The GOOD Influence - HER

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world," Mahatma Gandhi.

WOW...DID you catch the title?

Yup, a High School Friend who I supported through thick and thin...literally...shouted out across the High School cafeteria...in fact, it was a set-up so everyone could laugh at my expense...HE said, "Hey, Rhonda skip a meal."  OMG!!!

I had a second burrito in my hand heading for my mouth to take a big bite.  I had no idea a group of boys was watching me eat. I thought I was discrete taking a second burrito so my cover was blown.

What hurt was that the comment came from a boy I trusted, praised, and supported.  This CAUSED me to have serious trust issues and to cut off my emotions....NO MORE FEELING ANYTHING UNLESS I HAD TOTAL CONTROL.

I have an eating disorder. I love Food! I am a GLUTTON. I used to be bulimic. IT'S BEEN DECADES SINCE I HAVE DONE THAT and I AM SO PROUD OF MY RECOVERY!

I was a chubby child. I have always been warned that I was going to be a BIG FAT BLACK WOMAN (like that is the worst thing in the world to be.) The adverse effect of being told that is that I am NOT a BIG FAT BLACK WOMAN...I am a size 0.

I have what many people are suffering from today is "FOOD INSECURITY." I was never sure if there was ever going to be enough food on the table for me and my family growing up. I am embarrassed to share this, but that is the truth. We struggled with housing, food, and money....we were not the "The Brady Bunch" that I IDEALIZED with a maid named Alice who cooked and cleaned.  Don't get me wrong there was love but a lot of struggle that I tried to hide to be the perfect girl. 

So, being a GLUTTON WITH FOOD was now a journey of eating for pleasure and cutting off feelings with and for humans...I did not want to feel any emotions.

"GLUTTONY"...THE FOURTH ON MY LIST OF THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS...(Latin: gula) is the overindulgence and overconsumption of food, money, sex, etc... to the point of excess waste. The root word comes from the Latin gluttire, to gulp down or swallow.

So, I was NOT feeding my soul or nourishing my spirit. I am being this candid because I know, I just know that I will connect with you on a deeper level so you can see that you can recover, learn to love yourself, forgive others, and live the life of your dreams or better! This is how I believe I am a "GOOD" influence in your life by sharing my truth.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJL50-vRgBGYJGqBTVUzeLw
http://www.thegoodinfluenceher.buzzsprout.com
https://www.facebook.com/TheGOODinfluenceHER
https://www.instagram.com/thegoodinfluenceher/
https://afsp.org/chapter/give-back-partners
#thegoodinfluenceherpodcast
#rhondathegoodinfluenceher

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world," Mahatma Gandhi.

WOW...DID you catch the title?

Yup, a High School Friend who I supported through thick and thin...literally...shouted out across the High School cafeteria...in fact, it was a set-up so everyone could laugh at my expense...HE said, "Hey, Rhonda skip a meal."  OMG!!!

I had a second burrito in my hand heading for my mouth to take a big bite.  I had no idea a group of boys was watching me eat. I thought I was discrete taking a second burrito so my cover was blown.

What hurt was that the comment came from a boy I trusted, praised, and supported.  This CAUSED me to have serious trust issues and to cut off my emotions....NO MORE FEELING ANYTHING UNLESS I HAD TOTAL CONTROL.

I have an eating disorder. I love Food! I am a GLUTTON. I used to be bulimic. IT'S BEEN DECADES SINCE I HAVE DONE THAT and I AM SO PROUD OF MY RECOVERY!

I was a chubby child. I have always been warned that I was going to be a BIG FAT BLACK WOMAN (like that is the worst thing in the world to be.) The adverse effect of being told that is that I am NOT a BIG FAT BLACK WOMAN...I am a size 0.

