The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast

How much control do we have over our own sex drive and how does the wording "sex drive" play a role in blocking our access to pleasure? This and more is covered on this week's episode with Master Certified Life Coach and Sex Coach for Women, Danielle Savory.

I, myself, learned so much speaking to Danielle on this episode and I can't wait for you to hear what she has to say on the topics of sex, pleasure, and desire vs. grumpiness. It's a combo that a lot of women deal with so I'm sure you'll be able to relate to a lot of the things we talk about.

Find Danielle Savory at...
https://www.daniellesavory.com/
https://www.instagram.com/danielle.savory/
It's My Pleasure Podcast

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What happens during the Honeymoon Phase and what happens once it's gone? This week, we are diving into the thoughts and feelings we have at the beginning of the relationship vs. the thoughts and feelings we have 5 years down the road.

How much power do we have over these phases and how big of an impact do the hormones have? Tune in to find out what we can learn from the Honeymoon Phase and how we can incorporate it into our day to day lives.

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Most of us can probably relate to self-sabotaging our relationships in some way. But why do we do it? We know better and we really do love our partners... so why are we trying so hard to ruin it? Why are we constantly searching for evidence that the relationship is going to end?

In this week's episode, I talk about our capacity to have and what happens when our current reality exceeds our current identity and what we believe to be true. That cognitive dissonance is so uncomfortable for the brain that it is going to anything in its power to make reality fit our beliefs, even if that means ruining a good relationship.

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This week's episode is all about the journey. How do you talk to yourself about the changes you want to make and the growth you want to experience? Are you beating yourself up thinking that you should be different than you are, or are you exploring how you could be different in the future?

"Should" is one of the most pointless things to think unless the thing you're thinking about is perfectly aligned with the reality of what's going on. If your "should" is arguing with reality or the past, you're just hugging a cactus and not letting go.

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The idea that women are confusing and men are totally confused is reinforced daily by our western society, pop culture, and social media. And we just fall into that way of thinking and believe that that's the way it is. Women want men to take initiative and "just know" what to do, men have no idea what to do. Women get upset. End of story.

But when both parties suffer from this way of thinking, why in the world do we keep doing it?

In this week's episode, I talk about how we constantly set ourselves up to suffer by arguing with the reality of who our partner is and how they choose to live their lives. When we argue with reality, we lose 100% of the time, as Byron Katie says.

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How do we know if what we are feeling is a problem or not? In this week's episode, I talk about the information we need to gather in order to determine what is a problem and what isn't. Just feeling an emotion in your body is never going to be enough information to determine if it's good or bad, useful, or a problem to be fixed.

And what happens if we go through life thinking that anything that feels bad in the body is a problem to be fixed? Buffering is a very common way for us humans in the 21st Century to handle emotions because it makes us feel as if we've gotten rid of the emotions we didn't like. But the truth is that we're just masking it with a bunch of external things that give you a temporary dopamine hit.

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This is not another resource telling you that your partner's ex is an ex for a reason and that all flowers are beautiful in their own way. This is my story and how I overcame the crippling jealousy that I suffered from for over 5 years.

I understand that my journey and my way of thinking will not resonate with all of you. That's okay. If one person listening to this episode is helped by hearing the struggles I've had and the progress I've made it will be 100% worth it.

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Most of us have heard of confirmation bias. That we seek out information and evidence that supports what we already believe to be true and dismiss or ignore evidence to the contrary. But how does this affect our romantic relationships?

In today's episode, I talk about the ways confirmation bias shows up in relationships and how it often causes us to put our partners in a box that they struggle to break out of. In order to create an environment that promotes growth and development, we need to dump our confirmation bias and befriend the discomfort that comes with cognitive dissonance.

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Have you ever noticed that you are upset or frustrated with your partner on their behalf? You know they are doing something stupid that might cause them to suffer or be in pain in the future, so you try to convince them to do things differently. You "know" how to prevent their suffering and when they won't listen to you that makes you even more frustrated.

Yeah, I know exactly what that's like. This week, we are going to discuss where this behavior comes from, why we do it, and how to let go of the responsibility for their pain. Their life is not in your hands, and once you realize that you will have more time and energy to focus on your own.

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Why do you want to be in a romantic relationship with someone? What's the point, for you? Such a fundamental question that I don't think we spend enough time thinking about. This can, in turn, lead to us losing sight of what we're trying to get out of the relationship we are in, which then can lead to excessive grumpiness in our day to day lives.

Tune in this week for an interactive episode and I would love to hear your thoughts, and even your partner's thoughts, after we're done.

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