By Beatriz Vargas | Christian Wife & Marriage Coach
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Understanding Emotional Abuse: Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages
In this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife Podcast, I'm delving into the critical difference between disappointing and destructive marriages. Building on last week's discussion about emotional abuse, I reference Leslie Vernick's book, 'Emotionally Destructive Marriage,' to provide clarity. We explore what it means to feel emotionally unsafe and identify when it crosses into abuse. We'll also discuss the importance of fully disclosing your situation to a therapist for proper guidance and support, even if it means going alone. This episode aims to offer insights and resources for those struggling in emotionally abusive relationships and emphasizes that you do not have to live in such a nightmare, even as a Christian. Stay tuned as we navigate these heavy but essential topics together.
00:00 Introduction: The Fear of Speaking Up
00:29 Understanding Emotional Abuse
02:44 Disappointing vs. Destructive Marriages
03:36 Real-Life Examples and Quotes
05:24 Therapist's Role and Client Disclosure
10:59 Mandated Reporting and Emotional Safety
15:14 Concluding Thoughts and Resources
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Navigating Marriage Therapy: Tips for Encouraging Your Spouse to Participate
This week, we dive into communication strategies, using 'I-statements,' and how to approach the topic with your spouse in a way that makes them feel safe and understood. I'll also share insights on clarifying what you want to achieve in therapy and the common issues couples face, like miscommunication, mistrust, and lack of emotional safety. Plus, we'll discuss options for those whose spouses refuse to go to therapy. Tune in as we explore how to make marriage counseling a more approachable and effective process.
00:00 Introduction and Personal Confession
02:24 Common Issues in Relationships
04:47 Challenges in Seeking Marriage Counseling
06:16 Effective Communication Strategies
12:16 Clarifying the Core Issues
18:37 Taking Action and Seeking Support
21:38 Conclusion and Community Engagement
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In this episode of the Gracefield Wife Podcast, I have the distinct honor of hosting Debra Smith Pegues. Debra is a best-selling author, global inspirational speaker, CPA, MBA, certified John Maxwell leadership coach, and Bible teacher who shares 45 years of marital wisdom. We discuss her journey, the secrets to her successful marriage, and the importance of communication and confrontation in maintaining a healthy relationship. Debra provides invaluable insights on how to approach difficult conversations lovingly and respectfully, the significance of prayer alongside confrontation, and the balance between submission and self-respect in marriage. We also touch on practical tips from her book, '30 Days to Taming Your Tongue,' and her guide, '10 Commandments for a Heavenly Marriage.' This episode is packed with wisdom for any woman navigating the complexities of marital relationships.
04:43 Secrets to a Successful Marriage
06:16 Navigating Spiritual Differences in Marriage
08:40 The Power of Words in Marriage
13:22 Effective Communication Strategies
20:34 The Importance of Confrontation
21:14 Effective Communication Techniques
23:02 Setting Boundaries and Consequences
25:22 Balancing Submission and Confrontation
33:06 The Role of Prayer in Conflict Resolution
36:55 Final Thoughts and Resources
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Website: https://confrontingissues.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deborahsmithpegues/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeborahSmithPegues/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DeborahSmithPegues
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Hello, and welcome back to the Grace Field's Wife podcast! After a brief hiatus due to my training as a marriage and family therapist, I'm excited to bring fresh insights to our podcast. This week, we tackle the pressing question: 'How do you stand for your marriage in the midst of trouble or separation?' I'll share three essential Cs: Clarity, Commitment, and Community. We'll discuss identifying whether your relationship is abusive or just disappointing, understanding your and your husband's commitment levels, and the importance of having a supportive community. These steps will equip you with the practical tools to navigate through marital struggles effectively. Join our Facebook group or become an insider to stay connected and find more resources. Until next week!
00:00 Welcome Back to the Grace Field's Wife Podcast
03:53 The Importance of Clarity in Marriage
12:16 Understanding Commitment in Marriage
14:40 The Power of Community Support
20:54 Conclusion and Next Steps
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In this episode, we discuss the value that is even more important to your marriage than communication and why. We also talk about the limitations of working on your marriage alone and what skills can be learned even if only one spouse is participating.
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In this episode, I discuss the importance of establishing healthy boundaries in marriage by reviewing 5 rules for healthy boundaries. Through the examples presented, I illustrate how these principles can help couples navigate the complexities of marriage, empower themselves, and foster mutual respect and love.
