How to exercise your emotional muscles

It is time for another EnneaTalk Tuesday, and this time I am talking about growing your emotional muscles. I have been reading your messages in my inbox during this pandemic, and if they have told me anything, it is that we all are struggling to work on our emotional muscles. I discuss how the enneagram can help build these muscles and grow relationships, communication, and self-awareness.

Listen to this episode to hear how the enneagram has helped me grow my own emotional muscles over the past eight years, how it can help you build yours, and how when used correctly, this tool can help you acknowledge your feelings.

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Growing emotional awareness

I start off this episode identifying different life categories and how emotional health and muscles are used in each. I describe exactly what your emotional muscles are and how similar they are to our actual muscles—how they need to be exercised and challenged, adding more weight each time to grow stronger. With emotional awareness, I talk about how much you can learn about it, but until you put it to practice, it just remains a lesson or theory.

Understanding where you go under stress

I go through each enneagram type and what number characteristics they take on when under stress, how to recognize when you go under stress, and how this can help you be aware and give space to all the emotions you feel.

Relearning emotional muscle memory

I talk about the different areas of my life and how I have worked to strengthen my emotional muscles in each part, how the Enneagram has helped me do so, and how sometimes, you have to completely relearn how to approach those areas in order to emotionally heal.

Muscle memory and learned behavior in relationships starts at a young age, and in order to not continue to repeat it, it has to completely be repaired. The enneagram can help you learn how to give your feelings the space they need, so you can build the relationships you deserve.

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How to exercise your emotional muscles

It is time for another EnneaTalk Tuesday, and this time I am talking about growing your emotional muscles. I have been reading your messages in my inbox during this pandemic, and if they have told me anything, it is that we all are struggling to work on our emotional muscles. I discuss how the enneagram can help build these muscles and grow relationships, communication, and self-awareness.

Listen to this episode to hear how the enneagram has helped me grow my own emotional muscles over the past eight years, how it can help you build yours, and how when used correctly, this tool can help you acknowledge your feelings.

Listen now


Growing emotional awareness

I start off this episode identifying different life categories and how emotional health and muscles are used in each. I describe exactly what your emotional muscles are and how similar they are to our actual muscles—how they need to be exercised and challenged, adding more weight each time to grow stronger. With emotional awareness, I talk about how much you can learn about it, but until you put it to practice, it just remains a lesson or theory.

Understanding where you go under stress

I go through each enneagram type and what number characteristics they take on when under stress, how to recognize when you go under stress, and how this can help you be aware and give space to all the emotions you feel.

Relearning emotional muscle memory

I talk about the different areas of my life and how I have worked to strengthen my emotional muscles in each part, how the Enneagram has helped me do so, and how sometimes, you have to completely relearn how to approach those areas in order to emotionally heal.

Muscle memory and learned behavior in relationships starts at a young age, and in order to not continue to repeat it, it has to completely be repaired. The enneagram can help you learn how to give your feelings the space they need, so you can build the relationships you deserve.

How to protect your business and intellectual property

This week’s guest offers some powerful wisdom, knowledge, personality and business gold. Andrea Sager is a small business attorney and on this week’s episode we discuss all the non-negotiables for all you entrepreneurs and business owners out there. If there is one episode you won’t want to miss, it’s this one—pull out a pad of paper and start taking notes cause the amount of legal knowledge Andrea shares is invaluable to protecting you and your content.

Listen to this week’s episode to learn what it means to truly own and protect the content you put out, what infringement looks like and how you may be doing it accidentally, and what you can do moving forward to protect yourself and your business.

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Resourceful and driven

We start this episode by discussing Andrea’s childhood, how her free time was consumed by sports, and how she eventually recognized softball was no longer serving her and turned away from a scholarship. She describes her drive to find a way into college, how she turned to bowling to get her through, and the journey it took to get to law school and beyond.

Protecting the small businesses that she’s passionate about

Andrea describes the moment she was hired by her dream firm, and the moment she knew she needed to quit. She discusses how she wanted to help small businesses get intellectual protection and help they needed, and how she started her own business in order to help do so. We chat all things trademark and copyright, the difference between the two, and how she can help set up both for you and your business.

Andrea outlines the different services her legal firm provides, how they provide templates and advice, as well as infringement services, and protection for all intellectual property.

Andrea Sager

Andrea Sager is a small business attorney shaking up the legal industry! Andrea has a legal membership that provides all-access to her firm for small businesses, which also provides a GUARANTEED 24-hour response rate. After less than a year at a large law firm working with large businesses, Andrea realized her true passion was helping small businesses embrace and protect their business and intellectual property. With just over a year having her own firm, Andrea has become the go-to attorney for entrepreneurs, protecting everything from their brand names to their courses and blog posts.

