The Irreplaceable Man Podcast

Episode 252 is all about being vulnerable. As men, we are told to bottle it up because that’s what being tough is about but we all know that to be on purpose, you need to be open.

Connect with the Guest:

Let’s go Win: https://letsgowin.com/

Book: https://letsgowin.com/lets-go-win-book-business-mindset-books/

Podcast: https://letsgowin.com/lets-go-win-podcast-self-empowerment-podcasts/

Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:

Email: [email protected]

Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity

#vulnerability

#bravery

Life is a comedy and Episode 251 is all about that. To make it in comedy, you need to overcome ego. Shuli shares a candid look at how his career in comedy refined his outlook on life.

Shuli shares a deep perspective on life and how he’s used his passion for comedy to develop himself. This is one of the most profound episodes we’ve had yet.

Ego is the killer. There’s nothing wrong with making YOU the joke. There’s a lot to learn about pressure and not taking yourself too seriously. Why not have a few laughs while we embark on a journey to better ourselves. Find support and more when you join our Men On Purpose community at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Highlights of the Episode:

00:05:30 - Shuli Egar’s family background

00:12:18 - Weeding out bombs in comedy

00:17:21 - The 10-minute Rule and Andrew Dice Clay’s album

00:20:26 - Getting good enough by making it fun

00:23:41 - Leaning into the realness of comedy

00:25:39 - The real stuff is always the funniest

00:27:33 - Ego is the killer. Make YOU the joke.

00:31:12 - Family influence on Shuli’s comedy

00:33:32 - Dropping the ego and bombing at Dice’s show

00:42:49 - The legend of Andrew Clay Dice

00:49:42 - The universe is a boomerang

00:50:53 - Hope is for suckers. Belief is everything.

00:54:29 - Navigating through all the doubts

00:56:24 - Perspective and mindset

00:58:27 - Write a journal. Thank the universe every day.

00:59:26 - Manifest your destiny and The 5-second Rule

01:00:42 - The turning point for Shuli

01:01:48 - The moment between Garret and Shuli

01:04:38 - Making the king and everyone else laugh

01:07:38 - Organic spontaneous comedy

01:09:48 - Imagine never swinging the bat

Connect with Guest:

🛍️ The Shuli Show: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8DQmecl9Iye72GatfVfqpg

❤️ The Miserable Men: https://www.patreon.com/themiserablemenshow

💎 Thanks for Coming Out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_9H2nr0Z_0

✅ Website: https://shalomshuli.com/

Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://shalomshuli.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MenOnPurposePodcast/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ianrlobas/

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#ego

#comedy

#pressure

Episode 250 is all about relationships. Brendon Watt returns for the second time for another take on what it really takes to have a fulfilling relationship and all its elements.

Brendon Watt is a well-regarded speaker and mentor, a best-selling co-author and co-founder of workshops in the realm of relationships. His honest and pragmatic approach to sex, love and relationships is a needed breath of fresh air in a world that seems to holding its breath to change for them and so should their relationships.

He provides a wide range of perspectives in relationships, with advice and tips to improve connection, vulnerability and daily quality of life.

Learn about what makes people stay in relationships, good or bad, and how important it is to have one with yourself first! Catch the deep stories about relationships in the episode and find even more when you join our Men On Purpose community at https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity

Highlights of the episode:

00:05:44 - Why do people stay in miserable relationships?

00:12:59 - We hide in relationships so we don’t work on ourselves

00:17:50 - Open conversations with your spouse

00:20:01 - Whose relationship that you’re trying to create

00:20:49 - List 10 things that create an epic relationship

00:26:19 - What happens when you get out of bad relationships?

00:29:13 - What is trust in a relationship

00:31:29 - Staying relationships because of addiction

00:33:19 - Empowerment and conditions in relationships

00:37:13 - Three elements of a good relationship

00:42:00 - Uncreate your relationship everyday

00:44:34 - Vulnerability creates receiving

00:46:47 - You need to make a commitment to yourself

00:49:37 - What are you choosing?