00:08 The Importance of Healthy Boundaries in Marriage
04:48 Exploring the Laws of Boundaries in Marriage
06:09 Applying Boundary Laws to Real-Life Scenarios
14:52 The Power of Choice and Respect in Marriage
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In this week’s podcast, we dive deep into the ins and outs of building a sturdy foundation in marriage. I take you through a group coaching exercise, encouraging you to rate your marriages and personal mental health. We discuss the critical role appreciation, taking responsibility, open communication, and self-care play in fostering a healthy, vibrant marriage.
We delve into the 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse' concept coined by the Gottman Institute, pinpointing the dangerous behaviors that could mark a marriage heading towards divorce. I also present how to recognize and replace these negative behaviors with healthier alternatives.
00:00 Introduction and Podcast Welcome
00:04 Building a Solid Foundation in Marriage
00:41 The Importance of Self-Assessment in Marriage
00:56 Understanding the Marriage Rating Scale
02:50 The Importance of Self-Care in Marriage
03:57 Marriage Coaching and Self-Study Options
05:53 Envisioning a Level 10 Marriage
06:54 Four Tactical Steps to Improve Your Marriage
08:41 Understanding the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Marriage
09:34 Practical Steps to Avoid the Four Horsemen
13:01 The Importance of Timeouts in Conflict Resolution
16:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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On this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife, we get to dive into conversations all about marriage, healing, and the power of stories with the exceptional Tracy Johnson. Tracy's work at Restory Counseling inspired me on my own journey to becoming a marriage therapist. She gives us the scoop on what it means to engage our personal stories in marriage and how that can supercharge healing. Tracy shares a deeply moving personal story about the weight of past experiences and the healing power of having someone witness your pain. We then delve into Restory's Year of Good Dates, an awesome tool Tracy's team developed that's all about sparking connection through shared storytelling. Tracy also drops details about what you can expect from the Thrive Marriage Lab, which is like a gym membership for your marriage! This program brings resources, growth opportunities, and a real community spirit straight into your relationship. If you're all about creating a deeper, richer connection in your marriage, this episode is filled with tons of valuable takeaways. Check it out!
00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction
00:24 Exploring Your Marriage Story
01:17 Guest Introduction: Tracy Johnson
03:43 Understanding the Role of Family of Origin in Marriage
06:50 Advice for Reengaging a Disengaged Spouse
09:39 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Marriage
11:03 The Role of Loneliness in Marriage
13:34 The Concept of 'ACK': Awareness, Curiosity, Kindness
16:47 A Year of Good Dates: Engaging Each Other's Story
21:24 A Drive to Dairy Queen: A Personal Story
22:43 Understanding the Impact of Past Experiences
23:36 The Power of Witnessing and Understanding
24:29 The Role of Trauma in Relationships
26:58 Choosing to Remember: A Path to Healing
28:26 The Importance of Personal Work in Relationships
30:10 The Power of Story Work and Witnessing
37:22 The Thrive Marriage Lab: A Resource for Couples
40:51 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation
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Communication struggles are one of the most common issues in marriage. You are not alone if this applies to you. In this week’s episode, we discuss the importance of communication, and I share three key ideas for improving your communication in marriage.
First, we recognize that everything a person does or doesn't do communicates something. Second, we look to understand the lens or perspective through which communications are filtered, both when speaking and listening. Lastly, I emphasize the importance of allowing spiritual guidance in communication, particularly in difficult conversations.
We also talk about this month’s Podcast birthday celebration where we are giving away Amazon gift cards to listeners who join the mailing list and submit a review of the podcast.
00:52 The Importance of Communication
01:36 Podcast Birthday Celebration and Giveaway
04:07 Understanding Communication in Relationships
08:02 The Power of Perception in Communication
19:03 The Role of God in Communication
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In this week’s episode, I continue my conversation with Annette Otlmans. Annette takes us into the mind of a chronic abuser and gives us the 4 pillars of emotional abuse which are:
Ridgid thinking in these areas:
Annette and I also discuss what the bible says about submission, oppression, and abuse as it relates to being a biblical wife. We talk about toxic masculinity but also acknowledge the ways in which the patriarchy can be benevolent.
Lastly, Annette gives us resources and steps to take if we realize we’re in an abusive relationship but aren’t able to or choose not to leave.
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Here are the other resources she mentioned:
Website: Natalie Hoffman https://www.flyingfreenow.com/
Book: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by: Leslie Burnick
Book: Dating loving and leaving a narcissist by: Dr. Jamie Zuckerman
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