Quotes:
“Honoring that ‘gut call’ for you is something that is so powerful.” 15:29
“There’s something so beautiful about somebody that is passionate about where they want to go and the mark they want to make on this world.” 15:50
“The best time to begin working with an attorney is before you’ve even launched your business.” 27:55
I remember something just hit me, oh shit how am I going to get to college? 5:50 -andrea
I got a rude awakening but they were the best team in the country. 7:05 -andrea
I was bowling with the best team in the country. 7:15 - andrea
I'm sitting there the first week at my desk, im just watching these old white males walk by in their 3 piece suits and something in my head clicks and then it’s like, they have been in this office every single day for the last 40 years old their life and I just remember thinking that is not what I want to be doing. 9:00 - andrea
Look I’m working at home in my pajamas with my dog you’re not paying for a fancy office, you’re just paying me to get the job done for you. 18:15 - andrea
It felt so amazing not to have to rely on an employer 19:05 - andrea
It was a struggle getting our stuff back together after the miscarriage because that really hurt 19:25 - andrea
I honestly don't think we felt better until we were pregnant again 20:25 - andrea
Quite frankly a lot of it has to do with me being lazy and not wanting to keep track of my time 22:55 - andrea
I didn’t want to nickel and dime for a question here and there but at the same time those questions add up so ultimately the membership came about because of the experience I was going through with clients 23:20 - andrea
Most of the time people just need a template and we know what needs to be there in order for our client to be protected 27:30 - andrea
Trademarks are your branding so anything that identifies your brand. The big three are your business name, your logo, and your slogan. 28:55 - andrea
typically any of the content you’re producing is protected with the copyright 29:35 - andrea
A lot of people will just copy and paste captions and they don’t understand that is copyright infringement 30:00 - andrea
#1 photos, do not use a photo from pinterest or google. That is copyright infringement. Like i said it doesn’t matter if you give credit. And # 2 not doing your research when choosing your business name, anything that can be trademarked. 38:25 - andrea

Healing in your heart starts with feeling

This week’s EnneaTalk Tuesday is short and sweet, so that the message can be loud and clear. There are so many of us that are going through this pandemic and trying to smile through it, but deep inside are feeling a tornado brewing. For those of you that do not know what to do or where to turn, this episode is for you.

Listen to this episode to hear how your feedback is calling on me to show up for you in the best way I can, how to show up for yourself, and how to focus on health and mental wellness to get through.

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Facing the stillness

In this season of stillness, with none of our typical distractions to keep our thoughts and past at bay, we are being forced to face some things we may not have had to face before. I openly share how a few letters I have received from you this week fell strongly on my heart, and how it is calling on me to show up for you in the deepest, most vulnerable way I can—no matter how scary it is.

I share how the stillness used to scare me, used to bring to light the very things I used to rely on as coping mechanisms. Although we are on all different journeys, we are all in this together, in whatever you are facing. The reality is that it takes time to take a step forward, and though this stillness is terrifying, the pause is when we can really see our gifts and powers come to fruition.

You are here for a reason

I discuss how you can use the Enneagram to see where you are on your health journey, and how to set your sights high and use it to guide you one step at a time. For those of you that have been called to listen to this episode, it is for a reason, and you are equipped to overcome anything that it is bringing up for you. Just know that I am here to help, serve, care—I am here for you, and you are not alone.

Quotes:
“I know there are many of you that are smiling through this,, but inside there’s this rumble and tornado kind of brewing and you don’t know what to do with it.” 1:21

“I want you to know you’re not alone, because a short 8 years ago I felt how you’re feeling right now.” 3:25

“If you really want some healing in your heart, you’re gonna have to feel some stuff, and I’m here to tell you you don’t have to do it alone.” 4:52

“We are not meant to do life alone, we are not meant to navigate these things alone, and if you really want to break cycles and heal, then you can’t do that alone—trust me, I’ve tried.” 5:21

“If you’re hearing this right now and stuff is coming up for you, you are damn sure ready, and you are damn sure capable and equipped to navigate it.” 6:07

“The stillness is scary because that’s when we can hear the calling on our life.” 10:10

“If you don’t release [negative energy], you’re going to recycle it back in through your body.” 13:35

“If you need to clean house of some people in your life, you f*cking do it.” 16:13

“I encourage you, if you’ve ever felt called to work with me, now is the time.” 21:25

“The world has been given this opportunity right now to really deal with stuff.” 21:32

How to become a leader and commit to change

This week’s guest is off the charts motivating and charming, he lights up the room every time he walks in and he loves, cares, and serves at the highest level possible. Billy Boughey is master of all things leadership, and hands down one of the most dynamic speakers I have ever seen. He leads with example and from the soul, and as an enneagram 7, has truly mastered how to bring fun and movement into leadership.

