The Intimate Lifestyle

What is with the advice "just be yourself'? I remember hearing that and thinking...what am I NOT being? How is this supposed to be good advice. It wasn't until I realized that the majority of my actions were driven by a desire to be accepted by others, that I learned what it meant to be myself.

In this episode, I explain why the advice "just be yourself" is baloney, and how you can start to "be yourself." If authenticity is the name of your game here, and you're struggling with how frustrating people are and how they don't seem to "know" you, this episode will be right up your alley.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP034: Male Emotionality.

Male emotion is Dr Duana Welch's next target. She's here to destroy some myths around male emotionality. It’s certainly not a fluffy show. She explains that men tend to fall in love faster, and fall out of love longer and harder. Men also experience love at first sight at a much larger rate than women. Essentially, research has shown that when it comes to romantic relationships, men are just as, if not more emotional, than women. This is shown by statistics that men, who typically don’t need marriage, choose to get re-married more often than women, after a divorce. And statistics have shown that men tend to say “I love you” sooner than the woman. All around this is a pretty interesting episode.

Shame is insidious. And it interferes with almost every aspect of our lives if we don't tackle it head on.  Today is a story of a vision quest I went on, where I didn't eat, have access to internet or phone, see anyone or speak to anyone for 3 whole days. I got woken up by bear one morning, and the main lesson from this vision quest was "Shame."  

In this episode, I share of how I overcame (most) of my shame, and a simple, but very powerful process and exercise you can do at home.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP014: Finding the Right Partner (for men)

Myke has a really interesting story. He came to Canada from the Phillipines as a teenager in high school, having never seen a microwave or white people. He couldn’t speak English, was overweight, and was incredibly shy. After years of loneliness, he dove into the world of Pick-up Artists and started to learn how to be a social, confident man. He eventually moved away from the pick-up artist world and moved towards ethical coaching for men to navigate their way to romance and social confidence.

Did you know that women can experience up to 11 types of orgasm?  Yea. Women can actually experience more than that. But as Devi says in this interview, we model our understanding of orgasm off of a teenage boys experience of ejaculation. 

 Our understanding of orgasm is currently a climax, where there is a quick rise, huge peak, and then a quick rush down.  But an orgasm doesn’t need to have a climax like that. Instead, it can be an extended peak of pleasure. Or a rush of pleasure or tingling, or any other peak that sticks around.  It can show up in multiple different ways. 

 And Devi shares 3 MAIN BLOCKS that prevent women from experiencing:

 -clitoral orgasms -G-spot Orgasms -Urethral Opening Orgasms -Cervical Orgasms -Uteran Orgasms -Ear gasms -Throat gasms -and a whole lot more.

You can kind more info on how you can reach her in our show notes at www.modernsextalks.com.

I decided after interviewing Oanh Love on Abstinence that I was going to deliberately go without sex for a while.  I didn't want to do it. But deep down, I actually DID want to do it. I knew it was the right thing to do. And as a result, I'm extremely happy

Today's episode is just a fun little conversation that goes in a couple of different directions, but is centered around how we should avoid using sex to build confidence. Enjoy the show.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP015: Erotic Massage.

This is a very interesting show. Enter into the world of sensual ‘erotic’ massage. Ki has been doing whole body, genitals included, massage for over 10 years. He and his partner, Aurora, have an exceptional amount of experience in sensual massage, and even give regular live demonstrations of G-spot massage, squirting orgasm, vulva massage and cock massage.

Today they touch on how erotic massage can be a great tool for resolving conflict in your relationships. If you want to reach Ki and Aurora, you can contact them on www.massagebyki.com and www.erosha.com.

The male ego gets a bad rep. But it serves a purpose. What is that purpose? The same one that the female ego serves. To be desireable. A woman's ego is centered around beauty and youth.  A man's ego is centered around strength.  How does that strength play out? By having a larger ego, and never showing weakness.  Target a man's ego, and you target his entire value as a human being.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a short segment from EP029 - Status and Dating.

Devon O’Brien Ash has been teaching men, and women, how to identify their bad social habit that interfere with developing better connections with people. He’s been doing this for over a decade and has helped hundreds if not thousands of men and alike.  His style is one that brings out a persons genuine self, rather than adding a layer like some “dating coaches” do to their clients.  He’s a leader in his field and knows how to lead by example. If you want to improve your dating life, get more promotions at work, or just take your social life to the next level, then listen to this episode.  You can reach Devon at http://www.devonobrienash.com/ and learn his Authentic Social Hacking skills.

Imagine finding out that your mother/father has been murdered. And they were murdered by your other parent. And imagine having this tragedy happen at 12 years old. Imagine further forgiving that murder, and then saving their life.

  This is the experience of Dean Smith.  He shares his story of how this affected his life. 

 He explains that forgiveness is not about forgetting what the tragedy was. It’s not about releasing them from their crime. It’s about “unshackling” yourself from the pain and anger you have.

 Forgiveness is necessary for you to be happy, not so you can be good.  And it may be the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do, but it will be the most rewarding. 

 You can find Dean at livetoforgive.com