If you have ever been in a relationship you know that conflicts occur; some are natural and grows the relationship while others tear it apart. Knowing how to communicate with the one you love is so important, but we are rarely taught how to do it well; unfortunately we don’t always have the best role models too. Fortunately, there are key lessons that can change the quality of the connection we make with our loved ones and therefore elevate the relationship.

Just as there is verbal language and body language, there is also a language for love and connection. I have to be honest, for the longest time, I was not aware of this and speaking to my colleagues, I’m not alone. This is one episode not to miss because it could save your relationship with your partner.

In this episode, I’ll share with you the story of a couple, who were facing divorce after 40 years of marriage. After sharing with them the concept of love languages, developed by Dr. Gary Chapmen a, their marriage was saved.  

You’ll also learn a common mistake most of us make when choosing or using a love language. You’ll see how childhood experiences can affect current behavior, even if you don’t realize it. 

You’ll learn:

- The five love languages.

- Which love language you speak, and which love language your partner hears.

- The quick key questions to ask so that you can easily discover you’re own and your partners. 

- How to share this concept with others so they can become better connected with the people in their life. 

- I’ll also share with you my love language and how it helped me. 

This is relationship advice everyone should know.

Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.   In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting.

He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.

www.TheIntrovertedDoctor.com

“We’ve got to figure out tricks to fool ourselves”- Dr. John Crosby

It’s difficult to find a doctor with this level of experience and wisdom. I’ve known about Dr. John Crosby through his articles in the Medical Post, where he is a regular contributor. He is remarkable at 72 years old as he is still practising family medicine with full of energy and a positive contributor to the medical community. His CV is extensive including being a peer reviewer for The College of Physicians & Surgeons of Ontario. He is an author, blogger and mentor to many physicians. 

In this episode, we talk about all kinds of things such as:

- dealing with mean doctors,

- how an introverted doctor/person should deal with the bully doctor, especially if you’re a

  person who avoids conflict like him and I are

- How he is inherently conflict averse but has had to step in to deal with tough situations.

- He shares very specific language to use in conflict situations. His language is interesting and insightful,  somethings he says in the interview may shock you.

- He shares tips on how doctors should deal with and AVOID college complaints. 

- How to deal with paperwork and why he loves it so much.

- He talks about marriage, his the fun fund, and how to plan a vacation 

- How to complain properly.

- How he gained empathy when he never had it 

- Why doctors are not wonderful

- How he failed a peer review and learned from it

He’s quite candid about his personal challenges and tribulations as a doctor. He shares how he hated family medicine but then learned to love it. He talks about why laziness is good and how it helped him.  

I hope you enjoy my colourful conversation with Dr. Crosby as much as I did, he is truly a  remarkable individual!

Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.   In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting.

He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.

www.TheIntrovertedDoctor.com

"Start Right, End Right"

The one thing that will change your daily energy, mood and the way you handle stress is the way you start your morning. 

So many of us in health care are tired, mentally and physically. We know work processes need to change, but that takes time. The way to create a more personal vitality and productivity is to know how to create the right physical and mental mindset that gives more energy so we don’t get burned out.  One of the essential paths to doing this is by creating an empowering morning routine.

The majority of the best performers in any field whether it's a CEO, elite athlete, an effective parent or clinician, have an empowering morning routine. This is one area I overlooked for many years, and ever since I started creating a customized morning routine, my performance and productivity escalated. 

Doctors have asked me how they can improve their work performance, thinking I’ll tell them about a workflow strategy, but it’s not that. It’s the way they are mentally fit when they show up at work and at home.  The way you are in one are of your life affects all areas of your life.

In this podcast  I'll share with you how I created my own, because I really needed to change the way I was showing up; I am not a morning person. I'll also share critical tips so that you can customize a routine that works for you.  We all are different, so customization is necessary.

In this episode, I'll also uncover some research-based habits that have an enormous impact. For example, creating a proper gratitude practice, how kindness create happiness and much more.

Nothing changes your results and communications by the way you prime yourself mentally, physically and spiritually from the start. If you start your day right, you will end your day right! The first 30 minutes of your day determines how you can handle people, problems and challenges throughout your day. I'm confident you will find this podcast extremely helpful.

Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.   In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting.

He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.

www.TheIntrovertedDoctor.com

“Closing the clinical conversational door properly is just as important as how you open it.”

You can do many things well in a clinical interaction, but if you don’t conclude the interaction you can have many errors and misunderstandings. Concluding the doctor-patient interaction thoroughly not only makes sure that the patient is clear about what needs to be done, but it also helps the clinician.

This episode looks at the specific language that is needed to make that happen. I’ll also share key tips on how to avoid medical errors and avoid bad outcomes for the patient. 

I also share a tragic story of how a child was affected by a well meaning doctor who gave incomplete discharge instructions unknowingly. 

This is part 3 of a 3 part series on communicating with patients. In the first episode, I talked about the introduction, how to set the stage to make the clinician and the patient comfortable. The second part was how to uncover the issues with proper questions and approach.  In this episode, I share with you the correct approach and language to close the clinical interaction that is mutually beneficial.

Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.   In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting.

He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.

www.TheIntrovertedDoctor.com

“Asking Great Questions will lead to Great Solutions”

Questions help provide clarity, identify needs, create options and helps re-frame, re-evaluate and re-elevate situations. 

Opening the clinical conversation door with the right questions makes a tremendous difference in creating trust and finding a common path to a solution. Knowing which questions to ask is easier once you know how. Asking poor questions can leave you and the patient stuck.

In this episode, I share a clinical case of a patient who was crying inconsolably. If I had this case as a new doctor, I would have been stumped and overwhelmed. I’ll share the questions I asked from hard earned experience.