00:50:35 - Fun and Vulnerability in a relationship

00:56:33 - Gestures and changing it up

00:58:44 - It’s every little choice that you make in the relationship

00:59:34 - We accuse others of what we ourselves our doing

01:00:51 - Sex as a weapon in a relationship

01:03:20 - When we ask their truth, we open possibilities

Connect with the Guest:

Website: https://www.brendonwatt.com/

Access Consciousness: https://www.accessconsciousness.com/

Class and Telecalls: https://www.brendonwatt.com/shop

Blog: https://www.brendonwatt.com/blog

Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:

Email: [email protected]

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity

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#vulnerability

#empowerment

Our resident doctor is back for another one. He is going to talk about how we fall short of our goals and how to get back up on them.

We often get in our own way. Sometimes we have big ideas but lack the skills, mindset, habits, and behaviors needed.

Anthony understands these problems and in this episode, he shares specific strategies you can use every day!

Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is a naturopathic doctor, and for the past 10 years has dedicated his life to helping busy fathers lose weight and stay healthy for their families.

He brings his wisdom to you in this episode to discuss how some simple planning can get you back on track when you feel lost.

Learn the difference between “being” and “doing”, some healthy habits you can build to help turn your life around, nutrition, momentum, and how to move past your own excuses with love and compassion.

Be at peace about falling off, we’re right here for you. When you keep falling short of your goals, it’s okay if you are not that person yet. If you think you are the person that can envision goals but doesn't have the behaviors dialed in, we can discover solutions together in our community. Check out similar episodes like 206 and 208

In this episode, you will learn about

00:10:09 - Behavior change framework—Jonathan Hait

00:11:32 - The Elephant, the rider, the path

00:16:34 - Every day we wake up with choices

00:17:47 - Focusing on the wrong order of operations

00:18:21 - Stop trying to work out harder, fix your circadian rhythm first and get your nutrition

00:19:47 - What are the key health habits we can nail?

00:19:07 - The alternate option of passive income

00:20:51 - Start small; missed days are a detriment to momentum

00:25:43 - Why do people get discouraged?

00:28:38 - Do you have a written plan in place?

00:33:45 - Why do we sabotage ourselves?

00:35:05 - Create time to be alone

00:38:01 - Being & Presence

00:40:09 - How to add more to your plate

00:42:19 - 5-minute habits and activities

00:44:30 - Evening ritual

00:46:13 - What’s really at stake for you and your life?

00:56:44 - Modeling and comparing yourself to others

00:59:06 - Focus on what is dissipating your energy and get rid of those

Connect with Dr. Anthony Balduzzi on:

Website: https://www.fitfatherproject.com/

Email: [email protected]

Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Join the Men on Purpose Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity

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https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/ianrlobas/

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#habits

#planning

All work and no play make for one tired dad. But what about those snatched moments of shut-eye during the day?

Turns out, a little sleep can do wonders not just for your productivity. Sleep is one of the most important aspects of our lifestyle because it influences the quality of our life so much. It affects our mood, ability to learn, and can even predict how well we age. If you’re sleeping poorly, there may need to be a lifestyle change. In this episode, Devin goes into a deep sleep with us and shares all the information we could possibly need.

We discuss what exactly happens behind your zzz’s sleep architecture and how we should be managing each timeframe in the five stages of sleep we cycle through.

It’s no surprise that getting enough sleep, having a regular eating schedule, and avoiding food and drugs in close proximity to bedtime will help you get better sleep.

But what if you want to go a step further? What if you want to get better quality of sleep by controlling your sleep architecture?

In this episode, you will learn about

00:03:56 - Why is sleep so important

00:05:30 - What we eat and when impacts our sleep

00:06:33 - 321 Sleep

00:07:52 - Sleep Architecture

00:09:46 - Two types of insomnia - onset and maintenance

00:11:21 - Effects of alcohol and caffeine

00:12:05 - Adenosine builds sleepiness

00:15:47 - Cannabis and sleep

00:16:39 - Plant medicine

00:21:02 - Hours of sleep and optimization

00:23:08 - Sleep and mental stress

00:25:00 - Cold or hot sleep

00:25:27 - Devices to heat and cool bed

00:26:45 - Mattresses fabric and foams

00:30:49 - ‘Sleep when you are dead’ mentality

00:34:38 - Quality of life and sleep correlation

00:36:28 - Sleep and emotions

00:42:54 - Breathing & sleep / Sleep apnea

00:55:54 - Little things we can do to get better sleep

00:56:36 - Hyperarousal from technology

Connect with Devin Burke on:

Websites: https://sleepscienceacademy.com/ 

http://devinburke.com/

Want to watch this and other awesome interviews? Check out our YouTube channel!