I have what many people are suffering from today is "FOOD INSECURITY." I was never sure if there was ever going to be enough food on the table for me and my family growing up. I am embarrassed to share this, but that is the truth. We struggled with housing, food, and money....we were not the "The Brady Bunch" that I IDEALIZED with a maid named Alice who cooked and cleaned.  Don't get me wrong there was love but a lot of struggle that I tried to hide to be the perfect girl. 

So, being a GLUTTON WITH FOOD was now a journey of eating for pleasure and cutting off feelings with and for humans...I did not want to feel any emotions.

"GLUTTONY"...THE FOURTH ON MY LIST OF THE SEVEN DEADLY SINS...(Latin: gula) is the overindulgence and overconsumption of food, money, sex, etc... to the point of excess waste. The root word comes from the Latin gluttire, to gulp down or swallow.

So, I was NOT feeding my soul or nourishing my spirit. I am being this candid because I know, I just know that I will connect with you on a deeper level so you can see that you can recover, learn to love yourself, forgive others, and live the life of your dreams or better! This is how I believe I am a "GOOD" influence in your life by sharing my truth.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJL50-vRgBGYJGqBTVUzeLw
http://www.thegoodinfluenceher.buzzsprout.com
https://www.facebook.com/TheGOODinfluenceHER
https://www.instagram.com/thegoodinfluenceher/
https://afsp.org/chapter/give-back-partners
#thegoodinfluenceherpodcast
#rhondathegoodinfluenceher

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world," Mahatma Gandhi. 

Hi! and WELCOME BACK! It's Rhonda The GOOD Influence - HER. 

Greed (Latin: avaritia),  a sin of desire.  greed an artificial, rapacious desire and pursuit of material possessions.

I know you have all heard this saying ..."Less is more and MORE is LESS"...more or less RIGHT...LOL.

In the past, in my immature mind, I would rationalize AWAY this saying to be WRONG!!!... How could you not more want and need more and more and as much money as possible...RIGHT?  AND, LESS of anything can leave you UNPREPARED AND INSECURE. AND, I would give you a laundry list...food, money, homes, clothes, cars, time, life...sounds right...to a 16 year-old.

SO, MY RATIONAL...was to live by the motto..."MORE IS MORE AND MORE IS BETTER AND GREAT!  LESS IS DUMB AND STUPID."

I was greedy.  Although, in my mind, I felt like I was being practical.  I don't come from money and I saw, experienced, and lived by putting pennies together to make a dollar.  Remember that saying make a "dollar out of 15 cents...lol.

Let's talk about how greed is really about you not feeling that you are enough because you are!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJL50-vRgBGYJGqBTVUzeLw
http://www.thegoodinfluenceher.buzzsprout.com
https://www.facebook.com/TheGOODinfluenceHER
https://www.instagram.com/thegoodinfluenceher/
https://afsp.org/chapter/give-back-partners
#thegoodinfluenceherpodcast
#rhondathegoodinfluenceher

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world," Mahatma Gandhi. 

Hi! and WELCOME BACK! It's Rhonda The GOOD Influence - HER. 

Greed (Latin: avaritia),  a sin of desire.  greed an artificial, rapacious desire and pursuit of material possessions.

I know you have all heard this saying ..."Less is more and MORE is LESS"...more or less RIGHT...LOL.

In the past, in my immature mind, I would rationalize AWAY this saying to be WRONG!!!... How could you not more want and need more and more and as much money as possible...RIGHT?  AND, LESS of anything can leave you UNPREPARED AND INSECURE. AND, I would give you a laundry list...food, money, homes, clothes, cars, time, life...sounds right...to a 16 year-old.

SO, MY RATIONAL...was to live by the motto..."MORE IS MORE AND MORE IS BETTER AND GREAT!  LESS IS DUMB AND STUPID."

I was greedy.  Although, in my mind, I felt like I was being practical.  I don't come from money and I saw, experienced, and lived by putting pennies together to make a dollar.  Remember that saying make a "dollar out of 15 cents...lol.

