The Epic Couple's Journey

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers), Shaun (he/his/him), and Linnea (she/her/hers) share around future versions of themselves while playing with a communication tool and technique for depth and exploration.

Hear Shaun ask, “Your final resting place. Could you pick it out? Where would it be?” while Daniela says, “It is too unsafe for me to look that far into my future.” Linnea shares, “I've definitely thought of end of life in terms of how much dignity I want to have, my autonomy and what my wishes would be.” Tune in as Daniela, Shaun, and Linnea talk about visions of their future and how to care for one another.

Through their conversation, think about how you enter difficult conversations in your relationship. Consider how simple communication tools can create a safe container for deep expression and connection with your partner(s).

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) talk about vulnerability and courage after watching Brené Brown’s documentary on Netflix.

Hear Shaun say, “Why do I need to have vulnerability in order to have the expansive growth or courage that I want?” while Daniela says, “It doesn't get easier to be vulnerable. You only have this vague sense that you've done it before and physically survived. But it doesn't actually make it easier to continuously be vulnerable and show up.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun talk about connection and holding space for their long-distance girlfriend while she is sick and injured.

Through Daniela and Shaun's conversation, think about what it’s like when you’re disconnected from yourself or your relationship. Consider how gently and compassionately working toward connection can honor where you are at with your relationship.

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) share their experiences getting married and a decade later renewing their vows after rebirthing their relationship.

Hear Daniela say, “Even though we were young, we did our best to have a wedding that made sense to us” while Shaun says, “It was incredibly meaningful for us to recommit to ourselves, to our relationship and to our life as a choice.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun talk about co-creating beyond commitment as they continue to turn toward authenticity in their relationship.

Through Daniela and Shaun's conversation, think about how to stay true to yourself through the years as you each grow while allowing your relationship to grow and blossom, too. Consider the honoring that comes with deeply sharing in vulnerability and strength to renew and recommit to your relationship.

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) along with Shaun (he/his/him) shares her life without climax and the trauma and pain of feeling like she didn’t belong. She talks about the impact on her sense of self, and they talk about the impacts it had on their relationship.

Hear Daniela say, “I’m never going to experience climax. I'll just never have that. Maybe that's not for me. Maybe that's not the experience I'm going to have. Maybe I'm never going to belong in that way” while Shaun says, “I've witnessed your journey for much of it. And so while I have my own pain around it, I also witnessed your pain.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun reveal mindsets, tools, and techniques that have impacted their connection to sexuality and their turn toward being multiorgasmic.

Through Daniela and Shaun's conversation, think about how important sex and sexual expression is as an individual and within a relationship. Consider how healing through sexuality can affect your sense of self and deepening your love can reignite your relationship.

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore breaking the heteronormative choreography of “he comes first and sex is done” during their most recent sex practice. They also talk about integrating in their multiogasmic identities and how they got here.

Hear Daniela say, “I'm having so many orgasms and so many different types of orgasms that I can't count. I'm having spontaneous orgasms with no touch, no breath, no stimulation. I've gone from way over here to way over there” while Shaun says, “Bubbly. Laughing. Emotional. And we've been carrying that into our day-to-day.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun discuss how they experience their orgasm outside of the bedroom and what it takes to be multiorgasmic.

Through Daniela and Shaun's conversation, think about safety and surrender inside of your relationship. Consider how deep healing and emotional intimacy contribute to the vulnerability and expansion of sexual pleasure between the two of you.

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore being multiorgasmic while delving into the differences between climax and orgasm. They discuss self-pleasure and what makes it sacred and necessary for epic sex.

Hear Daniela say, “We're looking at the ceiling and having this conversation around the difference between climax, orgasm, and being orgasmic” while Shaun says, “When you say it's transcendent—you’re feeling it and then you know you're not really in your right mind—and the only way I can describe it is it's another orgasm without ejaculation.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun talk about peaks and valleys and masturbating in long term relationships.

Through Daniela and Shaun's conversation, think about pleasure, expansion, and surrender during your sexual experiences. Consider exploring the possibilities of being multiorgasmic in your own sacred self-pleasure practice.

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore the term polyfidelity to describe their ideal relationship structure. They discuss Daniela’s girlfriend and the literal definition of ménage à trois.

Hear Shaun define polyfidelity as “a form of non-monogamy and intimate relationship structure where all members are considered equal partners and agree to restrict sexual activity to only other members of the group” while Daniela says, “That's how I'm living. That's the direction I'm going in. I'm embodied in that and deep in my truth.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun talk about holding space for one another through defining and redefining their personal and relationship boundaries.

Through Daniela and Shaun's conversation, ponder what words or structures embody the values of your relationship. Consider how your needs can be met, how you can meet the needs of your partner(s), and what your relationship needs in order to thrive.

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) explore what it takes to do the work individually and together as they co-create their dynamic relationship. They discuss the magnetism and weight of authentically sharing their non-dominant relationship style and structure with others.

Tune in as Daniela and Shaun explore how a cock cage can turn up the sensitivity of the heart and mind.

Through Daniela and Shaun's conversation, think about what you consciously choose around decisions regarding your relationship. Consider how actively choosing empowers your relationship while falling into a default drives you into roles that may not be true for the two of you.

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) discuss the co-creation of their dynamic relationship structure. They explore definitions, expressions and situations that impact their sex, love, and relationship.

Hear Daniela say, “The dynamic aspect I feel our relationship holds is the great intention and consciousness to co-create what we want it to be in any given moment” while Shaun says, “We're still learning ourselves in this space, and we're still, at times, run by demons. Without a question we have to really dig deep to figure out why we're feeling the way we are.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun talk about attraction to and the involvement of a third person in their relationship and how they process it.

Through Daniela and Shaun's conversation, think about the container of your relationship. Consider how the boundaries of your relationship affect your connection, growth and transformation.

Daniela (pronouns she/her/hers) and Shaun (he/his/him) share the slow, delicious foreplay of dressing and undressing one another and watching one another strut. They explore sexting etiquette, dick pics, and consensual interactions.

Hear Shaun say, “When your partner is turned on…when they find that turn on…you don't need to go at it right away. But there's so much scarcity, right?” while Daniela says, “I can't help reemphasizing that when you explore self-pleasure and when you deepen your sexual connection to yourself, that sexual energy vibrates out and magnetizes other people.” Tune in as Daniela and Shaun talk about how your sexual energy is yours to do with what you will.

Through Daniela and Shaun's conversation, think about what happens when you slow down sexual interactions as you build desire. Consider how sexual energy you develop in your self-pleasure practice is yours and not owed to anyone, including your partner.