The Epic Couple's Journey

Daniela and Shaun discuss finding the fun in relationships and in life by considering what to say YES to and when to say NO. They explore the blocks and voices that are trying to protect them and keep them in their routine. Listen as they explore how to acknowledge these blocks and listen to these voices so there is space to say yes to run and to thriving.

Hear Daniela say, “You’re caught in the cycle. You’re caught in the routine. How does anyone find themselves in a space to realize they’re unhappy?” while Shaun says, “It’s about just saying yes…What we forget to do in our relationships is to just say yes to things that are outside of the routine.” Tune in as they share how to ask questions, say yes, and make your life epic.


Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation remember how your partner and you used to spend time together in the beginning when you were just beginning to date. See if you can stop—just for a moment—to tune into what would make you happy and how you can listen to your whims and just say yes. Then be curious about how listening to what you really want can lead to feeling alive and connected in your life and to your partner.


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Daniela and Shaun discuss finding the fun in relationships and in life by considering what to say YES to and when to say NO. They explore the blocks and voices that are trying to protect them and keep them in their routine. Listen as they explore how to acknowledge these blocks and listen to these voices so there is space to say yes to run and to thriving.

Hear Daniela say, “You’re caught in the cycle. You’re caught in the routine. How does anyone find themselves in a space to realize they’re unhappy?” while Shaun says, “It’s about just saying yes…What we forget to do in our relationships is to just say yes to things that are outside of the routine.” Tune in as they share how to ask questions, say yes, and make your life epic.


Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation remember how your partner and you used to spend time together in the beginning when you were just beginning to date. See if you can stop—just for a moment—to tune into what would make you happy and how you can listen to your whims and just say yes. Then be curious about how listening to what you really want can lead to feeling alive and connected in your life and to your partner.


For more go to EpicCouplesPodcast.com.

Daniela and Shaun each share their self-pleasure practices and how those practices influence their relationship. Listen as they explore how the way in which you start masturbating affects how you have you feel about pleasure and sex with your partner. 

Hear Daniela say, “So many people get stuck in a particular position or a particular way of climaxing or orgasming because of how they started as a kid” while Shaun says, “Maintaining a relationship with yourself is equally as important as maintaining a relationship with your partner. The happier you come into your relationship the more you are likely to help mend your relationship or make it better, allow it to grow, listen to your partner, and meet their needs if they’re unhappy.” Tune in as they discuss the benefits of playing, exploring and letting go to connect with yourself and with your pleasure.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation remember how you first started exploring your body and your pleasure and how it felt. Be open to whether there’s a connection between how you self-pleasure and how you have sex. Then be curious about how a transformation in your connection to your sexual self can benefit your relationship. 

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Daniela and Shaun each share their core wounds and what it’s like trying to meet one another’s needs. Listen as they talk about how core wounds come about, why it is you are attracted to your partner, and how to heal within your relationship.

Hear Daniela say, “There’s something from your history, your past, your childhood, that invites that particular fight or argument to be so tender” while Shaun says, “Healing that core wound is an ongoing task. You’re never really at the end of that journey, but it does get easier the more you practice it.” Tune in as they discuss how to be conscious of your partner’s wounds and your own and how to engage in a practice of deep healing.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation, consider reoccurring arguments in your relationship to find core wounds at play and how your past affects your relationship. See the opportunities you have for healing when comparing the dynamics with your caregivers and now between your partner and you. 

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Daniela and Shaun explore coming to your relationship when you’re not at full capacity or when your partner isn’t at full capacity as well as how to give and receive love. Listen as they talk about what happens when Daniela isn’t fully emotionally, mentally and physically present in their relationship and what it feels like for Shaun’s love language and requests to be ignored.

Hear Shaun say, “How do I engage you—or do I engage you—when you’re less than 100% capacity?” while Daniela says, “This is the foundation of why most relationships aren’t happy, because they aren’t speaking each other’s love languages.” Tune in as they discuss slowing down in order to avoid curt reactions and filling themselves up with love by meeting their own needs.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation, consider how much time and energy you make available for your relationship and whether you’re putting everyone else’s needs above your own. Think about how you can slow down your life to be more present for your partner and for yourself to live and be the way you want to be.

