The Intimate Lifestyle

Premature ejaculation. Or involuntary ejaculation in the words of Esther Perel, author Mating in Captivity (and I like that term better...).  It can plague the mind. Many men have dealt with it in the past.

Last week was the first of 4 episodes on Premature Ejaculation.  This week we dive into shame and how it relates to sexual stamina. Finishing too quickly can be a way for your unconscious mind to fulfill it's belief that it doesn't deserve the sex you're currently having.

Every Wednesday is going to be Humpday Share, where I share something of my own, or something from the team. Enjoy!

Premature ejaculation. Or involuntary ejaculation in the words of Esther Perel, author Mating in Captivity (and I like that term better...).  It can plague the mind. Many men have dealt with it in the past. For those men who still, from time to time have to deal with it, the next 4 Humpday Shares on Premature Ejaculation will shed some light on some solutions.

Every Wednesday is going to be Humpday Share, where I share something of my own, or something from the team. Enjoy!

Kinks and Fetishes are a whole other world of sexual expression. For the "vanilla" people out there, 50 Shades of Grey was risque and dirty and wild. Sara Blaze is going to blow your fucking socks off with the REAL world of Kinks and Fetishes. She's going to talk to you about:

-pain=pleasure

-consent and hard conversations

-LOTS of different kinds of kinks (like needle play, cutting off various parts of the body, whipping, nipple play, and a whole lot more)

-the unforeseen amazing friendships that arise from this kind of expression

-compassion

You can reach Sara at www.metrovancouverkink.com, or you can go to www.fetlife.com to get info for your city.

Mel Mariposa explains the polyamorous relationship dynamic. Polyamory is having multiple romantic partners. It can be dangerous if you don't know how. She explains the following:

-What doesn't work

-What does work

-The right kind of conversations needed to make it work

-It's not a nice term for "sleeping around"

-A concept called "Compersion" which is the opposite of jealousy

Whether you're in a monogamous or non-monogamous relationship, she's got a lot of advice that will build trust and strengthen your relationship.

Ever tried magic mushrooms? The schnozzberries taste like schnozzberries!  But seriously though, if you do them with intention they can leave you with some pretty life changing epiphanies. My first experience was just that. Life changing. And I wanted to share. Trust me, it's relevant to relationships and sex.

We'll be throwing some more episodes each week your way. Our featured guests will still be on Thursdays, so keep up to date for those. And stay tuned for extra episodes like this one each week. As long as I remember...

Karolina Tatarenkova. A Russian Sex Therapist based in Vancouver, BC, Canada loves talking about cock. And confidence. Cockfidence!  So many men derive their confidence from the size or shape of their dick. This stems from pornography and misguided societal influences.  Karolina will tells us about why that happens, why it's bullshit, and how to generate some serious cockfidence. Cockfidence is the recognition that your value as a man, and in the bedroom, is not reliant on your penis. It’s reliant on you as a lover. And yes, those two are mutually exclusive.  If you’d like to reach Karolina, you can find her at www.passioninlove.com.

                Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you think it’s important for us to have this conversation, then leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way for us to expand our reach. Remember to follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/modernsextalks or on Twitter at @ModernSexTalks. If you have any feedback on how we can improve our show, definitely let us know. Thanks for joining us in some Modern Sex Talks, and keep improving your Intimate Lifestyle.

Dr Duana Welch is back again to destroy some myths around male emotionality. It’s certainly not a fluffy show. She explains that men tend to fall in love faster, and fall out of love longer and harder. Men also experience love at first sight at a much larger rate than women. Essentially, research has shown that when it comes to romantic relationships, men are just as, if not more emotional, than women. This is shown by statistics that men, who typically don’t need marriage, choose to get re-married more often than women, after a divorce. And statistics have shown that men tend to say “I love you” sooner than the woman. All around this is a pretty interesting episode.

Duana is the author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do (2015)—the first science-based book to take you from before you meet until you commit to The One. Duana launched LoveScience in 2009. Duana is also a contributor at Psychology Today and at eHarmony, taught psychology at Austin, Texas universities, was twice voted Professor of the Year, and received a NISOD Teaching Excellence award in 2012.

Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. Remember to follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle. If you have any feedback on how we can improve our show, definitely let us know. Thanks for joining us in some Modern Sex Talks, and keep improving your Intimate Lifestyle.

The ‘swinging’ community, better and more properly termed the Lifestyle, has a bit of a bad reputation. People seem to think it’s for horn dogs, or people who aren’t happy in their relationships, or their relationship is missing something. Turns out that their relationships, and their emotional health, is stronger than the majority of people’s “monogamous” relationships.

Cindy and James have been in the Lifestyle for over 17 years, and they even have a business and podcast dedicated to helping people enter the Lifestyle, be that kink, fetish, swinging or any form of ‘monoga’mish’ relationship dynamic. They’ve been through the worst of it together, and even went through a separation, only to return even stronger, with all the tools to successfully enter the lifestyle. And they’re going to share that with you. If you’d like to reach out to them, head to our website for their contact information at www.modernsextalks.com

Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. Remember to follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/modernsextalks. If you have any feedback on how we can improve our show, definitely let us know. Thanks for joining us in some Modern Sex Talks, and keep improving your Intimate Lifestyle.

Phil “Teertha” Mistlberger is the kind of man who can peer into your soul, and tell you exactly what you need to hear to create positive change in your life. He’s studied transpersonal therapy and counseling for over 37 years, has three books published, Rude Awakening, The Three Dangerous Magi, and The Inner Light and is currently working on two more.

We all have insecurities. We all have actions and patterns that show up in our lives that are counter-productive to what we’re trying to accomplish. Phil uncovers why those patterns are there, how they interfere and how you can find a great relationship. This episode is very deep and involves a lot of introspection, so strap in. If you’d like to reach out to Phil, you can do so through his email [email protected], or at one of his websites www.Crtrainings.com, www.ptmistlberger.com. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. Remember to follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/modernsextalks. If you have any feedback on how we can improve our show, definitely let us know. Thanks for joining us in some Modern Sex Talks, and keep improving your Intimate Lifestyle.

Ricardo Scipio is a sexual art photographer. Imagine erotic photography, but meant to be actually real, from real couples, all shapes and sizes, in real sex, and focussed on the experience, rather than with the intent to titillate the onlooker. That’s what Ricardo does. After a decade in the fashion industry as a photographer, he realized his true passion was to capture the real passion that occurs in the bedroom between real couples. And in so doing, help them overcome their shame or insecurity around their sexual expression. Ricardo is very well spoken, and has an interesting past, and it’s clear that he has a passion for what he does. You can reach him at www.ricardoscipio.ca. Thanks for listening and if you have any suggestions of topics of speakers you’d like us to interview, let us know! If you enjoyed this show, leave us a review on iTunes, because that’s the best way to say thank you. Remember to follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle. If you have any feedback on how we can improve our show, definitely let us know. Thanks for joining us in some Modern Sex Talks, and keep improving your Intimate Lifestyle.