Let's talk about how greed is really about you not feeling that you are enough because you are!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJL50-vRgBGYJGqBTVUzeLw
http://www.thegoodinfluenceher.buzzsprout.com
https://www.facebook.com/TheGOODinfluenceHER
https://www.instagram.com/thegoodinfluenceher/
https://afsp.org/chapter/give-back-partners
#thegoodinfluenceherpodcast
#rhondathegoodinfluenceher

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world," Mahatma Gandhi. 

Hi! and WELCOME BACK! It's Rhonda The GOOD Influence - HER. I really appreciate you!
Thank you for buying my little green book; 10% of the proceeds of "The GOOD Influencer - HER", "The Unbreakable Person" goes toward research and education to the AMERICAN FOUNDATION FOR SUICIDE PREVENTION.

I bet when the word Envy first pops into your mind you think of "GIRLS BEING JEALOUS." 

Ok, while that is true, to me that is surface stuff and silly stuff....being envious is a much DEEPER fight within yourself...YES! THAT IS RIGHT WITHIN YOURSELF and ME TOO! 

I believe if you are envious you are experiencing self-hatred" and "self-loathing." I will admit that I have been envious. Of course, I have been. Honestly, we all have been envious in this world of comparisons that we live in. We are all constantly fed images of what is perfect, right, wrong, ugly, poor, rich, etc.....we can't help it. 

But, it is HOW YOU PROCESS that information and what you DO with it.

You have CHOICES!  You can feel badly about yourself and let it dissolve you and make you feel like nothing. You can let it eat you up inside and become very hateful and BEGIN the journey of controlling your environment. Or, you can feel badly and decide to WORK on yourself to gain that advantage.  Or, you can NOT LET it affect you at all...that one is tuff (this is Maslow's Level 5 of Self-Actualization.)

WOW...ENVY IS DEEP TROUBLE.

So, I hope you listen to discover hope to get rid of being envious.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJL50-vRgBGYJGqBTVUzeLw
http://www.thegoodinfluenceher.buzzsprout.com
https://www.facebook.com/TheGOODinfluenceHER
https://www.instagram.com/thegoodinfluenceher/
https://afsp.org/chapter/give-back-partners
#thegoodinfluenceherpodcast
#rhondathegoodinfluenceher

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world," Mahatma Gandhi. 

Hi! and WELCOME BACK! It's Rhonda The GOOD Influence - HER. I really appreciate you!
Thank you for buying my little green book; 10% of the proceeds of "The GOOD Influencer - HER", "The Unbreakable Person" goes toward research and education to the AMERICAN FOUNDATION FOR SUICIDE PREVENTION.

I bet when the word Envy first pops into your mind you think of "GIRLS BEING JEALOUS." 

Ok, while that is true, to me that is surface stuff and silly stuff....being envious is a much DEEPER fight within yourself...YES! THAT IS RIGHT WITHIN YOURSELF and ME TOO! 

I believe if you are envious you are experiencing self-hatred" and "self-loathing." I will admit that I have been envious. Of course, I have been. Honestly, we all have been envious in this world of comparisons that we live in. We are all constantly fed images of what is perfect, right, wrong, ugly, poor, rich, etc.....we can't help it. 

But, it is HOW YOU PROCESS that information and what you DO with it.

You have CHOICES!  You can feel badly about yourself and let it dissolve you and make you feel like nothing. You can let it eat you up inside and become very hateful and BEGIN the journey of controlling your environment. Or, you can feel badly and decide to WORK on yourself to gain that advantage.  Or, you can NOT LET it affect you at all...that one is tuff (this is Maslow's Level 5 of Self-Actualization.)

WOW...ENVY IS DEEP TROUBLE.

So, I hope you listen to discover hope to get rid of being envious.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJL50-vRgBGYJGqBTVUzeLw
http://www.thegoodinfluenceher.buzzsprout.com
https://www.facebook.com/TheGOODinfluenceHER
https://www.instagram.com/thegoodinfluenceher/
https://afsp.org/chapter/give-back-partners
#thegoodinfluenceherpodcast
#rhondathegoodinfluenceher

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world," Mahatma Gandhi. 