Listen to this podcast to hear how you can leverage media to tell stories and connect, increase performance and improve your business culture, and find out exactly what it takes to be a leader and commit to overhauling your company culture—starting with you.

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The story behind the glory

We start off discussing Billy’s success and how most people look at the glory instead of the story behind it. He shares how the grind and hustle determines your mindset—how you have to decide whether things happen to you or for you. He shares what it was like growing up in his household, how his stepfather was emotionally and physically abusive, how they lived paycheck to paycheck as his mother struggled to support them.

Billy speaks about playing professional baseball and how it enabled him to find faith and confidence, and how this led to his transition to leading. He discusses how identifying your strengths and weaknesses and working on self-awareness are part of the process to becoming a better leader, and how it ensures that your weaknesses aren’t your undoing.

Starting the movement

When it comes to overhauling a culture, he shares how he helps and how you have to be willing to commit to the process and make the decision to change in order to see change happen. He shares the four things he tells every leader, and how doing the work as a leader first will help others follow.

Billy discusses how he uses entertainment, songs, and movement throughout his work, and how putting action and movement creates lasting change. Stop withholding and start doing--the beauty happens when you start moving into who you are supposed to be.

Billy Boughey

Billy is a nationally recognized host and speaker who has led events for Delta,
Coca-Cola, FIFA, The John Maxwell Company and many other notable organizations. He is the Founder and President of the Atlanta based company, Elevate Experiences. Billy’s passion is to build a world with no unequipped leaders. As a former baseball player at Auburn University, Georgia State University and the Philadelphia Phillies his experience includes working with many college and professional sports teams to improve their culture. His talents include keynote speaking, culture coaching and consulting groups on how to make their team members smile and their customers rave.

Billy is also the author of Culture Reconstructed, a start-where-you-are guide to building a remarkable team dynamic. He hosts his own podcast titled Created for Experience and is a certified Kolbe consultant, helping companies understand how each employee strives to get work done.

Quotes:
“There’s a grind, there’s a hustle, there’s a silence, there’s a loneliness, there’s a beauty in success, but it all starts with those previous words.” -Billy 4:02

“I believe everybody has a story to tell, and your story grows and gets better or worse depending on how you view things.” -Billy 4:10

“I heard recently from Ed Millet, he said ‘give yourself mental permission to turn the page.’” -Billy 4:29

“I don’t know when someone decides to be great, but I do know it has to start internally, it starts in your own heart and your own mind.” -Billy 8:52

“I love what Gary Vaynerchuck says is that ‘Lebron James and Beyoncé were born Lebron James and Beyoncé, but they had to cultivate that talent, they had to make that decision.’” -Billy 9:06

“If you’re listening to this podcast and you know somebody around you has a gift, say it!” -Billy 10:11

“The very thing I thought disqualified me for all the greatness in my life is the very thing that actually qualified me.” 12:54

“Leadership is 4 things; it’s knowing yourself, leading yourself, knowing others, and leading others.” -Billy 20:55

“When people are seen, heard, and understood, anything’s possible.” 22:16

“Dr. Carol Dweck of Stanford University wrote a great book called “Mindset,” and she boils it down to two things—it’s not whether you’re smart or you’re dumb, it’s whether you’re a growth mindset or a fixed mindset.” -Billy 30:47

“On my tombstone, I just want it really clearly said, ‘Billy kicked ass for the glory of God.’” -Billy 37:37

Using the Enneagram to communicate with those you love

This week’s EnneaTalk Tuesday is a special one because it’s all about communicating with the people you care about the most and how the enneagram can help. I discuss how the enneagram can be used as a tool to deepen your relationship and speak one another’s language, how it can help overcome challenges, and create beautiful understanding of one another.

Listen to this episode to hear how the enneagram can help strengthen your relationships, communicate effectively, understand loved one’s strengths and weaknesses, and how it can help support one another and enable you to speak from a place of love.

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Communicating in quarantine, and beyond

I start this episode sharing how emotional the past few weeks have been and how challenging communication can be—especially during quarantine, when we are all missing the intimacy of being with friends and family. I share the feedback I have gotten over the past couple of weeks from my own loved ones, and how that has caused me to self-assess and rely on my toolbox to understand how I am feeling and making others feel.

