The Conscious Couples Podcast

Nurturing a healthy relationship can be challenging, especially when emotions come into play. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore the core dynamics of relationships. Drawing from John Gottman’s groundbreaking research, they shed light on four critical behaviors that can spell trouble for any partnership. Recognizing these patterns empowers couples to safeguard their love and build stronger foundations.

Show notes:
(2:20) Anticipate in relationships
(4:07) Don’t be on this stat’s
(5:01) Criticism -> Gentle Vulnerability
(9:24) Stonewalling -> Self-soothing
(11:45) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
(15:12) Defensivesness -> Take Responsibility
(17:20) Contempt -> Sense of Appreciation
(19:49) Antidotes don’t happen until the end
(21:05) The gratitude game and nudge not nag
(23:40) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks #34 on Thursday, April 18th, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “Who is Your Partner Getting Bad Advice From?”
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts, real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they’ll walk us through the simple yet powerful ways to connect with your partner truly. Discover how embracing and celebrating each other’s unique qualities can lead to a stronger, more loving relationship. Learn about the 25 conscious love languages to help you and your loved one grow together. It’s all about understanding, appreciating, and loving your partner for who they are.

Show notes:
(2:41) Importance of accepting your partner and exploring mismatches in 25 conscious love languages
(4:16) Understanding each other: connecting hearts and minds
(7:25) Projecting expectations
(8:56) Accepting your partner where they’re at and falling in love with potential.
(12:26) Listen to Jason’s and Lisa’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(14:18) Balancing acceptance, integration, and personal boundaries
(16:02) Embracing passions and the power of open hearts and support
(19:33) Suppressed VS Supportive
(23:15) Love languages simplified: Three buckets to harmony
(25:30) Outro

The 25 Conscious Love Languages:
https://bit.ly/3TLc2PS

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #34 on Thursday, April 18th, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “Who is Your Partner Getting Bad Advice From?”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUof-GpqzkiGNABm8VXe1lAo5HbFLourzQD#/registration

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Have you ever felt like you’re playing tug-of-war with your significant other regarding the future? You’re not alone. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they peel back the layers of long-term thinking in relationships, revealing how it shapes our bonds with our significant others. They share real-life scenarios highlighting how the balance of open-ended and closed-ended questions can either nurture connections or foster disconnects. Uncover the secrets to leveraging these conversational tools to deepen your intimacy and understanding, transforming how you and your partner envision your shared future.

Show notes:
(2:01) How partners communicate
(7:01) Time perspective
(10:39) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
(11:42) Visualization exercise
(13:56) Navigating questions: Open vs. Closed
(19:26) Two concepts
(20:16) Homework
(23:08) Outro

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Join us on Relationship Talks #33 on Thursday, March 21st, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “The 4 Biggest Relationship Killers”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUucemrrDgjGNNsAoO_-27vZDSgHR1-sXud

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Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they dive deep into the silent struggle plagues many romantic partnerships: the unequal distribution of responsibilities. They explore how this imbalance can build resentment and what can be done to communicate needs effectively and foster mutual support and respect. The discussion concerns identifying the issue and offering solutions and strategies for couples to evolve.

Show notes:
(2:10) Fairness and support
(5:28) Courageous transformative conversations
(7:22) Gender roles and shifting responsibilities
(9:50) Entropy principle
(12:58) The weight of responsibility in relationships
(15:49) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(17:13) Constant check-ins and teamwork
(20:57) Continue to increase the shared value of growth
(22:16) The challenge and the benefit
(30:19) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #33 on Thursday, March 21st, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “The 4 Biggest Relationship Killers”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUucemrrDgjGNNsAoO_-27vZDSgHR1-sXud

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In the realm of relationships, the journey of two individuals coming together to navigate the intricacies of life is a delicate dance of alignment and adaptation. The balance between maintaining individual identities while creating a unified partnership requires constant attention and fine-tuning. Alan and Emilia delve into the complexities of this process, sharing personal anecdotes and actionable strategies that resonate with anyone seeking harmony in their relationship.

Show notes:
(2:06) Navigating Alignment: Effective decision-making
(5:46) Balancing relationship considerations
(8:32) Reassessing decision-making together
(10:11) Have check-ins
(12:56) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
(14:12) 3D Plan: Delete, delegate, double-down
(16:59) Navigating relationship priorities
(18:52) Aligned decision-making
(23:41) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #33 on Thursday, March 21st, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “The 4 Biggest Relationship Killers”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUucemrrDgjGNNsAoO_-27vZDSgHR1-sXud

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Have you ever heard your mother’s catchphrase or mirrored your father’s habits? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They navigate the complexities of our inherited traits and the invisible legacies passed down through generations. They shine a light on the halo effect and its deceptive rose-colored lens as they reveal how confronting these influences is vital to personal growth and emotional regulation in our own lives. The path to redefining our relationships and breaking free from the shadows of our ancestors is not a solitary endeavor. It is a shared journey, a collective rising, and a communal renaissance of the heart. With courage, with hope, and with the conviction that the legacy we leave can be one of love, understanding, and harmony.

