The Epic Couple's Journey

Daniela and Shaun explore miscommunication, cultural conditioning, and the art of listening and hearing. They talk specifically about how men and women have been taught to believe that all men want is sex while discussing ways to reprogram men and women with awareness, role modeling, and holding space.

Hear Daniela say, “This is my body and I don’t want to hug anyone and that’s okay” while Shaun says, “You cannot fix your partner. Don’t try. Just listen.” Hear as they share what they’re trying to teach their kids and what they’re trying to learn for themselves in their relationship.

Through Daniela and Shaun’s conversation, feel for yourself what messages you have received from media and society that aren’t true for you. Consider the idea that your partner’s pain—while you exacerbate it—is not about you. You are not the origin of their pain, and the idea that holding space is the greatest service you can provide for your partner and the people in your life.

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Daniela and Shaun talk about defining sex, scheduling sex versus a sex practice, and how to know if the sex was good. Specifically they explore what their sex practice looks and feels like while discussing what questions to ask in a post-sex recap.

Hear Shaun say, “I don’t own any piece of your sexuality. I don’t own a single shred of your sexuality. Just like I don’t any other body part of yours” while Daniela says, “Scheduling sex puts sex in the chore column, and it feels better once you’re done than actually being in the act of having sex.” Listen as they share their experiences with kids walking in on them while they’re having sex, the power of a gentle intention, and how to shift Blow Job Tuesdays into a sex practice.

Through their conversation explore for yourself what it would be like to have a marriage caseworker, what kind of a container you need to have epic sex, and what can happen if you have sex when you’re not ready. Be inspired to ask for consent, to make a request, and to co-create connected sex with your partner.

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Daniela and Shaun discuss their sexual desires as a couple, including having a deeper connection, exploring their sexualities, and experiencing erotic connection together. Specifically they talk about the benefits of quantity and quality in addition to the definition of sex. 

Hear Shaun say, “In order to gain erotic fulfillment, in order to get that growth you want, you have to be vulnerable with your partner” while Daniela asks, “What can I do and address in myself so I can get more pussy love?” Listen as they share their experiences with giving consent and having sex when they weren’t ready and how if they feel safe and connected, nothing they do could be wrong.

Through their conversation explore for yourself what desires you have with your partner around sexuality and how you define sex, including when sex starts and when sex ends. Be inspired to get vulnerable with your partner to experience epic sex and an epic connection to co-create an epic life together.

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Daniela and Shaun talk about their experience creating a couple bubble as inspired by Layla Martin and Stan Tatkin in his book Wired for Love. Specifically they talk about what it would feel like to have connection in their relationship along with how they each of them contribute to more and to less connection in their relationship. 

Hear Shaun say, “Especially when you’re stressed—mostly when you’re stressed—you don’t absorb what I’m telling you emotionally. You might absorb them factually, but you don’t absorb what I’m telling as truth,” and Daniela says, “I will see you as an ally.”

Listen as they discuss Tatkin’s labels for different attachment styles such as anchor, island, and wave, in addition to their exploration of the differences between listening and really hearing one another.

Through their conversation explore for yourself what qualities you want and need in your relationship, imagine where you overlap and where you don’t with your partner, and be inspired to explore your unmet needs to create a couple bubble for your relationship. 

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Daniela and Shaun explore happiness and their struggles with fun, privilege, and fear. 

They talk about what’s holding them back from having fun, experiencing happiness, and expressing joy.

Hear Shaun say, ““I’m just not a fun guy” when Daniela ask, “What could be possible if you believed there is an abundance of happiness?” Experience how they ponder happiness as the ability to see truth behind things, the reality behind things, or to accept the reality behind things.

Through their conversation explore for yourself what makes you happy, what blocks and beliefs might stand in the way of you experiencing happiness, and what might be possible with greater comfort in feeling and expressing emotions.

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Daniela and Shaun explore what’s missing from couples counseling while sharing their experiences with sex therapists, orgasmic meditations (OMing) coaches, psychologists, and life coaches. 

Shaun says “When I hear ‘tantra’ my penis stands up a little bit,” and so he asks Daniela, “What is tantra?” Daniela talks about how tantra is unique in its philosophy of going “down and in” and from a tantric perspective, divinity is in everything, consciousness is in everything, wisdom is in everything.

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Daniela and Shaun explore the difficulties of celebrating and receiving compliments in addition to how our culture reveres the struggle and shames thriving with even in sex, love, and relationships. They discuss how to hold space for your partner, the differences between frustration and resentment, and how to give yourself love, safety, and belonging.

Daniela talks about giving up a lot of herself to cultural norms of domesticity to be a particular type of woman, spouse, and mother in an attempt to earn worthiness, love, safety, and belonging.

Hear Shaun say, “I’m going through a little phase called this world fucking sucks” and “having sex with you and seeing you naked is the happiest I get.”

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Daniela and Shaun discuss the importance of celebrations, initiating sex in new ways, and the importance of play for sexual connection and satisfaction. 

They explore blocks to asking your partner for what you want, following their whims with body paint and donuts, and second guessing your partner’s desire for you. Hear Daniela say, “I love you, and my body responds. I can feel the desire in my body” as her insight into how love goggles work, and hear Shaun say, “I’d like to have sex. How can we get there?” 

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Daniela and Shaun explore handling bachelor parties inside long term relationships along with the elements of communication and trust that are involved. 

They discuss the dynamics of relationships at any given moment, cultural forays into non-monogamy, and the complexities of communication with your partner.

Hear Daniela ask, “Why would you need to have boundaries with strippers?” while Shaun talks about creating bumper stickers that say, “It’s not cheating if it’s condoned.”

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Daniela and Shaun discuss how to make the reptilian, or primal brain, feel safe for connection and sex, how tricking your brain may not be enough, and how self-awareness is key.

They explore the effectiveness of their weekend sex practice, and how each of them thinks they initiate sex. Hear Daniela tell Shaun, “I want to have sex. How can we get me there?” while Shaun shares the fear that sends him into flight and freeze.

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