The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast

Do you keep score of who does what in your relationship? In this week's episode, we're joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf who believes that competition is the real reason why relationships fail. Not a lack of communication or incompatibility. So what does it mean to compete for love and resources in the relationship and how does it impact your connection long-term? Tune in to find out.

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Asking for help from your partner seems pretty innocent, right? It's something you should be able to do and they should be there to help you out when you need it. But is it really that simple? For a lot of grumpy girlfriends, the act of asking for help is more so a test and a shortcut to grumpy town than a genuine desire to get help with a task or chore.

In this week's episode, I share my past struggles with asking for help and using it to test my partner. I also talk about why "If you want it done right, do it yourself" is such a good rule of thumb in any relationship.

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Have you ever thought to yourself "Am I putting up with too much in this relationship..?" or "Would other people actually put up with this behavior?". In that case, this episode is for you.

This week, I break down the exact definition of putting up with something and in the process, I show you the 4 different stages you might not be taking responsibility for if you feel that your patience is wearing thin.

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We all have various triggers for our emotions that are recurring in our relationships. Certain things our partners say, certain things our partners do, or other people's actions can send us into a spiral of negative thoughts and shitty emotions. These recurring situations can be worked on and mastered, but what about the situations we can't prepare for that catch us totally off guard?

In this week's episode, I share my strategy for dealing with emotions that catch me off guard that I haven't been able to practice or prepare for ahead of time. The solution is really simple, but it's also one of the most challenging things you'll ever do.

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If thoughts create feelings and no other human can make us feel anything, does that mean that love and romance and all the fairytale things we all dream of go out the window? This kind of black and white thinking is the brain's way of saving energy when learning new things, but as you guys know by now, this podcast is not about saving energy. It's about growing through the discomfort. And sometimes, that discomfort comes from nuanced thinking.

What is the main difference between the fairytale narrative we all grow up with and the way I teach about relationships, and which one is truly more negative and counter-productive when it comes to the ultimate goal of love and connection?

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When I first started learning about these concepts, my brain would argue with them a lot and come up with all the reasons why it makes no sense and why it might even be harmful to think about things this way. So if that's what your brain is doing, totally normal. Promise. Or at least as normal as I am hehe.

This week, I dive into 6 common misunderstandings about the work that I do, about thoughts creating feelings, what it means, and how to relate to neutral facts in the world.

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Did you know that almost all adults spend their entire lives in emotional childhood? This is how we are taught from a very young age to relate to our emotions and the world around us... but it is also the quickest way to strip yourself of all your power.

In this week's episode, I talk about emotional childhood, what it means, and why it is beneficial to learn how to take responsibility and ownership of your own emotions in your relationships, especially if you're considering leaving a relationship you're unhappy in.

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It's a lot easier to identify the habits and behaviors we have that we don't like than to figure out how to change them and make it all better. This is a perfect environment for self-judgment to come alive. When we want to stop doing something but we don't know how... we revert to beating ourselves up in hopes that it'll somehow work.

In today's episode, I talk about how to change self-judgment into self-evaluation and growth so that you can start focusing on the future. That way you can figure out exactly what needs to be worked on for you the be the person and partner you want to be.

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Has your partner ever used "your thoughts create your feelings" against you? Do they rejoice when they find out that they don't actually have to follow the manual you have for them? Then this episode is for you... and your partner.

It's not uncommon to think that if we're not responsible for anyone else's feelings and we get to do whatever we want, that we would go out and be assholes to everyone we meet. But I want you to question whether or not that's actually true.

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Have you ever experienced problems in your relationship that your partner is completely confused by? They don't agree at all that it's a problem and you're confused why they can't see what you see so clearly.

In this week's episode, I talk about this difference in opinion, where problems actually come from, and how to navigate a solution to a problem the two of you simply can't agree on. All of the examples of solutions I mention in this episode are available to you at all times, but they might not always apply and might not always be appropriate. That is for you to decide.

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