The Intimate Lifestyle

The orgasm "gap" is a big topic of conversation. Women don't experience orgasm during sex nearly as much as men.  But who's "fault" is that? A lot of people will claim it's men's faults and that men don't put in enough effort. Although to some degree that may be the case, I can speak from personal experience that no matter how much effort I put in, she's not going to have an orgasm.

In today's episode I dive into a concept of "leaning in" and where men AND women can take responsibility to curb the orgasm gap.

Ever have a condom slip off and find it stuck in either your, or your partners, vagina? Yea, that can be embarrassing. But it doesn't have to be!  Naomi and I talk about our own personal experiences with this, what went wrong, what went right, why it happens, and how to handle it if it happens to you.

Bringing a woman to orgasm through a hug?  Yea, I was about ready to call bullshit until I heard Eyal Matsliah’s story. What is very interesting about this man is that he teaches the seduction of a woman. He never watched porn growing up, but he did read a lot of erotica novels.  And he took training in tantric massage so that he could give women amazing orgasms. He also shares some information that he has NEVER shared online before.  You will be listening, for the first time, Eyal sharing the 5 different types of touch.

Today was a very interesting and fun show for me to record. I hope you enjoy it as much as I enjoyed recording it.

Do you hate the other gender? Are you having a hard time finding the right partner? Are you constantly upset in your relationship(s)? The hardest thing to do is to look at yourself and see what you could be doing to create that in your life.  In this episode of the Humpday Share, I share with you some wisdom I have collected from some hard lessons regarding anger and the other gender. I used to hate women. In this episode, I explain how that came to be, and how I cured from the bullshit that interfered with my relationships with women.

Ever heard of a rape fantasy? How about tying that into an aggressive form of tying someone up with a rope?  What's interesting is our guest, John Zorklunn, emphasizes heavily the importance of empathy to have a successful and healthy experience of this kind.  This was an incredibly interesting episode.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a segment from EP030 - Rope Play with John Zorklunn. If you want to listen to the full episode, head on over there for a great chat.

Our guest today, Tziporah Kingsbury, is well known as the Love Guru after being on ABC’s the Bachelor as a relationship coach for the Bachelor and one of his ladies.  Today she’s going to share with us what vulnerability is and why it’s your most powerful asset in a relationship.

AND, you'll learn 3 Keys to elevate your communication skills around uneasy emotions that will promote being heard,understand and create greater connection. You can get access to her book by going here: https://igg.me/at/8x8LNjgFN5A. More details are in our show notes on www.modernsextalks.com

Sometimes, no matter how turned on we get with a partner, we simply won’t cum.  It’s frustrating as hell for us guys, and it can be insulting for our partners. “Am I not hot enough, or turning you on enough?” are some thoughts that might be rolling around in his/her head.

The truth is, it shouldn’t be insulting. Because when we can’t orgasm, it’s rarely our partner. 95% of the time, it’s our shit that’s preventing us from either knowing our own arousal or communicating our needs or dealing with our sexual shame.  This goes for both women and men.

Today's episode is a conversation between me and a past client and friend who's dealt with not being able to ejaculate during sex.  I offer him a few solutions.  Some may resonate well with you, and others may not.  It's a subjective thing, orgasm.  If you want some personalized, more in depth help, you can reach me at [email protected] for a free 20min consult.

Anger, and our other darker emotions, can be pretty nasty.  They can really screw up our lives if we don't know how to heal them. 

In this episodes, Phil goes through some deep stuff explaining the difference between suppression and repression of memories and emotions.

He also explains how we can let go of those emotions that interfere with building solid relationships.

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. 

Today's episode is a segment from EP032 - Rude Awakening. If you want to listen to the full episode, head on over there for a great chat.

There are 5 elements to creating incredible intimacy with your partner:

1) Physical 2) Mental 3) Emotional 4) Energetic 5) Spiritual

If any of these are missing, you might leave the experience thinking there could have been something a little bit better.  Steven Seva has some solid insights for people who want to take the intimacy of their love making to a whole new level.

Erectile dysfunction is a fucking pain.  It's embarrassing.  But it doesn't have to be. It's only embarrassing if a man ties his identity to his erection and "performance" in the bedroom.  That's not what makes a man. A man is defined by his ability to handle challenges, and how he treats the people he encounters in life.

But obviously, we want to have erections. So in today's show, I give you some personal stories, and some information on various reasons why men can encounter this challenge, and different solutions.  I hope this helps you!