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In this interactive episode, drink every time you hear Shaun say “Valentimes Day” instead of “Valentines Day,” and keep score of what Daniela feels pressure around.

Then listen as Daniela and Shaun talk about expectations around Valentine’s Day and what they prefer the intentions to be. Lean in as they explore what’s in the way of getting support when your relationship isn’t what you want it to be and what you can do to find your way to becoming an epic couple.

Hear Daniela say, “There’s deep healing to be done in the relationship to get to better, deeper, more pleasurable sex for both people but there are so few resources to help you do that deep healing” while Shaun says, “I can only go as fast or slow as my partner.”  Tune in as they discuss scapegoats, obstacles and fears blocking you from the connection, sex, and life you want.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation, consider how you practice love with your partner through more than just words and actions. Next, think about how you want to feel when you’re with your partner—what you want your days and nights to be like—and look at, just for a moment, what holds you back from having exactly what it is you desire.

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Daniela and Shaun explore what they would each do with a secondary partner and what benefits and drawbacks there might be for their relationship. They talk about the perception of time as the limitation for connection in relationships and how being busy is a status symbol in society.

Hear Daniela say, “If you’re not doing the work with your primary partner, what makes you think you’re doing the work with your secondary partner?” while Shaun says, “I can tell you after having done some of the work—not all of it—the byproduct of doing the work is beautiful.” Listen as they discuss relationships as a container for healing and growth if you’re willing to be vulnerable and brave.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation, playfully explore what you might desire from a secondary partner. Then turn around, look at your partner and consider what you can experience together.

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Daniela and Shaun share their thoughts and experiences around penis-in-vagina sex including what happens when pain and discomfort arise. They explore what happens when they don’t take advantage of spontaneous desire and why uncomfortable sex can be beneficial in the long term.

Hear Shaun say, “If you have this lofty expectation that sex will be better than the last time, or the same, it leads to disappointment” while Daniela says, “In order to get to pleasure, sometimes you gotta travel the path of purification, which means you have to do some of the healing and some of the feeling around it not being super awesome every single time.” Listen as they discuss the path of purification and the path of pleasure and how deep healing is possible while honoring their boundaries.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation, explore your own unspoken expectations of sex and what stories come up for you around sex. Consider what holds you back from being vulnerable in the bedroom and what you desire from sex with your partner.

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Daniela and Shaun talk about what’s on the sex menu, what it’s like in the beginning, how the options become narrower, and what their menu looks like now. They explore why the options for sexual acts change over time in a long term relationship or marriage and what it sex feels like with different “menus” in place.

Hear Shaun say, “How easy is it to forget those butterflies in your stomach of when you first met your partner?” while Daniela says, “You want a comfort level, a certain stability, a certain safety, so you set the menu to 5-7 sexual positions, if you’re lucky, and 3-5 sexual acts.” Hear as they discuss how sex felt mechanical and like a chore for them and what it takes to deepen sexual connection.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation, feel for yourself what the specials are on your sex menu—what your go-to favorites are—as well as where you might expand and deepen sexual connection with your partner. Consider what holds you back and what the benefits might be of working toward epic sex.

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Daniela and Shaun talk about balancing individual needs with the needs of their relationship and how to let your partner know you need to talk. They explore how to have difficult conversations and the challenge of expecting attention and acknowledgement when you’re not speaking your partner’s love language.

Hear Daniela say, “Cultural conditioning has told me that’s what a mom does. She cooks, she cleans she keeps things organized and on task and that’s what a husband wants from his wife that’s what children want for their mom and that’s completely inaccurate for our family” while Shaun says, “What can I offer you tonight?” Hear as they explore conflict in and out of their relationship and personal value at work meetings.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation, feel for yourself when is the best time to talk with your partner and how you can connect with vulnerability and sensitivity. Consider your priorities as you balance between your individual needs and your relationship’s needs while managing a household and other responsibilities. What do you need to thrive?

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