The Conscious Couples Podcast

Do you ever wonder if your partner truly believes in themselves or if they’re secretly struggling with self-doubt? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros.This eye-opening episode explores how deep-rooted beliefs can shape our relationships, mainly focusing on two core wounds: feeling “defective” and “unlovable.” Discover how these underlying fears can trigger conflicts and how to build genuine self-belief to foster healthier, more supportive partnerships.

Show notes:
(2:12) Two main buckets of the core wound
(5:58) The formula for building self-belief: State, Prove, Self-assign
(8:45) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia
(10:40) Comparison of self-belief processes in "Defective" Vs. "Unlovable"
(13:35) Humility and courage in relationships
(16:38) Continue vulnerability
(17:36) Invitation to Relationship Talks Coaching
(19:23) Outro

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Do you feel like your partner truly sees you, or are you sometimes left in the background? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. This episode unpacks what it means to be your partner’s primary focus and why it’s crucial for maintaining a healthy, loving relationship. Listen in as they share real-life examples and tips to help you and your partner stay connected, even when life gets busy. Perfect for couples and individuals who want to strengthen their relationships and feel more valued in their connections. Whether in a relationship or single, this episode provides valuable insights into creating more profound, more intentional connections.

Show notes:
(2:15) The challenge of harmonizing podcasting and relationship
(4:41) Scenario 1: When your partner is your primary focus
(5:54) Scenario 2: When your partner is a secondary focus
(10:03) Scenario 3: Switching focus and its challenges
(13:38) Listen to Jason’s and Lisa’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
(15:56) Slow, tiny, boiling water analogy and regular “No-Stim” nights for reconnection
(17:53) Personal “software updates”
(19:56) Growth mindset, adaptability, and understanding
(24:30) Homework for everyone
(26:44) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8

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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Feeling overwhelmed by life’s demands? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore how prioritizing personal needs is crucial for a healthy relationship. Life’s pressures, from financial stress to everyday challenges, can easily make you neglect yourself, putting a strain on even the strongest bonds. Discover practical tips and heartfelt advice to keep your relationship loving and supportive, no matter what life throws at you. Tune in for an engaging discussion that helps you stay connected and harmonize with yourself and your partner.

Show notes:
(2:29) H.H.A.L.L.T
(3:33) 10-pound, 10-week challenge
(5:47) Scarcity 101: Financial stress
(8:27) Maslow’s Mountain of Needs
(10:32) Business growth and relationship dynamics
(12:57) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
(14:05) Micro and Macro assessments
(17:31) Personal responsibility and mutual support
(18:57) “How can I support you?”
(20:55) Do check in’s with yourself and your partner
(24:31) Outro

Digital Asset:
Maslow’s Mountain of Needs - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1JPjcS0LT26EtFCknvwzldi-GIlON7QuS/view

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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8

___________________________

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Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Have you ever wondered why some people grow emotionally while others stay stuck? Tune into The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explain what “doing the work” means regarding personal growth, especially for men. Using relatable stories and insights, they explore how men and women differ in self-improvement, the value of therapy, and the power of humility. Join them as they discuss the challenges and rewards of personal growth and how it can improve your relationships and self-awareness.

Show notes:
(1:57) Origin story of “doing the work.”
(3:36) The value of therapy and inner work to men
(5:05) Distinction between male and female focus in personal development
(6:53) Inner work vs. external work
(7:58) From inside out
(10:39) Signs of not doing the inner work
(15:24) Listen to what Amy and Chris say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk.
(16:28) The concept of “truth target” and ego circles
(18:01) The challenge of benchmarking identity against reality
(20:18) Gender differences in facing ego challenges
(24:16) Importance of humility and self-belief in personal growth
(29:16) Outro

Digital Assets:
The Ego Circles - https://drive.google.com/file/d/19CytO6WS3FWr00ig-Nft92HmxgxYma0N/view?usp=drive_link
The 25 Conscious Love Languages - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UZzCXujFRFEbYY-vSWcCwAY9hSPeq0ZZ/view?usp=drive_link

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Are you struggling with device addiction in your relationship? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss the importance of setting boundaries with technology, the impact of excessive screen time on relationships, and strategies to reclaim quality time together. From creating device-free zones to establishing notification hygiene, learn how to foster a more connected and present partnership in a tech-driven world. Tune in for a comprehensive guide to healthier, more present relationships in the age of constant connectivity.

