This episode took a while to put together: I had to have a lot of awareness around my discomfort around asking for help.
When we think about asking for help, we think it implies that we are: weak, lost, incapable, stupid, imperfect… and therefore unworthy…
The funny thing is that we constantly strive for better relationships, for deeper relationships. We expect others to open up to us, to come to us for support, for care, we love giving those things- but if we expect these things, we can only assume others expect these things as well? So why is it so hard for us to receive what it’s so easy for us to give? Are we willing to give others the opportunity to be of service to us? Are we willing to allow others to get to know us better? Are we willing to be vulnerable, open and raw with others?
The 5-Day Challenge to Building Better Relationships
* Write a list of 5 items you need help with (stuff you’ve wanted to get done, stuff you don’t want to do alone, or you find challenging getting to- for whatever reason).
* Next to each of these items, write a person’s name who you think would be ideal for the task! Someone who may maybe/possibly be excited to do this kind of stuff!
* Each day, for 5 days, text, email, facebook message, Instagram tag or call this person, and ask them to help you!
For example: “Hey Susan, I got my new phone months ago and I can’t seem to figure out how to get my music to work on it! I know you’re really into music, you always have the best playlists! Would you be willing to show me how to do it?”
It can also be something that seems totally crazy, like, “Rob, I’m so tired and overworked, would you be willing to come do my dishes?”
* BONUS: you get extra credit if you don’t offer anything in return! Meaning you don’t say, “if you come over to help me, I’ll be happy to make lunch!”
* When you complete each day post something about it! How did it help you get closer to that person? How did you feel? What did you conquer? use hashtag #BetterRelationshipsChallenge
(Brene Brown on Vulnerability: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability)
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