Hi! and WELCOME BACK! It's Rhonda The GOOD Influence - HER. Thanks again for finding me on Spotify and Podchaser. The new world of podcasting is just so vast and ever-expanding.

We are diving into Part One of Season 2..."The Seven Deadly Sins"....and we begin with "PRIDE"

I want to ask you, "have you ever been in a conversation with someone and it turns out that you are NOT having a conversation BUT that you have become an audience member?"...LOL.  That has happened to me so many times.  And, you THEN find yourself standing there and just stuck for minutes on end that seem like an hour of listening to that SAME someone talk about themselves and more about themselves. And.... they get you to AGREE that what they are saying about themselves is "REMARKABLE," "TRUE," AND..."FASCINATING AND MAGICAL!"  And, THEN you find yourself promoting that person as an exist strategy to get out of that conversation.  BUT, that fails...UGH!  Yes, these are "Energy Vampires"...draining your daily battery...slurping away your vitality.  And, when they finally walk away from you they are so filled up with positivity leaving you abandoned with your feelings and emotions totally depleted of all your electrolytes...and here is another... AND...YOU ARE PROBABLY UPSET TOO!

This is what happens when you have a "run-in" with a prideful person...this "Pride" working at its very best. So, we are going to talk about why those "Energy Vampires" do that and how they are shaping their reality that they live in with your words that they get you to SAY and ACT by....this is powerful because our words and what we say can shape the reality we live in.  Let's explore why....here we go.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJL50-vRgBGYJGqBTVUzeLw
http://www.thegoodinfluenceher.buzzsprout.com
https://www.facebook.com/TheGOODinfluenceHER
https://www.instagram.com/thegoodinfluenceher/
https://afsp.org/chapter/give-back-partners
#thegoodinfluenceherpodcast
#rhondathegoodinfluenceher

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world," Mahatma Gandhi. 

Hi! and WELCOME BACK! It's Rhonda The GOOD Influence - HER. Thanks again for finding me on Spotify and Podchaser. The new world of podcasting is just so vast and ever-expanding.

We are diving into Part One of Season 2..."The Seven Deadly Sins"....and we begin with "PRIDE"

I want to ask you, "have you ever been in a conversation with someone and it turns out that you are NOT having a conversation BUT that you have become an audience member?"...LOL.  That has happened to me so many times.  And, you THEN find yourself standing there and just stuck for minutes on end that seem like an hour of listening to that SAME someone talk about themselves and more about themselves. And.... they get you to AGREE that what they are saying about themselves is "REMARKABLE," "TRUE," AND..."FASCINATING AND MAGICAL!"  And, THEN you find yourself promoting that person as an exist strategy to get out of that conversation.  BUT, that fails...UGH!  Yes, these are "Energy Vampires"...draining your daily battery...slurping away your vitality.  And, when they finally walk away from you they are so filled up with positivity leaving you abandoned with your feelings and emotions totally depleted of all your electrolytes...and here is another... AND...YOU ARE PROBABLY UPSET TOO!

This is what happens when you have a "run-in" with a prideful person...this "Pride" working at its very best. So, we are going to talk about why those "Energy Vampires" do that and how they are shaping their reality that they live in with your words that they get you to SAY and ACT by....this is powerful because our words and what we say can shape the reality we live in.  Let's explore why....here we go.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJL50-vRgBGYJGqBTVUzeLw
http://www.thegoodinfluenceher.buzzsprout.com
https://www.facebook.com/TheGOODinfluenceHER
https://www.instagram.com/thegoodinfluenceher/
https://afsp.org/chapter/give-back-partners
#thegoodinfluenceherpodcast
#rhondathegoodinfluenceher

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world," Mahatma Gandhi.