Show notes:
(2:34) Event feedback: The relevance of discussing device addiction
(4:31) Tools in the hands of fools
(5:39) Staggering statistics on daily screen time
(7:02) Have the conversation
(8:16) Future implications of technology in relationships
(11:39) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(14:09) Tips and setting boundaries
(15:15) Device and notification hygiene
(19:08) Protecting your consciousness and device-free quality time
(21:27) Harmonizing work and relationship presence
(24:54) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #38 on Thursday, August 15th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Uncover and Align Your Love Languages” https://bit.ly/3LAopt8

___________________________

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Can unresolved childhood experiences sabotage your relationship? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, we’ll explore the profound impact of viewing the past as a slingshot for future growth, the significance of creating core memories together, and the role of understanding and supportive partners. The discussion highlights the importance of exploring underlying fears and core limiting beliefs with courage and vulnerability, which can pave the way for personal growth and stronger connections. Join us to learn how to transform past pain into opportunities for connection and joy.

Show notes:
(1:55) Story about the client’s engagement party
(2:55) Surface level indicators of deep-rooted problems
(5:26) Childhood experiences affecting adult behavior
(7:18) Importance of identifying and addressing triggers
(9:13) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
(13:27) Strategies for partners to support each other
(15:40) Recognizing defensive reactions vs. true preferences
(17:17) Upcoming events
(18:18) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf

___________________________

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Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Feeling lonely even when you’re with your partner? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. This episode reveals why many people think this way in relationships and how to change it. Learn the real reasons behind this common issue and how understanding it can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Alan and Emilia share their insights from coaching, highlighting the importance of emotional availability and creating safe spaces. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode offers practical advice on addressing loneliness and fostering deeper intimacy.

Show notes:
(2:28) Misbeliefs about relationships solving loneliness
(4:28) Romanticism around relationships and the two beliefs
(8:20) The necessity of recognizing and communicating your needs
(11:33) Safe space: Emotional availability, especially in traditional roles
(13:24) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia.
(14:25) Depths are valuable and perceived weakness
(18:05) Gender conditioning and emotional expression
(21:02) Playing not to lose and not playing to win
(22:24) Pretend stoicism
(29:30) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Join Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros on The Conscious Couples Podcast to explore how pride can impact love and relationships. In this episode, they define pride, share relatable examples of its effects, and introduce the Love-to-Pride (LTP) ratio—a key to sustaining a loving partnership. Learn practical advice on balancing accuracy and humility in your interactions, ensuring a healthy and harmonious relationship. Tune in for a concise yet impactful discussion that will help you and your partner navigate the complexities of love with greater awareness and intention.

Show notes:
(2:05) Defining pride and its effects on relationships
(3:41) Love to Pride “LTP” ratio
(4:27) Four horsemen and bids for connection
(7:16) Practical application of the LTP ratio in daily life
(9:39) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens consistently.
(11:40) Accurate perception
(13:48) What you measure changes the way you play
(15:51) Constructive conflict
(18:43) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Can conflict be the hidden key to a healthier relationship? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Many people view disagreements as detrimental, but what if they could be the key to fostering stronger, more resilient partnerships? By shifting our perspective and adopting a growth mindset, engaging in open communication, and taking personal responsibility, couples can transform disagreements into opportunities for mutual growth and deeper connection. This topic is a reminder that, like a home renovation, addressing foundational issues in a relationship leads to a stronger, more resilient partnership.

Show notes:
(1:35) Setting intentions
(2:28) Metaphor of the axe
(3:17) Relationship Talks Event recap
(4:27) Question on conflict in relationships
(6:01) Belief systems in conflict
(7:39) Growth vs. Fixed mindset
(11:13) External vs. Internal improvement
(12:29) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
(15:02) You cannot change someone
(16:47) Three phases of conflict
(23:09) Relationship Talks Coaching
(25:19) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us on Relationship Talks Event #37 on Thursday, July 18th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Prevent Devices From Destroying Your Relationship” https://bit.ly/3XEOGOf

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
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[email protected]

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss how couples can stay close and happy even when life gets busy. They share three powerful tools designed to streamline collaboration, enhance communication, and structure your daily interactions, helping you and your partner achieve a well-organized, goal-oriented, and harmonious partnership. Tune in to hear their stories, learn tips, and how these tools can help your relationship flourish.

Show notes:
(2:52) Past relationship experiences
(3:41) Overview of the top three tools
(6:53) First tool
(10:14) Guidelines
(13:03) Second tool
(13:57) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Talks
(17:30) The cheat code
(19:59) Third tool
(21:38) Ground rules
(23:34) Practical tips for using these tools
(25:31) Relationship Talks Coaching
(27:48) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks Event #36 on Thursday, June 20th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “The Three Phases of Conflict You MUST Learn” https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAodOigrz4iE9dA8_AKJqI8cPCAWQpBxKUw#/registration

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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!