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  • Why Every Man Should Try a Solo Retreat to Transform Their Life with Eli Libby and Kyle Nelson

    Have you ever felt stuck, overwhelmed or clueless about your path forward in life? Many men struggle with these feelings, but few take the time to truly address them. In this episode, I chat about the benefits and impact of solo retreats with Kyle Nelson and Eli Libby, two guys who have experienced firsthand the profound impact of intentional solitude. Kyle and Eli share their personal stories of hitting rock bottom and how solo retreats became the leverage for change in their lives. From losing everything in a wildfire to facing a devastating divorce, these men found clarity and purpose through the process of stepping away from the stress and chaos of everyday life.

    Many men hesitate to take time for themselves, afraid of what they might uncover or feeling selfish for stepping away. Kyle and Eli address these concerns, explaining how giving yourself permission to explore your inner thoughts and beliefs can lead to deep personal growth and stronger relationships. They offer guidance on how to approach this powerful experience and make the most of your time in solitude. For any man looking to level up his life, relationships and gain clarity about your purpose, this episode is sure to help you determine if a solo retreat just might be the key to unlock the life you've been longing to live.

    In this episode, you will be able to:

    • Discover the transformative power of solo retreats for men and unlock your full potential.
    • Break free from self limiting beliefs and increase your personal growth and development.
    • Explore the impact of solo retreats on mental health and emotional resilience.
    • Learn how to integrate the insights from your solo retreat into your daily life for lasting positive change.
    • Redefine success and identity post retreat goals and milestones to achieve a more fulfilling and authentic life journey.

    The key moments in this episode are:

    00:08:01 - How Solo Retreats Guide Men Through Introspective Work

    00:11:20 - Lasting Impact of the Solo Retreat

    00:16:43 - How Vision Casting Is Different from Goal Setting

    00:20:02 - Overcoming Fear and Self Doubt About Solo Retreats

    00:26:40 - Building Strong Relationships After Your Solo Retreat

    00:28:22 - The Courage to Be Vulnerable When Men Aren't Doing Well

    00:30:07 - Importance of Men Showing Grace and Compassion To Themselves

    00:33:59 - The Tangible Benefits of a Solo Retreat

    Connect with Eli Libby and Kyle Nelson

    Website

    https://resetos.co/

    LinkedIn - Eli Libby

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/elilibby/

    LinkedIn - Kyle Nelson

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/kylenelson1/

    Connect with Mike Forrester

    Podcast Website

    https://LivingFearlessTodayPodcast.com

    Coaching Website

    https://www.hicoachmike.com/

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/hicoachmike/

    Youtube

    https://www.youtube.com/@hicoachmike

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/hicoachmike

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/hicoachmike

    40 min
  • How This Man Overcame Chronic Pain And Illness with Jonah Primo

    Chronic pain can be an exhausting challenege, often leaving you feeling helpless and isolated. But what if there's a way to reclaim your life and find hope within the struggle? In this episode, I sit down with Jonah Primo, who shares his inspiring journey of overcoming debilitating chronic pain and chosing to live his life to the fullest even in the face of the pain Jonah was an active guy running 100km each week and playing soccer regularly, yet he found himself bedridden, unable to climb a small hill to his place without collapsing to his hands and knees. His world became consumed with the pain and he retreated from life, relationships and even called off his engagement.

    But Jonah's journey doesn't end there. Through a combination of mindfulness, gratitude and a shift in his perspective, he found a path back to health - both physically and mentally. His story offers valuable insights for anyone grappling with chronic pain or life altering health challenges. Jonah's experience reminds us that even in our darkest moments, there's hope just waiting to be rediscovered. His story isn't just about overcoming pain - it's about joy, purpose and the thoughts which fill our thoughts. Remember, your current situation doesn't define you. There's always potential for positive change, no matter how dire things may seem. Let Jonah's journey inspire you to take that first step towards reclaiming your life.

    In this episode, you will be able to:

    • Discover the power of mindfulness for overcoming chronic pain and finding inner peace.
    • Learn to harness the mind-body connection to effectively manage and reduce pain.
    • Uncover the transformative benefits of practicing gratitude in your journey to pain recovery.
    • Explore effective strategies for coping with long Covid symptoms and regaining control of your health.
    • Understand the impact of chronic pain on personal relationships and discover ways to navigate these challenges with resilience.

