The Epic Couple's Journey

Daniela and Shaun share how they’ve moved toward reconnection and epic sex from a place of fear and depletion. They explore unhealthy patterns men and women absorb from society around sex. Listen as they talk about how intention and consciousness are needed for sexual agency and empowerment.

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Hear Shaun say, “I guess I just don't have another pattern. I didn't have anything else to follow. I didn't have a pattern that said to me this woman really wants to be here with me.” Listen as Daniela says, “I am grateful that in the sex life we have set up, it feels like a habit and a pattern now. We've rewired our expectations and our relationship where you and I don't say yes to sex unless we're ready to say yes to sex. And even so, sometimes we move forward with a ‘maybe,’ but we communicate, ‘Let's try this and we'll be open to it and see what happens’ knowing that it's a maybe and it can become a no and we will stop.” Tune in as they look at how to speak a “yes,” “no,” and a “maybe” in your sex life.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation reflect on what kind of empowering sexual narrative you’d like to create and live from. Explore what sex means for you and what you desire to experience in your sex life.

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The most vulnerable episode of the Epic Couples Podcast to date.



Daniela and Shaun explore why they can’t seem to get it together despite having tools, practices, and resources that can bring them from where they are to where they want to be. They talk about fear—fear of being vulnerable, fear of rejection, fear of loss, and fear of change. Listen as they discuss how fear affects the dynamic of a relationship and prevents connection and growth.

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Here Daniela say, “I think it all comes down to fear of loss. it's so ironic because you're with your partner because you are capable of being vulnerable with them, at least in the beginning. This person knows you the best and should understand your vulnerabilities and be the most compassionate around them.” Listen as Shaun says, “There's that fear of being vulnerable in front of your partner and telling them something that might upset them or might disappoint them or that might cause judgment.” Tune in as they look at how to hold your inner child and by vulnerable with your partner at the same time.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation reflect on how fear may tie you up from asking your partner for what you need and from offering what it is they need. Explore the ways in which you can hold your fear and be brave while taking a step forward toward your partner.

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The most vulnerable episode of the Epic Couples Podcast to date.



Daniela and Shaun explore why they can’t seem to get it together despite having tools, practices, and resources that can bring them from where they are to where they want to be. They talk about fear—fear of being vulnerable, fear of rejection, fear of loss, and fear of change. Listen as they discuss how fear affects the dynamic of a relationship and prevents connection and growth.

For an Eye Gazing guided audio you can do with your partner, go to epiccouplespodcast.com/eyegazing and press play on this 5-minute guided audio.

Here Daniela say, “I think it all comes down to fear of loss. it's so ironic because you're with your partner because you are capable of being vulnerable with them, at least in the beginning. This person knows you the best and should understand your vulnerabilities and be the most compassionate around them.” Listen as Shaun says, “There's that fear of being vulnerable in front of your partner and telling them something that might upset them or might disappoint them or that might cause judgment.” Tune in as they look at how to hold your inner child and by vulnerable with your partner at the same time.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation reflect on how fear may tie you up from asking your partner for what you need and from offering what it is they need. Explore the ways in which you can hold your fear and be brave while taking a step forward toward your partner.

For more info go to EpicCouplesPodcast.com.

Daniela and Shaun talk about how difficult it is to set down priorities and responsibilities to relax. They share how their weekly sex practice offers an opportunity to feel safe and to tune in to connect to one another. Listen as they discuss Shaun’s perception of happiness as a weakness and Daniela’s inability to relax.

For an Eye Gazing guided audio you can do with your partner, go to epiccouplespodcast.com/eyegazing and press play on this 5-minute guided audio.

Hear Daniela say, “Time with you recalibrated my nervous system so I was capable of setting down these things that would keep my mind busy. My body felt safe and grounded and secure. It felt happy and connected and loved, so I didn't have my brain running in circles.” Listen as Shaun says, “It feels like happiness is a setup.” Tune in as they look at the attraction between fusers and isolators as a state of magnetism in relationships.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation reflect on when you allow yourself time to relax and how you can set up safety, love and acceptance in your sex life. Explore the ways in which you may have resistance to being happy in your life and where worthiness blocks connection, growth, and transformation in your relationship.

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Shaun shares his past experiences as a scum master, and together Daniela and he discuss the applications for relationships. They talk about the importance of defining your priority list and getting real about where your relationship is on that list. Listen as they discuss the tangible things they do to connect.



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Hear Shaun say, “In a former life I used to be a scrum master. It's not as exciting as it sounds. There's no sex dungeons or anything like that” while Daniela says, “Why is it so difficult to hold your own boundaries?” Tune in as they look at roadblocks in relationships and why holding boundaries leads to trust.