Creating compassion and self-awareness

When it comes to communicating with people you care about, it is crucial that your needs are met, while also understanding where they are coming from. The enneagram enables you to truly take responsibility for your own behavior, focus on what you are capable of changing, and helps build self-awareness and compassion for those around you.

Enhance your relationships

I share how the enneagram has changed my life, how it has the ability to change yours, and how, when used correctly, it can help people feel respected, heard, and loved unconditionally. You only have control over your own actions, and how you react to situations, so learning how to use this tool can grow self-compassion, self-awareness, and understanding—and truly enhance any relationship in your life.

Quotes:
“An 8 under stress gets kind of quiet, even more introverted, and very secretive, or at least appear secretive.” 8:16
“With new insights from this toolbox, you can have more options and choices in communicating, becoming more self-aware, and it allows you to see yourself as others experience you.” 14:34
“The good news about the Enneagram is it allows you to have this deep, inner wisdom that becomes available to you in every moment.” 15:52
“The Enneagram is helpful also because you begin to understand your partner, whether it’s a romantic partner, children partners, business partners, or friendship partners.” 17:53
“In a relationship, your partner can remain a mystery and you can remain a mystery to them too, but when both parties understand the Enneagram you can get a glimpse of what it is like to be in their shoes.” 18:17
“The other way the Enneagram is can really help you in your relationships is you can find a common language.” 21:48
“The beautiful thing about really lovingly and in integrity learning the Enneagram, your personal type first and foremost and the types of the people that you care about, will help you really know what to look out for and encourage along the way.” 27:09
“The Enneagram will also allow you to remain curious about what is going on in yourself.” 28:16
“The Enneagram also allows you to continue the process of letting go of fear, anger, and pain that is blocking me and you.” 29:54
“The Enneagram can help enhance any relationship in your life, especially those that mean the most to you.” 30:44
“The greatest gift of the Enneagram is that it helps you do your personal work without judgement.” 31:14

Finding the clarity to lead with value

This week’s guest is someone who is a master in all that she does, someone who sees things that most people don’t, in business and in people. She is a growth strategist and business developer, someone who can see your blind spots and help you get clear on all that you are capable of. Kareen Walsh is a leadership expert and helps people lead with value in all aspects of their life—whether it is at home, in relationships, or in their own business.

Listen to this episode to hear how to lead with value, how to drown out the noise around you, find clarity in what you truly want, and how to give yourself permission to show up—and fumble.

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Show up authentically

We start off the episode discussing the most important first step to leading with value—working on yourself first so you can show up authentically in your own core values. Kareen discusses how she had to go through her own self journey and see how she was overexerting herself and putting others needs first before she finally chose to take time for herself. She committed to her own self-improvement so that she could truly help others with their own.

Getting in touch with your core values

She discusses the first thing most people skip when trying to lead—clarity. When it comes to clarity being surrounded by so much noise we experience daily, it can be overwhelming to decipher what you actually want—and not just what your peers influence you to think you want.

Letting go of what no longer serves you, to make space for what does

Your business is 100% reflection of how you lead it, and Kareen shares the three things that can help you figure out your core values and lead in a way that portrays them. We discuss the freedom of change, how to identify when to end something that no longer serves you, and how to leverage your self-development to make the impact you want. Kareen talks about her own experience in mastering herself and leadership, her core values, and how the quickest way to grow your business is to grow yourself.

Kareen Walsh

Kareen Walsh provides solutions, methods, and services to help people to help them achieve what they truly desire in life and business. She is an entrepreneur, executive coach, author, podcaster, and helps people leverage their own strategies and strengths to be top performers in their own industries. Her mission is to help clients move forward and create a business and life that they have always dreamed up—to level them up and guide them in their growth.