    The key moments in this episode are:

    00:05:27 - Unexpected Health Challenges

    00:15:04 - Fighting Back and Finding Hope

    00:20:50 - Celebrating Incremental Progress and the Small Wins

    00:27:59 - Practicing Gratitude and Mindfulness

    00:33:25 - Impact of Chronic Pain on relationships

    00:42:42 - Embracing life with pain

    00:45:55 - Being Grateful and Taking Intentional Steps

    00:47:42 - Seeking Hope and Inspiration

    Connect with Jonah Primo

    Website

    http://jonahprimo.com/

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/jonahprimo/

    YouTube

    https://www.youtube.com/@TheOverexaminedLife

    Connect with Mike Forrester

    Podcast Website

    https://LivingFearlessTodayPodcast.com

    Coaching Website

    https://www.hicoachmike.com/

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/hicoachmike/

    Youtube

    https://www.youtube.com/@hicoachmike

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/hicoachmike

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/hicoachmike

    51 min
  • Find Your Purpose As A Man And Overcome Loneliness with Bob Wischer

    A man can have a career, a marriage, and a full calendar and still not have a single real friend. Bob Wischer lived that, and he'll tell you how close it came to costing him. In his first marriage he ran the same loop for years, work, home, family, repeat, until the male friendships that once carried him quietly faded, nudged aside by a wife who guilted him out of the softball games and the beers with the guys. When that marriage ended and his kids left for college, he was standing there with a job and not much else, the friends they'd shared having gone with her in the divorce. He calls the place he landed the danger zone, the one where a man starts asking whether this is all there is and what his worth even is. Bob has known four men who never made it out of that zone.

    What pulled him back is the focus of his talk with host Mike Forrester. Bob did the deeper work and uncovered a story he'd been carrying since before he was born, conceived before his parents married in a small town where that still carried real shame, so a sense of being unwanted got wired in before he ever took his first breath. Naming that changed how he understood seventh grade, his marriage, and even the divorce he filed for. From there, he rebuilt on purpose and with intentionality. He went looking for other men instead of waiting on them, he learned his wife's love language and his own after years of missing both, and he made a non-negotiable weekly date night the rule rather than the exception. He now runs Men Becoming Better Men and goes by the relationship engineer, because relationships turned out to be the thing that saved him.

    Bob keeps circling back to the men he's lost, including one he taught alongside who seemed like the last person anyone would worry about. That's why he's blunt that suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary problem, and that no problem is too heavy to survive once you're sitting across from someone who actually cares. He's honest about his own blind spots too, the things you simply can't see from inside your own life, the label you can't read from inside the jar. If you've been running on empty, telling yourself the lie that you're better off handling it all alone, Bob's whole message is the opposite. You were never meant to do this by yourself, and one honest conversation is usually where the way back starts.

    In this episode, you will be able to:

    • Recognize the danger zone a man can drift into when his whole life becomes work, home, and repeat
    • Understand why male friendships fade after marriage and kids, and what it costs a man to let them go
    • See how a story you absorbed in childhood, even before birth, can quietly run your relationships for decades
    • Learn the marriage habits Bob missed the first time, from real date nights to actually knowing each other's love language
    • Recognize why you sometimes have to be the first to say "I'm struggling," and why one man's cold shoulder isn't a verdict on you
    • Understand why you can't spot your own blind spots alone, and how a circle of men gives you back a zest for life

    The key moments in this episode are:

    00:05:29 - How the work, home, repeat grind cuts a man off from other men

    00:07:01 - The danger zone that has cost men Bob knew their lives

    00:10:35 - The one marriage habit Bob refuses to skip

    00:12:27 - The real cost of divorce, well beyond the money

    00:14:59 - The story of feeling unwanted that started before he was born

    00:18:45 - How to find healthy men when you feel isolated

    00:23:16 - Why you sometimes have to be the first to say "I'm struggling"

    00:27:59 - How love languages quietly make or break a marriage

    00:36:07 - Finding the purpose that became his rock

    00:37:54 - Why suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary problem

    00:40:08 - Why other men can see the blind spots you can't

    Whether your anger blows up in the kitchen or burns quietly on the drive home, it's running a pattern you inherited. Take the free quiz at whatsbehindyouranger.com and see which one you're carrying.

    Your kids are inheriting more than your money, right now they're inheriting your patterns. Grab the free audit at yourlegacyaudit.com to see what you're passing down to them.