#sleep

#quality

#advantage

Taking conscious actions towards becoming financially free can be daunting. Especially when you're struggling to find your true self, it's easy to become confused about what the next step should be. What exactly are these conscious steps? Joey Mure enlightens us with his perspective on the true value of financial freedom.

Ian and Joey shares real-life stories that resonate for many family men that time spent with family (and yourself) is invaluable. Sacrificing that time on your way to financial freedom is the biggest mistake you could ever make.  

In this episode, you will learn about

00:01:30 Growing up with the Salvation Army

00:02:58 The Corporate Beast

00:04:09 Responsibility for financial freedom

00:06:28 Driven by fear and societal pressure

00:07:15 The mortgage world is tougher

00:09:06 Realizing you are replaceable

00:12:21 Impacting and transforming lives

00:15:34 The wall street ‘retirement lies’

00:19:07 The alternate option of passive income

00:27:25 Three-step GPS to being an investor

00:28:44 Goal: The Passport Challenge

00:30:56 Be Do Have and financial freedom

00:37:03 The truth about passive income

00:38:32 Plan: The investor DNA

00:39:00 Passive Income Matrix

00:44:17 Getting there as fast as you can

00:48:55 You can’t put a dollar amount on regret

00:53:51 Support: Coaching and community

00:55:57 Courses are passive income

Connect with Joey Mure:

Website: https://go.wealthwithoutwallstreet.com/passport

Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Join the Men on Purpose Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity

Want to watch this and other awesome interviews? Check out our YouTube channel!

#passiveincome

#financialfreedom

#takingaction

Every human possesses the power to transform their consciousness and create significant life changes. Harry’s own journey has led him to develop a deep understanding and appreciation for human consciousness and its limitless potential. He shares his profound experiences and the many different ways to gain self-insight. It's fascinating to listen to Harry share with such nuance and compassion. It’s easy to tell how deep he understands these life-changing principles he lives by.

Harry put himself out there, stayed open, stayed true to himself, and in doing so has given us a gift.

It’s like a staircase to the art of true understanding. One of the many amazing practices Harry has created from his deeply personal experiences.

In this episode, you will learn about

00:01:54 - Audit your inner circle

00:04:01 - Being purposefully selfish

00:07:44 - Harry’s turning point in life

00:11:43 - A deeply profound experience

00:15:11 - Being silent with ALL of yourself

00:17:38 - Breaking the cycle of avoidance

00:20:47 - Why do coping mechanisms exist?

00:23:56 - Building your self-awareness

00:25:40 - Does resistance compound?

00:26:40 - Neurological and developmental psychology

00:29:09 - Five steps of deeper presence

00:29:44 - Interpretative frameworks for survival

00:32:09 - What is our relationship to painful emotions

00:35:18 - The 4 life-changing steps of Self-inquiry

00:42:52 - Consciously checking out to recover

00:44:21 - The 5th step: All 4 not working? Get help

00:47:42 - Why do people resist self-improvement?

00:48:43 - Nature, nurture, and a third unknown

00:50:03 - Some people are not ready and that’s ok

00:51:22 - Rock bottom and what’s at stake

00:55:11 - Showing up and the WHY conversation

01:03:23 - Dealing with Imposter Syndrome

01:03:23 - Connecting with others

Connect with Harry Sherwood on:

Websites: https://consciously.org/

Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Mike McCarthy has been an influential person to many in their growth and development. He helped others realize the depth and meaning that the legacy you leave is literally nothing unless you are actually leading and growing yourself to be a better human in order to show people how to be better humans. When you are on purpose, people look to you. They watch you. When you look at Mike, you know that he's committed and his integrity is so strong to his personal growth. What’s more amazing is how he has taken this to the next level and helped not just individuals, but entire families to the same.

