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In this episode, Shane talks with Elliott Connie about Change Your Questions, Change Your Future. Elliott is a Psychotherapist, Author, Podcaster, and Trailblazer in Solution-Focused Therapy. Hear how to take care of yourself as a couples therapist, why Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) is helpful, how to help your clients find inspiration, how to remind your clients who they are & what they want, and how to practice as a couples therapist.

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You can also listen to Elliott on Episode 96 & Episode 154 of The Couples Therapist Couch

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In this solo episode, Shane talks what it really means to be the listener. Hear the listening skills we should all learn, when to be the speaker vs. listener, what to do when your clients are having a hard time being the listener, why affair recovery requires a ton of listening, and the importance of taking a timeout when arguing.

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In this episode, Shane talks with Christa Hardin about the Enneagram & relationships. Christa is a Therapist, Host of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, and Author of The Enneagram in Marriage. Hear how to use the Enneagram to help with your therapy clients, the 9 personality types, which personality type makes the best therapists, what the Enneagram can tell your clients about their relationship & compatibility, and why it's helpful to start with your own personality type.

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In this solo episode, Shane talks consciousness in relationships. Hear why we're all pure love at our core, why we question ourselves in relationships, why every relationship is a paradox, how to find conscious love, and how to speak from a place of awareness.

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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy about Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids. Rebecca is a certified sex therapist, couples therapist, and author who helps individuals & couples strengthen emotional bonds, overcome desire differences, and rediscover pleasure & closeness in their relationships. Hear why it's completely normal for partners to have a difference in desire after having kids, which partner to focus more heavily on as a couples therapist, why the pursuer-withdrawer dynamic often flip-flops in the bedroom, the perks of sensate focus, and the homework to give your clients as it relates to sex.

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In this solo episode, Shane talks communication in couples therapy. Hear how to help your clients get back to basics with communication, the correct ways to be a speaker and listener, why communication often breaks down for couples, why we naturally get defensive, and the importance of getting consent from your partner.

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In this episode, Shane talks with Kelly Bourque about helping couples during their transition to parenthood. Kelly is an Emotionally Focused Therapy Supervisor (EFT) & Relational Health Advocate. Hear what you should talk about with couples before they have a baby, the need for pre-baby counseling, what happens when couples put their entire focus on the baby, how to help couples navigate the immense stress of having a baby, and the importance of parents being a team.

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In this solo episode, Shane talks Healing Our Core Issues (HOCI) in couples therapy. Hear what Shane learned from the training he went to led by Jan Bergstrom & Dr. Rick Butts, why the HOCI model is helpful, the 6 core birthrights every human being has, how to start working with a new couple, and why it's healthy to be concerned you messed up as a parent.

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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Diana Hill about Wise Effort. Diana is a clinical psychologist, international trainer, and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Hear how to practice Wise Effort, how to help your clients create a stronger connection with their partner, the most common types of regret, why people lose connection with the things they want, and why you should find a tree.

To learn more about Dr. Diana Hill, her book Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most, and her programs, visit:

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In this episode, Shane talks with Dr. Ellyn Bader about infidelity. Ellyn is an Author, Creator of The Developmental Model, Co-Founder of The Couples Institute, and one of the early founders of couples therapy itself. Hear how she created the concept of couples therapy, how the development of a couple's relationship mirrors the development of a child, the top reasons people have an affair, how to start working with a couple that went through an infidelity, and what to do when a couple is stuck at any stage of infidelity work.

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You can also listen to Ellyn on Episode 49 & Episode 153 of The Couples Therapist Couch