    Connect with Bob Wischer

    Website

    http://www.menbecomingbettermen.com/

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/therelationshipengineer

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/bob-wischer-63151b19/

    YouTube

    https://youtube.com/@menbecomingbettermen8163?si=qopGdACQX1HLy33Q

    Connect with Mike Forrester

    Podcast Website

    https://LivingFearlessTodayPodcast.com

    Coaching Website

    https://www.hicoachmike.com/

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/hicoachmike/

    Youtube

    https://www.youtube.com/@hicoachmike

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/hicoachmike

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/hicoachmike

    46 min
  • How to Trust Yourself and Build Your Confidence with Vinnie Potestivo

    Building trust and confidence in yourself is a journey that many men struggle with. In this episode, I sit down with Vinnie Potestivo, a media industry veteran to discuss how we can develop self trust and authenticity in our personal and professional lives. He revealed strategies for carving out your own path, especially when living in the shadow of your father. Vinnie discusses how he differentiated himself from his dad while still respecting his legacy. Your journey is unique from your father's, learn to appreciate your individual experiences and how they shape your perspective. Vinnie emphasizes the value of reflection and continuous growth in developing your confidence.

    Uncover the importance of repetitive actions and clear communication in establishing trust - both with others and yourself. Vinnie shares examples from his work with celebrities and how he creates a foundation of trust in high-pressure environments. Discover the high value of surrounding yourself with supportive individuals who challenge and inspire you. Vinnie highlights how building strong connections has been crucial to his success in the media industry and also seen in his father's life with lifelong friends. This chat with Vinnie highlights how you as a man can increase your level of self trust, build authentic relationships and create an identity that is true to you and your unique gifts.

    In this episode, you will be able to:

    • Mastering the art of building trust in professional relationships for lasting success.
    • Unleashing the power of personal branding strategies to stand out as an entrepreneur.
    • Embracing the pivotal role of consistency in content marketing for sustainable growth.
    • Unlocking the potential of leveraging LinkedIn for exponential business growth.
    • Navigating career challenges with resilience for continuous personal and professional development.

    The key moments in this episode are:

    00:07:07 - Confidence and Trust

    00:13:16 - Overcoming Childhood Challenges

    00:15:08 - Creating Opportunities

    00:17:36 - Trust and Empathy

    00:19:54 - Embracing Personal Strengths

    00:22:57 - Building Trust Through Practice

    00:29:15 - Establishing Your Unique Personal Identity

    00:38:50 - Building Trust and Asking for Help

    Connect with Vinnie Potestivo

    Website

    https://ihaveapodcast.com

    LinkedIn

    https://linkedin.com/in/vinniepotestivo

    Instagram

    https://instagram.com/vinniepotestivo

    Facebook

    https://facebook.com/vinniepotestivo

    Connect with Mike Forrester

    Podcast Website

    https://LivingFearlessTodayPodcast.com

    Coaching Website

    https://www.hicoachmike.com/

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/hicoachmike/

    Youtube

    https://www.youtube.com/@hicoachmike

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/hicoachmike

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/hicoachmike

    40 min
  • Conquering Challenges Through Resilience and Mental Toughness with Jeff Robertson

    Resilience isn't formed in our comfort zones - it's built through adversity and the choice to keep moving forward. Jeff Robertson, a business coach, has transformed his greatest setbacks into his strongest assets. Jeff shares his journey from losing his law enforcement career to becoming a present and involved father and successful entrepreneur, revealing how mental toughness is developed through intentional choices and reframing perspective.

    Jeff discusses how he broke generational cycles by choosing to be the father he never had, despite having no roadmap for healthy parenting. He emphasizes that resilience comes from being honest with yourself, putting effort into every area of life, showing up when it's hard and taking responsibility - his "BEST" framework helps with teaching both his children and clients how they can uniquely showup.

    Your setbacks aren't your story's end - they're puzzle pieces that will eventually reveal a bigger picture. Jeff demonstrates how his lowest moment, losing his career due to a DUI, ultimately positioned him to impact lives in ways he never imagined, including a redemptive encounter with the family of the officer who years earlier had arrested him.