Quotes:
“Clarity to me is really allowing yourself th space to explore what is true to you.” -Kareen 6:05
“Honestly, nobody cares if you have it all together; they care that you’re actually stepping into an authentic space about yourself and sharing that you don’t know and you’re deciding to explore.” -Kareen 8:15
“If you can stand in alignment with who you are and what you do, the “buts” don’t matter.” -Kareen 10:42
“We are always either do things out of love or fear.” 21:29
“Love in the workplace is truly caring about everybody’s expertise in the room and letting them shine.” -Kareen 23:22
“If you are sitting in the fear of the discovery of what you will find on the other side, I guarantee it is much lighter than the heaviness that you feel burdened by right now.” -Kareen 26:55
“Everything that I have accomplished for myself is because I then decide in the moment that when I’m feeling that elated energy, that connected energy, the truth of who I am, I ask myself ‘how can I act in this state of being every single day going forward.’” -Kareen 30:08
“Ending something is not graceful, and it doesn’t have to be. You get to define how it goes.” -Kareen 32:02
“I get so excited to end something in my life that no longer belongs.” 32:53
“If you don’t create the space, you can’t allow the new to come in.” -Kareen 33:13
“If you do not take a moment to really get your thoughts down, then that’s why you’re walking around in chaos and overwhelm.” -Kareen 33:45
“As soon as you move your body and connect with it, you actually have clearer thoughts as to what it is you truly want.” -Kareen 36:24

How stillness and surrendering can help you overcome

It is time for another EnneaTalk Tuesday and this week I am diving deep into personal awareness and how being locked inside might be impacting it. As we are well into our second month of staying home, you may be noticing certain triggers or emotions that are coming up and being exposed—especially without your normal distractions to keep you occupied. I discuss how the Enneagram can help prepare you for this, and how it not only did that for me, but showed me the importance of stillness, and how to ride it out.

Listen to this episode if things in your life are rising to the surface that are scary, that make you numb or panic, and hear how the Enneagram can help equip you to handle whatever life throws at you.

Learning how to pivot and navigate the tough stuff
Now, more than ever, as we sit at home without our normal distractions and tricks, we are being brought to a heightened state of self-awareness on what holds us back, deep-rooted issues we have avoided, and what triggers us or causes us to shove down emotions. I discuss how the Enneagram can be used to help, and how to use that knowledge to pivot and navigate these challenges with elegance and grace so nothing derails you.

Using the Enneagram to help face it all

I share an event that happened recently, and how, although it seemed minor and small, it wound up serving a much bigger purpose and being the best gift I have received in a long time. I talk about how my life flashed before my eyes, the wave of emotions that I couldn’t keep down, and how my old coping mechanisms tried to stifle what I was feeling.

I talk through how I took the entire day to ride out everything I was feeling, how sitting in stillness was the best thing I could have done, and how, because of knowing the Enneagram and where I go under stress, I was able to pivot and face my emotions head on.

You are capable

If you are facing deep rooted parts of your personality while sitting in this stillness at home, I want you to know that it is coming up because you are ready to handle it and you are capable of getting through it. If you need help seeing and using those strengths for yourself, reach out to me, contact me—I am so happy to be here and help. Because of my own relationships and what I have been through, it brings me so much joy to help people surrender to the process and see what is on the other side.

Quotes:
“Most of my life I have braced for impact on an emotional level.” 4:21
“We can never underestimate what comes after the impact.” 6:07
“Yesterday, I was reminded of what beautiful things stillness can do even when it doesn’t fall into our beautifully color-coded, time-blocked calendar.” 9:29
“Crying is a gift to yourself.” 12:07
“Whatever you have attracted, whatever is being called in, whatever is being brought to the surface, you’re ready for.” 13:53
“You can keep stuffing it down or numbing it out or powering through it, or you can accept the fact that you’ve attracted this people/place/thing, you’ve called this in so you’re ready to handle it.” 14:17
“This was called into my life for a much bigger reason than maybe even I know.” 18:54
“Either we can panic when the waves come, or we can take a big, deep breath, read the situation, and time it just right where we can pop up on the board and ride the wave.” 20:50
“If you have things coming into your life that are scary or make you panic or make you numb or stuff down, I want you to know that it has been called in because you are ready for it, you are capable of dealing with it, you are equipped to deal with it.” 23:04
“If you need help understanding how you’re equipped to handle it and what your gifts are in handling it, that’s where I can come in.” 23:42

Building your business and finding the PR journey and person that is right for you

I am so excited to introduce you to this week’s guest because I know you’re going to walk away with so much insane value. Nicole Myden is someone who inspires me every time she opens her mouth and when she does, she truly speaks from the heart. She is a powerhouse in PR, queen of connection, authenticity, and truly serves and helps others see their worth.

If you are an entrepreneur or considering starting your own business, questioning whether you need PR, listen to this episode to hear incredibly valuable advice and tips on how to do PR for yourself, how to find the best PR person for you, and when to recognize if the time is right.

The power and process of PR

Nicole launches this episode by dropping so much beautiful knowledge on what to expect on a PR journey, how to hold space and energy for what that means, and the commitment and time that is required to do so. She speaks about her twenty years plus of experience and shares tips for those that are looking to explore their own journey in PR, how to do that, and the two most important things to do in order to get started and be successful for your business.

