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- Episode 31: How To Use Both/And Thinking To Change Your Relationship
Have you ever been stuck in gridlock with your partner or spouse? Unable to find a solution you can both agree on?
Instead of getting stuck in right-vs-wrong battles, I teach you how a simple mindset shift allows you to hold two truths at the same time — creating space for connection, collaboration, and creative solutions.
We will talk about how either/or thinking fuels defensiveness, resentment, and stonewalling, while both/and thinking softens conversations, helps both partners feel heard, and opens the door to solutions that work for everyone.
I give you real-life scenarios — from dividing chores to handling money stress to parenting differences — showing how this simple shift can completely change the feel of a relationship.
Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about
Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com16 min - Ep 30: 7 Little Phrases That Can Blow Up Your Arguments (And What To Say Instead)
In this episode of Lucky in Love, I'm counting down the 7 little phrases that can blow up your arguments—and what to say instead.
These may seem small in the moment, but they either escalate conflict or chip away at your connection in ways that stick long after the fight is over. I’m sharing why each phrase is so damaging, the deeper emotions that often drive them, and—most importantly—simple alternatives you can use to keep your conversations from blowing up.
If you’ve ever walked away from a fight thinking, “That didn't go well,” this episode is for you.
Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about
Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com16 min - Ep 29: What To Do When Your Partner Is Triggered
Accidentally push your partner’s buttons? You’re not alone. In this episode of Lucky in Love, I share what to do (and not do) when your partner or spouse is triggered, why button-pushing damages trust and intimacy, and how to calm things down, reframe the conversation, and rebuild connection.
👉 Grab the free Trigger Reflection Guide at kahoskins.com
Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about
Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com9 min - Ep 28: How To NOT Blow Up A Conversation When You're Feeling Triggered
Do you lose your sh*t when your partner says or does something that triggers you? Yep, the struggle is real. In this episode we talk about my 3 step process of keeping your cool when your partner hits a nerve. You'll learn why certain words, tones, or behaviors can send you into an emotional spiral, how past experiences shape your reactivity, and why some personalities are more sensitive than others. Kari Hoskins shares her personal triggers, real-life client examples, and walks you through a simple 3-step process to help you stay calm, respond thoughtfully, and avoid making things worse in the heat of the moment. If you've ever snapped, shut down, or walked out mid-conversation—this one's for you.
Includes a free downloadable Trigger Reflection Guide at kahoskins.comShould We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about
Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com18 min - Ep 27: 5 Phrases That Will Draw Your Partner Closer To You
If you're tired of walking on egg shells. If you are feeling disconnected or you simply want a stronger connection this episode is for you. These phrases can create powerful shifts in how connected your partner feels to you. These are everyday words that say, “I see you, I care about you, and I’m with you.” When used with intention, they can bring you closer and strengthen the heart of your relationship.
Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about
Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com18 min - Episode 26: Signs You've Fallen Into the Mind-Reading Trap
Feeling misunderstood in your relationship? You might be falling into the mind- reading trap—expecting your partner to know what you need without saying a word.
In this episode, we uncover three signs you've fallen into this trap, and the signs might surprise you. You’ll learn how to clearly express what you need, stop guessing games, and rebuild emotional connection through honest communication. This is a must-listen for anyone in a long-term relationship, marriage, or navigating conflict with their partner.
Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about
Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com17 min - Ep 25: How To Say Something Better So Your Partner Actually Hears You
You’re not crazy—sometimes it really does feel like your partner isn’t hearing you. But what if the problem isn’t what you’re saying... it’s how you’re saying it?
In this episode, Kari breaks down the art of reframing—how to say the same thing in a way that actually gets through. From calling out common communication landmines to showing you exactly how to rework those heated phrases, you’ll walk away with practical tools to help you feel heard without blowing things up. If you're tired of the shutdowns, snapbacks, and same-old fights, this one’s a must-listen.
Bonus: You’ll learn how to spot the signs that something needs a reframe before it comes flying out of your mouth.