Through Shaun and Daniela’s conversation reflect on your priorities, setting up healthy boundaries, and building a strong foundation for trust in your relationship. Detail ways in which you can connect with your partner in as little as five minutes a day, and begin to consider areas where you might need more skills or support around communication, deep healing, and sexiness in your partnership.

For a free Holding Space Training guided audio you can do with your partner, go to epiccouplespodcast.com/holdingspace.

Daniela and Shaun share their experiences around being drained and depleted after a family trip that left no room of their relationship then and now. They explore how to save energy or how to generate energy at the end of the day for your relationship when you’ve given everything to work and kids. Listen as they discuss taking time for self and making your relationship a priority.

Hear Shaun say, “You take for granted that your partner is always going to be there,” while Daniela says, “What would it look like to save enough energy at the end of the day for your relationship?” Tune in as they look at obstacles for connection with your partner and being present in your relationship.


Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation reflect on barriers to presence with your partner and the people and things you allow to deplete your resources. Explore the ways in which you can prioritize your relationship higher, make space for yourself, and for practicing love of your partner.

For a free Holding Space Training guided audio you can do with your partner, go to epiccouplespodcast.com/holdingspace.

Daniela and Shaun talk about relationships as being constantly in the pursuit of your partner's truth. They explore how your partner brings out both the best in you and the worst in you. Listen as they discuss the challenge with arguments and the problem when couples don’t have fight at all.

Hear Shaun say, “There are a lot of arguments in a relationship where you're both right” while Daniela says, “When your worst comes out, that's really awesome because at least it's conscious, and you can deal with it. You can grow from it. You can heal it.” Tune in as they look at the transformation that happens when you see your partner as they truly are.


Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation remember how different life experiences, trauma, and voices inform and are involved in your conversations and arguments. Whether you are aware of them or not, holding space for your partner’s deepest truth to emerge is the key to bringing out the best in them.

For a free Holding Space Training guided audio you can do with your partner, go to epiccouplespodcast.com/holdingspace.

Daniela and Shaun talk about relationships as being constantly in the pursuit of your partner's truth. They explore how your partner brings out both the best in you and the worst in you. Listen as they discuss the challenge with arguments and the problem when couples don’t have fight at all.

Hear Shaun say, “There are a lot of arguments in a relationship where you're both right” while Daniela says, “When your worst comes out, that's really awesome because at least it's conscious, and you can deal with it. You can grow from it. You can heal it.” Tune in as they look at the transformation that happens when you see your partner as they truly are.


Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation remember how different life experiences, trauma, and voices inform and are involved in your conversations and arguments. Whether you are aware of them or not, holding space for your partner’s deepest truth to emerge is the key to bringing out the best in them.

For a free Holding Space Training guided audio you can do with your partner, go to epiccouplespodcast.com/holdingspace.

Daniela and Shaun talk about the benefits of containers and how to hold space for one another so they can safely express emotions and their sexuality. They also explore Tantra as a spiritual process for going down and in to the body for connecting to the divine. Listen as they also discuss the complexities and protections of the human brain that require strong intention and presence.

Hear Shaun say, “I put my pain in my pocket and then I listen to you” so he can hold space and not take Daniela’s emotions personally. In return, Daniela asks, “What allows you to feel safe expressing yourself?” Tune in as they look at what containers are, how to create them, and how to hold space for your partner and for yourself.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation remember the key to feeling safe is an environment of non-judgment and a space of love and acceptance. Whether you do this in meditation while observing your sensations, emotions, and thoughts or with your partner by listening and offering a space for their deepest truth to emerge, holding space inside a container is key for connecting and expressing freely.

For more go to EpicCouplesPodcast.com.

For a free Holding Space Training guided audio you can do with your partner, go to epiccouplespodcast.com/holdingspace.

Daniela and Shaun talk about the benefits of containers and how to hold space for one another so they can safely express emotions and their sexuality. They also explore Tantra as a spiritual process for going down and in to the body for connecting to the divine. Listen as they also discuss the complexities and protections of the human brain that require strong intention and presence.

Hear Shaun say, “I put my pain in my pocket and then I listen to you” so he can hold space and not take Daniela’s emotions personally. In return, Daniela asks, “What allows you to feel safe expressing yourself?” Tune in as they look at what containers are, how to create them, and how to hold space for your partner and for yourself.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation remember the key to feeling safe is an environment of non-judgment and a space of love and acceptance. Whether you do this in meditation while observing your sensations, emotions, and thoughts or with your partner by listening and offering a space for their deepest truth to emerge, holding space inside a container is key for connecting and expressing freely.

For more go to EpicCouplesPodcast.com.