Pivoting, dealing with loss, and rebuilding

She dives into her background of how she fell into PR, and the pivotal moment that made her leave her career and marriage to start over at 35, leaving everything behind. She shares the two incredibly traumatic losses she experienced soon after, and how her determination to work on herself internally and do the work brought so much positivity and abundance.

Staying authentic to you

Nicole digs into her personal experience of building her own businesses, how she is finally ready to return to the consistent “paycheck” and the stigma that comes with that word and decision. We discuss how entrepreneurship isn’t for everyone, and how most of all, if you feel inclined to start a company, 100% go for it—but know having passion for what you do is different from running a business—and sometimes, you can find one without the other.

Nicole Myden

Nicole loves connecting the dots for purpose-driven entrepreneurs and brands to the media. A twenty-year PR industry veteran from Los Angeles, Nicole moved to Scottsdale three years ago and started The PR Concierge, LLC. With a strong background in national and regional consumer PR campaigns, including brands over the years like FabFitFun, Brew Dr. Kombucha, Lori Harder, CertiStar, American Idol and so many more, Nicole set out to also help the smaller, purpose-driven brands and individuals get the press coverage she feels they are worthy of as well. It’s Nicole’s belief that everyone is worthy of press which is why she stared the #PRposeEvents series and #PRposePodcast, where she teaches modern day entrepreneurs how to garner their own press coverage. Nicole puts a healthy mindset before all else. She leads with intention and experience to create aligned impact for every client and student she represents.

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Navigating the pressures of social media and how the Enneagram can help

This week’s EnneaTalk Tuesday is all about Social Media Comparing. As I have sat in lockdown these past several weeks, I have been watching as everyone around the world has shown up online, and how all the different Enneagram types have reacted to being locked inside. In a time where we all are facing so much uncertainty, there’s a lot of pressure to show up as something you are not, to compare yourself to others, and to try and do something that isn’t authentic to your true self.

Listen to this episode to hear the struggles each type might be facing, how social media comparing can impact each type, and tips for overcoming so you can find the value, self-worth, and beauty in showing up as yourself.

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Our new reality online—all the time

We are all spending a lot of time online these days, whether it’s zoom for a meeting, studying, or wasting time on social media. Social media especially has become the most addictive way of passing time, resulting in a “scroll hole” that can often leave us feeling small and shameful while comparing ourselves to others seemingly perfect lives and successes.

As a result, many of us feel pressure to become something we’re not, to create a business, or come out of quarantine with an abundance of accomplishments. It is important to remember that quantity does not necessarily mean transformation, and that there is worthiness and value in just being you.

Embracing yourself and your superpowers

I describe each type’s lifelong struggles, ones that are not cut and dry but generally applicable. I give tips on how to overcome these struggles, how to adjust and lean in to truly embrace yourself, and habits that can help. I share how instead of pivoting and trying to conform to be something you’re not, the Enneagram can expose your superpowers so you can see just how much value there is in being you.

Quotes:
“We want these things, but are we really, really ready for the commitment, and so much of it is actually energetic commitment.” -Nicole 8:40

“If you are somebody who really, genuinely wants these opportunities, you have to be in a place of alignment.” -Nicole 9:00

“Everybody in my mind is worthy of publicity, but you do not need it to define your worth.” -Nicole 11:57

“If you’re doing something this week and you want to start PR around it now, you’re going to miss the boat.” -Nicole 15:28

“Authenticity is key and timing of your launch is everything.” -Nicole 17:40

“You never see when the pivots are coming but they always, always, always bring a new perspective if we are willing to see that.” 33:58

“I realized I needed to go through probably the most uncomfortable phase of my life and if I was ready to step into it, I would eventually get back into the light.” -Nicole 37:09

“In our messes, our greatest miracles are created.” 40:34

“If you feel inclined to start a company, freaking go for it, but just know that having passion for what you do is different from running a company.” -Nicole 46:40

“Running a company is not fun for everybody...I bet you right nowif we were sitting with all of our friends and all of the business owners we know, maybe 1 out 10 of them would tell you, ‘I actually like running a company.’” -Nicole 46:54

Navigating the pressures of social media and how the Enneagram can help

This week’s EnneaTalk Tuesday is all about Social Media Comparing. As I have sat in lockdown these past several weeks, I have been watching as everyone around the world has shown up online, and how all the different Enneagram types have reacted to being locked inside. In a time where we all are facing so much uncertainty, there’s a lot of pressure to show up as something you are not, to compare yourself to others, and to try and do something that isn’t authentic to your true self.