Show notes:
(2:11) Trigger warning: Sensitive topic
(4:25) Halo effect: Cognitive bias
(6:24) Three pivotal questions
(13:12)  Lucas and Antonie discuss Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
(14:39) Ask these questions and be honest with yourself
(15:16) What was the good and what was the bad
(17:27) Identify the cycles you want to break and rectify
(20:24) Three steps
(25:09) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #33 on Thursday, March 21st, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “The 4 Biggest Relationship Killers”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUucemrrDgjGNNsAoO_-27vZDSgHR1-sXud

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
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[email protected]

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Discover the unseen forces that stress exerts on your most precious connections as today’s topic unravels the mystery behind emotional disconnection in relationships. Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, the discussion provides an invaluable guide for couples to manage stress together and maintain emotional intimacy. The strategies and insights offered are practical and deeply resonant, making it a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship in today’s fast-paced world. By recognizing the silent battle against stress and taking proactive steps to reconnect, couples can build a foundation of love that can withstand the challenges of modern life.

Show notes:
(2:32) What is emotional connection and emotional disconnection
(4:04) 5 emotional disconnectors
(6:01) What is the biggest barrier?
(7:09) Overcommit
(8:38) Pressure pie: Macro and micro stressors of life
(9:29) Derek shares his experience with Alan and Emilia
(12:26) Three steps
(14:26) Shoulder or solver?
(16:25) Ask these questions
(19:10) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #33 on Thursday, March 21st, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “The 4 Biggest Relationship Killers”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZUucemrrDgjGNNsAoO_-27vZDSgHR1-sXud

___________________________

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss a journey, making Valentine’s Day a weekly event rather than a once-a-year occurrence. They share personal anecdotes and strategies to infuse romance every week, turning relationships into a continuous celebration of love. This approach to love is proactive and intentional, emphasizing the importance of regularly nurturing the bond between partners. This conversation serves as a reminder that love is not confined to a calendar date but a feeling and action that can be cultivated daily.

Show notes:
(2:40) Weekend getaway
(5:15) Little things to make every day/week special
(8:35) Julie, a listener to The Conscious Couples podcast, shares why she subscribes and listens to the podcast consistently
(9:31) Three criteria: Quality alone time, something special, and at least 1hr
(11:57) The We Nucleus
(14:04) Make ’em special
(15:33) Me date
(18:20) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #32 on Thursday, February 15th, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “How To Stay Emotionally Connected”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZcpc--qpjIiHdQa2jry4-w1PNFa9MyaKwbL#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
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Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Ever find yourself nodding along to your partner’s promises, only to be met with inaction? Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they discuss that the delicate dance between promises and actions can be the linchpin for harmony or the seed of discontent in relationships. As partners strive for equality within their domestic realms, a chasm often emerges between what is said and what is done. This friction, born out of unmet expectations and the uneven distribution of household tasks, is a familiar battleground for couples navigating the terrain of love and life.

Show notes:
(2:01) A partner who is willing to contribute and go beyond
(4:04) The impact of traditional gender household roles in relationships
(5:46) Words don’t match the actions
(6:24) Mind the gap
(9:59) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks.
(11:37) Cultural and gender expectations
(12:20) Open communication and the willingness to craft a system tailored to each couple’s unique composition
(14:30) Reassess and redefine rulebooks consciously and continuously
(17:06) What does it mean to feel supported?
(19:33) Actively choose the dynamics that work best
(21:53) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03

Join us on Relationship Talks #32 on Thursday, February 15th, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “How To Stay Emotionally Connected”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZcpc--qpjIiHdQa2jry4-w1PNFa9MyaKwbL#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
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[email protected]

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They explored a familiar relationship dilemma many face: the pervasive feeling of being either ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’ for one’s partner. This intricate emotional terrain often leads individuals into a maze of insecurities, questioning their worthiness and the balance of affection within their romantic connections.

Show notes:
(2:05) How to overcome insecurities in relationships
(7:04) Openness leads to progress
(8:43) The concept of turtle puff
(10:11) Grace, space, and acceptance
(13:07) Bonnie has this to say about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Talks.
(14:28) Identify and confront the root
(15:40) Which one of these kind of hurts? Worthiness, loveability, and defectiveness
(18:04) The importance of creating that safe space
(19:15) Applying the real or not real method
(24:31) Outro

Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
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Join us on Relationship Talks #32 on Thursday, February 15th, 2024, at 06:00 Eastern Time: “How To Stay Emotionally Connected”
https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZcpc--qpjIiHdQa2jry4-w1PNFa9MyaKwbL#/registration

Follow us on Instagram:
Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

*Email:* 💬
[email protected]
[email protected]

Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com

Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast; we love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more like it, it would mean the world to us if you subscribe, leave us a review, and please share this with someone you love & care about. Until next time, and remember, it’s not about you or me, it’s about The We!