Drift It accumulates in the gap between who we intended to be and who we've actually become. Recent studies show that 63% of men wish they didn't have to be adults, and 41% of men between 24 and 29 don't feel like adults at all. That's not a personality quirk. That's a crisis.

This week, John and Devin trace how we got here, from G. Stanley Hall's early 1900s invention of adolescence as a cultural category, to the market forces and generational messaging that turned extended boyhood into an identity.

But the the deeper question is what it actually takes to move from boy to man, and the answer isn't hustle or stoicism. It starts with taking responsibility, stop blaming, and build toward conviction. As Aquinas makes clear, the order of love in a man's life begins with God and flows outward through vocation, marriage, and fatherhood. The irreplaceable call that cannot be transferred or replaced. And it ends with self-mastery, not as an end in itself, but because a man who cannot possess himself has nothing to give.

St. Paul says it plainly in 1 Corinthians 13:11: "When I became a man, I gave up childish ways."

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