Listen to this episode to hear the struggles each type might be facing, how social media comparing can impact each type, and tips for overcoming so you can find the value, self-worth, and beauty in showing up as yourself.

Our new reality online—all the time

We are all spending a lot of time online these days, whether it’s zoom for a meeting, studying, or wasting time on social media. Social media especially has become the most addictive way of passing time, resulting in a “scroll hole” that can often leave us feeling small and shameful while comparing ourselves to others seemingly perfect lives and successes.

As a result, many of us feel pressure to become something we’re not, to create a business, or come out of quarantine with an abundance of accomplishments. It is important to remember that quantity does not necessarily mean transformation, and that there is worthiness and value in just being you.

Embracing yourself and your superpowers

I describe each type’s lifelong struggles, ones that are not cut and dry but generally applicable. I give tips on how to overcome these struggles, how to adjust and lean in to truly embrace yourself, and habits that can help. I share how instead of pivoting and trying to conform to be something you’re not, the Enneagram can expose your superpowers so you can see just how much value there is in being you.

Quotes:
“Social media use and the ‘scroll hole’ has become one of the biggest addictions there is.” 1:15

“Social media misuse is a way that we numb, it’s a way that we get ourselves some shame hits, it’s where we allow ourselves to play small because we go into comparison.” 1:22

“When you’re able to be 100 percent authentic to who you are, not only does it feel a lot better and it’s not as hard, but it’s also sustainable.” 6:53

“If you’re a 1, pay attention to your tendency to push yourself maybe beyond your limits and your workload.” 11:19

“If you are a 1, your homework today is to go have some fun.” 11:58

“2’s, reflect on the fact that no matter what you do in life there is no pleasing everyone, no matter what, you will never please everyone.” 14:53

“I’m gonna encourage my 3’s to find people that you trust and you can be vulnerable and open with and know you don’t have to be a certain way for them to love you.” 20:35

“4’s, the more that you seek a unique identity, the more it can feel out of your grasp.” 22:13

“Feelings last 2 seconds to 2 minutes.” 24:24

“5’s, practice being present in the moment, look around yourself and notice the details, reconnect with the world through physical activity; if you awaken your body, you will find that your mind is a lot sharper and less plagued by uncertainty.” 28:32

“6’s, surround yourself with people that will pour love into you, that are true to their word.” 33:45

“7’s, your biggest struggle most of your life will be this anxious feeling that the grass is always greener on the other side.” 34:54

“Beneath the tough exterior of the 8’s, The Challenger, is someone who really craves emotional affirmation and love.” 41:31

“Remember that while humility is a good thing, it’s also not wise to discount your needs and your abilities. I want you guys to practice saying ‘no’ when you don’t want to do something and when you’re asked an opinion I want you to give it.” 48:26

How focusing on your real connections with people can help lead to success

This week’s guest is a dear friend, someone you will fall in love with listening to because of his soul, wisdom, and heart. Scott Aaron not only serves people but solves their problems and truly transforms their lives. He provides so much value and knowledge on network marketing, how to make networking more authentic, and the steps you need to take in order to get there.

Listen to this episode to hear how to turn obstacles into your greatest strengths, how to look inward to find your core motivations and truths, and how to organically connect with likeminded people on LinkedIn and in person to drive your business forward.

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Recognizing the good that can come from the bad

Scott and I open this conversation by discussing his childhood and how it shaped his mentality, outlook, and drive. He shares his need of being liked over respected, how he was bullied throughout school, and how his fathers’ entrepreneurial businesses wound up changing his life forever. He describes the challenges, pressures, and learning curve when he had to take over his father’s business at 18, how he built a fitness empire, and lost everything three years later.

LinkedIn as a networking platform, not a social platform

He sheds light on the importance of getting back up after every hardship, how interpersonal work and focus on yourself can uncover your motivation, core values, and drive, and how to use that to be the most authentic version of yourself. When this is accomplished, you can truly live in peace.

Scott shares the secret behind network marketing, how to use LinkedIn to your advantage, and how his coaching program formed out of solving a problem for those around him.

Seeing, hearing, and understanding those around you

Scott is passionate about taking the time to really hear, listen, and connect with people. There is no easy button to get there, or shortcut to create conversations, just the time it takes to talk to people around you. In order to build a business, you need other people, and he shares how to make long lasting connections that drive to success. Because after all, you can’t automate human connection, you have to create human connection.