I’ll also share with you the possible controversial question I asked a worried mother who was griefing and anxious for her son who was in the ICU after a severe car accident.

In this episode you can add to your clinical tool kit of valuable questions that help  improve patient’s their lives. These questions will also allow you to contribute more efficiently and meaningfully. 

This is part 2 of a 3 part quick series on communicating with patients. In the first episode I talked about the introduction, how to set the stage to make yourself and the patient comfortable. In this episode I deal with the middle of the interview, and how do we start the in depth conversations to get to get to the correct diagnosis and solutions. I’ll also review when to ask certain questions and what questions to avoid.

Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.   In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting.

He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.

www.TheIntrovertedDoctor.com

 “You only get one shot to make a good first impression.” 

Knowing how to introduce oneself can be challenging and awkward especially if you tend to be an introvert and feel hesitant to make the first move. There are definite do’s and don’ts to getting off on the right foot to building rapport, trust, and making yourself and the patient at ease.   We all know starting well is essential and necessary, but how to do it well is not well understood.   

In this episode, Dr. Chawla reveals one of his embarrassing moments where he put his foot in his mouth and never really recovered. He also talks about some key things that many doctors fail to do and in his opinion should do.   Dr. Chawla also talks about how having a proper framework to do things correctly is a critical strategy for success. Having a useful framework applies to whether you are making a cake, building a house, using ACLS and even a clinical encounter.  This is part one of a three part series on how to communicate more effectively with a patient.   

The principles he shares, especially in this first part, helps anyone who is working with people and wants to connect better with them.  

Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.   

In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting.  He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.  

www.TheIntrovertedDoctor.com 

 More than merely dispensing data, people need to be understood, need to be ‘heard’ and need to be ‘felt.’ This is when we use metaphors, similes and allegory to ‘walk in another’s shoes.’   

Clinicians use metaphors to describe physical signs, disease processes, treatment goals and objectives of healthy living. Examples include “the grape size lesion, we can battle this cancer, smooth sailing with your new regimen.”  

Patients use metaphors when describing their physical symptoms, their emotional issues and their life situations. Examples of metaphors include “the pain is like a sharp knife, I feel boxed in, I carry a heavy burden and feel stuck.”  When you identify a person’s metaphor, you speak the same language.  

This ability allows you to reframe that language and refocus their ability to choose the way they think, feel and act.   

This episode is a starting point to build your tool kit of empowering metaphors and learn how to use empowering metaphors and avoid unhealthy ones.   

Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.   In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting.  He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.  www.TheIntrovertedDoctor.com 

 Voted #1 body language professional in the world by Global Gurus. He’s advised presidents, CEOs of Fortune 500 companies and G7 Prime Ministers. He's written four best-selling books on Body Language and Communication.  He is a sought after speaker because he is entertaining, inspirational and educational. His TEDx talk is one such example of his work; a must see.  

“It’s often not what you say-but how you say it that gets you extraordinary results”  

In this interview, we cover a wide range of topics from: -The do's and don'ts of body language, -What we do wrong and how we unintentionally dissolve trust - Introvert and extrovert mindset  - What is honest communication vs. manipulation.  - How to be a better communicator just by changing our hands, face ...  We talk about theatre, how Mark became the leading expert in body language and how his struggle with dyslexia helped him! It's a real candid interview about the complexities of non-verbal communication.  

 Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.   In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting.  He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.  www.TheIntrovertedDoctor.com 

 When creating a change for yourself or helping  someone else, you need more than just a huge desire to change. Having desire is important, but if you don't know HOW to increase your attention, curb your temptations you'll fall off that pathway. It's easy to lose your desire and fall off.  It happens to everyone. So how do you prevent that?

In this podcast, I will look at how our emotional and physical triggers can help us or hinder us in creating that change. I will also share with you the LEAD acronym that I use to help patients, and myself, stay on track.   

We’ll  also discuss how you can reframe your desires. I've used this strategy to help patients decrease their coffee intake, increase their water consumption, become better listeners, remember to take their medications, connect with their partners better, get rid of nervous tics and much more.  It’s worked so well on one of my patients can't eat a donut anymore. It's also a very fun tool to use and takes little time to learn. A tool every change agent should have in their tool box. Well worth the listen.   

Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.   In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting.  He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.  www.TheIntrovertedDoctor.com 

 Facilitating change can be very challenging, especially if you don’t have the right tools and approach. In this podcast, you learn how to make long-lasting change effectively and quicker, without feeling discouraged and burned out.  

After all, people are different and come with different life stories, supports and skill sets. As a change influencer, if you find the right domino that causes a positive effect and it will change that person’s life. It also has a positive ripple effect too. But how do you find the right key that opens the door to lasting change? The answer lies in a person’s four core areas.   

The four core areas are: a person’s Inner Psychology,  Physical Body,  External Environment and their "People" Environment. What happens in one area of a person’s life affects all the other areas.  If you are not aware of the details in these four core areas, you will struggle more than you need to.    Dr. Chawla knows this struggle all too well from his personal experience and when helping others.  He shares these experiences with you and shows how you can use this model to help facilitate long term change in yourself and others.   There's a lot here in this short episode. This model has helped many clinicians, and non-clinicians, create positive change in people’s lives.    

Welcome to The Introverted Doctor, the podcast that uncovers myths, mistakes, and misconceptions that hold healthcare professionals back from living their best life at work, home, and play. Each week, Dr. Lalit Chawla will present tips and strategies that you can begin applying right away! He's a full-time Family Physician, Adjunct Professor of Medicine, International Lecture and Writer.   In his former life, he was a professional Illusionist and still uses his skills in his workshops, lectures and in the clinical setting.  He incorporates magic and illusions in his lectures and teaches healthcare professionals how to use magic in a clinical setting and in the rehabilitation setting.  www.TheIntrovertedDoctor.com