The Intimate Lifestyle

Is sex always this mindblowingly amazing experience for you? Hell, I teach this stuff and sometimes it's not all that great. But something weird happens when it's not all that good. We get either upset, or really disappointed or we feel insecure, or we blame our partner.

But maybe, we should just accept that sometimes, sex isn't going to be all that great. Sometimes it's going to be lack luster. And that's okay. 

But there are 2 things that we can do to prevent those lack luster experiences from happening too often.

Did you know that men can experience Multiple Orgasms? And did you know that they can be non-ejaculatory orgasms? Yes. It's true. And no, you don't get blue balls. It's quite astounding, especially when you have your first experience.

Today's guest is Steven Seva, a tantra coach who's been teaching for the better part of a decade. He'll be sharing with you how you can retrain your nervous system to experience multiple, non-ejaculatory orgasms. And he also goes through what our partners need to do to help.  This show was an absolute blast. Enjoy

Have you ever thought you wanted a threesome, but didn't know how to get one, or how to make sure everyone was happy and included?  This is the show to listen to. In this VERY conversational episode, Veronica and I share personal stories of situations that went well, and not-so-well. And we give you the sure fire ways to make sure those who want this experience, have a good one.

Emotional trust is something that comes with time and is earned. And with Sheleana's advice, you'll definitely be able to earn it. She advises men to let their partners be angry, but there's a way to do it that earns respect. She also clarifies the reasons of why it's so important to have a community to rely on for your emotional needs, rather than dumping all your emotional baggage on your partner. She's chock full of wisdom.

Every Tuesday is Just The Tip Tuesday where you get a 10min segment of a previous episode. The hour long interviews can be a bit much for some people, so we put together shorter version of a previous episode for you. This segment is from Episode 24 titled The #1 Key to Emotional Trust. If you enjoy this segment, you'll love the full interview.

Believe it or not, not all touch is deliberate. Sometimes we do it unconsciously because we're feeling insecure.  Which is not sexy.  And women often feel uncomfortable asking for what they want, which means men don't know how to ask. And since men don't learn how to touch better, and they're not allowed to ask, their touch is mediocre. It's a not so merry-go-round.

Robert Kandell, the Founder of Tuff Love has over 15 years of instruction in touch, specifically oriented around female orgasm. He's going to explain how to have the right mindset around touch, as well as some exercises you can play with at home tonight. Enjoy the show!

We've talked a lot about ejaculation. The last few weeks we were talking about mindset, and in my mind, that's the most important thing. But today, I'm giving you a practical tip that you can use to improve your pleasure and last longer in the bedroom. Here are the basic rules:

1) No porn.

2) Masturbate for 20min at least 4 times a week

3) Ejaculate only once a week

4) Play with your arousal arc (which we get into in the show)

If you'd like to get a copy of the book that has all this information, and a ton more, stay tuned as I'll be updating the links here later today. OR, sign up for our newsletter by going to our website and you'll get notified when it's available on special. The title of the book is "10 Steps to Longer Sex: A Book for Men on Improving Pleasure and Delaying Ejaculation"  Enjoy the show

Orgasmic Meditation is when a woman lies on the floor and has someone stroke her clitoris for 15 minutes. It's a great way for women to deepen their pleasure, and learn how to ask for what they want without feeling guilty. And despite the name, it's not actually driven by orgasm.

Every Tuesday we have a "Just the Tip Tuesday" episode that is a 10 minute segment from a previous episode. This segment is from Episode 3 titled Orgasmic Meditation. If you enjoy this segment head over to the full interview and give it a listen.

Abstinence is forced on many religious people. But not Oanh Love! She chose to abstain from sex. Which sounds crazy to most of us, but her story is a very interesting one.  She did it specifically so she could:

1) Get over all her baggage

2) Learn to receive without feeling guilty

3) Feel happy without being in a relationship/having sex

Not only was her experience an interesting one, but she also shares a fun little masturbation technique for all the ladies out there.  Enjoy!

Premature ejaculation. Or involuntary ejaculation in the words of Esther Perel, author Mating in Captivity (and I like that term better...).  It can plague the mind. Many men have dealt with it in the past.

Last week was the second of 4 episodes on Premature Ejaculation.  This week we dive into anger, how:

-it's NOT aggression

-it's a tool (not unlike a gun),

-it destroys anxiety.

Every Wednesday is going to be Humpday Share, where I share something of my own, or something from the team. Enjoy!

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD is a disorder that kicks in after a massively traumatic event. It’s not a nice thing to see happen in anyone, let alone someone you love.  But it does happen. It’s more often viewed as something that soldiers suffer from, but sexual assault victims are also quite susceptible to PTSD.

                In this episode you’ll learn:

-How to spot PTSD in yourself and in others

-What PTSD is and how it affects peoples lives

-Guilt and how it negatively affects sexual assault victims in the court system

-What to NEVER say to someone suffering from a phobia or PTSD

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