You are neither here nor there. You're in the middle. You're stuck. You're waiting for someone or something to change. Unfortunately most of us think it's the other person in a relationship that needs to do something differently, so we totally discount our part. We’re blind to our own participation when we feel caught in the middle—can’t move forward, can’t go back.

We look to blame someone or something else for being in this spot, but that’s just fear taking the wheel. Putting that burden outside of ourselves releases us of the responsibility and power to change things… but it also paralyzes us into staying right where we are, in limbo-land. How does this show up in relationships? Perhaps you’re afraid to commit emotionally to your partner. You can always connect physically because that kind of intimacy is way easier, but you don’t feel safe connecting on a deeper level. You can’t imagine why this other person wants to be with you because on some level YOU don’t want to be with you. You don’t know what he/she sees in you, yet you can’t be without him/her. So what do you do? Commit or let them go?

Learn why people end up in this in-between state, avoiding change, and what you can do to propel yourself forward.