In this episode, hosts Michael Preston, Silvina Irwin, and Michael Barnett reflect on the foundational elements of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), focusing on Stage Two, particularly the critical moments of mismatch and vulnerability. They share insights, real cases, and practical strategies for working with trauma, couples' risk-taking, and creating transformational experiences in therapy.Main Topics:

• The significance of mismatch moments in fostering change in EFT and how they challenge clients' learned safety rules
• The neurobiological and emotional implications of high-risk moments in couples therapy
• Strategies for working with trauma-affected couples, including pacing, validating vulnerability, and managing triggers
• The role of narrative and coherence in consolidating breakthroughs in session
• Innovations and upcoming EFT trainings, including the EFT Triage Conference and specialization topics (sexual trauma, addiction, and ruptures)
• The importance of therapists' self-awareness and patience during fragile moments of change

• EFTTriage.com 

• MichaelBarnettlpc.com
• DrSilvinaIrwin.com
• MichaelPrestonlpc.com

Thank you for being part of the journey—your engagement fuels the ongoing exploration of EFT’s potentials. We look forward to continuing this work with you in season two!

Discover how emotionally focused therapy (EFT) leverages deep, experiential work to create transformative change in relationships. In this episode, we explore the nuance of stage two enactments, how to recognize when clients are ready, and the vital role of daring to go into painful, disowned fears to foster healing.In this episode:

• The distinct focus of EFT stage two: enactments of attachment fears and needs
• The importance of creating disconfirming experiences to rewire neural networks
• How to gauge client readiness for heightened emotional work
• The critical role of therapist self-awareness and practice in depth work
• Strategies for managing the challenges of zoom-based EFT sessions
• The significance of trust, alliance, and stabilizing stages before deep interventions
• Encouragement for therapists learning to do this transformative, experiential depth work

For information on the EFT Triage Conference visit:

www.efttriage.com

To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites

www.michaelbarnettlpc.com

www.drsilvinairwin.com

www.eftcla.org

To learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.

www.michaelprestonlpc.com

For more info on Michael's Tango Course visit

www.michaelprestonlpc.com/tango

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In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston, Michael Barnett, and Dr. Sylvina Irwin delve into the intricacies of transitioning from stage one to stage two of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). They discuss the importance of understanding the different goals of each stage, the role of the therapist, and the significance of heightening emotional experiences. The conversation emphasizes the need to explore attachment fears and working models, highlighting how partners can provide support during this process. The hosts share insights on how to elicit deep emotional experiences and the healing power of vulnerability in relationships, ultimately aiming to create lasting change through secure attachments.

To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites

www.michaelbarnettlpc.com

www.drsilvinairwin.com

www.eftcla.org

To learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.

www.michaelprestonlpc.com

For more info on Michael's Tango Course visit

www.michaelprestonlpc.com/tango

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In this episode, EFT trainers and supervisors delve into critical aspects of practicing EFT, from handling client risks during stages two and three to maintaining self-care as a therapist. Discover practical strategies, the importance of supervision, and how to keep couples engaged and resilient post-therapy.

Key Topics

• Navigating client backslides and reactivity in stage two — importance of stability and understanding intervention limits.
• The role of supervision in deepening EFT skills and supporting complex cases.
• Strategies for ensuring long-term change: protective routines, meaningful life rituals, and ongoing reflection.
• Self-care essentials for EFT therapists: balancing work demands with personal resilience, creative outlets, and community support.
• Benefits and logistics of live sessions: how they provide insight, reinforce learning, and empower clients.
• Handling high-escalation moments: engaging couples in intense emotional episodes safely and effectively.
• Maintaining client gains after treatment: consolidating skills and life integration practices.
• The significance of therapists’ ongoing growth and the value of peer support and supervision.

To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites

www.michaelbarnettlpc.com

www.drsilvinairwin.com

www.eftcla.org

To learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.

www.michaelprestonlpc.com

To join the Waitlist for the Michael's Tango Deliberate Practice Group visit

www.michaelprestonlpc.com/tangowaitlist

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In this episode, Michael Preston, Dr. Silvina Irwin, and Michael Barnett tackle questions the came up at a recent Externship in Los Angeles. Whether you're grappling with attachment styles, client setbacks, or pivotal relational moments, this episode offers nuanced insights to deepen your understanding and clinical skills.

To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites

www.michaelbarnettlpc.com

www.drsilvinairwin.com

www.eftcla.org

To learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.

www.michaelprestonlpc.com

For more info on Michael's Tango Course visit

www.michaelprestonlpc.com/tango

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In this episode, we explore the intricacies of 'move four' and its implications, delving into the strategic aims and potential outcomes. The conversation highlights the importance of creating safe spaces and the dynamics of partnership exposure, offering insights into the dance of professional relationships.

To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites

www.michaelbarnettlpc.com

www.drsilvinairwin.com

www.eftcla.org

To learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.com

For more info on Michael's Tango Course visit www.michaelprestonlpc.com/tango

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In this episode, we explore the intricacies of Tango Move 3 in Stage One, addressing audience questions and delving into the therapist's self-awareness. We discuss the challenges of enactments, the importance of understanding blocks, and the opportunities for growth in therapeutic settings.

Takeaways:

Understanding Tango Stage One is crucial for therapists.

Audience questions provide valuable insights into common challenges.

Therapist self-awareness is key to effective therapy.

Enactments can sometimes land flat, requiring reflection.

Blocks in therapy can be opportunities for growth.

New therapists should embrace learning from mistakes.

Therapeutic growth often comes from unexpected moments.

Packaging enactments is an important skill for therapists.

Coherent understanding aids in effective therapy.

Sideways moments can lead to profound growth.

To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites

www.michaelbarnettlpc.com

www.drsilvinairwin.com

www.eftcla.org

To learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.

www.michaelprestonlpc.com

For more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tango

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In this episode, we explore community-driven questions, focusing on Move 2 of the Tango in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

We discuss the importance of hightening emotion and addressing self of therapists tolerance levels. The discussion highlights the significance of developing new skill as well as therapists being able to accept where they are in their own emotional process.

To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites

www.michaelbarnettlpc.com

www.drsilvinairwin.com

www.eftcla.org

To learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.com

For more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tango

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In this episode, we explore community-driven questions, focusing on Move 1 of the Tango in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

We discuss the importance of understanding multiple perspectives in systemic issues. The discussion highlights the significance of integrating diverse viewpoints to move forward effectively.

To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites

www.michaelbarnettlpc.com

www.drsilvinairwin.com

www.eftcla.org

To learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.www.michaelprestonlpc.com

For more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tango

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In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston, Michael Barnett, and Dr. Silvina Irwin delve into the intricacies of EFT, focusing on the 'Tango' moves in therapy.

They explore how these moves help couples connect emotionally and create new relational experiences. The conversation highlights the importance of vulnerability, emotional engagement, and the systemic nature of EFT, providing listeners with insights into the therapeutic process and its impact on relationships.

To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett and Dr. Silvina Irwin visit their websites www.michaelbarnettlpc.com or www.drsilvinairwin.com

To learn more about working with Michael Preston for EFT Supervision visit Michael's website.

www.michaelprestonlpc.com

For more info on Michael's Tango Course visitwww.michaelprestonlpc.com/tango

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