The Em&M Show

Hey guys! Welcome back to another episode. This week we dive into all things Self-Care. It seems that the very word: "self-care" has become a buzz word in society. Everyone is talking about it! Do this... do that... but honestly we believe that we are missing a huge part of self-care! Did you know that there are 2 forms of self-care? These are 1) Foundational Self-Care & 2) Enjoyable Self-Care.

Foundational Self-Care > Self-care that involves taking care of yourself. It literally is the foundation of your life. Think exercise, getting proper sleep, eating nutritious foods, connecting with others, cleaning your house, proper hygiene, etc.

Enjoyable Self-Care > The classic go to "self-care." This is the stuff that we really enjoy! Think bubble baths, sleeping in, taking naps, going for walks, getting a treat, going out to eat, playing games, going on a hike, getting outdoors, etc. 

In this episode we dive into both of these forms. We talk about what you might be getting wrong with self-care and lastly, how we can overall improve our self-care habits. That way it actually benefits us and we feel a sense of recharge and refreshment following our self-care routine. We offer practical steps you can implement today! 

Join us for this weeks episode! As always thanks for tuning in. We can't do this without you!

Em & M 

Have you ever heard of the arrival fallacy? The arrival fallacy is a term given to the illusion that when you reach some state, attain some possession, or overcome some obstacle, you will reach lasting happiness. It is a fallacy because it’s simply - NOT TRUE. 

How often do we do that though? We delay the daily joy we feel today, to one day (hopefully) feel lasting joy. When was the last time you told yourself: “when I finish… I will be happy”; “when I get to the weekend, I can rest”; “when I pass this exam, I will be happy.” We say these types of things to ourselves almost daily!

In this episode, we discuss various points surrounding the arrival fallacy and share a few personal stories when we realized it in our own lives. 

We discuss these practical things you can implement into your life to feel more daily joy:

1. Outdoor movement & getting enough sunlight
2. Connection - Nurturing the relationships with the people around us. 
3. Growth - Putting yourself in growth situations daily pushes you to feel more joy. In addition, it is important we consistently reflect on the growth we have had. 
4. Survive to others - “For there is no happiness without service…”
5. Self-Care - When was the last time you engage in some form of self-care? 

Thank you for tuning in for this week’s episode! Please rate, review, & share our podcast as we continue to grow! We can’t do this without you. 

Em&M

Who Taught You to be Small? 
Who Tried to Dull Your Sparkle? 
Who Told You to Hide Your Magic? 
Who Told You You're Not Good Enough?

In today's episode, we are discussing these 4 questions. Somewhere along the way, someone or something taught us to be small. They freaking told us to hide our magic. They so eloquently expressed: "you're just not good enough." Our gifts, abilities, and magic ready to share with the world... squashed. 

It hurts, right? It sure hurt for us when it hit us. Right smack dab in the face! Emily, realizes that it was 2 different people that tried to dull her sparkle. While Michael expresses that it wasn't necessarily a person but fear who tried to dull his. 

Throughout this episode, we discuss where this question came from, we share personal stories from when we were kids, and practical take homes to implement into your live to truly get back to living how you were meant to. 

Those people... those things... that are trying to dull your sparkle, are NOT a good voice of reason. It is time we get back to living exactly HOW we want. It is time we act BIG. It is time we shine BRIGHT. It is time we spread our MAGIC. And you... are SURELY GOOD ENOUGH. 

Join us for an inspiring and fun episode. :)

M&EM. 

Welcome back for another weeks episode! Emily and I are very excited to be talking this week about the "Journeyman's Mentality." It something I, Michael, discovered while racing in a marathon. The journeyman's mentality is a state of being. It states, "life is not about finding joy in the journey, but by finding peace." Peace comes from living in alignment with our values.

Joy is a single emotion felt at one single time. While peace is a state of being. We can feel peace at all times, no matter the emotion we feel in that specific moment. Find peace.