🎯 Communication gold for anyone stuck in a cycle of misfires and misunderstandings.Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about
Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com18 min - Ep 24: What To Do After An Argument
Every couple argues—but what really matters is what happens after. In this episode, we explore the power of repair rituals: those small, intentional gestures that help you reconnect after a fight. Whether it’s a hug, a note, or a shared laugh, these rituals create emotional safety and prevent lingering disconnection.
You’ll learn:
- Why lack of repair—not conflict—is what truly damages relationships
- Examples of verbal, physical, and action-based repair rituals
- How to create your own “come back together” moment after tension
This episode is packed with practical, real-life tools for couples who want to stop getting stuck in emotional limbo after arguments. Because the truth is: fighting isn’t the enemy—disconnection is.
If you’ve ever felt unsure how to move forward after a disagreement, this episode will give you clarity, encouragement, and a place to start.
🎧 Next week, we’re talking reframing—a communication skill that can shift the entire tone of your conversations. Don’t miss it!
Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about
Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com16 min - Ep 23 Are You In A Relationship Rut? Why It's Important & What You Can Do About It
Is your relationship starting to feel a little…meh?
You’re not alone—and it’s not a sign you married the wrong person. It is a sign that you might be stuck in a relationship rut.
In this episode, we're talking about what really causes that blah feeling in long-term love (hint: it's not just time), why it can be more dangerous than you think, and—most importantly—how to shake things up without doing anything dramatic or awkward.
You’ll learn:
Subtle signs you’re in a rut (that most couples overlook)
Why “just going through the motions” is quietly killing your connection
Simple, no-pressure ways to reintroduce novelty, excitement, and joy
PLUS: I’ll tell you how to get my free download, “Twenty Try Me Ideas” —a list of fun ways to refresh your relationship and stop the slow drift into “blah.”
Whether you’re already on autopilot or just want to make sure you don’t end up there, this one’s for you.Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about
Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com10 min - Episode 22: How To Calm Down When You're Feeling Triggered
In this episode, we’re talking about what actually happens in your body when you get emotionally triggered—and why it becomes so hard to stay calm and present in the heat of a disagreement.
Kari breaks down what it means to become dysregulated, how your nervous system flips into survival mode, and most importantly—how to get back to calm fast.
You'll learn 5 simple, science-backed strategies to reset your nervous system in the moment, including box breathing, movement, cold water tricks, grounding techniques, and even why humming can help. Whether you shut down or blow up when you're overwhelmed, this episode will give you the tools to handle high-stress moments with more clarity, control, and confidence.Should We Get A Divorce Quiz: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about
Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com12 min
About The Divorce Decision Podcast
From the publisher's feed
If you’re contemplating divorce, wondering whether your marriage can be rebuilt, or trying to make a clear decision without acting out of panic, fear, guilt, or pressure, this podcast is for…
you.
The Divorce Decision Podcast is for people in unhappy, uncertain, or emotionally painful marriages who are asking one of the hardest questions of their lives:
Should I stay, or should I go?
Hosted by Kari Hoskins, a professionally certified relationship coach with a Master’s Degree in Interpersonal Communication, this podcast takes an honest, balanced look at the real dynamics behind divorce decisions. We talk about the marriage patterns, communication breakdowns, emotional disconnection, conflict cycles, resentment, trust issues, infidelity, and unresolved pain that lead couples to this crossroads.
You’ll hear conversations about:
- how couples get here
- what rebuilding a marriage actually looks like
- what separation and divorce can look like
- how to communicate when everything feels fragile
- how to make a thoughtful, clear, regret-aware decision
What makes this podcast different is simple: there is no agenda here.
No pushing you to leave. No pressuring you to stay.
Because the truth is: leaving is scary, and staying is scary.
This podcast is here to help you slow down, understand what’s really happening in your relationship, and make one of the most painful and important decisions of your life with more clarity, honesty, and self-trust.
Kari has advanced training in couples coaching, trauma, relational coaching, conflict, infidelity, PTSD, and addiction, offering compassionate, grounded support for people facing the heartbreak, confusion, and complexity of relationship crossroads.
If you are struggling in your marriage, questioning divorce, or trying to figure out whether repair is possible, The Divorce Decision Podcast will give you practical insight, emotional clarity, and a more balanced conversation about staying, leaving, and everything in between.