The Epic Couple's Journey

Daniela and Shaun explore eight keys to better sex while sharing which keys have impacted their sex life the most. While talking about worthiness, mindset, and intentions, they discuss how far they’ve come throughout their relationship.

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Hear Daniela say, "So how has your mindset shifted?” while Shaun responds, “We don’t have sex unless we both want to have sex. Period.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun talk their way through mindset, intention, focus, breath, sounding, movement, energy, and speed.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation consider what holds you back from having better sex in your relationship. Begin to look at how small curiosities and shifts can be the key to better sex for you both.

How do you feel while you tell someone about how you and your partner met?

Daniela and Shaun each share how they met as they explore how and why counselors and therapists use the question “How did you two meet?” as an indicator of the strength of the relationship.

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Hear Daniela say, "Shaun and I met in high school, and I remember him in the very first class on the very first day of high school. I remember where he was sitting, what shirt he was wearing….” Listen as Shaun says, "I have made-up shame—completely fabricated shame—that I married my high school sweetheart. I don't want to be married to my high school sweetheart. Good thing I'm not.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun talk through the details of the start of their relationship as insight into how they feel about one another now.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation consider how your partner and you met and how you’d share the story with someone new today. Begin to look at the ways in which stories form and solidify the way in which you feel about your relationship and how others perceive you.

How do you feel when your partner shares deep emotions with you?

Daniela and Shaun share the hard transition from expressing emotions and holding space to reconnection in their relationship. Once you learn how to avoid fixing your partner, telling them they're wrong, or talking about yourself, progressing out of holding space can be difficult...especially if one or both of you is or has been triggered.

To experience what it feels like to hold space for your partner, go to epiccouplespodcast.com/holdingspace

Hear Daniela say, "I feel abandoned because of how you're holding your feelings." Listen as Shaun says, "We know that your triggers trigger my triggers and vice versa." Tune in as Daniela and Shaun talk through reintegrating into their day-to-day interactions after a separation of holding space and stepping back.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation consider how you share deep emotions with your partner and how you hold space for your partner’s deep emotions. Begin to look at the ways in which you trigger your partner and your partner triggers you in an effort to experience more love and compassion for each of your wounds.

How do you feel when your partner shares deep emotions with you?

Daniela and Shaun share the hard transition from expressing emotions and holding space to reconnection in their relationship. Once you learn how to avoid fixing your partner, telling them they're wrong, or talking about yourself, progressing out of holding space can be difficult...especially if one or both of you is or has been triggered.

To experience what it feels like to hold space for your partner, go to epiccouplespodcast.com/holdingspace

Hear Daniela say, "I feel abandoned because of how you're holding your feelings." Listen as Shaun says, "We know that your triggers trigger my triggers and vice versa." Tune in as Daniela and Shaun talk through reintegrating into their day-to-day interactions after a separation of holding space and stepping back.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation consider how you share deep emotions with your partner and how you hold space for your partner’s deep emotions. Begin to look at the ways in which you trigger your partner and your partner triggers you in an effort to experience more love and compassion for each of your wounds.

How has the #MeToo Movement affected your relationship?

Daniela and Shaun talk about sex, shame, and power and how #MeToo affects long term relationships. While developing a spectrum ranging from Harvey Weinstein to Aziz Anzari, listen as they discuss needing to evolve past the idea of consent around sex.

To get more information about upcoming Healing #MeToo In Your Relationship workshops and online courses, go to danielatanner.com/healingmetoo

Daniela says, “Maybe consent is just the legal threshold.” Hear Shaun say, “Let’s not have sex unless there's an enthusiastic yes on both sides.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun explore people agreeing to have sex out of fear of losing their partner and fear of never having sex again while betraying their bodymind’s wants and needs.

​​​​​​​Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation consider the times in which you’ve gone through with sex with your partner when you haven’t been ready or have needed to stop. Begin to look at the ways in which you can deepen your intimacy and connection when having sex only when you’re both an #enthusiasticyes.

Does planning your time together make you feel calm or caged in?

Daniela and Shaun explore their upcoming kid-free vacation and how to prepare (or not) and connect (or not) over plans for how to spend their time. From setting intentions and expectations to letting things be and flow as they are, listen as they share their thoughts and feelings around having the trip be a certain way.

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Shaun says, “This is a huge opportunity for it to be anything we want it to be. Why can't it just be?” Hear Daniela say, “It’s just a really blank, wide open space, and my fear is that we will do nothing. Not because we don't. Not because we choose to do nothing…but because choosing to do something is harder.” Tune in to hear Daniela and Shaun negotiate triggers and fears around how to spend their time together.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation consider your needs and desires as well as your partner’s needs and desires around feeling safe, loved, and connected in your time together. Begin to look at the ways in which how your plan (or not) time together affects one another while being curious around how you can support yourself and one another better.

How safe is it for you to feel your emotions around your partner?

Daniela and Shaun discuss connection and how vulnerable sharing is key whether you’re at your high school reunion, buying groceries, or with your partner. From everyday experiences of a variety of emotions to the biggest blow-ups resulting in hyperarousal and hypoarousal, listen as they share their experiences and how to avoid a stalemate.

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Shaun say, “You’re not going to fix it. It's almost like you invite them into coming into balance.” Hear Daniela say, “When I actually honor how I feel and what I want to do as opposed to fighting it, feeling guilty about it, judging myself around it…it passes so naturally.” Hear Tune in to hear Daniela and Shaun explain how holding space for your partner gives them permission to feel what they feel.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation consider whether you talk over your partner, attempt to fix them, or tell them how they’re wrong as opposed to holding space for them to feel and figure things out on their own. Begin to look at your own patterns of reaction around emotional expression while being curious about how you can support your partner in deep healing.

How safe is it for you to feel your emotions around your partner?

Daniela and Shaun discuss connection and how vulnerable sharing is key whether you’re at your high school reunion, buying groceries, or with your partner. From everyday experiences of a variety of emotions to the biggest blow-ups resulting in hyperarousal and hypoarousal, listen as they share their experiences and how to avoid a stalemate.

Go to EpicCouplesPodcast.com for more info.

Shaun say, “You’re not going to fix it. It's almost like you invite them into coming into balance.” Hear Daniela say, “When I actually honor how I feel and what I want to do as opposed to fighting it, feeling guilty about it, judging myself around it…it passes so naturally.” Hear Tune in to hear Daniela and Shaun explain how holding space for your partner gives them permission to feel what they feel.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation consider whether you talk over your partner, attempt to fix them, or tell them how they’re wrong as opposed to holding space for them to feel and figure things out on their own. Begin to look at your own patterns of reaction around emotional expression while being curious about how you can support your partner in deep healing.