In this episode, you will learn about

00:09:41 - The universe wants the best for us

00:11:38 - Counterbalancing vs balance

00:17:26 - Mike’s pivotal moment

00:21:49 - ‘I need help’; what made Mike happy

00:28:32 - Surface clarity and coaching

00:31:20 - Time spent and the legacy you leave behind

00:35:12 - Self-work and Leadership in the family

00:37:50 - Setting up children for the future

00:43:25 - The Miracle Morning Family catalyst

00:46:44 - Collaborative leadership with family values

00:54:34 - Preparing your kids and passing the torch

00:55:23 - Strong families produce capable individuals

01:01:01 - Miracle Morning for Parents 2

Connect with Mike McCarthy:

Websites: https://www.gratefulparent.com/ and http://www.gomikemccarthy.com/

Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Connect with us on social media:

https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/

https://www.facebook.com/MenOnPurposePodcast/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ianrlobas/

#parenting

#collaborative

#leadership

Dr. Judson Brandeis is an award-winning urologist and sexual medicine expert. Today, he specializes in the emerging field of sexual health and medicine and is one of the top pioneering minds in that field. Kind of interesting that our topic today is about erectile dysfunction but you’d be surprised how much of that is still in the realm of personal responsibility. Dr. Judson Brandeis has a lot of men going through challenges with physical intimate performance and they need help.

We're going to talk about how you can be both physically and emotionally intimate in your relationship while staying solid in parenting, motivation, and self-development.

We're surrounded by modern medical breakthroughs, but the goal is to have as many personal breakthroughs as well. This is Dr. Judson Brandeis' medical specialty – sexual medicine but not just! His mission is to provide help to the men of today. Redefining the modern-day male about being a man in the 21st century.

The trouble is men are holding themselves back. The ethos of ‘toughing it out’ has not only affected our own well-being but that of everyone around us. When your relationship with yourself suffers, so too the relationships around you.

This has led to many men seeing their intimate physical performance decline. There's so much about taking action and being self-accountable that we have lost. When we fail at that, we fail as a husband, father, or breadwinner, especially when we're needed most.

There are no secrets. There's only excellence and being accountable for your health. It doesn't take a lot of fancy things to get started, just the willingness to take action, and discipline so that you can make those changes in your life.

In this episode, you will learn about

00:06:48 It hits the fan for everyone

00:07:51 Erectile dysfunction and how can we turn back time?

00:08:58 Getting kicked from 20 years of practice

00:10:28 Reinventing his practice

00:12:31 I never thought about failing

00:15:59 The 21st Century Man

00:19:50 Dr. Brandei’s Maslow’s pyramid

00:21:24 What affects a man’s ability to be physically intimate?

00:23:42 The Harvard Longevity study

00:26:13 How to form a partnership with your doctor

00:30:43 Dr. Brandeis mission to help men

00:40:52 Mindfulness about decisions

00:44:45 Why women live longer than men

00:46:13 Sharing failures with your kids

00:49:08 Your defining moments and being scared

00:55:51 Action steps to take for men

00:58:46 Action steps that Dr. Brandeis is taking

Connect with Dr. Judson Brandeis on:

Websites: https://brandeismd.com/

Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast:

Email: [email protected]

Website: https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Join the Men on Purpose Community:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity

Connect with us on social media:

https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/

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#erection

#health

#urology

For too long, conversations about fatherhood have focused on what men should do. When in reality, we need to be focusing on what men feel. What are the unknown and unspoken feelings that fathers carry? How have these feelings shaped their behaviors? After years of raising his teenagers and being a parent, Scott Rammage looked deeply at himself as a father, and what he didn't see surprised him.

When you look at your upbringing and the family system from a different perspective, you'll see that it was creating happiness, that it was creating trauma, that it was creating success, that it was creating struggle—which is what you're looking for to become successful. All of it is the variety of life that shaped who you are. It's not necessarily always good or bad, but it's important to see.

Because if we don't understand what happened to us, then how can we control what's happening with our kids? Our children are humans themselves, growing more into the human beings they’re meant to be, just like we all are, whether we know it or not.

And that therein is the challenge: Meeting your kids exactly where they are at moments in their life.

There are many ways about this but it all starts with yourself. As long as we live in truth, love, and sincerity — this is regardless of whether we think we’ve already arrived as parents — living with integrity will make life much easier for both yourself and those around you (whether they know it too or not).

There are ways that don’t serve your children, but there are no right ways. There’s just the way that serves them. This can be daunting to figure out for any parent or father. Fortunately, you are not alone. There are fathers all over the world with similar goals that you can connect with in our community, join us and check out similar episodes like 173 and 209

In this episode, you will learn about

04:46 - Complain or change

#parenting