He was charming, successful, attentive... and seemed almost too good to be true. And for a lot of women across the country, that’s exactly what he was.

What started as an online romance quickly turned into whirlwind relationships filled with luxury hotels, expensive dinners, big promises, and a man who always seemed to swoop in at just the right moment. But behind the tailored suits, military uniforms, and impressive résumés was something far darker.

As cracks began to form, women started asking the same question: Who is this man, really? What they uncovered was a shocking pattern of deception, stolen identities, and financial devastation—often carried out when his victims were at their most vulnerable.

In this episode, we follow the trail of lies, the red flags that were easy to miss in real time, and the women who eventually connected the dots. It’s a story about trust, manipulation, and how one “perfect man” managed to vanish again and again—until he couldn’t anymore.

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The Perfect Man Who Wasn't

Minn. man sentenced in Texas for aggravated identity fraud | AP News

Derek Alldred’s St. Paul hotel swindle reveals long history of deception – Twin Cities

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