    In this episode, you will be able to:

    • Master the art of reframing adversity as stepping stones rather than roadblocks to success

    • Develop practical resilience strategies using the BEST framework for consistent growth

    • Break generational patterns by choosing to be what you needed rather than repeating what you experienced

    • Build authentic leadership skills through understanding personality types and communication styles

    • Transform your identity from your past mistakes to your future potential

    • Create accountability systems that help you define and maintain your personal standards

    The key moments in this episode are:

    00:05:12 - From Law Enforcement to Business Coaching

    00:08:45 - Learning to Be Present Without a Father Figure

    00:15:30 - The Career-Ending Moment That Changed Everything

    00:22:18 - Developing the BEST Framework for Resilience

    00:28:40 - Understanding Personality Types in Leadership

    00:35:15 - The Redemptive Encounter Years Later

    00:42:30 - Reframing Life as a Puzzle Coming Together

    00:48:20 - Practical Steps for Building Mental Toughness

    Connect with Jeff Robertson

    Website

    www.jeffreyrobertson.com

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-rabason/

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/jeffreyrabason

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/jeffrabason

    Connect with Mike Forrester

    Podcast Website

    https://LivingFearlessTodayPodcast.com

    Coaching Website

    https://www.hicoachmike.com/

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/hicoachmike/

    Youtube

    https://www.youtube.com/@hicoachmike

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/hicoachmike

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/hicoachmike

    47 min
  • How Men Can Beat Doubt and Take Control of Their Life Again with Robert Foster

    Life's challenges can either hold us back or move us forward. In this episode, I'm joined by Robert Foster, a man who chose to turn his obstacles into opportunities. Robert's journey is proof to the power of mindset, resilience and determination. Despite facing significant setbacks, including a devastating knee injury and the loss of his father, Robert has completed over 150 obstacle competitions and earned medals in track and field. His story shows how facing physical hurdles can lead to profound emotional and mental growth, which pushes us beyond our perceived limits.

    Robert shares his experience of losing everything - his business, home and financial stability. Instead of giving in to despair, he used this low point as a catalyst for change. His journey of rebuilding highlights the importance of a growth mindset, taking responsibility for our situation plus setting clear goals and taking consistent action. If you've been told to just push through the pain and keep going, but it's only making things worse then maybe it's time to break free from the cycle of ineffective action and overwhelming pain. It's time to take control and create a life that aligns with your vision.

    In this episode, you will be able to:

    • Overcoming personal and professional setbacks to bounce back stronger and more resilient than ever before.
    • Discover the powerful impact of mental health and emotional resilience in men, and how it can create a more fulfilling life.
    • Explore effective strategies for rebuilding life after loss, and unlock the potential for growth and renewal.
    • Uncover the surprising benefits of physical challenges on mental health, and how they can elevate your overall well-being.
    • Learn how to leverage adversity for personal growth, and harness its potential to propel you forward in life.

    The key moments in this episode are:

    00:04:41 - Rebuilding and Moving Forward

    00:08:03 - Turning Struggles into Inspiration

    00:12:32 - Letting Go of Stress and Moving Forward

    00:15:31 - Overcoming Negative Imagination

    00:22:56 - Unity in Struggles and Taking Action

    00:27:35 - Embracing Responsibility and Taking Action

    00:32:31 - Finding Gratitude in Loss

    00:38:31 - The Impact of a Father's Presence

    Connect with Robert Foster

    Website

    https://robertbfoster.com/

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/robert-foster-740a9bab/

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/robert_b_foster/

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/rfoster74

    Connect with Mike Forrester

    Podcast Website

    https://LivingFearlessTodayPodcast.com

    Coaching Website

    https://www.hicoachmike.com/

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/hicoachmike/

    Youtube

    https://www.youtube.com/@hicoachmike

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/hicoachmike

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/hicoachmike

    47 min
  • Elevating Your Life Through the Power of True Accountability with Robert J Hunt

    Accountability is a word that sends shivers down our spines from when it's been used in a manipulative manner. For many men, it's been tied to blame, punishment or shame. But what if accountability could be the key to unlocking the life you've always dreamed of? Robert J. Hunt, author of "Nobody Cares Until You Do," shares how accountability can change our lives from the inside out. Hear how Robert's personal journey has gone from debt-ridden and stressed to confident and purposeful, through the power of taking ownership of our choices and actions.

    Robert challenges our preconceptions about accountability, revealing how it's not about punishment, but about freedom. He explains the difference between responsibility and accountability, how vulnerability plays a crucial role in personal growth and that accountability increases our confidence and self trust. This conversation with Robert will challenge you to look at your life through a new set of lens, encouraging you to take control of your future and create the life you truly desire.

    In this episode, you will be able to:

    • Discover the benefits of holding yourself accountable for personal growth and success.
    • Overcome fear and stress to reach your goals and live life on your own terms.
    • Embrace vulnerability as a powerful tool for creating meaningful and lasting change in your life.
    • Learn effective strategies for setting and achieving personal goals that align with your values and aspirations.
    • Explore the impact of financial freedom on your overall well-being and happiness.

