The Intimate Lifestyle

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP109: Sex, Sin and Zen with Brad Warner.

Brad Warner is a Zen Buddhist monk, and his brand is Hardcore Zen. One of his most popular books is Sex, Sin and Zen where he talks about the Zen perspective on sex and sin.

Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

Do you really want to get your ex back? Why? What is it that they gave you that you need so much that you can't give yourself?

Those questions are kind of bullshit. Getting broken up with sucks, and when you become single, you miss that companionship, touch, sex, and all those other things that you can't "give yourself" while you're single.

So I get why you'd want your partner back. But there's a healthy way to get them back, and an unhealthy way. One involves changing who you are, and the other one involves changing who you are. (yes you read that correctly)

In this episode I explain myself better. (or so I like to think)

Like us on Facebook and Instagram!

And check out our Resources page for a ton of cool stuff.

And lastly, leave us a rating and a review in iTunes. It's a great way to say thank you and give us some support.

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP106: Male Survivors of Sexual Assault with Don Wright.

Don is a pioneer in the men's help realm. He introduced the first business solely focussed on helping men heal from sexual assault. It turns out that nearly 50% of youth victims of sexual assault/abuse are boys, yet there are only 4 small business that's provide help to men specifically across Canada.

Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

Following up on last week's guest Dana Pharant who is a dominatrix – we dive a little deeper this time with my guest on today’s show – Master Severyn Kain. 

Master Severyn is a BDSM Master, alternative lifestyle presenter, and kink event organizer who has been active in the realm of BDSM, kink, and fetishism for the last 10 years (if to include the years he's been lurking and playing spectator on the events – it will total 15 years).

Today we discuss the development of his interest in BDSM and kink, events and activities in the community, defining terms used in the lifestyle, the relationship dynamics in BDSM, and integrating healthy power dynamics rooted from BDSM to traditional relationships.

Another one of those eye-opening episodes for me, one will certainly learn a lot in this episode and explore a lifestyle often talked about behind closed doors. Some of the specific subjects we’ve discussed are: 

• How he got into the BDSM scene, his source of information on this lifestyle before the dawn of internet (1:35; 4:35).
• How the internet helped the BDSM community to reach more people and how it served as a major resource for munches and events on the BDSM communities (3:46).
• The background of his name – and how he sees his name not as just a title but a responsibility and commitment (6:20).
• The difference between a submissive and a slave, the concept of collaring (8:31; 26:16), society’s stigma with submissives, and how being one entails strength, a nurturing nature, and being in touch with vulnerability, sensitivity and emotions (10:33; 42:00).
• BDSM, DS, and MS explained, the power dynamics in the relationship, (12:18) and how it can be a lot healthier form of relationship than the traditional ones, what vanilla relationships can learn from a BDSM-based relationship which is built with more honesty, transparency, accountability, respect and explicit limitations thus mitigating power struggles (33:30).
• Distinguishing a dominant, from someone who simply wants to dominate, or someone who is domineering (24:36).

• How age can also be determinant to openness and expressing expectations – as the BDSM crowd tend to fall in the 35 and up age group (35:39).
• The mistake of newbies getting overexcited with the idea of BDSM that instead of taking the time to find a good BDSM partner/master through meeting and connecting, they can fall prey to those who are just in for the sex, those who can get abusive or those not trained well in DS or MS relationships. (37:28).
• His take on the 50 Shades phenomenon despite the books' inability to represent the lifestyle correctly, and what he perceives as the author's motivation to writing the books (49:47).

• What he sees the future of kink and BDSM will be with the developments brought by technology (55:34).
• Funny but real anecdotes of BDSM and kink newbies' jitters, anxiety, and experiences when they first become a part of the community (59:16)

To learn more about Master Severyn Kain go to: www.theintimatelifestyle.com/masterandslaverelationships

Conflict will show up no matter what. Some people can handle it well. Others, not so much. The biggest issue with conflict, is that people are often afraid of confrontation. As a result, they avoid having the conversations they need to. And where does this lead? Misunderstanding, misinterpretation and feelings of betrayal.

The biggest key to resolving conflict is ultimately in your own hands. Listen to this show to find out what you can do.

Like us on Facebook and Instagram!

Check out our Resources page here.

And when you can, leave us a rating a review in iTunes to help support us.

Like us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/theintimatelifestyle and Instagram at www.instagram.com/theintimatelifestyle

We've all met some crazy people! And we've all got friends who seem to find themselves dating "crazy" partners.  Why is it that some people are just a big magnet for attracting "crazy" boyfriends/girlfriends?

An even more important question is what can we do to stop that "craziness" from interfering with our relationships.

There is a common theme in every single "crazy" persons actions. Today I share the theme and it's oriented around needs, and who's responsibility it truly is to dealing with that emotional volatility.  And it's not what you think!

Like us on Facebook.

Check out our Resources Page.

I used to hate women. I used to really despise them. I thought they were all out to cheat on men, manipulate them, use them for their money, take away their children and generally hurt men in every way possible. I was basically the equivalent of a man hating feminist, but a woman hating "meninist." 

My routine thought of "why don't women like me" plagued my mind. I would have women I was highly attracted to tell me "I like you, but just as a friend. I just wish more guys were like you...I keep dating assholes." This fed into my anger. How could women be so stupid as to date guys that would hurt them, when I was such a "nice guy"?

But once I realized the biggest factor in my happiness with women, that I started to heal from that anger and hate. And through that healing process, my relationships with women did a complete 180. Although I still get frustrated with women (don't we all get frustrated with each other sometimes though?), I love, admire, respect and trust women in ways I couldn't have even considered nearly a decade ago.

I share the steps I went through during that healing process. Enjoy the show!

This episode is short and sweet and shares and insight that will change your sex and romantic life: guaranteed.  The book I reference is called The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin.  Enjoy the show!

Every Tuesday we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP085: 11 Types of Female Orgasm with Devi Ward.

Did you know women can have at least 11 types of female orgasm? Devi Ward used to be a stripper in Detroit, who then travelled abroad to learn from the best tantra teachers in the world. And now she's teaching us Westerners how to have more powerful orgasms, and more of them.