden physical, spiritual, and emotional forces that quietly fracture Catholic marriages. Drawing on Scripture, theology, and hard-won experience, they reveal how isolation, resentment, and the demons can slowly unravel trust and intimacy.

Instead of ignoring the drift, they unpack five subtle dynamics that sabotage unity and show how to reclaim authentic headship rooted in sacrifice, courage, and clarity. If you’ve felt the distance and wondered how to bridge it, this conversation will equip you to lead with confidence and rediscover the peace, trust, and communion God intends for your marriage.

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What if the most important spiritual formation in your child’s life isn’t happening at church—but at your dinner table? Today, John Heinen and Devin Schadt discuss how family dinner has quietly lost its soul—and how fathers must bring it back, not just as a routine, but as a call and obligation. The culture has shaped the dinner table into what we commonly see today on TV. It is failing at its core mission to be a cornerstone of a thriving family.

This isn’t about Pinterest-perfect meals or polite conversation. It’s about forming identity, memory, and virtue in the chaos of real life. John and Devin share how their own families bring structure and meaning to mealtime—from the nightly “Good Thing, Difficult Thing, Random Thing” ritual to coaching kids through cleanup as a form of love and responsibility.

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What happens when the child you love won’t speak to you anymore? When the hurt runs deep—and it’s your fault? John Heinen and Devin Schadt go deep into one of the hardest realities a Catholic father can face: seeking forgiveness from a child who’s been wounded by your failure. Drawing from personal experience, they walk through the steps of Recognize, Repair, and Rebuild—offering practical and spiritual insight for men who want to restore trust without forcing the outcome. This truth works for children from 18 months to adulthood.

This isn’t a quick fix. It’s a call to live with humility, pursue the heart of your child, and become the kind of father they can one day forgive—even if they never say the words.

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What happens when your money helps build the very culture you're trying to protect your soul—and your family—from? John Heinen sits down with Chris McMahon—Catholic entrepreneur, father of five, and founder of two financial firms, including Aquinas Wealth Advisors—to expose what’s broken in modern investing and how faithful men can do better. With over 35 years of experience and appearances on Fox News and the Wall Street Journal, Chris has seen firsthand how mainstream portfolios often fund abortion providers like Planned Parenthood, adult entertainment empires, and false ideologies that corrupt the dignity of the human person.

Instead of looking away, he built a firm that offers clarity, conviction, and Catholic-aligned investment strategies. Alongside his wife Molly, Chris co-founded Mary’s Place, a home for struggling mothers, and continues to serve the Sisters of Life and Sisters of Mary with bold generosity. His story is one of quiet defiance—against greed, cultural compromise, and moral indifference. This conversation challenges men not only to steward their wealth wisely but to do so with eternal impact in mind.

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What does it take to become a man of clarity, courage, and spiritual fire in a world that wants you passive, distracted, and numb? Today, John Heinen welcomes Fr. Boniface Hicks—Benedictine monk, spiritual director, and author. For over 20 years, Fr. Boniface has guided men through spiritual warfare, identity crises, and the hidden wounds that keep them from living as sons of God.

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