Hi! And, WELCOME BACK! It's Rhonda The GOOD Influence - HER. I am thrilled to be back.  I had a nice restful break. I hope you did too. A lot of great things happened as I kept making those incremental steps. I wrote a book. YUP! It is the first edition of this podcast, "The GOOD Influence - HER, "The Unbreakable Person." And, after this season is complete, I will add this second season for the second edition to the book and so on. I like taking small steps...(laugh.)  The book only costs $5 bucks and 10% goes to AFSP - The AMERICAN FOUNDATION FOR SUICIDE PREVENTION. The GOOD Influence-HER - is a "GIVE BACK PARTNER" for the Orange County California Chapter. And, I want to give a shoutout to those positive people and say "#duckduckHope".

In Season One, we covered a lot of ground by taking small steps, transforming painful experiences into the best part of our lives by applying Wabi Sabi & Kinstsugi, salutations, detaching and doing nothing, and accomplishing our goals with the metaphor "a pile of laundry" to keep things really really really simple. And, we also climbed to the peak of a pyramid, Maslow's Pyramid of Needs.

So, now on to Season Two....The title or themes of Season Two seem wicked as I read them back to myself, "The Seven Deadly Sins and The Four Agreements." But, not at all (giggle.) I want to talk about "What makes us react and respond?" Specifically, about the way we express ourselves, the way we talk about ourselves basically shows and tells others how insecure we are. I am hoping to get you to see what you say and how you say it creates your reality. 

I want to show you how what you say directs people to direct "your reality."  This is big...so let's get busy talking about that...here we go.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJL50-vRgBGYJGqBTVUzeLw
http://www.thegoodinfluenceher.buzzsprout.com
https://www.facebook.com/TheGOODinfluenceHER
https://www.instagram.com/thegoodinfluenceher/
https://afsp.org/chapter/give-back-partners
#thegoodinfluenceherpodcast
#rhondathegoodinfluenceher

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world," Mahatma Gandhi.

Hi! And, WELCOME BACK! It's Rhonda The GOOD Influence - HER. I am thrilled to be back.  I had a nice restful break. I hope you did too. A lot of great things happened as I kept making those incremental steps. I wrote a book. YUP! It is the first edition of this podcast, "The GOOD Influence - HER, "The Unbreakable Person." And, after this season is complete, I will add this second season for the second edition to the book and so on. I like taking small steps...(laugh.)  The book only costs $5 bucks and 10% goes to AFSP - The AMERICAN FOUNDATION FOR SUICIDE PREVENTION. The GOOD Influence-HER - is a "GIVE BACK PARTNER" for the Orange County California Chapter. And, I want to give a shoutout to those positive people and say "#duckduckHope".

In Season One, we covered a lot of ground by taking small steps, transforming painful experiences into the best part of our lives by applying Wabi Sabi & Kinstsugi, salutations, detaching and doing nothing, and accomplishing our goals with the metaphor "a pile of laundry" to keep things really really really simple. And, we also climbed to the peak of a pyramid, Maslow's Pyramid of Needs.

So, now on to Season Two....The title or themes of Season Two seem wicked as I read them back to myself, "The Seven Deadly Sins and The Four Agreements." But, not at all (giggle.) I want to talk about "What makes us react and respond?" Specifically, about the way we express ourselves, the way we talk about ourselves basically shows and tells others how insecure we are. I am hoping to get you to see what you say and how you say it creates your reality. 

I want to show you how what you say directs people to direct "your reality."  This is big...so let's get busy talking about that...here we go.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJL50-vRgBGYJGqBTVUzeLw
http://www.thegoodinfluenceher.buzzsprout.com
https://www.facebook.com/TheGOODinfluenceHER
https://www.instagram.com/thegoodinfluenceher/
https://afsp.org/chapter/give-back-partners
#thegoodinfluenceherpodcast
#rhondathegoodinfluenceher