    The key moments in this episode are:

    00:01:50 - The Definition of Accountability

    00:11:01 - Embracing Ownership

    00:14:23 - The Need for Vulnerability

    00:17:58 - Responsibility vs. Accountability

    00:27:46 - Choosing Men You Can Trust

    00:39:21 - Regular Goal Review

    00:42:08 - Accountability and Vulnerability

    00:43:55 - Overcoming Discomfort

    Connect with Robert J Hunt

    Website

    https://nobodycaresbook.com

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/roberthuntceo/

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/nobodycaresbook/

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/NobodyCares2022

    Connect with Mike Forrester

    Podcast Website

    https://LivingFearlessTodayPodcast.com

    Coaching Website

    https://www.hicoachmike.com/

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/hicoachmike/

    Youtube

    https://www.youtube.com/@hicoachmike

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/hicoachmike

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/hicoachmike

    50 min
  • Breaking Through Limitations When Doctors Say You'll Never Run Again with Brad Minus

    Have you ever felt like life has thrown you a curveball, leaving you questioning your ability to overcome challenges? In this episode, I sit down with Brad Minus, an endurance coach and podcast host who shares his remarkable journey of resilience and transformation. Brad's story begins with a wake-up call about his health, prompting him to start on a fitness journey.

    However, just as he was making progress, a devastating back injury threatened to ruins his plans. Faced with doctors' grim predictions that he would never run more than two miles again, Brad chose to defy the odds. His perseverance paid off, leading him to not only recover but climb the ranks in endurance sports, completing multiple marathons, triathlons and yes, even Ironman competitions. Now, as an endurance coach, Brad helps others discover their inner strength and achieve what they once thought impossible.

    In this episode, you will be able to:

    • Tap into the Power of Resilience and Refusing to Accept Limiting Beliefs
    • Learn about Incremental Progress and Building Healthy Habits
    • Discover How to Separate Your Self-Worth from Setbacks
    • Understand the Importance of Big, Challenging Goals in Unlocking Your Sucess
    • Harness the Value of Community and Coaching to Achieve Impossible Goals

    The key moments in this episode are

    00:12:57 - Dealing with Unexpected Pain and Limitations

    00:16:30 - Overcoming Setbacks and Mindset

    00:18:26 - Tracing the Injury and Learning to Move Beyond

    00:24:43 - Embracing Failure as Experience and Persistence

    00:30:22 - Mindset and Long-Term Success

    00:38:31 - Moving Beyond Initial Discomfort into Confidence

    00:42:50 - Stepping Out of Comfort Zone

    00:46:29 - Achieving the Impossible

    Connect with Brad Minus

    Website

    https://innerfireendurance.com

    LinkedIn

    https://linkedin.com/in/bradminus

    Instagram

    https://instagram.com/lcc_pod

    Facebook

    https://facebook.com/lcc_pod

    Connect with Mike Forrester

    Podcast Website

    https://LivingFearlessTodayPodcast.com

    Coaching Website

    https://www.hicoachmike.com/

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/hicoachmike/

    Youtube

    https://www.youtube.com/@hicoachmike

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/hicoachmike

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/hicoachmike

    52 min
  • Finding Purpose and Direction After Losing Everything with Roman L Binder

    Life can throw unexpected challenges our way. How we respond to these setbacks often defines our journey and shapes our future. In this episode, I sit down with Roman L. Binder, a resilient entrepreneur who has weathered significant storms in his professional life.

    Roman shares his inspiring story of building a successful nanotech company only to see it crumble during the pandemic. He shares about the emotional toll of losing everything and the difficult process of rebuilding not only his career, his life as a whole too. Through his experiences, Roman highlights the power of resilience, the importance of embracing change and the value of reframing our perspectives.

    In this episode, you will be able to:

    • Mastering the art of building resilience in entrepreneurship.
    • Unveiling the impact of loneliness on mental health.
    • Unveiling powerful strategies for overcoming business failure.
    • Unlocking the benefits of journaling for personal growth.
    • Embracing change and uncertainty in life with confidence.

