The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast

After being in a relationship for some time, you'll probably start experiencing some upsetting events that cause you a lot of pain. Sometimes they happened years ago and you're still in pain about them, which makes you withdraw or act cold towards your partner in the present moment.

In this episode, I share a worksheet that my clients get access to inside of my How to Enjoy Your Relationship Coaching Program that is all about upsetting events and how to move forward.

Here are the questions on the worksheet:

• What happened?
• List only the facts of what happened.
• What is the story you tell (thoughts you think) about the facts that make this event upsetting?
• How do these thoughts make you feel?
• How do those feelings make you want to act?
• How do you want to feel about this event?
• What would you have to think on purpose about the facts in order to feel that way?
• What can you learn from this event?

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Buckle up, because this week we are diving into trust and flipping it all upside down. My hope with this episode is that it helps you shift your thoughts about trust, what it is, who benefits from it, and what happens when trust is broken.

Trust is not something that gets put into our bodies based on other people and their actions, and trust is not something that is removed from our bodies based on their actions either. We need to learn to view trust as an inside job that is a gift to ourselves, more than anyone else.

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Thought errors are thoughts that pop up and encourage negative behavior. We don't judge thoughts as errors based on the thought's validity, on how the thought makes us feel, or what someone else thinks about it. We judge a thought error based on what it makes us do and what our opinion of that action/reaction is.

Tune in to this week's episode to learn all about uncovering thought errors and what to do with them once you start becoming aware.

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In this episode, I share the four most common mistakes that most of us make that prevent changed behavior. In order to override our automatic programming, we need to start activating our prefrontal cortex as much as possible, yet we constantly set ourselves up to fail in the heat of the moment. Time to stop that!

Tune in to find out what the four mistakes are, how to avoid them, and why it's important.

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Let's talk about obstacles, what they are, where they come from, and how to become aware of them so we can ultimately overcome them.

It's not uncommon for my clients to tell me "they know better" and completely dismiss the fears associated with being happy, relaxed, and joyful in their relationships. But when we dismiss the fears and concerns we are actually ignoring our biggest obstacles and making it impossible to overcome them. So it's time to stop that once and for all!

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When I was a grumpy girlfriend, I was not someone you wanted to share truths with because of my reactions. Since my brain was on high alert all the time, constantly looking out for danger, the smallest little truth or uncomfortable information would set me off completely and I would freak out and either lash out or withdraw and act passive-aggressively.

In this week's episode, I share the work that I have done in order to change that. I have practiced handling truths with grace in order to be a safe person for my partner to talk to if needed. This is not work that we do to benefit someone else. It's work we do in order to trust ourselves and be confident that no matter what happens, we won't react completely out of control and potentially do things we regret.

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In this bonus episode, I walk you through the process of processing and feeling an emotion of your choice. Feel free to come back to this episode at any time and practice your ability to sit with discomfort in your body.

To learn more about why we do this and the effects it can have on our lives and relationships, listen to episode 37 - How to Feel Your Feelings.

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We resist, react to, and avoid our emotions on a daily basis and call it "feeling". But the purpose of all these strategies is to get relief. To get rid of the feeling, fix the problem, and start feeling better. It's ironic that we think feeling a feeling is the same as trying to make the feeling go away.

As you can imagine, it's the complete opposite. In this episode, I talk about feeling feelings, what it actually means, and why it's so important that we start practicing feeling our emotions instead of trying to make them go away.

PS. Check out this week's bonus episode to listen to the part where I guide you through the process of feeling an emotion of your choice.

Emotional processing is one of the keys to being a happy, relaxed girlfriend. Want to learn how? Go to:
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We all know what we need in order to stop being grumpy girlfriends. We need more confidence, fewer insecurities, more independence, less doubt. Simple. Easy. Let's go. The problem is that when we need something we don't yet have in order to start making change, that change immediately becomes inaccessible to us.

In this week's episode, I lay it all out for you. Exactly what you need to start making a change today and the best part? I promise you, you already have it.

Enjoy!

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In this episode, I coach you guys on some of the issues you submitted to me on Instagram during the week. We cover topics such as attraction, random sadness, keeping the spark alive, and what's normal when it comes to the amount of sex we're having.

A common theme in a lot of these questions is that we look outside of ourselves to find explanations and solutions to emotions created inside of our brains. The questions I answer in this episode show a wide variety of how that issue can show up in our lives.

Enjoy! 

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