I want to talk about stewardship and in particular, how we steward our choices. I want to talk about this is because I think when we think about how we steward our choices, it actually empowers us as leaders—in whatever capacity you're leading—to lead out of a God-given sense of self-worth.
Now the church loves to talk about stewardship. We hear messages on how we steward our finances, how we steward our time, how we steward our resources. And these are really important things. But I can't tell you the last time, if ever, I heard a sermon on stewarding our choices.
What I want to focus on is that this choice to function consistently out of a biblically defined understanding of our self-worth, particularly as it relates to our role as leaders, as women, it can have a profound impact on how we view and use our emotions; how we navigate boundaries, and it can actually enhance our ability for valuable risk-taking.
But let's stop and think about this because let's be honest, choices stress us out. We face choices every day. I start off the day with “What am I going to wear?” “What am I going to look like when I head into my meetings?” And then I start thinking about “What am I going to eat for breakfast?” And some of you were probably thinking about “What am I going to feed my kids or spouse for breakfast?”
And then I think about, “Okay, what tasks do I have to focus on at work today?” Because definitely there's no way I'm getting everything on my to do list done. And then I move onto, “I know we've got performance improvement plans coming up. So, do I need to let this person know what their outcome is going to be today? How is that going to make them feel? How's that going to make me feel?”
I'm also a psychologist, and so I have clients that come into my office and they're wrestling with even bigger choices, things like “Should I stay in my marriage—even though my husband was selfish and cheated and doesn't act like he wants to be married anymore?” Or perhaps you're faced with a choice that says, “Do I follow this doctor's suggestion, or do I get a second opinion?”
Choices are all around us. A huge part of my career is focused on helping people who get stuck in those choices. They're dealing with the consequence of perhaps past choices, or they're paralyzed with fear over future choices.
And, you know, I think back to the Fall in Genesis. The Old Testament displays from the beginning of creation how God designed us to be gifted with the ability to choose. This was given to no other element of creation. And what did we do? We kind of messed it up.
And the consequence is that our daily choices, the things that we have to choose, they leave us feeling pretty up in the air. We're not grounded. I think it is because just like Adam and Eve did, we're trying to build routes and choices that are pretty fleeting. Adam and Eve wanted to route themselves in the choice of knowledge instead of the truth of who they were in Christ, which was perfect image bearers of God. We miss this practice of navigating our lives from a launching point of the choice, the one choice that really, truly matters. And that's what is going to ground us in the midst of everything when everything around us feels like chaos.
We have the choice to fully embrace and act out of a true definition of our self-worth. So how do you steward your choices? It's a big question. Because when we don't steward our choices, so often, we function from a place of trying to please other people to serve and to maybe sacrifice out of fear of being cast out, not included.
And unfortunately, we oftentimes then find our lives in chaos. If you're in that circumstance, you might be asking yourself, “How do I remain grounded when my choices around me don't have me feeling confident?” Perhaps you are feeling uncertain, incapable,