Scott Aaron

Internationally acclaimed and award-winning network marketer, author, podcaster and speaker, Scott Aaron, is the go-to specialist when it comes to converting traffic, establishing connections, creating residual income using Linked Leads Generation®, and building personal brands. Scott is passionate about helping fellow network marketers achieve success while building their own network organically and without complicated and costly marketing tactics. His program has helped thousands of network marketers, entrepreneurs and individuals experience explosive growth following his program, Linkedin® accelerator. People-focused and result-driven, Scotts strategic approach to teaching others how to create wealth online and organic traffic is the game changer when it comes to competing in a saturated digital world.

Quotes:
“You [Scott] have chosen to use those hard things as lessons and ‘blessons’ to actually grow you into who you are today.” 6:22

“Because I had this desire to be liked instead of respected, I ended up getting bullied and picked on a lot as a kid.” -Scott 7:24

“Just like you have spoken many, many times on stages is Becoming Bulletproof, and coming to work or showing up every day with that armor, every time something happened, I would get back up and I would fight harder, and I would get stronger and stronger.” -Scott 12:18

“Les Brown actually says it best he says ‘you may get knocked down but if you can look up, you can get up.’” -Scott 12:37

“He [Eckhart Tolle] talks about the 3 types of people that exist in the world: there’s people that live in anxiety, there’s people that live in fear, and there’s people that live in peace.” -Scott 17:47

“You’re sadly mistaken if you think that there’s gonna be an opportune time, the right time—sometimes you need to take action and you need to make shifts in your life at the worst possible moments.” -Scott 19:58

“Every single day, every single experience, every single lesson or blessing as you’ve mentioned happens on purpose, happens for a reason. It’s preparing you for something else.” -Scott 20:49

“Our ego loves it when we find the sweet spot and we get really really really f*cking good at something, and when we stay really really really good at something and don’t challenge ourselves outside of it, we stop growing.” 22:00

“I truly live by the 51:49 Rule—I can’t believe in you 51% and you believe in yourself 49%, it has to be the other way around.” -Scott 32:06

“You are one conversation away from that right person, from a speaking engagement.” -Scott 38:55

“I’m gonna go back to Les Brown, ‘those who take the easiest road will create and live the hardest life, but those that are willing to take the hardest road possible will create and live the easiest life they can imagine.’” -Scott 39:34

“You can’t automate human connection, you have to create human connection, and in my humble opinion, if you’re gonna want to create more connection, you’re gonna want to create more relationships with other human beings who see what you see and feel what you feel, you have to be on the right platform that supports that, and in my humbled and honest opinion, Linkedin is best for that if that’s what you’re looking for.” -Scott 40:05

“The one thing that has helped me is getting as crystal clear with my vision as possible.” -Scott 43:24

“You don’t earn the right to sell or pitch anyone until you make the connection with them first.” -Scott 44:25


Anything who has done anything gritty and great has been through some shit. 6:00 Tracy
I had this desire to be liked instead of respected and I ended up getting bullied and picked on as a kid. 7:22 - Scott
Sometimes you have to fight back and let people know, “No you can’t do that.” - Scott 8:55
I look back and I feel like maybe if i was raised differently, or if i would of experienced things differently when i was younger, it wouldn’t have prepared me how to push through. 14:41 - Scott
When you don’t know any better, you just intuitively and instinctively just do things. 15:00 -Scott
I got so enveloped with personal training, I became addicted to being busy, because the busier you’re the less time you have to focus on all these things going on. 16:00 - scott
Sometimes you need to take action and you need to make shifts in your life at the worst possible moments. 20:00 Scott
Every single day, every single experience, every single lesson or blesson as you mentioned, happens on purpose. 20:45
Our ego likes it when we find our sweet spot and we get really really good at something and when we stay really really good at something, we don't challenge ourselves outside of it, we stop growing. 22:00 tracy
I found a problem that I had a solution for. 26:43 - scott
I owe everything to network marketing but i wasn’t passionate about it anymore. 28:45 - Scott
I can’t believe in you 51% and you believe in yourself 49%, it has to be the other way around. You have to believe in what you’re doing. 32:10 - Scott
You always have to want it more for yourself than anyone else. 32:22 - scott
All of a sudden people became too busy and too disconnected to actually talk to another human being. 36:40 - scott
The people that listen the most often are typically the ones that grow the best businesses. 37:40 - scott
You can’t automate human connection, you have to create human connection. 40:00 - scott
You don’t earn the right to sell or pitch anyone until you make the connection with them first. 44:25- Scott