I find it fascinating when people think they can tell someone to “get over it” or “move on” and actually think it will work. It’s ultimately an act of superiority (“What’s wrong with you that you can’t get past this?”), which is triggered by an underlying insecurity. Maybe that person struggles with their own ability to deal with disappointment, so they make themselves feel better by putting down another person’s coping mechanism. We all have insecurities based on our belief systems. Belittling or shaming does nothing to “convince” them your way of seeing or doing things is better, so when you catch yourself doing this, STOP.

Everything in life is seen through our own lens. This perception is based on our beliefs, which is how we form opinions. It’s all subjective and there is no absolute right or wrong. The same situation can be viewed completely differently based on each person’s life experiences, so it’s futile to think you can make someone see things your way. This can be very difficult for people to accept because we’re so attached to our way of thinking… it’s part of who we are. But that resistance keeps us stuck and frustrated. Nothing new can get in, so we continue to look at life through our own confirmation bias, enforcing our limited perceptions which support our limited opinions and maintain our limited view of life.

Learn how to accept life as it is, and stop trying to change the perceptions, opinions and actions of others. It’s a losing battle.