In this episode we discuss:

1) Life is about FINDING PEACE in the journey. We then dive into specifically how we can find more peace in the journey. I go in depth recounting the moment I realized that for the last 6-8 months of my life, I have been at extreme peace. During this time, I have felt a range of emotions: sadness, anger, frustration, joy, bliss, excitement, stress, anxiety, etc. Those were all emotions felt at one given time! While peace was & is the state of being I have been in. 

2) We discuss emotions. It is common to think that there are positive and negative emotions. We are here to dispel that. There is no such thing as positive or negative emotions. Only emotions that serve a purpose. Emotions controlled, all serve a purpose. They key question to ask yourself is 1) Is this emotion controlled? 2) What purpose is this trying to serve?

We offer 4 practical steps that you can implement into your day to be at more peace, today! 
1) Identify your top 5 values & do something for them every single day 
2)  Do something hard everyday 
3) Get outside your comfort zone
4) Prioritize taking care of yourself 

4 things to remember:

1) We all do it 

2) It is always in your deficit

3) You truly can never compare... you don't have / see the full picture. 

4) It’s your race and the world is working in your favor 

Questions to ask yourself:

Why do we compare? 
What is bringing you to compare? In this episode we discuss the why behind your comparing. 

How can we stop comparing? 
We offer practical steps to combat consistently comparing yourself to others. 

What are we comparing? 
What are you actually comparing yourself to? Is it a specific person and their whole being? Is it to specific personality traits? Looks? Abilities? Things or possessions? 

Take Homes:

1) Focus on similarities 

2) Be collaborative 

3) Set your own expectations and goals

4) Don’t look to just one person - diverse profile

1) It has nothing to do with you & everything to do with them

No one achieving greatness in life will negatively judge others. 

2) You have something they want 

This can be anything... maybe its your job, maybe its your house, maybe its your relationship... whatever it might be... they want it!

3) Nothing changes about you. 

Whether it's praise or negative judgement... nothing changes about you. You are the same person in this moment as you were 30 seconds before they said anything. 

4) Sarcasm > hidden form of judgment or insecurity

Honestly we all do it to other people but never like when it is towards us. We believe that sarcasm is a hidden form of negative judgement. Maybe we should cut that out? 

5) Be the type of person who encourages and doesn’t discourage

We all love to be around those individuals that make us feel like rockstars. Be THAT PERSON! Encourage those around you. 

Practical Steps / actions

1) Put your blinders on & run your own race
2) Get good people in your corner. Go where you’re valued. A little positive encouragement can go a long way
3) Remember your “wins”

1) Imposter syndrome >> it is really freaking HARD.

Starting a business is no easy task. Emily and I discuss what it has felt like starting a new business and podcast. 

2) I feel it most when i’m not ACTING or MOVING 

When I am stuck in my feels... overanalyzing a certain situation... that is when i feel imposter syndrome. When I am acting or moving I rarely every feel imposter syndrome. 

I talk about not feeling imposter syndrome while attempting my 52 x 52 (52 marathons in 52 weeks) because the very act of the 52x52 is MOVING. 

3) Action threshold 

Those who achieve a lot in life have a lower threshold for what they think they need to know or plan before acting… they just START

4) Felt imposter syndrome leaving medicine & Felt imposter syndrome staying in medicine

It is often not the situation that we are in that is causing imposter syndrome. Its the unknown... it is a part of life. 

Practical Steps / actions 

• 1) Plan > Act > Be consistent 
• 2) Seek knowledge from positive and helpful mentors 
• 3) Be willing to just TRY things out >> not get so stressed out about the result but just stress about taking action 

Welcome to the "Don't Skip Therapy" podcast! 

We are so excited to begin this journey. We have thought of the topics... wrote the outlines... overcome multiple technical issues (dang... computers & tech am i rightttt?)... and hit record! We've started & we're committed to this journey. This is going to be so fun. 

In this episode we discuss how we met, how long we've been together for & some fun stories that got us to this point. 

We then dive into what the "Don't Skip Therapy" pod will be about, our company WHY, and the process of getting this started. 

Find some time... plug in those headphones... and hit play! We're so happy that you are here. 

M&Em