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- 92. Fictional Coaching: Movie Night at Jack & Christine's
Christine is looking forward to a mid-week movie night with her love, Jack. But her brain has decided to put a halt to those plans. She starts getting grumpy and subconsciously chooses to run with it by gathering more and more evidence during the evening.
Listen to this episode to learn how I would coach Christine through this situation and what I recommend that she do instead.
This week, we are trying something new on the podcast. I have already shared this fictional coaching concept on my blog and it received terrific feedback. Let's see if it translates into the audio format as well!
Read the written version of Movie Night at Jack & Christine's: https://katrinberndt.com/2022/10/25/fictional-coaching-movie-night-at-jack-and-christines/
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https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt38 min - 91. Wanting Something vs. Having a Manual for Someone
We're allowed to want things from our partners and relationships, and we can be sad if we don't get them. But we also shouldn't have a manual for our partners and base our emotions on what they do or don't do.
What exactly is the difference?
In this week's episode, we dive deeper into Wants vs. Manuals and define the key difference between two concepts that often come up here on the podcast. Enjoy!
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https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt17 min - 90. Fast Forward & Let It Go
Have you ever gotten upset about something in your relationship and later realized that it wasn't even a problem, to begin with? You're not alone. I myself had an experience just like this a few weeks ago.
In this week's episode, I share the concept I call "fast forward and let it go", which helps you question if something is a problem or if it's just based on unrealistic assumptions and fantasies.
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https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt21 min - 89. Why We Prefer Fate, Intuition, & Gut Feelings Over Choice
Do you ever wish that your gut would just tell you what to do? Do you ever put your life in the hands of “fate” rather than making a decision? Do you ever refer to something being a need and therefore out of your control rather than asking for what you want?
Then you're a completely normal human being.
But what is it about these things that make them so appealing? Why do we prefer to reference intuition or fate instead of simply owning that we are making a choice based on what we want? That's what I'll be talking about in this week's episode.
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https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt17 min - 88. Help! My Partner Has a Manual for Me!
Are there certain things your partner wants or needs you to do, and if you don't do them correctly they get upset? Then chances are your partner has a manual for you. And the tricky part here is that if you think they shouldn't have a manual for you and you think their manual for you is making you annoyed and upset... well, then you have a manual right back at them.
In this week's episode, I give you some suggestions on how to deal with your partner's manual for you and how you can stop making it a problem for you.
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https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt26 min - 87. Your Partner's Only Job
What's your partner's job in your relationship? Is it to make you feel good? Keep you safe? Share all the daily chores? When we have a long job description for our partners, it makes it difficult for them to do everything right and thus making it difficult for us to be happy.
We often judge the quality of our relationships based on our partner's ability to "do their job."
In this week's episode, I want to offer you a new job description for your partner. This might be a little extreme for some of you... but I really encourage you to play around with the idea to see what your life and relationship would look like if it were in fact true.
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https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt14 min - 86. When You Want Your Partner to WANT to Do The Thing
Are there things in your relationship you want your partner to want to do, but they're just not that into it? Maybe they are happy to do it just to make you happy, but that's not what you want. Ugh, so frustrating.
In this week's episode, I break down the key reasons you want your partner to want to do the thing (hint: it's not what you think) and how to solve this problem. Because continuing to argue with reality and wanting your partner to be different just isn't cutting it.
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https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt19 min - 85. "I Have No Reason to Feel This Way"
"I have no reason to feel this way" is one of the most common sentences I hear from grumpy girlfriends all the time. We look at our partners and how they act and compare those circumstances to our thoughts and feelings... and get an error message. It just doesn't add up.
In this week's episode, I break down what it means to have "no reason" for being worried, anxious, or jealous in your relationship. I also walk you through how to manage these "unreasonable" fears.
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https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt22 min - 84. 3 Choices Girlfriends Need to Make to Be Happy
What if we could boil down girlfriend happiness to three key choices you need to make on a daily basis? That's what I did in this week's episode. If you make these choices consistently and you practice genuinely believing in them, you will be able to finally enjoy your good relationship.
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https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt15 min - 83. How to Stop Obsessing Over Your Partner’s Ex
Are you struggling to let go of and move on from your partner's ex? You're not alone. The ex-issue is an extremely common source of grumpiness for a lot of girlfriends and in today's episode, I'll break it down for you.
You might think that your unique ex-cocktail of information is the worst-case scenario and that other people have it much easier. But trust me, you can freak out about literally any circumstances and facts about your partner and their exes. So perhaps, it's not the facts of the situation that are the problem... ;)
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https://www.instagram.com/katrinberndt22 min
About The Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast
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You're in a good relationship with an amazing partner, yet your jealousy, anxiety, and constant overthinking gets in the way of your enjoyment. Instead of living your best life, you're stuck…
stalking, controlling, blaming, judging, comparing, and showing up as your worst self...
This is the Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast.
In this space, we get what it's like to have a crazy, grumpy girlfriend brain. To make up scenarios that hurt your own feelings. To misinterpret your partner in all the worst ways. To want to punish your partner for things they haven't even done. To always be prepared, just in case something goes wrong.
But this is also a space where we learn how to manage that crazy brain and all those triggering emotions with curiosity and compassion. Being a secure girlfriend is not something you're either born with or without. It's a skill that anyone can master at any point in their life.
You are a Secure Girlfriend in the making.
Let's get to work.
This is the Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast.
In this space, we get what it's like to have a crazy, grumpy girlfriend brain. To make up scenarios that hurt your own feelings. To misinterpret your partner in all the worst ways. To want to punish your partner for things they haven't even done. To always be prepared, just in case something goes wrong.
But this is also a space where we learn how to manage that crazy brain and all those triggering emotions with curiosity and compassion. Being a secure girlfriend is not something you're either born with or without. It's a skill that anyone can master at any point in their life.
You are a Secure Girlfriend in the making.
Let's get to work.