    The key moments in this episode are:

    00:07:40 - Personal Journey and New Beginnings

    00:14:41 - Impact of Habits on Productivity

    00:26:12 - Embracing Challenges and Building Resilience

    00:32:14 - Building Tenacity and Perseverance

    00:36:16 - Capturing Good Ideas

    00:43:47 - Impact of Surroundings on Decision-Making

    00:45:50 - Loneliness vs. Being Alone

    Connect with Roman L. Binder

    Website

    https://www.thenomad.ceo/

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/romanlbinder

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/romanlbinder/

    Connect with Mike Forrester

    Podcast Website

    https://LivingFearlessTodayPodcast.com

    Coaching Website

    https://www.hicoachmike.com/

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/hicoachmike/

    Youtube

    https://www.youtube.com/@hicoachmike

    Facebook

    https://www.facebook.com/hicoachmike

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/hicoachmike

    55 min
  • Build Confidence During Hard Times for Men Who Feel Stuck with Devan Gonzales

    Confidence is belief in your own abilities, and it gets built one obstacle at a time. My guest Devan Gonzalez has had to start from zero more than once. He began as the youngest trainer at a corporate gym and became its busiest. He moved to a private gym with no clients, helped build its training department, and became its highest paid trainer. Then the owner planned to move him to a location that needed a primarily Spanish-speaking trainer. Devan saw it as a setup to fail, and he quit on the spot. He called his girlfriend, now his wife, and told her he’d stand outside a grocery store selling sessions if he had to. He built that independent business to six figures. Today he runs Strive 11 Fitness with a business partner and is growing it as a national franchise. He’s also married with a three-year-old daughter. In this conversation with Mike Forrester, he shares how a man keeps going when life knocks him down.

    Devan describes self-belief as a wall of bricks. Every obstacle you’ve already beaten is a brick, so the next one is just a new level. When he didn’t know how to sell, he learned from YouTube videos and tried again until it worked. He says a man will never have it all figured out, so waiting for that is only an excuse. You only need the next step to the next milestone. He breaks big goals into small ones, so losing 40 pounds in a year becomes about a pound a week. He reads most criticism as people pulling you back like crabs in a bucket. He limits their access rather than cutting them off, and he looks for circles of people further along than him. Every goal costs time, effort, or money, and he says a man has to be willing to pay. While launching the franchise, he stopped working out and everything felt bigger than it was. Getting back to the gym cleared his head and lowered his stress.

    The heart of this conversation is what Devan learned at home. He says an entrepreneur can build something for his family and lose his family in the process. Now his phone goes on silent for the evening hours with his wife and daughter. He and his wife share one calendar so his schedule never catches her off guard. Early on, he kept business problems from her. Now he brings them to her, even when he already has an answer, so she feels part of what they’re building. Mike Forrester knows that mistake from his own life. When he started in IT consulting, he hid his stress to protect his wife, and she could read him anyway. This one is for the dad with kids still at home who carries his work stress alone. He keeps it from his wife to protect her. He wants to build something for his family without losing them along the way.

    What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

    • Recognize the obstacles you’ve already beaten as proof you can handle the next one.
    • Use the next step, not the whole plan, to start the business or career move you keep putting off.
    • Learn to break a big goal, like losing 40 pounds in a year, into about a pound a week.
    • Spot when someone’s criticism says more about how they see themselves than about you.
    • See how bringing work stress to your wife, instead of hiding it, puts you on the same team.
    • Protect your evenings with your kids by silencing your phone and sharing one calendar with your wife.

    The key moments in this episode are:

    00:04:40 - how to build a business without losing your family

    00:06:26 - why hiding work stress from your wife backfires

    00:10:24 - how to treat your marriage like a team

    00:15:50 - how to build confidence when you doubt yourself

    00:16:46 - quitting your job to bet on yourself

    00:20:22 - how to learn a new skill when you don’t know where to start

    00:23:37 - why you’ll never have it all figured out before you start

    00:25:42 - how to break a big goal into small steps

    00:27:51 - how to handle criticism when you start something new

    00:31:09 - how to find people who lift you up

    00:34:25 - the real cost of any goal in time, effort, and money

    00:36:12 - why working out helps you handle stress

    Connect with Devan Gonzalez

    Website

    https://www.devangonzalez.com

    LinkedIn

    https://www.linkedin.com/in/devangonzalez/

    Instagram

    https://www.instagram.com/devan.gonzalez/

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About The Dad I Want To Be With Mike Forrester

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You swore you’d be a different kind of dad than the father who raised you. Then one day you caught his words and tone coming out of your mouth. You felt the same distance creep in at home, and wondered how much of him you’re still carrying despite the promise you made to yourself.